The Eternal Solipsism of the Female Mind

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NOTE: Another “back by popular demand” article, this was originally published at In Mala Fide on October 6, 2009. This is not the original version of the article, but an expanded edition I wrote for a book project that never saw the light of day; it was the one included in Three Years of Hate.

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If I had to pick a random word to describe women, one of the ones I could choose is “solipsistic.” Solipsism is defined according to the Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary as “a theory holding that the self can know nothing but its own modifications and that the self is the only existent thing” or “extreme egocentrism.” The female of the species is a master at absorbing herself in her own thoughts and neuroses and projecting them onto men.

Granted, not all women are equally solipsistic. It’s like breasts. Some women have dainty, delicate A-cups; some very fortunate girls have heaving, delicious double-Ds; still more unlucky gals have barely noticeable bee stings. So it is with self-absorption: some women are more self-centered and clueless than others. A woman’s inherent solipsism is also affected by her surrounding environment. On a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 represents almost no solipsistic tendencies and 10 represents near-fatal levels of solipsism, American women would clock in at 9. For comparison’s sake, Canadian women would be 8, Brits would be 10, Chinese women would be 5, and Russians would be 3. These are completely unscientific estimates based on a combination of personal experience and crude stereotypes, but I stick by them.

It’s no accident that American women and other women from Western, feminist countries are utterly self-absorbed and ignorant. Much like how the FDA’s policies encourage Americans to wolf down junk food until they’re fat enough to crush asteroids in their Roche limits, Western pop culture in general and American culture in particular impute all sorts of idiotic and self-defeating ideas in womens’ minds. American female solipsism is so pervasive and commonplace that no one notices it anymore; it’s like air.

The raging solipsism of the American female mind is most obvious when it comes to the realm of sexual attraction. Virtually all women in the U.S. suffer from the delusion that men find the same qualities attractive in them that they find in men. From career women who lament that their accomplishments don’t give men erections to living lardballs claiming that men aren’t lining up to date them because of peer pressure against “plus-sized” gals, women are unparalleled when it comes to assigning their prejudices and desires to the male. Even on issues on which men and women are visibly different, such as the effect of aging on sexual attractiveness, women can’t stop digging in their hole of projection, as evidenced by the myth of “andropause” (male menopause) and the ludicrous new claim that men have a biological clock. The popularity of Eat, Pray, Love, a memoir (and movie) about a woman who divorces her husband to travel the world sucking and fucking exotic cock and shoveling down pallets of fattening Italian food is just one example of how modern society encourages women to be selfish and solipsistic.

All this is not to imply that men are incapable of solipsism and projection. To paraphrase Mark Twain, all I care to know that a man is a human being: that is enough for me; he can’t possibly be any worse. Men are certainly capable of projecting their desires onto women, but the crucial difference is that male solipsism isn’t encouraged by society and pop culture, and men who are solipsistic are mocked by everyone and sometimes prosecuted. See the case of New York congressman Anthony Weiner, who became a national laughingstock in 2011 when he was caught sending pictures of his dick to women he was chatting up over the Internet. Men, being visual creatures first and foremost, can and will get turned on by the wiggly bits of any attractive girl they lay eyes on; women typically don’t get horny looking at the private parts of strange men. When a girl a man doesn’t know flashes her tits at him, he thinks “Awesome!”when a man a girl doesn’t know flashes his penis at her, she thinks “Eww, gross!”

Female sexual solipsism and projection are the primary reasons why women’s dating advice is useless. Let’s look at the Bible of modern dating advice for women, The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right. What The Mystery Method is to men, The Rules is to women; it’s sold millions of copies since it was published in 1995, it’s been featured on Oprah, its authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider have written numerous sequels, and the two even run a dating advice firm to help women unlucky in love. What kind of attitudes does The Rules try to inculcate in women? Not good ones:

Rule 1: Be a “Creature Unlike Any Other”

Rule 2: Don’t Talk to a Man First (and Don’t Ask Him to Dance)

Rule 3: Don’t Stare at Men or Talk Too Much

Rule 4: Don’t Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date

Rule 5: Don’t Call Him & Rarely Return His Calls

Rule 6: Always End Phone Calls First

Rule 7: Don’t Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday

Rule 8: Fill Up Your Time before the Date

Rule 11: Always End the Date First

Rule 12: Stop Dating Him if He Doesn’t Buy You a Romantic Gift for Your Birthday or Valentine’s Day

Rule 13: Don’t See Him More than Once or Twice a Week

Rule 14: No More than Casual Kissing on the First Date

Rule 15: Don’t Rush into Sex and Other Rules for Intimacy

Sexual politics, like all politics, is about gaining the upper hand. These rules are intended to help women extract as much out of men as possible with minimal effort, which is fair enough, but they don’t work because they don’t take into account the different criteria by which men and women evaluate prospective mates.

