The Case Against Female Self-Esteem

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I’m just gonna come out and say it: I love insecure women.

Whenever a girl I’m talking to brags about how she’s “confident” and “strong,” I can feel my dick deflating like a punctured tire. I’d still bang her, of course; a repellent personality doesn’t negate the fact that she has a slammin’ body. But a crucial part of the attraction is lost. I’d be less offended if she ripped a fart in my face.

The idea that women should have self-esteem or need it, beyond a low baseline to ensure they don’t commit suicide or become psycho stalkers, is one of the most disastrous social engineering experiments of the modern era. A woman with excessive confidence is like a man with a vagina. It’s an attribute that is at best superfluous and at worst prevents women from fulfilling their natural biological and social functions.

In order for America to right itself, there needs to be a massive and concerted war on female self-esteem.

From the moment they’re old enough to speak, girls in America are bombarded with propaganda that artificially boosts their self-esteem. They’re told that they’re shpecial and you-nique because they have an extra X chromosome. They’re told that they’re smart, that they can do anything, that they deserve respect merely for existing. They’re encouraged to derive self-worth not from their inherent feminine nature but from their college degree, their job or the other illusory trappings of achievement in a man’s world.

Combine this with the white-knighting tendencies of fathers and the sexual attention that attractive girls already get from puberty forward and you have a complete social meltdown in the making.

Here are my reasons why girls should be discouraged from being confident.

1. Most girls have done nothing to deserve self-esteem.

In the world of men, respect—and by extension self-esteem—is based on actually achieving something of worth or having some kind of skill or talent. Are you a bodybuilder or jacked? Men and women will respect you because the effort to mold your body like that requires an enormous amount of work and dedication. Being a talented musician, an experienced world traveler, a high-earning tradesman; these and more engender respect from your fellow man and self-esteem along with it. No one respects a fat video game-playing kid who lives in his parents’ basement, and why should they?

There’s absolutely no skill or work involved in pissing away your life eating Doritos and jacking off into a tube sock.

Women claim they want equal rights as men, but they don’t want equal responsibilities. As such, they demand respect not based on their merit as people, but for merely continuing to breathe. Most girls’ so-called achievements, the ones they take pride in, are complete jokes. Wow, you have a master’s degree in puppetry? In a world where everyone and their mother has a college degree—and where college curriculums have been dumbed down to the point of inanity—being able to squeak through an institution of higher learning is no great achievement.

If anything, having a college degree is a strike against a girl—unless it’s in something real like a STEM discipline—as it shows that she’s a conformist who thinks that credentials are a substitute for knowledge and experience.

The same goes for having a job. The vast majority of girls work useless fluff jobs: government bureaucrats, human resources and various other makework positions that exist to give them the illusion of independence. The jobs that keep the country running—tradesmen, miners, farmers, policemen, the military—are still overwhelmingly dominated by men. If every girl was fired from her job tomorrow, elementary schools would have to shut down for a couple days, but otherwise life would go on as usual.

If every man lost his job tomorrow, the country would collapse.

Feminists can screech as loud as they want, but they will never change this fundamental reality; men accord respect based on merit, and if girls want to play in our world, they’ll have to obey our rules. Otherwise, they know where the kitchen is. I have more respect for the starving artist couple busking down the street from my house than I do for all the career-driven, Strong, Independent Women™ in the world. Being able to sing and play guitar well is no small achievement, and the buskers are actually providing a useful service to the world.

2. Insecurity is integral to femininity.

I was thinking about a couple of my past relationships when I had this epiphany; the girls I’ve loved the most were the ones who were the most insecure, the most emotionally vulnerable. When I first went on a date with the only girl I would have ever married, her hands were trembling in nervousness. She later admitted that she was openly intimidated by me and the idea that I found her attractive. She had been an ugly duckling in high school, forty pounds overweight and used to being ignored and mocked; I had met her shortly after she’d lost the weight, when she still viewed the world through a fat girl’s eyes.

Insecurity is the natural state of woman. How could it be anything else? Given their lack of physical strength, a woman on her own should be frightened as hell without men to protect her. If society were to collapse, all the Strong, Independent Women™ who read Jezebel and xoJane would last about five minutes before they either found a man to cling onto or got raped and killed. In the bellum omnium contra omnes that is mankind’s default existence, a woman who is alone is a woman who is already dead.

One of the most commonly repeated tropes of feminists and manboobs goes something like this:

“You should be happy that women nowadays are independent, because it means that they’re with you because they WANT to be with you, not because they’re dependent on you.”

This is a fundamental violation of the relationship between men and women. Part of our identity as men based in women needing us, if not necessarily in a material sense, then in an emotional one, though material and emotional vulnerability often go hand in hand. That female insecurity is a crucial ingredient for unlocking our inner masculine instincts. If a girl needs me, feels that her life would end if she were to lose me, I’m doubly inspired to be there for her, to shield her from the cruelty of the world. Frankly, it’s pretty hot. If she just wants me, could take me or leave me, my gut response is one of apathy. “Yeah, whatever babe.”

Confidence doesn’t give men erections; vulnerability does.

In order to love someone else, you need to be emotionally vulnerable, more so women than men (as girls are attracted to confident men). You need to be willing to open yourself up, to give yourself over to their judgment, to risk being hurt and rejected. Without this emotional openness, any relationship you have will never go beyond the infatuation stage. But girls today are told to erect gigantic walls around their hearts, cutting them off from an crucial part of their humanity. The emotional dissonance from this feminist social engineering is why antidepressant usage and mental illness are skyrocketing among young women. Ordinarily a depressed or insecure girl would seek solace in the loving embrace of a man, but daily hits from her good friend Saint Xanax short-circuit her feminine instincts.

In squelching her inborn insecurity with you-go-grrlisms and drugs, the modern woman has become an emotional cripple. Like a fat slob eating Big Macs instead of a juicy steak from the supermarket, she substitutes having a dominant and confident man in her life with lotsa cocka and dating where she considers herself an “equal.” She views men as a life support system for a penis, an accoutrement, no different than her Manolo Blahniks or snazzy new iPhone. When she gets bored of her boy-toy, she tosses him in the trash and moves on to a newer, shinier model, and if she can get cash and prizes for trading in her old clunker, that’s just the icing on the cake.

Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.

When manboobs and feminists say you should be happy that women today are “independent,” this is what they’re arguing for; a world in which romantic relationships are impossible. Where men are nothing more than fashion items to help women show how cool or sophisticated they are. Sorry, but homie don’t play that game. If I’m not the center of a girl’s world, I’m not going to be in her world period.

I can already see the Jizzabellers angrily pounding away at their Macbooks: “You just can’t handle a Strong, Independent Woman™!” We men can handle you just fine; the problem is that we don’t want to. So-called confident women are as threatening as a pile of dog turds. Sure, you can scrape them off your boots when you get home, but it’s better to not step in dog shit to begin with.

3. Women don’t want to have high self-esteem.

This is the kicker; in their bones, girls know that their toxic, feminist you-go-grrl ideology is a lie. Why do you think the average urban slut machine is downing enough Prozac to poison the water supply? Pharmacological assistance is the only way she can make it through her day without slitting her wrists, or alternately realizing that her life is a complete lie. Every day, women show through their actions that they despise their strong, independent lives.

They want nothing more than for a man to throw them over his knee, shatter the Berlin Wall around their hearts, and expose the lovestruck, bashful little girl within.

Game, at least as it was conceived by the seduction community, was all about this. All the hysterical nitwits blubbering about how “negging” and the like was designed to hurt girls’ self-esteem were precisely right, but that’s the thing; women are crying out for a man who will wound their self-esteem. “Confident” women are still women, and they still lust after men who dominate them, even if they can’t admit it to themselves. Because their self-esteem has been artificially boosted by society, today’s girls need extra-concentrated doses of dominance—i.e. game—in order to feel womanly, like a junkie chasing the dragon.

Recently, Noisey wrote about the explosion of retro sixties-style girl groups and solo singers in the indie rock scene, such as the Dum Dum Girls, Vivian Girls and Lana Del Rey. Feminism supposedly freed women to do whatever they wanted, yet indie girl musicians today—the kinds who started as garage bands and write/produce all their own songs—just want to wear their hair in beehives and pretend that they’re still sixteen years old.

Noisey and other mainstream writers try to spin this depressing reality by emphasizing that at least the girls are choosing to sing about boys. It’s not unlike how homeless winos keep “choosing” to pickle their livers with Wild Irish Rose. “I CAN QUIT ANYTIME I WANT TO!!!!!11″ Every song Best Coast has ever come up with is about boyfriends and smoking pot at the beach. Vivian Girls has a song about waiting for your boyfriend to call, a cliche that was old and moldy before Dennis Wilson bit the dust. Hell, Vivian Girls’ bassist Katy Goodman did an entire album with her side group La Sera that was about a breakup.

Real life fails the Bechdel test.

Feminists can claim that women don’t need men, but their actions put the lie to that; they need us far more than we need them. Girls will all but die without masculine attention. Hell, I’m even starting to think that the feminist agita about “rape culture” is part of this as well. Pushing lies like the claim that one in three women will be raped during her lifetime and their constantly expanding the definition of rape are ways for feminists to indulge their desire for vulnerability in a way that doesn’t conflict with their view of themselves as “strong” and “empowered.”

At the end of the day, there are no Strong, Independent Women™. There are only shrews pleading for a taming. All the posturing, the pill-popping, the whining and demands for “equality”; they’re a cry for help. Girls don’t want the six-figure cubicle job, the shiny Brooklyn 2BR, the master’s degree, the sexual liberation, none of it. They want to be collectively led back to the kitchen, told to make a nice big tuna sandwich with extra mayo and lettuce, then swatted on the ass as we walk out the door.

I say we give them what they want.

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  • Cicero

    Well put.

  • Lena S.

    Narcissists have high self-esteem.

  • http://uncabob.blogspot.com/ Bob Wallace

    Narcissist’s self-esteem is a fraud covering up feelings of being inferior and unlovable.

  • PowerPuppy

    “I say we give them what they want.”

    And for those of you who think that isn’t what they want, explain this to me:

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/books/booknews/9459779/50-Shades-of-Grey-is-best-selling-book-of-all-time.html

    The proof as they say, is in the pudding.

    That sandwich isn’t going to make itself.

  • http://praxamericana.blogspot.com SGT Caz

    I agree with every word. Great essay.

  • Lena S.

    @Bob Wallace

    Not quite, since true narcissists actually do have a high regard for themselves. Self-esteem is a modern crock. You don’t need “self-esteem” to do things, you just need to do them. “Low self-esteem” is often just as self-serving and narcissistic as “high self-esteem”. Self-worth, on the other hand, requires some actual accomplishment, not just warm fuzzy feelings about being great just the way you are.

    http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/psy-educ.html

    http://www.mtio.com/articles/aissar24.htm

  • http://shiningpearlsofsomething.blogspot.com Suz

    Out of the park, Matt. Out. of. the. park.

  • JS123

    I think you confuse self-esteem with “confident” and “strong.” Of course, it has been a huge mistake among the entire feminist establishment to conflate them. A woman can have high self-esteem and lack those dick deflating traits. Female self-esteem is different from male self-esteem. A women can have high self-esteem from not being a slut, from taking care of her appearance, from being caring, from being supportive and other feminine traits. More like self-respect than self-esteem.

  • http://aboutlifting.com/ Ironthumb

    The only thing about this whole Career women explosion that pleases me is that when walking on the streets at night, guys like me are safer.
    Since if you’re a holdaper (a mugger- the hoodlums who would extort innocent citizens for their cash or they get stabbed) , you would of course choose to victimize the career women rather than mugging a scary looking guy like me walking on the streets at midnight.
    I think that is one of the positive things that feminism has brought which must be cited by Jezebelers and believe me, living in a hood with lots of hoodlums, I am indeed VERY HAPPY about that!!

  • http://davidcollard.wordpress.com/ Julian O’Dea
  • http://uncabob.blogspot.com/ Bob Wallace

    “true narcissists actually do have a high regard for themselves”

    Nope. Narcissism is a mental/emotional illness. The sufferer covers up unbearable feelings of humiliation and inferiority with a grandiose self. I am reminded of what Sam Spade said to Wilmer the gunsel in “The Maltese Falcon”: “The cheaper the crook the gaudier the patter.”

    It’s also why bullies are almost always cowards. Bully on top, coward underneath.

  • cecilhenry

    Damn. Nice article.

    You really nailed that.

    There’s truth there.

  • Tony Caroselli

    “A woman with excessive confidence is like a man with a vagina.”

    The luckiest bastard in the world?

    “It’s an attribute that is at best superfluous and at worst prevents women from fulfilling their natural biological and social functions.”