Women ascertain a man’s sexual desirability primarily through his social dominance. This is a multifaceted criterium, incorporating not only looks, but physical fitness, the power he wields in society (e.g. how much money he has), his personal confidence and other factors. Because of this quirk of womens’ psyches, a man who isn’t naturally attractive can make himself more desireable by becoming successful in his career, working out at the gym, and/or altering his behavior (typically referred to as “game”).

Men ascertain a woman’s sexual desirability through her looks, and all other metrics are tertiary at best. If she makes his penis hard, she’s a worthy conquest. This ensures that women who aren’t wildebeests will have an endless stream of dudes looking to bring their battering rams crashing through her iron gates of life, but it has a downside; a woman’s options for improving her sexual market value are limited. The reason a 20-year old co-ed can play the coy coquette and a 35-year old cougar has to force herself onto guys is because the former has qualities men desire (youth and beauty) that the latter doesn’t and can never get back. Exceptionally attractive girls have a good deal of leeway in regards to their behavior, but unattractive woman who prance about like they’re perfect 10s, like The Rules says they should do, isn’t going to suddenly make men think that they are 10s. They’ll just avoid her in favor of girls who are still on the same plane of reality. Men instinctively know the difference between fool’s gold and the real deal, and no games played by girls can convince them otherwise.

This is why The Rules doesn’t work; because the authors are projecting their sexual desires onto men. Many of the Rules themselves exist in the literature of game; writers like Roosh, Heartiste and Mystery encourage men to be aloof, to avoid paying for dates/buying women drinks, and to carefully ration the amount of time they spend on the phone with their girl, among other things. In his pick-up manual Bang, Roosh even goes into detail as to how many days a guy should wait before he calls back a girl he met at the bar. In their solipsism, having imbibed decades worth of feminist propaganda claiming that men and women are the same, women assume that men want the same things that they want, only to end up getting burned again and again when reality doesn’t conform to their fantasies.

Another example of female solipsism can be found in this post from the blog Gucci Little Piggy, “From the Mouths of Babes”:

Watching a girl teach another girl how to go about picking up a guy is like watching two retarded kids teach each other Advanced Thermodynamics. Last week, I witnessed a female friend trying to give a mutual female friend of ours pointers on picking up our mutual male friend. The female friend’s advice was similar to the stuff that works for guys when picking up girls. She advocated playing hard-to-get, not standing too close to him, and walking away whenever he came near. My advice was this: “Rub your tits on his nose.” Plain. And. Simple.

Even when we leave the realm of sex, women are still deeply solipsistic. Feminism, the Western ideology that purports to empower women, is in fact a massive projection of female attitudes and beliefs onto men. Take the oft-repeated feminist claim that there is a patriarchy, an “old boys’ club” that exists to give men special treatment and keep women down. As the anti-feminist writer Rob Fedders points out in his essay “When Shit Gets Sold as Soap…,” not only is the “old boys’ club” a myth, there in fact exists an “old girls’ club” in female-dominated workplaces that promotes women at the expense of men:

I have never worked at a place where the men secretly conspired to give eachother advantages over female co-workers… but I have experienced working at places where myself and my male co-workers have caught several women conspiring in secrecy to make sure that women outperformed their male co-workers. It happened when I was working in a high-pressure commission sales environment. It was a fair sized staff, 12 in sales (11 men, 1 woman), 3 in management (2 men, 1 woman), and 3 receptionists (all women). Now, don’t go thinking it was discriminatory that there were 11 men and only 1 woman on the sales staff. The General Manager tried and tried to increase the ratio of women on his staff, and hired several women while I was there, but the women he hired just kept quitting, some in tears, because they couldn’t cope with the high pressure of commission sales.

What was discovered by myself and my male co-workers, however, was that the three receptionists were sending double the amount of first-time customers & phone calls to the lone saleswoman, and the female manager was turning over double the amount of clients to the saleswoman as she was to the men.

When it was brought to the attention of the General Manager, by 11 pissed off employees, he called the only 5 females that worked at the place into a meeting and after some intense grilling, the women finally admitted that they were purposefully sending more business to the woman than the men, because they wanted to make sure that a woman was the top saleperson. And not only that, but they had discussed, in secret, how they were going to go about doing it! And let’s make this clear, every single woman that worked at that outfit was in on this secret conspiracy. Gee… sounds an awful lot like that far-fetched notion of patriarchy that women keep accusing men of… except the patriarchy-boy’s club is the wrong gender, because what was really going on there was a matriarchal girl’s club, which designed itself to discriminate based on gender.

So, I maintain that women believe in so many of these far flung notions about men because women know that women themselves do these things and therefore they rationalize that if they were men, they would discriminate against women in the same way.

There is no secret patriarchy – but there is a secret matriarchy.

Fedders goes on to name other examples of feminist projection, such as how women view men as chattel “to provide…food, clothing, shelter and luxuries for herself and her children” while simulaneously accusing men of viewing women as “objects” and chattel.

Where does the extreme, unprecedented sexual solipsism of modern females come from? While I’d argue that women are naturally more inclined to solipsism than men, the human personality is very malleable, with culture and the surrounding environment being the sculptors. The deep, abiding cluelessness of Homo americanus womanus is a product of nurture, not nature.

I personally blame the average woman’s complete disconnect from reality, owing in part to two realities of sex and biology. Women are the gatekeepers of sex; exempting rape, sex never happens unless the woman wants it to happen. Western dating and marriage culture is organized around this reality; in most cases, men are the ones who ask women out on dates and propose marriage. Additionally, womens’ sexual power peaks long before mens’ does. Because men find youth and beauty attractive, starting in her teen years, a reasonably attractive and sociable young woman can just sit back and watch the gentleman callers line up to kiss her feet. Not until her late twenties (give or take a few years depending on race and/or nationality) does her sexual power begin to wane. In contrast, no one but female pedophiles like Debra Lafave consider teenage boys to be desirable over all other age groups. Most men don’t begin to hit the peak of their sexual power until their mid- to late twenties, when they’ve established themselves in their careers and matured a little. This is why, despite feminist propaganda, most intergenerational relationships and marriages consist of an older man and a younger woman, not the other way around. Because of these factors, Western women can spend a good portion of their lives sailing on a cloud of fantasy.

Not only that, what Heartiste terms the “Four Sirens of the Sexual Apocalypse,” the four great social and technological changes that have enabled unrestrained female hypergamy (the desire for men at the top of the socioeconomic food chain to the exclusion of everyone else), also enable female solipsism. These Sirens are:

  1. Effective, cheap, legal and widely available contraception (condoms, birth control pills, abortion).
  2. No-fault divorce.
  3. Economic emancipation for women (letting them go to college and join the workforce).
  4. Feminist-created laws like the Violence Against Women Act and child support laws that encourage women to divorce their husbands.

The Sirens enable female solipsism by shielding women from the consequences of their bad behavior. Cheap and freely available contraception, for example, removes most of the ill effects of being a slut. In the not-too-distant past, sexual promiscuity was a recipe for social censure and life-threatening diseases. No-fault divorce makes getting out of a marriage as easy as getting in for wives, with alimony and child support sweetening the deal. In the past, women were cautioned against these actions by their mothers and grandmothers; this knowledge was junked in the sexual revolution in favor of the “if it feels good, do it” mantra of liberalism. Think of a spoiled brat who has everything he wants handed to him without complaint (lest he throw a tantrum) and who is rescued by daddy whenever he gets himself into trouble. In our modern world, women are basically spoiled children, constantly running to Daddy Government in tears whenever their stupid choices blow up in their faces.