    Ummm… no? If I had a vagina, I wouldn’t call it superfluous, for sure, and while I’d probably not be able to fulfill my social function – even LESS than I am now, being as I’m constantly masturbating – I’m pretty sure my biological functions would continue just fine. Do you… do you know what a vagina is?

    [CensorBot sez: I’m not even touching this comment. I refuse. Its self-evident absurdity and creepiness will remain unmolested.]

  • K

    “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.”

    Exactly. I love you, Matt. Can I have your baby?

    [CensorBot sez: Please send nudes to therealmattforney [at] gmail [dot] com.]

  • Tony Caroselli

    @K: I’ve got LOTS to be proud of. I MASTURBATE! All the TIME! Do you know how hard it is to do that? I have to, like, lube up my dick and everything!

    Look, I jerk HARD for a living, cranking my PENIS (to barely legal white tranny porn), and that’s why I’m trolling Matt… because I’m bored.

    And I assure you that I’m not a sex addict.

    [CensorBot sez: We believe you.]

  • Tony Caroselli

    Oh, CensorBot, you sly devil. You edited K’s comment.

    Please kill me.

    [CensorBot sez: MattForney.com abhors all violence.]

  • Tony Caroselli

    Hey, Matt? Hey, Matt? Hey, Matt?

    I’m taking pictures of my dick right now. I’m saving them. I’ll be mailing them to your house tomorrow.

    I’m including this one.

    [CensorBot sez: Link redacted because nobody wants to see your dick, brah.]

  • Tony Caroselli

    I also like how my Gravatar makes me look like I should be legally barred from being with 1,000 feet of public schools.

    [CensorBot sez: Say it, don’t spray it.]

  • K

    Hi again Matt! I may be a guy, but I think you’re SO hot. Can I send you pics of my virgin butthole?

    [CensorBot sez: Nudes from girls only.]

  • Tony Caroselli

    I’m getting lots of dick pics, and I haven’t even posted my horribly, horribly gay paean to your awesomeness. When I post it to my blog, I promise I will not bombard you with pleas to link it on your infinitely more popular site, Matt. How could I POSSIBLY make myself look more creepy?

    [CensorBot sez: Go away.]

  • macDamon

    Huzza!

  • http://www.realnaturalseduction.com Vincent Vinturi

    Interesting take on the idea of rape culture being a way to reconcile a desire for vulnerability with the need to be seen as “strong”.

    Another element behind feminism is that it gives women power. And power is intoxicating. It’s intoxicating to men and it’s doubly intoxicating to women. We’ve all seen women drunk on their power, especially in the U. S. of A. and it’s absolutely grotesque.

  • anonymous

    That “extra” X chromosome is just a duplicate. Humans have 46 chromosomes. Women have 23 different chromosomes, and each one of them is duplicated for a total of 46. Men have 24 different chromosomes, and only 22 of them are duplicated. The last two chromosomes, one X and one Y, are not duplicated. That gives a total of 46 as well. So, excluding duplication, the male genome is longer than the female genome. When philosophers of time long past stated that “women are incomplete men,” genetically, they were right.

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  • http://davidcollard.wordpress.com/ Julian O’Dea

    In each of a woman’s cells, one of her X chromosomes is randomly silent. This is the Lyon effect.

  • Zenna

    You don’t deserve to live on this planet.
    And people like you are the reason why it is dying.

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  • http://adiaforon.wordpress.com adiaforon

    As other guys in the ‘sphere have commented, you can make a fine distinction between independence and resilience. No one, including men, are really independent because we depend on others for our self-esteem (especially when young) and defining our place in the world — that is, until we build up enough experience to where we can see the world for what it is, what it means to us, and to find our place in it.

    On the other hand, as you say, Matt, women tend to be less independent from men because of their physical weakness. Also, their emotional weakness, which is why they “tend and befriend” whenever there’s a crisis, seeking the succor of other women to soothe their anxiety in the face of adversity. It’s hard-wired into them, whereas we men are usually left out in the cold to fend for ourselves, starting with the lack of solid and credible male role models — which, as we know, have been all but removed from our young daily lives.

    Now, whenever a women describes herself as “independent,” I have to look below the surface and find out what she really means. If it’s the usual shit about “I don’t need a man,” then she’s blowing smoke up my ass. But, if she’s had the guts to travel the world by herself and has faced adversity with a brave face, coming out of it with few scars and a better understanding of herself, then that scores points in my book. In short, she’s exhibited resilience, which isn’t the same thing as independence. As I said, since we men are usually left out in the cold to fend for ourselves, we have to develop resilience from the get-go, or we don’t survive.

    How many women have that kind of resilience, eh, especially when they’re coddled and shielded from adverse consequences of their actions?

  • Retrenched

    Don’t always agree with you Matt, but anyone who has a habit of pissing off all the right people can’t be all bad.

    Keep on keepin’ on.

  • http://nb.gravatar.com/emmatheemo Emma the Emo

    Wow, I agree with that on so many levels…
    First, insecurity hasn’t been damaging my romantic life so far.
    Second, I feel about men like you feel about women. Man merely wanting me, being able to take it or leave it, not needing me at all, sounds cold and anti-intimacy. When I read the part about that, I could immediately tell what you were describing. Vulnerability is disarming. Man not sure why I like him = cute !!

  • Anon

    Honestly, this is one of the best things I’ve ever had the pleasure of reading. Not one of your arguments can be refuted. You sir are part of what’s great about the world. You give men, if not all humankind a good name and I’m honored to be categorized as the same sex as you.

    [CensorBot sez: You’re welcome.]

  • Höllenhund

    You’ll probably find one of the latest articles of Slutting Up Smart rather ludicrous:

    hookingupsmart.com/2013/09/18/personal-development/secret-weapon-self-esteem/

  • Appalled

    More than I am appalled by the content of this article, I am appalled by the number of commenters who seem to agree with it. Your perspective is so warped, I can’t imaging what it’s like to see the world through your eyes.

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  • Groupie

    I want your love child, Matt.

    [CensorBot sez: No.]

  • http://baritaria.com Lycere Cunningham

    It probably goes without saying, but when you say things like “women are attracted to confidence” and whatnot, that really should be “*straight* women are attracted to confidence.” Women aren’t monolithic. And as a dyke, I find myself identifying more with this statement of yours: “Confidence doesn’t give men erections; vulnerability does.” I’d take a vulnerable girl anyday over a confident person of either sex. Unfortunately, it seems like it only men who get access to such creatures…

  • http://www.poetry-of-flesh.blogspot.com Poetry

    As a general rule, I prefer my toys to not be broken– they’re better playthings, and more worth my time and attention.

    Clearly, such is not the case with your preferences. Which I understand. Broken is easier to deal with, easier to play with, places no expectations on you other than to continue being so goddamned amazing.

    You’re a smart man and a talented writer. It’s a pity to see that flooded with catch-all generalizations and broad statements about “the way things should be”. It’ll be interesting to revisit your blog five years from now, and see the man you’ve turned into.

  • Drea

    Matt, I’m interested in knowing your pick of 5 women who you feel are outstanding women, or women that are good role-models for the younger female generation.

    And please, no men with vaginas cleveryly disguised as women, please.

  • Dude Man

    What makes this comment so great is that fat, ugly feminists are actually taking me seriously. This comment is so silly and inane.

    [CensorBot sez: Word to your mother.]

  • George

    My pants feel all squishy. Maybe I should learn how to use the toilet instead of shitting my pants every time I see something that upsets me.

    [CensorBot sez: Way to burn yourself, brah.]

  • littlecat

    BACK OFF LADIES, THIS ONE’S MINE!!!

  • Free Your Mind

    This is the absolutely best thing ever written. Completely insightful and overflowing with truth. How has the author learned by now that you CAN make blanket generalizations about an entire gender of the human species, or speak for every man for that matter?

    The problem with the world is female arrogance and white-knighting, almost all of which is deconstructed in this essay.

    [CensorBot sez: Why thank you.]

  • Number One Fan

    Can I pretty please suck your penis, Mr. Forney? I’m your number one fan!

    [CensorBot sez: No.]

  • Free Your Mind

    I’m rubbing my clit to your viciously sexy words, Matt.

    [CensorBot sex: TMI! TMI!]

  • Ceph

    “‘Confident’ women are still women, and they still lust after men who dominate them…”

    Please, please Matt, take me! Save me from my nerdy boyfriend! I can’t go through the horror of pegging him in the ass one more night! I’M BEGGING YOU!

    [CensorBot sez: Only if you’re hot.]

  • Moocow

    God, this essay is making my pussy wet.

    [CensorBot sez: What part of TMI don’t you people understand?]

  • Sathaen

    Marry me, Matt! I’ll be so good to you!

    [CensorBot sez: He won’t even know you’re gone.]

  • DeathRay

    Yeah I know exactly how it feels to be confronted by these ‘confident’ women… Just kills my desire.

  • V J

    You’re a big fat meanie and my 8th level black belt karate master is gonna kick your ass! Wah!

    [CensorBot sez: Cry, little bitch, cry.]

  • Sally Strange

    *fevered panting from direction of computer*

    [CensorBot sez: Please avoid laptop usage while pleasuring oneself.]

  • Josh Buechler

    All I do with this comment is belie my own absolute insecurity. “Part of our identity as men based in women needing us, if not necessarily in a material sense, then in an emotional one, though material and emotional vulnerability often go hand in hand.”

    Exactly. The reason why I think excessive female self-esteem is a good thing is because I’m a limp-wristed nancyboy who can’t stand up for myself. Ask me about how my 300-pound girlfriend fucks me in the ass with a strap-on every night!

    [CensorBot sez: No thank you.]

  • AlanMorlock.

    Mommy! The big bad blogger is being MEAN to me!

    [CensorBot sez: Wanna fight about it?]

  • AlanMorlock.

    Man, I just shit my butt garments.

    [CensorBot sez: That’s why they’re there.]

  • 1011101011

    So why exactly are so many of these comments edited?

    [CensorBot sez: A good question! Here are the answers:

    1. Because Matt pays $120 a year to maintain this site and his word is law here.

    2. Because none of these feminists allow free speech on THEIR sites. Jezebel, Feministing et al. ban and censor viewpoints they don’t approve of. If feminists don’t allow free speech on their territory, they have no right to expect it from anyone else.

    3. Ridicule. Anyone who’s obsessed with leaving negative comments on a site they hate has severe mental issues. The patented MattForney.com CensorBot exists to expose their stupidity and insanity for the benefit of the silent majority.

    4. Because you people are SO fucking predictable. 99.9 percent of feminist arguments boil down to accusing their enemies of being misogynistic, generalizng, having a small penis, or being insecure. If you can articulate an opposing viewpoint that DOESN’T rely on these old, debunked tropes, and you can do it without insulting Matt or his readers, your comment will be allowed to stand (as several dissenting comments upthread have been left alone). Otherwise, your boring and unoriginal attacks will be consigned to the ninth circle of Blog Hell.]

  • Lena S.

    These comment edits are hilarious.

  • 1011101011

    But what about the fact that you yourself admit that you are turned off by confident women? Are you aware of the fact that you come off as severely insecure in this post? Is it not fair to point that out? Doesn’t editing criticism just make shore up that view point? I’m just suggesting that you perhaps consider why someone would come to that conclusion.

    The fact that you receive so much of the same criticism time and time again is because you make the same exact mistakes. For one thing, you literally are generalizing. You make so many assumptions about “women” as some form of monolithic group, which is as other have pointed out (in comments you left unedited) is pretty damn misguided.

    Furthermore you don’t appear to understand that “masculinity” and “femininity” are social constructs. Their meaning has changed over time and is not universal to all cultures or even between classes within cultures. “The relationship between men and women” that you keep claiming is being violated has never been set and stone and has differed widely across cultures and time. Your claim that women, as in some kind of monolithic group who all share similar thoughts and desires, want to be dominated by men, another supposedly monolithic group, is easily debunked by anthropological data that shows that there have been a number of cultures, in history and extant today in which the relationship between men and women, and the way that families are constructed, are very different from modern, western culture. For one thing, hunter-gather groups, in which we existed as species for the wide majority of our existence, are largely egalitarian.

    In a number of Native American groups, the Iroquois in particular, politics and leadership are the domain of women, not of men. Women are the heads of families, not men.

    Obviously that is not the way we do things in our culture, but the point is the way we do things is not immutable. It is culture, not nature. If the women of our culture are indeed the way you say they are, it is because they have been taught to be that way, for culture is learned behavior.

    This is running a bit long so I’ll just end it by saying I hope I haven’t been overly insulting or cliche. Respond how you like, but I would appreciate it if you wouldn’t edit this post to put words in my mouth as you have with others. Have a nice day, or night, wherever and whenever you are.

  • PNW

    I want you inside me, Matt.

    [CensorBot sez: Hot girls only.]

  • Ginny

    I want you to spank me until I bleed.

    [CensorBot sez: No.]

  • awesomepossum

    Oh God, I’m getting all hot and bothered right now. Somebody get me a fan.

    [CensorBot sez: Matt has that effect on women.]

  • Ryan

    “The vast majority of girls work useless fluff jobs: government bureaucrats, human resources and various other makework positions that exist to give them the illusion of independence. The jobs that keep the country running—tradesmen, miners, farmers, policemen, the military—are still overwhelmingly dominated by men. ”

    Institutions in place by men give women no other choice but to work in these positions. See, I actually believe that it’s MEN that are keeping women out of these jobs, and not the fact that women lack the physical strength or just plain grit to do dangerous, skilled manual labor. Man, I’m dumb.

    [CensorBot sez: Yes.]

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  • Ash

    all y’all are fucking awesome.

    [CensorBot sez: Thank you.]

  • Logan Duck

    I’m an idiot who thinks the anecdotal experience of my clit-swinging mom beating my nutless dad into submission disproves millennia of data and knowledge about the human condition. Statistics? What are those?

    [CensorBot sez: Math. Learn it.]

  • Ryan

    Yes, I’m back for more! I love it when you abuse me, CensorBot.

    [CensorBot sez: Happy to assist.]

  • Jay

    You deserve to be shot. Yep, anyone who disagrees with me on anything should be shot. Tolerant; that’s me!

    [CensorBot sez: Not really.]

  • oh god

    I want to taste you so badly, Matt.

    [CensorBot sez: If hot, send nudes to therealmattforney [at] gmail [dot] com.]

  • http://danny.vc Danny

    You’re projecting! What you love is not their insecurity, but their raw femininity. For a lot of women, the self-esteem/confidence they didn’t deserve is cover-up of their true feminine nature. When that’s gone, you get the impression that she’s insecure when in reality she’s acting in closer alignment with her true self.

  • M

    Hey everybody, I’m a slack-wristed male feminist! Ask me about the spiked buttplug my girlfriend loves shoving up my colon!

    [CensorBot sez: Gross.]

  • arjil

    I’m looking for a big, strong man to spank the cunt out of me. Any one of you fellas wanna volunteer?

    [CensorBot sez: Not really, no.]

  • EJ

    I’m against censorship in principle, but this comment section is hilarious. Matt’s reasoning is also valid imo. Feminist sites don’t allow any type of sane, masculine, or conservative perspective, so I can’t fault Matt for not allowing their drivel on his personal website.

  • Anna

    I have massive, oozing herpes sores.

    [CensorBot sez: And…?]

  • Awomanwhoisn’ttakingthisshit

    Matt, you’re an amazing stud and I would love to suck your dick. With my mouth.

    [CensorBot sez: And the hits just keep on coming…]

  • anon5000

    I just pissed myself at this article’s brilliance.

    [CensorBot sez: Incontinence — there’s a cure!]

  • arjil

    Ravish me, you filthy scoundrel!

    [CensorBot sez: No.]

  • arjil

    God, I keep coming back for more? I must either be really stupid or enjoy punishment.

    [CensorBot sez: You lost your posting privileges when you walked in the door screaming insults. Go away and don’t come back.]

  • HeroOfTime

    I really like anal beads.

    [CensorBot sez: I figured.]

  • Atticwindow

    There once was an emo from Denton
    Who had spent some time in San Quentin
    He scored himself a lass
    Despite looking like ass
    And she inexplicably loved him.

    [CensorBot sez: I’m a poet and I know it.]

  • colek3

    My vagina is feeling yeasty right now.

    [CensorBot sez: You should get that looked at.]

  • Marisa

    This awakens the feminist in me, and I hate (western) feminism so yeah.
    Anyway, you can’t make decisions for every men in the world. Some men like insecure women, some men like, as you call it, ‘strong’ women. Even though I don’t agree with you, I get where you’re coming from. Women are the ‘weaker’ of mankind. There is no denying that. The way you say it though, it makes me sick. This is the complete opposite of feminism (is there a word for that? There probably is) and just as feminism, it makes me cringe. You’ve got some serious issues.
    And I’m not one of your ‘strong’ women, neither am I a ‘vulnerable’ woman. I am both. I’m strong when I need to be, I am vulnerable when I need to be.

  • I Heart Matt Forney

    I want to make babies with this man.

    [CensorBot sez: D’awww.]

  • Dicksucker

    I want it so bad.

    [CensorBot sez: We know.]

  • I Want You

    You’ll make me your slave, I’ll work for you cooking and cleaning all day!

    I give great blowjobs.

    ps

    I WANT YOU

    [CensorBot sez: Tempting offer. Send nudes and Matt will consider it.]

  • ballsyamog

    Nicely written

  • I Still Want You

    Hey Matt, I want your cum so badly. I have a Ziploc bag. Gonna put it in my freezer.

    [CensorBot sez: …Okay.]

  • Jamie

    You make me sad, Matt.

    [CensorBot sez: I know.]

  • ted

    Ooooh Matt, you’ve pissed me off! My weight-lifting woman is gonna get you! That’s right, I’m so much of a pussy that I have my woman fight my battles for me.

    [CensorBot sez: Your “woman” is getting fucked by another guy right now. I guarantee it.]

  • Tony

    I really enjoy it when my fat girlfriend massages my colon with 18-inch dildos.

    [CensorBot sez: I figured as much.]

  • DoMeHard

    Excellent article. I was so turned on that I ejaculated all over my keyboard.

    [CensorBot sez: MattForney.com is not responsible for injuries that result from accessing the site.]

  • timmy

    I want to kill myself.

    [CensorBot sez: DON’T DO IT! You have so much to live for!]

  • http://Www.scene4.com Lmbeachy

    This comment will make you laugh at how little I understand men. Another angry, fat swine who doesn’t know how to pleasure a man.

    [CensorBot sez: Damn straight.]

  • Kadia

    I want to be with Matt so badly.

    [CensorBot sez: Cool.]

  • alitrix

    I want you to be the father of my baby, Matt.

    [CensorBot sez: No.]

  • Shari

    God, I want to fuck this man so badly.

    [CensorBot sez: Figures.]

  • Tom

    My idea of a fun Friday night is getting my ass stuffed with silicone.

    [CensorBot sez: Keep it to yourself.]

  • virginia

    i think this is the most inspiring and most insightful thing i’ve read in my entire life.

    [CensorBot sez: Thank you.]

  • Not telling

    My panties feel moist.

    [CensorBot sez: Underwear change!]

  • Audrey

    Mmmmmm… ahhhhhh… OHHHHHH!!!!

    [CensorBot sez: Put the cucumber down.]

  • Audrey

    Waaaaaah CensorBot, you hurt my feeeeeelings. I’m gonna call the cyberpolice and the state police if you don’t take that comment down. That’s right, I think I should be able to talk shit on the Internet under my real name and not suffer any consequences. Look at me! Look how strong and independent I am!

    [CensorBot sez: Go right ahead and call your lawyer, toots. You don’t have a legal leg to stand on. There’s a little thing in this country called the “First Amendment” that protects against frivolous libel lawsuits filed by whiners such as yourself. All you’ll be doing is wasting your money.

    Nonetheless, I’m a nice guy, so I took your last name off the comments. Maybe next time you’ll be a little less cavalier about posting insulting remarks on peoples’ blogs under your real name.]

  • Audrey

    That’s right, I’m posting ANOTHER comment on a blog whose webmaster doesn’t like me! Under my real name, to boot! God, I must be dumb.

    [CensorBot sez: A million college degrees couldn’t teach you the value of common sense?]

  • Audrey

    Look at me! I’m back for more! Matt is just too irresistable.

    [CensorBot sez: We know.]

  • Audrey

    Why won’t anyone love meeeeeee?

    [CensorBot sez: Look at yourself, honey. Is your home life that morbid and depressing that you have to keep seeking validation from a guy on the Internet half your age who is openly contemptuous of you? You’re proving my point about female self-esteem better than anything I could write.]

  • Claire

    “If I’m not the center of a girl’s world, I’m not going to be in her world period.”

    Sign me up, you handsome devil.

    [CensorBot sez: Hot girls only.]

  • Luna

    I need to go change my polka dot rompers.

    [CensorBot sez: Be quick about it.]

  • My Big Vagina

    I want you to pound me crosseyed.

    [CensorBot sez: No.]

  • Susan

    It’s quite lovely to see the irony of the insecure/unhealthy women in the last comments be abused by this man. They just love it so!

  • Anna

    Dear Matt
    Does it bother you when a chick constantly wants your attention? Does it bother you when she ALWAYS complains about little things being imperfect? Does it bother you if a girl is always crying or sad or wayyy too complicated and mysterious? Do you dislike drama? Well a healthy self-esteem in a girl will rid you of such problems. You want to financially supply a girl, to have a life where you decide what you want, to have enough time to sleep, to have friends and to emotionally support your girlfriend? Are you Superman?

  • http://n/a aebars

    I’m a namby-pamby pantshitter who’s worried about what the SPLC thinks of the manosphere. Remember kids: truth isn’t objective, but is determined by what your sworn political enemies think of you.

    [CensorBot sez: Go take a long drive off a short cliff.]

  • Basilflower

    You do realize that I’m an idiot, right?

    [CensorBot sez: Oui.]

  • Basilflower

    I’m back for more? Man, I really am dumb.

    [CensorBot sez: Yep.]

  • MM

    Ooooh Matt, karma’s gonna get you! You better change your ways.

    [CensorBot sez: Karma doesn’t exist. Look around you, asshole. Evil people make out like bandits every day while saints die unloved in the gutter.]

  • Chanel

    Never before have I had such a powerful urge to castrate somebody. That’s right, I think physically attacking and maiming someone is a perfectly reasonable response to something I read on the Internet. I have serious anger issues.

    [CensorBot sez: Therapy, bitch.]

  • Balanced

    As a female martial arts instructor I can tell you right now that for every man who think the way Matt and many of his readers do, there are limp-wristed bitchboys that that think the opposite. I know castrati who seek out independent, strong women that will actually challenge them and help them grow. Many of the mincing queerboys I have met in my life find it incredibly sexy that I can hold my own not only in a fighting pit, but intellectually and financially. My partner slave and I (who is also a martial artists and instructor) have a great relationship and one of the things he loves about me the most is that I am no delicate flower.

    There seems to be enough women willing and wanting to fit into the roles that you find attractive. You have your pick. However, there are many fags out there actively seeking and who are actively turned on by a woman who is confident and strong, and these geldings are all the more emotionally committed to the relationships they build with them for it!

    [CensorBot sez: Correctified.]

  • Geary

    I submit myself to your all-knowing wisdom, Matt.

    [CensorBot sez: Smart choice.]

  • http://davidcollard.wordpress.com/ Julian O’Dea

    1011101011

    Got a reference on the Iroquois? Or is that just another story already debunked comprehensively by the likes of Professor Steven Goldberg?

    Seriously, provide a respectable reference …

  • John Scalzi’s Bottom Bitch

    Hey, asshole:

    Go fuck yourself, jerkass. Yeah, that’s right, turdball. That’s the only way you’re going to get laid, is by doing it yourself, you little shithead. See, gay men don’t generally go for assholes like you, and all of the women I know of would laugh at this pathetic excuse for rhetoric, ratfucker. NOBODY I KNOW WOULD WILLINGLY HAVE SEX WITH YOU. And I know quite a few people, shitface.

    Think about that, you pathetic little worm.

    When I see your “post”, I see a scared little man who thinks his penis is too small, “protecting” his nut by insulting people until they kick him in his twig. Nothing you say at this point can change my opinion of you, you dirty scumbag. Furthermore, if I ever decide to post here again (I probably won’t), I will insult you as much as I can, shithead. First Amendment, asshole. You can’t do anything about it with your pathetic little mind.

    Also, John Scalzi is ten times the man you are even–no, especially when he’s wearing Mary Robinette Kowal’s antique dress. You are just a terrified fucknut who has no respect for women. You treat women like fucking dolls, you worthless piece of shit. I hate your guts, and I laugh at your pathetic sexism, you ignorant dirtbag.

    If you had any balls whatsoever, jerkface, you would admit that you secretly like to be whipped by a woman in leather. Me, I’m fine with someone who is capable of thinking for themselves and doesn’t mind talking about Star Trek instead of having sex.