As I stated earlier, men aren’t immune to being solipsistic, but on average they are less self-absorbed then women for the aforementioned reasons. We men are forced to confront reality from the outset because we are the dominant sex, expected to approach girls and direct our relationships with them. The overwhelming majority of guys have been slapped with rejections from girls from the day they first worked up the nerve to ask one out to the prom, forcing them to analyze their behaviors in order to either adapt to the sexual marketplace or drop out entirely in a world of video games and porn. The only men who can afford to engage in woman-esque solipsism without becoming late-night show punchlines are famous, wealthy or otherwise natural ladykillers – the rest of us grinders have to stay on our toes at all times.

Another factor in female sexual solipsism is how sexual promiscuity affects the minds of women. A comment from a now-defunct blog states this:

That may or may not be true: most slutty women I know could take on entire football teams without noticing the nature of male sexuality. They’re that self absorbed in their emotional turmoil, they don’t notice men look at them like a hungry man looks at a piece of meat. Prudes notice more, probably because they had fathers who were decent men.

The sexual double standard arises from the reality that getting sex is easy for women but hard for men. Women being the gatekeepers of sex, the reason studs are respected and sluts are derided is because being a stud requires skill, while being a slut merely requires a pulse and a lack of impulse control. As the folk saying goes, a key that can open many locks is a master key; a lock that can be opened by many keys is a faulty lock.

The unsung flip side of the double standard, however, is that female virgins are cherished whereas male virgins are ridiculed. A man who can’t get laid signals to the world that he is a loser who repels girls, while a woman who resists spreading her legs for every scumbag who winks at her signals that she is a sober, selective person. Because women can get laid easily but have a much harder time wrangling commitment out of a man in the form of marriage or a long-term relationship, women who cannot or will not stay in a relationship are poor sources of information on men. The male virgin and the female slut are mirror images of each other in terms of attractiveness to and knowledge of the opposite sex.

The solipsism of the fairer sex will ultimately be their undoing. The social conditions that have empowered women are on the verge of collapse. The article “The Misandry Bubble” from The Futurist blog names the “Four Horsemen of Male Emancipation,” four factors that will ensure the destruction of feminism by the end of this decade:

  1. Game, the art of seduction, teaching men how to manipulate female psychology to their advantage in the mating dance.
  2. Adult entertainment technological such as virtual reality sex simulators, allowing men to have sex without the hassle of having to seduce an actual woman.
  3. Globalization, which encompasses the expatriation of Western men to non-feminist countries outside the West as well as immigration from those same countries to Western countries, weakening popular support for feminism.
  4. Male economic disengagement due to the poor economy and progressive taxation that benefits women at the expense of men. Even with our current “mancession,” men still dominate job fields that are necessary to keep the economy going, such as construction, manufacturing, mining, law enforcement and the military; women dominate ancillary fields such as education, healthcare, and the civil service. The latter needs the former to function, but the former doesn’t need the latter.

Coupled with how women typically desire marriage more than men and womens’ hypergamous mating preferences, this is going to lead to a massive shift of power in the mating market from women to men. The Futurist terms the moment when a woman realizes her sexual power has fallen off a cliff the “Wile E. Coyote Moment”:

…In the past, the steady hand of a young woman’s mother and grandmother knew that her beauty was temporary, and that the most seductive man was not the best husband, and they made sure that the girl was married off to a boy with long-term durability. Now that this guidance has been removed from the lives of young women, thanks to ‘feminism’, these women are proving to be poor pilots of their mating lives who pursue alpha males until the age of 34-36 when her desirability drops precipitously and not even beta males she used to reject are interested in her. This stunning plunge in her prospects with men is known as the Wile E. Coyote moment, and women of yesteryear had many safety nets that protected them from this fate. The ‘feminist’ media’s attempt to normalize ‘cougarhood’ is evidence of gasping desperation to package failure as a desirable outcome, which will never become mainstream due to sheer biological realities…

The big irony is that ‘feminism’, rather than improving the lives of women, has stripped away the safety nets of mother/grandmother guidance that would have shielded her from ever having to face her Wile E. Coyote moment. ‘Feminism’ has thus put the average woman at risk in yet another area.

With the coming economic meltdown and the end of the “sheconomy,” a great many Strong, Independent Women™ are going to find themselves up Shit Creek without a paddle. While marriage served the function of keeping good women out of total poverty in the past, the current generation of men will be too burned out by feminism to play Captain Save-a-Ho this time around. In the war between the sexes, the ultimate losers will be women, not men.