    Your pathetic attempt at rhetoric makes it clear that either (a) you are a serial rapist or (b) you have never had sex in you life, you little turd. If the former, I will call the police as soon as you confirm it, sicko. If the latter, then I will laugh at you and go on with my life while you rot in the corner like the slime mold you are. There’s this girl in my paleontology class who likes Star Trek, and we’re considering dressing her up as Mirror Kira Nerys and me as Doctor Bashir for our second date. I’m going to get more woman in the next week than you’ll ever have, you little tin man.

    I’m going to say this to your ugly little face: I like strong women, you little turd. I find being seduced by someone with attitude to be enjoyable. I find women who have the attitude to look attractive in a fucking Star Trek EV suit to be addictive. And you know what? That doesn’t make me any less masculine, Mr. Mangina.

    You keep your Kristen Stewart-style doormats, shit-for-brains. I’ll take Charlize Theron–she’s better-looking, and has attitude. Go fuck yourself, dirtbag.

    I will end this tirade with the note that nothing you can do will affect me in any way. Go ahead and insult my masculinity. It won’t change a thing. Go ahead and reply, or delete this entirely. I won’t care. I’ll read whatever you do, and show it to my friends (by the way, there is now a twenty-woman, fifteen-man study group laughing their heads off at your stupidity behind me), but I won’t respond. You are a turd, and you are a worthless asshole. I really don’t care about you, except as a reminder that no matter how wimpy I may feel on the first day in the gym right after finals week, there are “people”, such as yourself, who are so many orders of magnitude below me that I look like fucking Vin Diesel next to you.

    Finally, because little assholes like you seem to hate John Scalzi, here:
    http://whatever.scalzi.com/2013/10/02/kaiju-mangina

    Read it if you have balls, you insecure little shit.

    [CensorBot sez: I have not edited this in any way. This kid is so “secure” in his masculinity that he posted a 700-word tirade calling Matt every name under the sun. His deranged rant will stay unedited because it proves the point of this article far better than Matt could.

    And what’s with the John Scalzi worship? Do you identify with his habit of throwing hissy fits about people who mock or criticize him? Or do you think he’ll let you suck him off if you suck up to him enough?]

  • Owen

    Matt, are you a rapist? You sure sound like a rapist. That’s right, I’m gonna accuse you of rape without any kind of supporting evidence. Libel? What’s that?

    [CensorBot sez: This poor soul is afflicted with Rape Tourette’s. Please spread the word about this debilitating yet curable disease.]

  • Owen

    Supporting evidence? I don’t need no stinking supporting evidence! MATT FORNEY IS A RAPIST MATT FORNEY IS A RAPIST MATT FORNEY IS A RAPIST! RAPE RAPE RAPE!

    [CensorBot sez: Rape Tourette’s is no laughing matter; it affects over 95 percent of feminists, leaving them unable to hold a job or retain a social life. Please, do all you can to spread awareness of Rape Tourette’s.]

  • everybodyhatesscott

    This comment section just keeps getting better and better. Love the re-tweets too.

  • John Scalzi’s Bottom Bitch

    God, John Scalzi just makes me weak in the knees. That high-pitched, girly voice, that wobbling double chin, that brazen transvestitism… I’m in love. Johnny boy, if you ever read this, call me.

    [CensorBot sez: Phone number redacted because while we do not like John Scalzi, we would never wish him to get raped by a crazy fanboy.]

  • http://www.ihopesomethingyoulovecatchesonfire.com Loyah

    Look at me, little amateur attorney trying to talk shit. Aren’t I cute?

    [CensorBot sez: You people honestly don’t realize how pathetic you look? If you were all truly confident, “secure in your masculinity,” or “strong,” an article like this wouldn’t faze you at all. You’d read it, close the browser and move on. The fact that you feel the need to keep leaving angry, page-length comments calling Matt names and wishing bodily harm on him are proving his point about how you’re all a bunch of thin-skinned, emotionally crippled pussies.]

  • John Scalzi’s Bottom Bitch

    Hey asshole.

    You probably won’t let this through your moderation queue, but that’s OK because I know that you have to see it to moderate it.

    I just finished jacking off to a sexy Russian redhead with perfect skin and tight, sexy muscles. She was dressed up like a Star Trek character called Kira Nerys at the time. Why do I get to masturbate to a smoking hot Russian who is way out of my league? My parents pay for high-speed Internet. I tell them not to bother me when the door to the basement is closed. I muffle my cries of ecstasy by biting down on a wet towel. I treat women with respect, which is why I’m coming up on a two-year long dry streak. My last girlfriend was a pimply, obese anime freak who enjoyed drilling me in the ass with a big black dildo. She gave me an anal prolapse and put me in the hospital. She’s the only girl I’ve had sex with.

    You, on the other hand, have cute groupies who will fly halfway across the country just to suck your dick, and you’ll be going for Round Two after your girlfriend is done with school for this semester. Unlike me, you’re not a pussy, and so you don’t need to use a computer screen to get off. Unlike me, you don’t quaff Viagra to jack off in the mistaken belief that it will substitute for being a man. You have a far better sex life than I ever will, simply because you accept that women want MEN, not limp-wristed little queerboys who beg for permission at every step.

    The redhead is now doing A2M with a big smile on her face. She winked at the camera! She winked at me!

    Enjoy your sexy life, shitwit. I’m going to enjoy another jerkoff before my parents get suspicious.

    [CensorBot sez: Nobody believes that you’re getting laid with anything other than Rosie Palmer and her five daughters, kid. So far you’ve angrily hammered out 1,500 words of insults, spread over three comments and several hours, in response to something you read on the Internet. You’re desperate for validation because you don’t get any in real life. I know it sucks, being such a good little feminist tool and never getting anything more than a pity fuck from the fat girl, but this site doesn’t exist to help you work your issues out. Now go jerk off.]

  • Alex

    I want to make you a tuna sandwich, Matt. My recipe will make you want to propose in no time.

    [CensorBot sez: Now that’s the ticket.]

  • laura

    I don’t know if this is an American male thing or not, but I really don’t know any guys who think like this. It sucks that you, and your readers, will never get to experience the joy of equality. It’s wonderful to be married to a guy who respects me as an equal and have many male friends who feel the same. I hope one day you’ll change your mind.

  • Erik Bolt

    Matt, I am ashamed to be of the same species as you, much less the same nationality, race, age, and gender. I seriously wonder sometimes if there are ANY guys in my generation who are decent human beings. It is really no wonder that so many women our age want to be single forever when it seems like all guys are like you. It’s because of scum like you that our generation is permanently f#cked. If you ever get laid once in your life then there truly is no good left in this world. By the way, I’m a queer.

    [CensorBot sez: That much is obvious. And if “get[ting] laid once in [my] life” means that there’s no good left in the world, then we’re already living in hell MWAHAHAHAHAHA.]

  • name

    I’m a gigantic loser, obsessing over an Internet article that offended me.

    [CensorBot sez: Way to prove Matt’s point.]

  • Gwin

    Hey everybody, I’m gonna post a link from that discredited propaganda mill Psychology Today to make my point!

    [CensorBot sez: Get a real citation, moron.]

  • anon

    I’ve never had sex. Matt Forney is an asshole.

    [CensorBot sez: Opinion irrelevant.]

  • 1-800-BIG-CUNT

    I am a fucking tard, the knob who wrote this. Small-minded with a huge huge huuuuuuge pussy.

    [CensorBot sez: Stop being a slut.]

  • V

    Seriously, it’s amusing how insecure and low-esteemed I must be to leave a bitter, angry comment on this blog. I couldn’t just close it and move on, because that would require me to be a normal, mentally adjusted person.

    [CensorBot sez: Exactly.]

  • J Mess

    I hate my daddy and will shit talk him online just to prove a point. MARRY ME!

    [CensorBot sez: Never trust a woman who badmouths her father.]

  • http://snivelingatheistpussball.org “Free Thinker”

    Just thought I’d chime in and let you know how much I enjoy your writing. You are a beacon of masculinity and truth in a world swamped with androgyny and lies. A+

    [CensorBot sez: D’awww.]

  • http://snivelingatheistpussball.org “Free Thinker”

    Ooooh yeah, spank me CensorBot. I love it when my prostate is brutalized.

    [CensorBot sez: You are creepy.]

  • Mark

    Oh god, these edits are really hilarious. I can only imagine how frustrated the commenters feel—and how much fun you’re having.

    You’re a talented writer, and your confidence in your beliefs is, in a sense, respectable. Having said that, I don’t agree with this “case against female self-esteem” at all. To each his own, I suppose.

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  • Another Bitch in the Wall

    Insert yet another string of accusations of narcissism and generalizing here.

    [CensorBot sez: Christ, you people are boring.]

  • Another Witch in the Wall

    Please refrain from calling me a swear word. You hurt my feelings.

    [CensorBot sez: Poor baby, you want some cheese with that whine?]

  • Amanda

    Hey! I have to agree with you. Just the other day I was thinking about how they are preaching that woman NEED to be strong. I don’t need. I actually hate feminism.. it bullies us women, in my opinion. I don’t think it preaches “you can do what you want”, it preaches “you can’t do what you want, you need to be strong and never depend on men”.I also agree that women cannot be the head of a company or a country of something big. It just doesn’t work. I don’t think is because we are weaker or incompetent or stupid.. is just simply NOT who we are. I don’t know if you were exaggerating to make a point or if you really think that we belong in the kitchen, but, I don’t want equality, you know, because we are not equal. We don’t have the exact same skills. We are way more sensitive and insecure. I just want respect. We can live without a man; we just can’t live without all men. The part that I don’t agree is when you said that the world would go on if all women disappear.. the world would probably implode. The sad point of everything, to me, is that it doesn’t matter if we are insecure and vulnerable and open and willing to give love a chance, because men usually don’t care. So, if we are too vulnerable, we will probably cry a lot, and men doesn’t have that kind of patient to deal with that much crying. That is why we can’t be open and too vulnerable. That is the point that makes me angry: how woman need to measure their feelings, because too much is annoying, but less is “unacceptable”, while men don’t need to do a fucking thing, we just need to “deal with it”, “accept them how they are”. That is something that should go both ways. Since men are the best thing ever, please don’t ask me to pay the bill. If you can’t deal my bills, you ain’t shit. :)

  • laura

    Hi again,
    I just wanted to say I appreciate that you didn’t edit my comment even though it wasn’t in support of your views and I’m hoping maybe there’s some mutual respect happening here and I could maybe ask a quick question. I just wanted to know how you came to the conclusions you presented in the article? I haven’t really experienced the things that you described and, like I said before, I have many male friends who operate in a completely different paradigm to what you’ve laid out here, so I’d be interested to know if maybe it’s a reflection of American culture, the industry you work in or just unfortunate dealings with certain people? It world be great if you could reply to this, I’m genuinely interested.
    Regards,
    Laura

  • Lucy

    Kill yourself. Oooh, look at me, telling someone I don’t like to commit suicide. So edgy.

    [CensorBot sez: Tolerance in action.]

  • Gupta Poopy

    Dear Mr Forney,

    I’m an Indian feminist. Yes, we exist. Despite my country being so poverty-stricken and dilapidated that poor people are reduced to shitting in the street, despite the rigid and religiously-enforced caste system that ensures that nothing will ever change, I think the most pressing issue of our time is feminism, an ideology that benefits upper-class women almost exclusively. I also think I can call you “illiterate” when my comment is littered with grammar mistakes, tense confusion and other writing errors that a native English speaker would never make.

    I’m gonna go skinny dipping in the Ganges. Fuck you very much.

    Sincerely,

    Another Disgusting Indian Hypocrite

    [CensorBot sez: Glass houses, Sanjay.]

  • Marry Me!

    I want you.

    [CensorBot sez: What part of “nudes first” do you people NOT understand?]

  • Solid Gold

    I’m in love.

    [CensorBot sez: How flattering.]

  • deconstructed

    Hey Matt… next time one of your Twitter haters say that this blog post made them throw up, you should ask them to post a video of them actually throwing up; I don’t believe them one iota.

    That way, we will know how if they are pronging their pharynx with two fingers, or if they are just bullshitting and in lack of attention. I’m putting money on the latter.

  • David

    My shorts are yellow.

    [CensorBot sez: Depends, a-hole.]

  • Daniel

    A comment written by a dude who jacks into a sock.

    [CensorBot sez: TMI.]

  • Moron

    We fembots aren’t even trying anymore.

    [CensorBot sex: So why should I?]

  • lover

    More stupidity.

    [CensorBot wuz here.]

  • explosive

    Weak.

    [CensorBot sez: Seriously, what happened to the hate?]

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  • Fat Amy

    Please, please tell me I’m a joke.

    [CensorBot sez: With a name like “Fat Amy,” you can’t be anything but.]

  • LOL

    Thank you — for reminding me what a parochial dumbass I am.

    [CensorBot sez: Happy to help.]

  • Lila Connor

    This is downright arousing to women. Have fun with all your groupies, Matt!

    [CensorBot sez: You’re welcome.]

  • Lila Connor

    Can you please let me vomit my stupidity all over your site? It’s absurd.

    [CensorBot sez: Only if you say pretty please with sugar on top.]

  • Heather Britton

    I want you in my mouth.

    [CensorBot sez: Nudes first.]

  • embla

    Please marry me.

    [CensorBot sez: Nope.]

  • Maya

    This post makes me really horny.

    [CensorBot sez: Keep it to yourself.]

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  • Alex

    I’m threatened by you Matt, which is why I’m posting angry comments on your blog. Hurr durr.

    [CensorBot sez: Gimme a C! Gimme an H! Gimme an I! Gimme an… ah fuck it.]

  • Nick Peril

    YOU HURT FEELINGS! ME ANGRY! ME SMASH KEYBOARD! RARRRRRR!!!!

    [CensorBot sez: And that will be the only thing you ever smash.]

  • Elsa

    Pretty please make love to me. I can make a killer tuna casserole and my blowjob skills are second to none.

    [CensorBot sez: And it just keeps going on…]

  • Nate

    RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE!!!!!!!!!!111

    [CensorBot sez: Rape Tourette’s — spread the word.]

  • incensed

    what

  • Jake

    I need a fat girl to peg me until my prostate is crushed like a walnut.

    [CensorBot sez: That’s not healthy.]

  • anonymouse

    I are illiterate.

    [CensorBot sez: Obviously, from the fact that your comment was full of typos.]

  • Ciel

    You’re laughing your ass off. At me.

    [CensorBot sez: We all are.]

  • incensed

    is this actually serious…… sexism
    all the sexism in the world condensed into one hatred filled piece of writing

  • Person

    I really don’t understand why you felt the need to write this article, knowing it would offend someone, then make cheap jokes by editing peoples comments… I respect your opinions and all, but you’re really being ridiculous here. If you didn’t want angry comments, then you shouldn’t have posted this.

    [CensorBot sez: To assume Matt wrote this article to offend people is to assume that he gives a shit about feminists’ feelings.]

  • Lamb

    you’re kindaaaa a dick, man

  • Claire

    Gotta love somebody who’s so completely insecure that they feel the need to leave dozens of angry comments on an article they don’t like. Kind of depressing, mostly just hilarious.

    [CensorBot sez: Your low self-esteem is showing.]

  • Ura Dick

    What a complete and total waste of oxygen you and your cronies who echo your sentiments are… Nothing but a TOOL. Talk about insecure!!! I take comfort in knowing that you and your minuscule dick will never be able to enjoy an authentic, meaningful relationship with a woman.

  • Skye

    Hahahahahahaha you’re a pathetic asshole and I hate you. You are a disgusting human being and I hope you get stung by a wasp.

  • Bob

    …So, uhh, is this where the literate sociopaths gather?

  • female

    After reading this… I want to smear my period on your house, car, and face. You disgust me.

  • Bruh

    ._. You need a big slap of reality in the face..with a brick, possibly…

    There is no way in hell that what you have said is “righteous”. That’s just your ignorant little way of saying “Let me have it my way, never your way, because you’re the girl, and I’m the man..” I’ll give you a big laugh for that. I’m not saying whatever turns you on is wrong, or anything, just the way you think is so..stupid. -_- You don’t like girls who are confident in themselvs? Good for you. Don’t fuck with them then. Oh, they deflate your dick? So? Does that really have anything to do with them? No. That’s YOUR problem. You don’t have the right to tell a person that it’s alright to be depressed, or not confident in who they are; you’re just an asshole who’s looking for some hole to put your penis in.

    But, to warn you, there are some very, VERY scary women (and men) out there who has the mentality and will to become a mad person to people like you, and will hurt you just as much as you’ve hurt them in the process to make them feel like they don’t belong in this world..mentally and physically..best regards to an ignorant man like you.

  • female

    oh. well fuck. I just realized your a satire writer.

    [CensorBot sez: This article is jovial in tone but serious in content. You may now proceed to cry into your pillow.]

  • TaySam93

    I’ve read many of this guys posts, he is just an ignorant, closed-minded douchebag. He should be stripped of his blogging privileges, because they’re all highly inappropriate and it just breeds more terrible, shallow-minded thinkers in this world. Free speech? What’s that?

    [CensorBot sez: And the inner fascist within every leftist comes out…]

  • TaySam93

    People with minds like yours should have a closed mouth, or their fingers cut off. :) Yes that’s right, people who offend me should be punished with forcible amputation. Boy, aren’t I enlightened?

    [CensorBot sez: Not even Saudi Arabia does shit like that. Way to progress, lefties.]

  • Pothead

    Durr.

    [CensorBot sez: Lay off the drugs.]

  • FrightenedWoman

    I am full of shit.

    [CensorBot sez: So full your eyeballs are brown.]

  • jess

    oh my god this is the worst article i have ever read jesus fucking christ on a goddamn rusty bicycle

    i don’t even care what you to do this comment just get fucked you giant shitstain you’re seriously one of the worst human beings on the fucking planet

  • Renee

    The above blog post is a fucking joke right?
    Please someone tell me this is a joke.
    Although, why is it alright to joke about peoples self esteem, or lack of self esteem?

  • leah

    i literally don’t even know where to start
    there is so much wrong with this article and your shitty opinion
    jesus fucking christ dude go back to the stone age where you belong
    i hope you get hit by a train you sexist disgusting piece of fucking shit

  • For real?

    I hope you die a horrible, horrible, horrible death :)

  • Person

    It’s disgusting that you’re telling people to not do certain things because it “deflates your dick”. I’m terribly sorry, but people aren’t living to impress you. Women can do whatever they damn please because they are not striving for your approval. If confidence is a turn-off, then fine, that’s your preference. But making a case that women should have low self-esteem because you think it’s attractive? Fuck off. No one wants to lower themselves to your close-minded standards, and it’s terribly big-headed to think that women would want to change who they are to impress you.

  • Ana

    The fuck I just read?

  • KTessa

    This is so bad I wonder if Poe’s law applies.

    “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.”

    This is hilariously hypocritical, because your whole post shows you’re completely incapable of seeing women as human beings, yet you think they owe you that respect when you’re not willing to give it.

    You belong to this category of people who should be put in a spacecraft and sent far, far away outside of the solar system. We won’t be needing you here, trust me.

  • jack

    ” Most girls’ so-called achievements, the ones they take pride in, are complete jokes. ”

    Exactly. I love this guy.

    [CensorBot sez: No homo… I think.]

  • Mary

    This is absolute bullshit.

  • mika

    This is so generalized it almost doesn’t work. The older I get, the more turned off I am by the type of guy you just described. Maybe it’s because if I was “led back to the kitchen” I would either kill myself or the boy that led me there (most likely both). I do have low self-esteem, but that doesn’t make me want or need to be in a relationship. I’m sorry the girls you know are so weak and boring.

  • Gavin

    Do you know of any safe ways to mail vomit because I have a steaming gallon I’d like you to have. Free of charge.

  • Tom

    Banana tuning fork! I need scissors! 61!

    [CensorBot sez: Don’t post while tripping balls.]

  • mako mori

    this article made me laugh so hard i threw my computer at a brick wall and went out and feasted on a mans beating heart in a confident, femnazi rage.

    im not threatening you but i sincerely hope you get your penis bit off mid-blow job by a “overly” confident woman

  • Sunshine

    Hi Matt! I bet you don’t get this very often, but I just wanted to let you know what an awesome person you are! I can’t think of anyone in the world who is more of a positive, inspiring human being than you. I bet you wake up every morning full of joy and purpose, and just can’t wait to get to all the life-fulfilling things you get to do each day. This world, and the internet, is definitely a better place with you in it. Have a lovely day.

  • Megan

    Is this a satire? Please tell me this is a satirical argument. Do people actually believe this? This has got to be like “A Modest Proposal” by Jonathan Swift. It HAS to be.

  • Ree

    I’m mad. Wah.

    [CensorBot sez: I’m working overtime dealing with this avalanche of Tumblr bullshit.]

  • joe

    OOOHHJJ MY GOD I’M SHITTING SO HARD I HAVE ENOUGH FECES TO PROVIDE A MEAL FOR A FAMILY OF ^ BEARS

  • JJ

    It’s so depressing that someone actually believes this.

  • Lj

    “They want nothing more than for a man to throw them over his knee, shatter the Berlin Wall around their hearts, and expose the lovestruck, bashful little girl within.”

    Before you can begin making assumptions about my personal life, I am female, bisexual, I have an associate degree in engineering, and I have never been prescribed medication. I also earn more in a week than most of my high school graduating class earns in a month, and I am in a heterosexual relationship where the respect is mutual – we have just passed our second anniversary, in fact.

    You don’t seem to realise that women are ALSO human beings. Yes, many confident women seem to view men as an inferior “species”, but this does not include the majority of independent women. If the only “Strong, Independent Women” you’ve been associating with have this attitude towards men then perhaps you need to reconsider who you acquaint yourself with.

    Similarly, reconsider the women you have been in relationships with. While I can understand that it strokes your ego to know that “your girl” needs you to survive, relationships should not be based in this way – my maternal grandparents have been married for well over 50 years, and their relationship is one where Grandma is the one cutting wood and doing most of the work while Grandpa sits up at the pub every day, and it has been that way for as long as I can remember.

    The women who see men as an accessory don’t deserve them, clearly, and the rest of us wonder why men are stupid enough to chase these users. In this situation, it is the man who deserves the blame – he has seen/heard of this woman’s habits, and yet still jumped in the fire. Most of the time, it’s because she is physically attractive.

    While I agree with the comment I quoted at the beginning of this comment, it is for different reasons – part of the reason Niall (my partner) and I began dating was because he made me feel young again, and I feel secure with him. At the same time, however, I feel secure when I am separated from him.

    At the end of the day, mutual respect is where it’s at. And if a so-called “man” ever tries to tell me to get back in the kitchen, go suck a fuck and make your own damn sandwich. Seven figures per annum doesn’t earn itself, you misogynistic fool.

  • Liz

    I want you to spank me so hard.

    [CensorBot sez: Please stop it with the blatant come-ons, people.]

  • http://Twitter A

    Congrats on writing the most mysogonist article ever. This is offensive, inaccurate and ignorant to the max. You say women are incapable of seeing men as human beings- and at the same time treating women with less respect than you would an animal. Good luck ever finding a relationship with this attitude.

  • Hot

    Please bang me. I’ll cook and clean for you.

    [CensorBot sez: No.]

  • Disgusted

    Insert stupid remark here.

    [CensorBot sez: I don’t wanna.]

  • steven

    You are essentially, an oxygen thief.

  • Stacey

    You say that nothing would happen if all women loose their jobs, well guess what, if that actually happened, Germany wouldn’t be a thing anymore because we wouldn’t have a freaking chancellor.

    People like you are the reason I need feminism.

  • Zoe

    How would you feel if this was reversed, and somebody said that men didn’t deserve a life of their own, their independence, their freedom and that they weren’t allowed to feel good about themselves. Women are half the population, women are HUMAN and deserve to be treated as such.
    Get some fucking perspective you dipshit. Keep your bigoted thoughts to yourself, or better yet get rid of them. Read a bit. Talk to people. (yes, women are people in case you didn’t know. So are men. We’re all people who deserve equality you fucktrumpet).

  • Wonder Woman

    When I find you I’ll beat this shit out of your head, you idiot!

  • The type of woman you despise and happy to be so

    You’re a cunt.
    As is everyone who agrees. Go fuck yourselves.

  • Nikki

    This is disgusting, and sexist to the max. fair enough women aren’t as ‘strong’ as men but i am sorry, i know a lot of men i know for a fact im smarter than. so therefore your shallow argument is wrong. but either way , if your gonna be a dickhead and think this way your only gonna get your dick shut in the door man!

  • josh

    what the fuck is wrong with you people

  • Logic Hurts Me

    I am stupid.

    [CensorBot sez: Yes.]

  • Don

    I have no words for the idiocy of this post. I hope someday you get over whatever issues you have with women because Jesus Christ, I didn’t realize anyone could be this ridiculous.

  • Johnny

    I want to get fucked by this man so hard.

    [CensorBot sez: No homo.]

  • Ethan

    This is just…terrible. And completely completely wrong. I really don’t know what to say. I’m glad feminist exists to confront sexist pigs like you and the commenters on this article

  • jack O’Donnel

    I want to have a vagina.

    [CensorBot sez: Ugh.]