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  • http://anotherandrosphereblog.blogspot.co.uk AAB

    Matt Forney wrote:
    “Even on issues on which men and women are visibly different, such as the effect of aging on sexual attractiveness, women can’t stop digging in their hole of projection, as evidenced by the myth of “andropause” (male menopause)”

    While you’re right that women are projecting their own inadequecies onto men, the idea that a male menopause is a myth is not true from what I’ve read. The so-called male menopause is actually a reaction to a shitty uncreative lifestyle where a man is not allowed to express his true self:
    “In summary, it’s because men are living out other peoples idealised lives in an automated fashion, rather than living out their own in a creative fashion.”
    (http://anotherandrosphereblog.blogspot.co.uk/2013/06/what-is-mid-life-crisismale-menopause.html)

  • http://transmillenium.wordpress.com TransMillennium

    Already translated to spanish: “El Eterno solipsismo de la mente femenina”

  • mike

    People age slower than they used to, so a woman can remain very desirable well into her 30’s.

  • Mark

    There are some women offering advice to guys on what works with them over in the comments section at Roissy’s blog and it’s all uniformly bad advice. Anyone who’s had much experience with women knows that what they say they want and what they actually want are two different things. If you actually do what they say they want and spend time jumping through all the hoops they set up for you, then you are a fool. You’re likely to just end up getting friend zoned.

  • Jeremy

    Heh, I recently ended a yearlong relationship with a woman who I initially thought was responsible and less solipsistic than the average. For a while I actually felt proud that I had found someone, in Los Angeles of all places, who didn’t see herself as the most important thing in the universe.

    Why did it end?
    Oh, because I asked her to tell me how she felt about me/our relationship, and she ignored the question for 7 months. Not a “like” or “love” or “dislike” or “just want to screw”, no… nothing, she ignored the question. In the past two months, when I started confronting her about her ongoing disrespect to my intelligence, she started conceding that “yes, you deserve an answer…” But she never gave an answer.

    Now, mind you, I only asked because I had previously told her that I liked her a lot, liked where we were at, where we seemed to be going, etc… I did not say the words “I love you” I avoided that, but I did make it clear that I felt good about her and how things were going. I asked her to reciprocate, and she acted as though I did not ask the question.

    Only after the relationship ended did it occur to me how self-centered she really was. There was a period of time in the relationship where I was upset at her for something, and I stopped any kissing or other play with her for like a week, maybe less. She noticed and tearfully asked me why, and we had the talk that led to what I described above.

    So, five days of no kissing on the lips: unacceptable and demands an answer…
    But five to seven months of ignoring a mans honest and worthy question, completely OK.

    And women try to convince people they’re not solipsistic, lol…

  • http://tempesttcup.wordpress.com/ TempestTcup

    I wonder if solipsism came about from women historically staying in camp tending the hearth and being more or less segregated from the outside world. Everything they knew was something they had experienced or seen firsthand. Since that’s all they know, that’s all they can relate to. Everything they heard more or less had to be internalized because they historically weren’t exposed to outside ideas and information.

    The men were out hunting, and they had to rely on something someone else relayed like “the antelopes are coming from the west”. Then as civilization advanced, they relied on news from afar and then newspapers for business news, etc. Men had to rely on what other people said, so they didn’t internalize everything they heard. Women were still close to home and hearth, so they still only knew what they experienced firsthand.

    Now that women have escaped from the home and hearth that solipsistic tendency has run amok. I’m not sure that women are any more solipsistic today than they were back in the day, I think that they are much more vocal today, have more power to wield, and are shielded from the consequences of their actions.

    Of course, I might be reaching here :)

  • RD

    Jeremy, I think you were trying to apply a bad frame to your gf. I made the same mistake, being a nice guy with ‘respectful’ intensions. I was having great sex, freely given, for about a month. I thought–and this was before I knew Game–she naturally wanted a ‘relationship’. (As in respect.) I thought women were the fairer sex. WRONG! She did not want to consciously think we were fuck buddies, and that’s why she never corrected me in developing non-sexual intimacy. She just got bitchier and bitchier until she decided it was over and worked her way out of the relationship. She was totally cool with being bf/gf, but it was really FWB in practice. You had a perfectly good FWB. You could have dated other women until you found a real gf, assuming they are out there, secretly of course though I don’t know if getting caught would end the relationship so long as you didn’t get sexual, but when Western women get to that point of wanting ltr, they are usually hardened, dried up brats who will eco-rape you after the fantasy does not last. You probably had an American woman at her personal best with regard to being of value to a man. A reliable fuck buddy is the pinnacle of the Western woman archetype’s potential value. Many will never be good for that, I suspect. I think you might want to take another hard look at female nature and stay withing its bounds. Blue pill is everywhere.