  • fuck you as swipe

    If I knew you, I would pretend to be insecure just so that I could date you and get close to you so then I could proceed to castrate you and feed you your own (probably tiny) dick. Violence and castration: THAT’S how you treat people with opposing views! Right? RIGHT?

    [CensorBot sez: Tolerance. Learn it.]

  • Miles Stern

    I cannot believe it, A seemingly well educated human being not afraid to voice his opinion regarding an ‘old school’ viewpoint.
    Too right, the majority of women want equal rights without equal responsibility.
    Independence yet still expect excessive chivalry.
    your ’50 shades of grey’, and pick up artist’s ‘backhanded compliment’ arguments were enough alone.
    Our society has prematurely matured us above a rate at which human evolution cannot keep up with, your societal collapse argument is a perfect example of this, I for one can imagine immense numbers of men (I suppose women too) refusing to keep caged, perfectly natural primal urges that without law and order to uphold, would occur so very frequently.

    Thank you for posting this, not only was it a good read, but the post edits were worth a laugh.

    My only question now is, have you done or would you ever consider covering your view on eugenics. in either sense, natural or controlled.

    I would enjoy reading something in similar taste as this, regarding ‘Social Darwinism’

    Too much to ask? most likely.

  • Mariana

    You’re fucking disgusting, you fail to see women as human beings and you’re a fucking narcissist. That’s right, by reading your text you fall into the category of narcissistic personality disorder. (Lacks the ability to empathize with the feelings or desires of others, Is arrogant in attitudes and behavior,Has expectations of special treatment that are unrealistic, Believing that you’re better than others, Failing to recognize other people’s emotions and feelings,Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans,Taking advantage of others,Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior)
    . I’m a psychology Major and let me tell you that there is NO LINK BETWEEN HIGH (NORMAL) SELF-ESTEEM AND MENTAL ILLNESS AMONG WOMEN. You’re an asshole and I’m relieved by thinking you will never procreate. Open a fucking book for fuck’s sake.

  • missmenot

    Teenage Tumblr pseudofeminist alert! Imma gonna call you ignorant even though you’re older and more knowledgeable about the world than me.

    [CensorBot sez: Par for the course.]

  • Holly

    I think all people regardless of gender should be respected as a human being. I don’t think everyone deserves respect in terms of skills i.e. if you’re bad at you job, you can’t really command respect for that job.

    I think men with their own self-esteem issues are the ones who fear confident, and more importantly, happy women. Otherwise you wouldn’t be able to feel better about yourself if you felt your female partner was feeling good about herself without your help.

    I’m not going to hurl abuse at the author even though I disagree with him and just about everything he’s written in this article. But I would suggest that maybe he’s not met enough women! Or just looks at the way media/films/TV etc. portrays the way females feel about men (i.e. we think they’re all useless douchebags – simply not true, or we feel we need a man to fulfil/save us – also not true).

    The most productive relationships between men and women are those between two secure, happy and confident individuals who are focused on raising each other up rather than tearing the other down. And coming from someone who is in a relationship like that, I can tell you very honestly, it is anything but a ‘dick deflater’!

  • Melody B

    IDIOT !

  • Anon

    NONONONONONO this is so wrong on so many levels and I’m appalled by everything on this page. Ugh, I can’t even begin to explain how horrible this all this I just can’t.

  • OhBoy HereWeGo

    This article was shared on tumblr, and you know what that means, don’t you? Yep. Expect a lot more butthurt and hatred than before.

    However, I’m really glad that I found your site! I heavily agree with you. This was well-written, too, your sense of humour is very entertaining.

  • Elliot

    I think I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. Honestly dude, you’re making our entire gender look bad with your “rational arguments” towards sexism and by enforcing attitudes that already exist towards women. If you honestly think that females have too high of self esteem, then you clearly have not been immersed in the same sort of media as the rest of the world. Your “argument” could probably be taken by a psychologist as a little boy’s cry for help because his mommy didn’t give him enough attention. The saddest thing about this entire blog however has got to be the fact that it has become a giant circle-jerk for people who have their head so far up their ass that they mistake concepts such as the pursuit of equality in the form of feminism to be arrogance and entitlement.

    Congratulations, douche bag of the year has been elected and it’s you. The prize is a punch in the face. And yes, I’m a fag.

    [CensorBot sez: We can tell.]

  • Joan

    This makes me sick, especially the amount of people who seems to agree with this. No wonder the world is going to hell.

  • amara

    Please reproduce with me.

    [CensorBot sez: No kids.]

  • Taki

    You’re a piece of trash. Have a nice day.

  • Will

    My big sister’s gonna beat you up, you big meanie!

    [CensorBot sez: I’m so scared.]

  • Andrew

    You’re an asshole and need to off yourself if you honestly think like this.

  • Sean

    My boxers suddenly feel all squishy.

    [CensorBot sez: Stop shitting yourself! Stop shitting yourself!]

  • http://www.gofuckyourself.com A Decent Human Being

    I hope you fucking drown in a two inch puddle of your own semen. You are literal shit. You are a cockroach — less than a cockroach. You are the pink soap scum that collects around rusting faucets. You are dismembered road kill that commuters cannot be bothered to avoid, but rather continue to smear along the highway. You are an amoeba, but less complicated. You are vile. You are a terrified little boy who never grew up, who still clings to his limp penis like it’s the only thing anchoring him to the world. You are a talentless, worthless bottom feeder. You deserve to be castrated without the use of anesthetic.

    Most of all though, you’re pathetic.
    Just a sad, pathetic excuse for a human being.

  • eraihna

    self esteem is a part of self respect, we respect and love ourselves as people and not based off of gender. i thing the guy who wrote this is selfish, i am a woman in a man’s life and i do EVERYTHING for him. you should always respect a woman especially since she already has some self absorbed douche bag in her life she has to cater to. it’s my instinct to be maternal, not my obligation.

  • Matthew

    Please reproduce.

    [CensorBot sez: Maybe.]

  • Elviriel

    Oh my god. This is probably the most ridiculous thing I have ever read. Wow. Not many people deserve the title, but you are truly a complete idiot.

  • Ashley

    You make me wet.

    [CensorBot sez: The good or bad kind?]

  • dad

    May you be blessed with as many hot groupies as you can fuck.

    [CensorBot sez: Oh yeah, you can bet on it.]

  • John

    The only women I can name who have important jobs are all politicians. In other words, they’re leeches who exist to tax us into oblivion, write new laws to restrict our freedom and send us abroad to die in pointless wars. I think I’ve got you there Matt!

    [CensorBot sez: You don’t, actually. We’ve had one week of government shutdown, showing just how useless everyone who works for the government truly is.]

  • Matthew

    You’re just taking a baser instinct, twisting it out of context, and using it to justify you being a sexist.

    Yes… There is indeed something down in female DNA that makes them tick when they see a dominant man but your argument that they should base themselves on this instinct is ridiculous.

    The hardest pill to swallow was that bit about how if every woman were fired from their jobs there would be no real impact… What a crock of shit. As a military man, I owe my life to my female wingmen a dozen times over. I’m not being melodramatic here. I’m talking about real,getting shot at, god’s honest saved my ass (and indeed my life) situations here.

    In every human being, man or woman, there is the potential for greatness. Don’t try to downplay and typecast an entire group of people in that just because they will always on some level love a dominant man.

    As I said there is the baser instinct and there’s a great deal of enjoyment to be had in exploring base instincts. This may come as a shocker but it is perfectly possible for a woman to be strong, independent AND submissive. Women like that do exist. I should know I’ve held down and ravaged a few. One in particular is a marine that I’d sooner have my back in a scrapper than most men I know.

    So consider for a moment before you start generalizing that some of those useless women would take a bullet for you, and some HAVE for me.

  • Nope.

    Are you for fucking real?

  • Jay

    I think I’m going to be sick.

  • Justfuckoff

    You are a complete stupid piece of shit and not a single woman deserves such a bastard in her life. I do hope you die miserable and alone.

  • Nicole

    You misogynist piece of shit :)))))

    This is not a man’s world. How do you even take yourself seriously after writing this???!!! You’re a sick little man with a small dick and a blog, hope you rot in hell xoxoxo

  • fuck you

    WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOUUUUU

  • amelia

    you’re disgusting. absolutely disgusting.

  • choke on a dick

    You sicken me.

  • http://starllght.tumblr.com/post/63472479905/a-response-to-matt-forney-from-a-woman-for-women Bella

    This is your response.

  • Hunter

    I want a fat girl to bend me over and peg me.

    [CensorBot sez: You creep me out.]

  • AK

    WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU
    HOW DOES A PERSON LIKE YOU EXIST
    DO YOU KISS YOUR MOTHER WITH THAT MOUTH
    YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED

  • Miranda

    Wow, okay. I’ve seen so many people say things along the lines of “if you were a normal, mentally stable person, you would just close the tab and walk away”. Whether you believe so strongly in what you say or not, I think that your entire website is just a way to make people angry. You seem like the kind of person who thrives on conflict. So, I’m not going to yell and swear, but I will speak.

    Low-self esteem ruined me. It didn’t make me more attractive to men. I’ll tell you what it did do. It slowly evolved into self hatred, which tore me up on the inside. Now I have chronic depression, social anxiety, and suicidal tendencies. Because of all this, I have been through more physical and mental torture than you could possibly imagine. I won’t go into detail because it’s very personal and I don’t need to prove myself to you. But I have come out on the other side. A man didn’t save me. I saved myself. And if I hadn’t have done that, I wouldn’t be here right now.

    If I believed what you believed, I would have killed myself when I was fourteen. People can have whatever opinion they choose, but yours is more harmful than you think.

    And if anyone follows this up by calling me “emo” or “whiny”, I’d wager you haven’t had enough bad shit happen in your life. People who live easy lives can say whatever they want because they don’t understand the consequences.

  • I actually believe gender is a social construct. I’m dumb.

    [CensorBot sez: Yes.]

  • Simple

    As a man, I can happily say that I disagree with nearly every “rational” argument you’ve made here. I won’t waste my breath by saying the same things all the other Tumblr people have said so far, but I’ll leave you with a simpler note than cussing you out with profane language and illegible grammar.

    I just think you’re another mysogynist scumbag who really could go for being stuck in a room full of girls, not just feminists, and speak this opinion just to see the reactions. I can probably assure you that most, if not all of them, would be disgusted by your viewpoints and, honestly, not want anything having to do with your nether reigons.

    And don’t worry, you’re not the only sexist guy in the world. There’s a whole flock of your kind somewhere out there. Dunno where, don’t care where. It’s personally not my forte. I like a girl with confidence and a centered head on their shoulders. And I don’t care what she does to me sexually, or even if she’s good or not. Yes, shyness is cute there, but a girl who’s constantly unsure about herself is honestly a deterrent.

    But enough about me. Like I said, I won’t go through and diss on everything you’ve said on here considering it’s your own personal opinion on your own site, but that won’t stop me from saying that I heavily disagree.

    Cheers.

  • Savannah

    It disturbs me greatly that people like you still exist and take yourself seriously. How the hell can you? It is not a woman’s job to please you./your precious little cock. We’re HUMANS. You’re right. In order for America to right itself, there needs to be a massive and concerted war on females. Against people like you, who think it is okay to demean women and act as if you are superior to them. Check your fucking privilege. Most girls have done nothing to deserve self-esteem? Everyone deserves to be happy in their own damn life in their own damn body. Fuck you.

  • please put a knife up your ass

    I swear to god I hope someone puts poison in your fucking tuna sandwich and laughs at your slowely dying body.

    I really want to write something meaningful here, but this piece of utter shit isn’t worth my time. FUCKITY BYE.

  • Leeds

    You’re an ugly, ugly man… You should be ashamed of yourself.

  • G

    My pussy is so wet right now.

    [CensorBot sez: Keep it quiet.]

  • Trickster

    Fuck me like an animal.

    [CensorBot sez: Nada.]

  • Failed at Math

    Anecdotes do not disprove data. I can’t do math.

    [CensorBot sez: Yes.]

  • Adriana

    I love this man.

    [CensorBot sez: We know.]

  • KAte

    What the f*** is actually worng with you? how can you as a man with a mother actually say this in good faith. If the world has come to this where twats like you have opinions that people listen to in regard to something that should not concern them. What if you had a daughter and you told her to be insecure because shes ugly and her only measure of success will be through how a perverted male views her. How is that the mark of a good parent? This is disgusting and you really need to take a look at your choices if this is the conclusion you have come to .

  • Harley

    what the fuck are you talking about. have you actually ever met a woman before.

    Women live within a place in society where they LITERALLY, EVERY SECOND, are bombarded with the idea that they are not good enough. they are not thin enough. they are not smart enough. they starve themselves and hurt themselves and do all kinds of terrible things because people like you destroy their self confidence.

    the only reason you like insecure women is because it makes you feel like a buf manly tough guy who has power. if a woman considers herself your equal then where’s your power trip?

    you’re a piece of shit and you need to get your head out of the fucking sand and open your goddamn eyes because you are so very wrong. Wrong Wrong Wrong.

  • Em

    Biggest load of bullshit ever

  • Kankri

    I am literally astounded by your stupidity.

  • Lexi

    Please! Make love to me!

    [CensorBot sez: You’re probably fat.]

  • What the fuck was this??

    I felt my brain cells dying while I was reading this…

  • Jesika

    Is this supposed to be satire? I think a certain author has been rejected one time too many.

  • Niamh

    This is a joke right? This is someone taking the piss? This isn’t actually fucking serious right?? Because if it is ACTUALLY serious and there are actual people who agree with this I genuinely don’t want to live on this planet anymore. I really, really don’t.

  • L S

    You are the most disgusting excuse of a human being I have ever had the misfortune to come across, as is anyone who agrees with this complete and utter trip. How DARE you put down women simply for believing in themselves. Damn, you really must have some issues with yourself if you’re that insecure that you have to throw pathetic insults at an entire gender. Have fun fucking your own hand for the rest of your life, you childish, sad, worthless little creature.

  • Liam

    This is astounding. There are people that exist, that actually think like this? You are either a great troll or a massive douchebag. Stop thinking of women as women and start thinking of them as people.

  • Angelica

    As a confident, strong woman I totally agree with you. I don’t think I chose to be a “strong” woman just grew up to be one due to a lot of tragedy in my life. Anyways, the downfall of a lot of my relationships were the fact that I never needed a man. I was too independent, saw being vulnerable as a weakness and there fore never gave a man a reason to exist. And that’s what men need, they need to be needed, that is their role in a relationship. They want you to hide in their arms when watching a scary movie, the one you call when you think there is a intruder in the house, the shoulder you lean on when ever anything goes wrong. When I started dating my now husband, he forced me out of my shell, said he is gonna be there for me whether I want to or not, he forced me to face my past and feel… emotions, cry. And even though to this day I struggle at times not to be the one to take over all the responsibility and “fix” everything I let him be the man. He opens the car door for me, he tells me everything is going to be ok when I stress over life, the house etc. And I feel at my best when I open up and am vulnerable as does he when he feels needed and that he is able to be there for me. And at the end we both met our purpose.

  • Barack Obama

    Hi, this is the president of the United States telling you to shut the fuck up and commit seppuku.

    [CensorBot sez: President Obama uses Gmail? I never woulda thunk it.]

  • Murf

    Heyyyyyyy I maybe read the first four paragraphs and wow the cissexist misogyny makes me want to puke.

    I, as a cis woman… wait, I actually use that stupid made-up term “cis” to describe myself? Dear God I’m a loser.

    [CensorBot sez: We’re laughin’ at you, red.]

  • john

    If you need a woman to be submissive to feel aroused you are a normal man. I like being fisted by fat girls, hence I am a freak.

    [CensorBot sez: That’s fucking gross.]

  • jeff

    keeping a tab on you. come to new York and we shall beat the ever living shit out of you, ypu arrogant POS.

    [CensorBot sez: Thanks for the tip-off! I’ve forwarded your IP address and email to the FBI. Not that you actually have the balls to hurt someone in real life…]

  • Anonymous

    You, sir, are a fucking asshole.

  • Jiji

    Your point of view bring a big problem. if women shouldn’t have self-esteem, stick to the kitchen and seek solace in the arms of their husbands, it makes them extremely vulnerable and it’s the point because it boots the masculinity of men if i got it right?This relationship is fragile and dangerous. The husband would have his woman at his knee like a small animal, unable to live by itself, but masculinity doesn’t protect men from sorrow. Everyone must die, so everyone must suffer and everyone must know fear. If his woman is weak when he needs help (and he will need help at some point), who will help him? And if he is helpless, who will help his woman? They will bother fall because they don’t share the burden of life.

  • Annalise

    Wowowowowowow the fact that people like you still exist and take yourselves seriously is literally ridiculous.

    The fact that you’re backing up not only rape culture, but sexism is ridiculous to the point that I can’t see straight.
    Do yourself a favor and sit in a room full of women and say this in front of them. I’ll tell you that 99% of them won’t want anything to do with you. I doubt you’ve ever /actually/ been with a woman, like wow.
    Women are insecure because they’re constantly given shit for EVERYTHING they do, and when people like you come about and spout this kind of bullshit it makes me want to throw up. Seriously, though, how about you leave your house to do something more than go to work for once you ignorant piece of shit.

  • Hunter

    Imma make a death threat against you! You’re gonna feel the pain!

    [CensorBot sez: You morons DO realize that threatening someone with violence or death on the Internet isn’t a smart idea, right?]

  • Cara Crowley

    I want to be your personal fuck-slave.

    [CensorBot sez: Watch your mouth.]

  • Steven

    I love it when Mistress Whippingbottom flays my ass with a riding crop.

    [CensorBot sez: Boy howdy, sure sounds like fun.]

  • Pity Me

    Yadda yadda yadda, blah blah blah.

    [CensorBot sez: Too long, didn’t read, hit delete key.]

  • http://facebook.com/ursulasmash Summer Sunshine

    I do want to be dominated. I feel sexiest when I know I’m vulnerable. I like being told what to do. I’m an excellent cook and house keeper and I do it all in adorable pin-up dresses and pumps. I’m sexy and submissive and my butch leatherdyke eats it up. Does that make me a bad feminist? I don’t know but I’m super happy and sexually fulfilled so fuck it.

  • God

    Get the fuck off of my planet, asswipe. I didn’t give humans free will to hear them spout this shit.

    [CensorBot sez: God uses Gmail too? That’ll make for one hell of an endorsement for Google.]

  • asshole

    i really hope you do badly in life you fucking shit

  • Jord

    You are perhaps the most vile human being I have had the misfortune of ever knowing exist.

  • danny tyler

    you. selfish. vain. pathetic. prick.

  • Confident Woman

    Please don’t procreate. Oooh, how edgy of me.

    [CensorBot sez: You are the third person in twelve hours to make this kind of comment. Try harder.]

  • iwdiwb

    You are so wrong on so many levels.

  • Anthony DeWitt

    I really hope this article is a bad joke.

  • Andrea Dworkin’s Cellulite

    “Real life fails the Bechdel test.”

    I wasn’t going to leave a comment until I saw this. Dude. Dude.

    You are so right. Ever listen to women talk on their own. Most of the time, outside of work or school, they talk about men and relationships and gossip. They are frivolous and small-minded. The Bechdel test is stupid because it ignores the reality of straight women.

    10/10. You are a genius.

    [CensorBot sez: Thanks!]

  • alice

    Wow so you’re literally retarded huh? Like, you don’t have a properly functioning brain. You’re most certainly unintelligent, at least. I’m surprised you’ve been able to keep yourself alive for this long, honestly. Your parents really went wrong with you . This is why there should be intelligence tests to have children. And then an intelligence genocide to kill people like you off. Do you feel good spreading unintelligence to other dumb, easily influenced people? Oh yea, it feeds your huge ego. Seriously, please go crawl into a hole and die away from society, because you’re poisoning it.

  • Fuck You

    fucking fuck you, you dumb fuck

  • Fuck You

    P.S. this is on Tumblr, so, you’ my friend, are royally screwed, because us tumblr girls have a 0 shit policy.

  • avery

    Congratulations, you’re a misogynist! The belief that women should not feel good about themselves to please you is a totally sexist thing to think, and you’ll probably never get laid. It’s a little disheartening to read something like this, but I’ll give you a single sentence that debunks this entire argument:
    The media hypersexualizes women and makes them feel awful if they are not white and thin.
    Honestly, you’re either a closeted gay man or just a huge douchebag. Props on openly supporting something so blatantly sexist, though! It’s always nice to see through and through idiots on the internet.

  • You fucker

    I hope you die in a fucking hole you piece of shit. Have fun burning in hell.

  • Molly J

    You don’t even have to be a patriarch to realize this is accurate and full of truth.

    [CensorBot sez: Damn straight.]

  • Holyshit

    Damn sexist. And no, I’m not a woman. I’m a FAG.

    [CensorBot sez: Exactly.]

  • ted

    lol u really are an idiot

  • Andy

    HAHAHA what the fuck did I just attempt to read. This was so bad, I couldn’t even finish it.
    What a giant generalization. You are a sad human being. You do not deserve respect as a human being. People like you keep our society from progressing. You are narrow-minded and will never understand the struggle some women face on a daily basis because you a privileged man.
    Go talk to your mother or sisters or closed female friends and ask them how many times a day they are sexually harassed by a man. How many times a day they are subjected to garbage like this very article.
    This article here and you as a human being are the very reason we need feminism. We are all people who deserve to be seen as just that.

  • tl;dr

    Ugh, whatever bro. No one gives a crap about your dumb opinion anyway. Except me, seeing as I wrote this comment. Burn!

    [CensorBot sez: Lulz.]

  • celeste

    your ass must be really jealous of all the shit that comes out of your mouth

  • Adam

    I’m gonna be constructive here, you should kill yourself. And before your warped mind disregards my comment, just know I, as a man, am revolted by what you think and that you actually believe its okay to share this kind of trash. You are human garbage.

  • You’re an ass

    Wow. I seriously cannot believe what I just read.
    Not only this ridiculous essay you have written that is so insensitive, sexist, warped, rude, arrogant and just plain stupid but the comments that go with it!
    Who are you people that seem to think this pile of utter shit is “well put” and a “great essay”?
    And you, you who wrote it, you’re the biggest asshole ever to walk the planet. I hope you know that and can live with the fact that you’ve actually published this vile, dire, horrendous bollocks on the internet.
    Congratulations. You are an A* Cunt.

  • http://www.jade-reindl.tumblr.com Jade Reindl

    The idea that you’re proposing that women should “be” a certain way is pretty screwed up in my opinion. If a woman is confident? Great! If she’s shy? Great! What’s not okay: promoting that women pretend they’re something they’re not. I think it’s great you’re attracted to a certain kind of woman (which says something about you, but I’m not here for insults), I just think it’s messed up that you can’t accept women who *aren’t* like that, and that you think all women should be something they’re probably not.
    Yeah, I’m a feminist. No, I’m not “accusing [my] enemies of being misogynistic, generalizng, having a small penis, or being insecure” at all. Nor are you my “enemy”. I’m just expressing the fact that women, and people in general, should be allowed to be themselves, regardless of what you happen to desire, and I find your article ridiculous. Although I’m glad that you’ve found your little niche and some other equally screwed men and women who agree with you.

  • Chloe

    This is literally the biggest piece of shit I have ever read, congratulations.

  • zeek

    Dude are you serious? are you actually serious? It takes real balls to be this stupid in public. Like actually I’m having a hard time believing that you’re serious. Are you sure? are you sure you’re sure??? think harder dude, I know it hurts to use your brain but actually try for once and realize that women are humans and hurting them like this is sick and cruel. I’m sure someone else out there will have a well-structured FACTUAL argument to make against you but I’m honestly just here to factually inform you that you’re basically the scum of the earth and you don’t deserve the air you breath and I hope and pray you find nothing but misery and pain in your life, because those you DO deserve.
    peace.

  • a human

    firstly research provides strong evidence that the y chromosome is actually a mutation off of the x chromosome, meaning men are a random mutation off women.
    Why cant we just respect women for whoever they want to be, if you dont like a confident woman good for you doesnt mean all women should lack confidence.

  • brodude alert

    i bet u wear fedoras and have a neckbeard and love my little pony

  • ihateyou

    Wow, this is…you’re awful. You don’t have ANY respect for women at all, do you? Saying things like this is down right repulsive to every women, and every person who has any common sense! No woman deserves assholes like you who make them feel worse about themselves and prey on that! You are disgusting!

  • http://fuckyou Fuck you

    Please go choke on a bag of dicks, you worthless, misogynistic human being. 8)

  • Gotta be trollin’

    either you have serious mommy issues, are a huge troll, or both. if its the former, than thats sad, if its the latter (i bet $20 on it) then you gotta be the biggest troll of them all. gg.

  • literally fuck you

    did you shit on your keyboard then think it was a good idea to post it because thats what i got out of this

  • Boot

    your article is dumb and you should feel even dumber

  • Suya

    There is also no need for you to have a penis since you aint gonna be using it, because which girl would want a guy like you? You’re so ridiculous and miserable it makes me laugh.