    Not unrelated, this post is epic, lays it out perfectly!

    However, one quibble. Rational Male is a little wrong, or anyone else you says it, that women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men can overpower women any time both physically and emotionally. It is blue-pill to say women are the gatekeepers of sex entirely. Fathers and husbands are gatekeepers of sex in a properly functioning society, especially in a civilization. Patriarchy is our responsibility, men. The mothers and grandmothers will follow as this post says, but they follow. Your successful ltr/marriage depends on fellow men before your woman. That is why bros before hoes. It is couched patriarchy.

    Right now, elite men of the NWO are the gatekeepers of women, the alpha authority that gives them their mission in life, that defines their high or low status. We must remember what it means to be a man. It means to rival, to vye for control. It is NEVER the function of a woman. That is only an illusion from blue-pill sorcery.

  • http://oinesperadosuperheroibrasileiro.blogspot.com DaveTheSodaGuy

    this “virtual sex” stuff is kinda like prostitution.

    The fact that a man can use the services of a prostitute is A way to alert picky women who think they’re the center of attentions, that they may end up being replaced by easy, cheap sex with a prostitute.

    What do you say about that?

  • Jeremy

    @RD

    Jeremy, I think you were trying to apply a bad frame to your gf. I made the same mistake, being a nice guy with ‘respectful’ intensions. I was having great sex, freely given, for about a month. I thought–and this was before I knew Game–she naturally wanted a ‘relationship’.

    RD, I hear what you are saying, and I don’t think you’re wrong for pointing it out. However, I’m plenty sure she wanted a relationship but was too chicken shit to offer me what I needed. All I needed to hear from her was an admission of feeling. There are other reasons I forced her into that position, all of which are also her own creation. I agree it’s bad frame to do what I did, but her behavior demanded that I establish some kind of baseline definition for what we were.

    She couldn’t do something so simple. She’s 28, probably a 4-5 (she could be a 7+ if she lost weight), I was basically her second boyfriend in her life according to her (based on pictures of her I’ve seen from when she was younger, I believe her). Now, unless she was the type to never want a husband and I misread her personality (possible), she wanted a relationship.

  • earl

    The answer to 99 out of 100 questions when it comes to women.

    Solipsism.

  • Höllenhund

    Well, imagine a world without the female hamster. If a young woman understood the reality of her existence in its entirety, if she were capable of understanding her options and limitations in life, there’s a not unlikely chance she’d become depressed. She may even off herself, but what’s important is that she’d never have children, and the human race would go extinct. A woman needs to be massively optimistic in order to decide to have children and raise them. Female solipsism seems to be some sort of evo psych defense mechanism.

  • http://the-light-house-keeper.blogspot.ca/ Jeb

    My god though, that writer of “The Misandry Bubble” gets an inordinate amount of attention for writing ONE article.

    What’s with the Manosphere’s attention directed toward this fellow? He seems rather unremarkable aside from his ONE article.

    It’s sad, really.

  • Matt

    So how are MEN not naturally solipsistic as well?

  • anon5000

    My shorts are still yellow. I should go change them.

    [CensorBot sez: Remember to disinfect your computer chair too.]

  • http://Forneysite Rich

    Matt, I think you’re wrong on this one. You extrapolate that “The Rules” apply to women
    of ANY age, but I think inferred in the “Rules'” is its guidance for a YOUNG WOMAN (obviously, they need a book on this they’re so young) who CAN make these kind of non-negotiable demands. You go on to poke holes in it, but only as
    “The Rules” really don’t work with older women. In that case, you’re right, but so what?

  • http://Forneysite Rich

    The gist of the rest of the article is spot on; of course women are solipsistic.
    Just go to a grocery store where they stand in the middle of the aisle, dumbfoundedly gazing… unthinking, unaware that there are OTHER PEOPLE attempting to traverse this narrow piece of geography.
    PARTICULARLY in this era, they’ve been led astray like the bovines they are. But I think unless you’re a unqualified alpha male, the pursuit of women today is a fool’s errand… unless you just happen to stumble on a good one.

  • Alex

    Matt, I’m only going to apologise for one thing, and that is for not putting this lightly: you’re a fucking moron and need to stop embarrassing yourself. Go back to 4chan to play worth your little ponies. Oh, I think you dropped your fedora.

  • Katie Cohen

    You are just the biggest fucking idiot. Women are people- not dogs.

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  • “As the folk saying goes, a key that can open many locks is a master key; a lock that can be opened by many keys is a faulty lock.”

    There’s one tiny little flaw in this theory: people aren’t doors.

  • Tilikum

    excellent.

  • Matt

    I object to the use of the word solipsism here. As I’m sure you’re aware, solipsism means that the subjective mind ignores the existence of all other subjective minds, they not only believe the world revolves around them, but that they are *the only consciousness in existence*.

    Please note that women are primarily social creatures, more so than men. Women crave praise, affection, confirmation more than men do, and thus implicitly accept the fact that there are other subjective minds, which they then use to vault themselves towards an “objective” self-image; she believes she is hot because she is told she is hot.

    Descartes teetered towards Solipsism, your local barbird is merely self-centered.

  • http://belantozorius.blogspot.ca/ Belantozorius

    In your post on the world trade center museum you said that you were 8 when the WTC fell. In this one you say that this post was originally posted in 2009. So you were around 17 when you written this post? Man.. I couldn’t even spell Solipsism, much less understand what it was when I was 17. anyways, I’ll probably translate this post in French soon… for your frenchy neighbors of the northeast.

  • http://mattforney.com/ Matt Forney

    I was in EIGHTH GRADE. I was 21 when I wrote this.

  • Lee

    I agree with Matt (Not Matt Forney). The word solipsism is quite misused. Although I agree with the very most of the content in the article, the incorrect use of the word solipsism unfortunately degrades it.
    (Solipsism is when one believes that only their thoughts can be confirmed to exist, so any physical word, other beings, objects, anything at all except for the consciousness of ones self actually do not exist to them.)

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  • mark

    “if it feels good, do it”

    You know where this mantra comes from?

    Satanism

  • JackRileyesq

    brilliant….just brilliant. I’m an experienced swordsman with many kills to my name, but now that I’m 50 and supposedly “aged-out” of certain markets — yet very much in the Asian game due to socioeonomics with which your readers are likely very familiar — I still find it amusing that fat and unattractive white women get mad when I ignore them. After all, why would I want to be with a woman like that when I can be with a 25-year-old toned Asian sweetie? “Experience!” the chubbies exclaim. No way, Jose. And so there they are, aged out of the Western market and no way to compete in the Asian one. When I deal with them here, in Asia, after 40, they are the angriest, meanest, nastiest beasts on the planet, cock-blocking and back-stabbing at every turn, man-haters in the extreme, attempting to dominate anything that remotely resembles a free-thinking, free-wheeling Alpha male with enough testosterone pop a bone. And here’s the truth: I’m in education — bad move. Female dominated, the older they are, they higher up they are, and they lord that over men. I’ve been sexually harassed by women in this field — the only difference being that I’m just so much meaner than they are that their attempts to lasso this stallion have been met with a swift, powerful kick to their Man-Ginas (metophorical, of course). As I prepare for a post education career in engineering economics, I look forward to escaping the sickening, ball-busting gravity that is the Cougar/GILF-dominated world of education. Freedom!

  • http://www.worldlygame.blogspot.com TheKing_65

    Very deep article and a thorough read! I agree with almost everything you typed. I will add though (and this is just my 2 cents) that women are every bit as turned on by seeing our bodies as we are by seeing their bodies. I don’t know if you’ve ever overheard women having REAL GIRL TALK but it’s much dirtier than anything we guys would ever talk about. They go into detail about what they like to see and what they’d like to do with our private parts in detail far more explicit than anything we’d ever tell each other, without even showing a hint of bashfulness. It just so happens that the femcentric society that we live in purports that women don’t enjoy sex and only do it to make us happy, which is a crock of bullshit. This is why they’ll often act disgusted when sexual conversations come up while they’re in our presence.