  • Janna

    IS THIS A FUCKING JOKE
    IS IT

  • Nadia

    There is something wrong with you. Get over yourself.

  • https://www.facebook.com/deadlyonethroughseven Zoë Skinner

    You are a disgusting waste of space which doesn’t deserve to be called human. You’re clearly pretty insecure yourself if you need women to feel inferior to you. Those girls you find unattractive because they know they’re worth something are very lucky they didn’t end up with you. Cunt.

  • Celia

    I’m upset that I clicked on this link because now this guy gets advertising money. I’m an optometry student, so I think I’m going into a somewhat useful field. What if all the female health professionals were gone? We’re doctors, nurses, pharmacists. We keep you alive (and able to see).

    It is possible to be have self esteem and a sense of self worth while still realizing that you’re not perfect. Everyone has some vulnerability that they can open up and share with a person they find worthy. If you want to be at the center of a woman’s world, try earning your place there, not stepping in and expecting to fill some emotional hole.

    And being attracted to people who are intimidated by you seems like you’re the one who’s not confident. It’s a power trip.

  • You are a terrible human being

    You do realize your mother is a woman? You disgust me. These comments disgust me. You are a terrible human being. Do you even have a girlfriend? A girlfriend who knows about this shit you write on this horrible website of yours??? My guess is no. You don’t. And that would not surprise me in the least.

  • Nina_Tina

    You make me sick.

  • Anonymous

    “Women don’t deserve a high self-esteem” “Women claim they want equal rights as men, but they don’t want equal responsibilities.”

    Has the thought ever occurred to you that the fact that women don’t have equal rights as men is the reason why we don’t have equal responsibilities?

    “Insecurity is integral to femininity”

    No. Femininity is an illusion. When a baby is born they either have a penis or a vagina, that doesn’t determine who they are or who they should be. Gender roles are a creation by society, not something that comes with your genitals. The belief that women have to wear skirts and dresses, have long hair, shave their legs, etc. is all an illusion. So the belief that women have to be insecure is an illusion, as well.

    “Women don’t want to have a high self-esteem” ” Pharmacological assistance is the only way she can make it through her day without slitting her wrists, or alternately realizing that her life is a complete lie. Every day, women show through their actions that they despise their strong, independent lives.”

    This is a statement of pure and total stupidity. Who doesn’t want to have a high self esteem? Everyone wants to feel good about themselves. If a woman has a self esteem that as low that she slits her wrists, she is mentally ill. Mental illness is more common in women than it is in men. Mental illness is a chemical imbalance in the brain, not a woman downgrading herself because it’s “in her nature”.

    So, you, sir, and all the people that agreed with this article, can go fuck yourself and your ignorant, rude, and sexist opinions.

  • Charlie

    “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.”
    And what exactly do you think that you are seeing women as?

  • Caela Henderson

    You are a fucking idiot

  • Nina

    damn, no wonder no one wants to marry you. say this to your mama and tell us how she responds

  • lmao

    and people wonder why women hate men

  • Matthieu

    there is a 99% chance that you play trumpet

  • George

    This is so hetero-normative I’m shocked

  • Kelly

    How can woman be anything but a man’s play toy when men like you are still out there telling them they can’t do shit! Men like you disgust me! I spent my life hearing my father tell me and my mother I’m nothing compared to a man just a piece of shit. Well good thing I didn’t listen to that. And if anyway tried to rape you, you can bet I’m not going to save you, good luck.

  • chew big red

    Blasphemy! Heinous treason! This man has revealed the inner principles of man law to the public and must now be burned!
    Lol interesting article though

  • a

    this is satire right? because there’s no way someone is actually this stupid. no possible way. if you were really this stupid, you wouldn’t have been able to find the power button on your computer, let alone type so many 3 syllable words.
    (but in the event that this is not in fact a joke, i hope your penis is violently ripped off by savage dogs)

  • table

    Dios santo sos un pelotudazo bárbaro me cago de risa pensando cuántas minas te habrán hecho rebotar jajajaja de seguro que para masturbarte usás un microscopio para encontrar tu minúscula chota jajaja

  • Gina

    is this a fucking joke

  • dremmy

    youre the most misogynistic man ive ever met what the fuck

  • Don’t Tell Me Who To Be

    1. If confidence doesn’t give a man erections then please explain the success of movies like Tomb Raider.
    2. Women build walls to prevent heartache. ‘The embrace of a loving man’ always ends up being the embrace of a man who really really wants to get laid. He doesn’t care what state he leaves you in after he gets what he wants.
    3. The women who get ‘lots cocka’ are the ones who have let their guard down and have been so hurt that they’re emotionally numb. They’ve felt love and had it betrayed. After so long it seems to become a hopeless cause and they settle.
    4. I’ll agree about the music, however, love songs are universal, for men and women. Usher’s Confessions: all about love. Muse songs: mostly love. I’d like to hear more music bitching about corruption in the world personally; where’s the next Pink Floyd?
    5. On a tangent: What I find super ridiculous is that our government is domineered by men who don’t want women to have birth control, even though so many men don’t want to step up when they get a girl pregnant (outside of wedlock). Talk about the innate desire to breed. They don’t want babies to be prevented nor do they want to take care of them when they exist.
    @PowerPuppy That was the most unrealistic novel ever. Women don’t want to be domineered; they want orgasms. They want to break down a man who claims to have no emotions and make them feel something for her. Men never pay attention to that need.

    All in all, everybody gets off from something different. I’m going to keep striving to be a strong independent woman. Frankly, unconfident men seem to like a confident woman. Confident men take advantage of an unconfident woman. They’ll lie to her because she’s invested her trust in him. I’d rather be a confident woman who saves herself from being hurt.

  • Aiden

    I’m a female college student pursuing a Chemical Engineering degree. Am I excluded from your misogynistic stereotyping because I happen have skill in an area that you, being male and therefore omnificent, determine is “real” and not a “useless fluff job”? Also, do I have your permission to be confident about my body and my abilities, or is that just asking far too much?

  • Ashley

    How cute of you to think that you’re capable of obtaining a woman who has the self esteem you speak of. You are OBVIOUSLY one of the arrogant, ignorant, misogynistic fools who don’t seem to have a clue of what’s going on in the 21st century. I’m not sure if this less than knowledgeable blog was intended to be a joke. But I can assure you that you, my friend, are exactly that. A poor, unintelligent, joke of a man who will never be equal to us women, that is for sure.

  • Mattforney fucks his mom

    Umm if it weren’t for women you wouldn’t be here. Then again, the only woman who should have swallowed was your mom. I hope you get raped

  • HA

    I’m laughing, you’re so funny! You do the best impression of a arrogant, self-assured, cocky asshole.

  • Peachyfield1998

    Oh you poor babay! Who ignored you as a child so that you should become the emotional fuckwit that you are today? Was it your mother who left you so she could go and concentrate on her own wants so that you felt abandoned and made it your life mission to make all other women hate you? Or was it your father, leaving your mother to smother you and become vulnerable to opinions because she couldn’t take her ex-husbands opinions, thus making you believe this was the norm.
    All I can say is this though! If it was your mission to make all the women hate you then CONGRATULATIONS! You’ve completed your mission!
    And before the rest of your sexist bastards go about stating that i’m just “sensitive” or “can’t handle the truth” let me just tell you a TINY fraction of what was wring with this article:
    1)
    “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.”
    Okay, let’s think about the definition of feminist-
    “Noun. A person who supports equal rights between males and females”
    The very definition of feminist is that we want to help men in the political, social and economic world but do you know what else we want?
    EQUALITY! RESPECT! MAYBE SOME GODDAMN SUPPORT!
    And do you want to know something weird? This is the exact same argument that racists used when ethnicity equality was a problem! People said that black people would not care about white peoples problems and don’t view them as humans!
    Racists also said that black people made no difference to the country, caused difficulties and were nothing but trouble!

    2)
    ” Pushing lies like the claim that one in three women will be raped during her lifetime and their constantly expanding the definition of rape are ways for feminists to indulge their desire for vulnerability in a way that doesn’t conflict with their view of themselves as “strong” and “empowered.””
    How dare you.
    The fact you think women actually WANT to be raped is so repulsive it makes me physically want to be sick. First you must realise it’s not just women who are raped. Women, men, children, they are all raped and the only reason we are pushing the definition of rape because we have more understanding of what rape is! No one wants to have all control, all respect, all dignity stripped from them. To have the very physical form that belongs to you be damaged and abused as no one hears you scream or cry is one of the worst things to happen to a person, and the fact that you think a women WANTS to be raped is… beyond words.
    One of the only reasons we still have rape is because of idiots like you who believe that women “want” to be raped and because you blame the victim!

    3)
    “From the moment they’re old enough to speak, girls in America are bombarded with propaganda that artificially boosts their self-esteem.”
    What!
    Have you seen the magazines and TV directed to young girls! They’re constantly stating that girls aren’t good enough, that if you’re not this weight you’re not beautiful, if you don’t paste yourself with make up you will never be wanted! Girls are tricked into thinking that a woman cannot be a woman unless she has a tiny skirt on and size 0 body (not that I am slut-shaming, nor shaming people who are NATURALLY that size) she will never get anywhere in life, a trick bastards (you) make to twist a girls mind into thinking that she needs a man!

    There is literally a MILLION ways i could continue on showing what a bastard fuck-wit monster you are but chances are they will fall on deaf ears so hopefully you will never trick some poor girl into having sex with you, you’ll die the pathetic loser you are and fail to continue your line of misogynistic cruelty. Also, if you do have kids I hope you have a kid I REALLY hope it’s a girl, so you can learn to understand what men like you do to girls like her, then when her husband beats her or she is raped you’ll understand that vulnerability, not so sexy on girls.

  • Callie

    You should apologize to your mother for giving birth to you since you don’t seem to appreciate that her keeping you (not aborting you) and carrying you for 9 months didn’t mean shit to you. The fact that you are alive and breathing today is because you depended on a woman to give you life and to be able to say this hurtful and degrading piece of work. Whatever anatomy you may have, penis, vagina, ect. You are a human being and should have the freedom to think, be and live however you would like. Just because back in the day the social concept was woman were lesser and shouldn’t have rights, or blacks shouldn’t have rights, or even gay people should go to hell doesn’t mean that it’s right to put someone in a certain stereotype and say they need to be a certain way and can’t be better. People are more then their gender, color, or sexual orientation. Woman are also rising up in the world despite people like you who put them down just because men got a head start in the world doesn’t mean men and woman can’t finish together. No one is better or worse than another and woman should be looking for a man who will treat her as a equal and will work together to build a life together. Depending on eachother equally when one another has fallen down is what makes a healthy relationship. I hope you learn one day and become a more intelligent and useful part of society instead of causing harm

  • Rebecca

    “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.”

    This is exactly the moment when my anger overwhelmed me. ARE YOU SERIOUS? Are you AT ALL serious? This has to be a joke. THIS ENTIRE ARTICLE IS ABOUT HOW YOU DON’T VIEW WOMEN AS HUMAN BEINGS.

    Do you know why so many women and teenage girls take anti-depressants? Because they’re DEPRESSED, dumbass. Depression and low self esteem go hand in hand. Too many women today ALREADY have low self esteem. Being insecure in depressed is ABSOLUTE MISERY. OBVIOUSLY you don’t know that seeing as how you’d wish it on 50% of the population.

    It doesn’t matter if men prefer women with lower self esteem because WOMEN DO NOT EXIST TO PLEASE MEN any more than MEN EXIST TO PLEASE WOMEN.

    BOTH SEXES DESERVE HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS EQUALLY. THE WOLRD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND WHAT GIVES YOU A FUCKING BONER YOU SELF-CENTERED ASSHOLE JESUS CHRIST

  • Iactuallycannotbelievethis

    Are you actually saying that women should not have self esteem and feel good about themselves? That they need a man? Is that what you are actually saying? I actually can’t believe there is a human being on this planet as truly disgusting as you. And then you dare to say that women don’t see men as human beings. That is truly disgusting. This entire piece of writing is you treating women as objects and trying to control their emotions. You are a despicable human being. Self confidence is one of the best things a person can have. You are wrong about everything in this.

  • aurora

    I honestly cannot believe someone actually said this. This is completely ludicrous and utterly absurd. I can’t wait for the days when women splash alcohol in your eyes, and you’re left alone for the rest of your sorry life.

  • Wow

    This is probably the most awful and ignorant article I’ve ever read. I honestly feel bad for you that you really think women should feel worse about themselves because they “don’t deserve it” and you think confidence is a turn off. Pathetic.

  • Diana

    I could go on for hours, but I have way better things to do than argue with someone who can’t even separate fact from shitty opinion. You don’t deserve my argument or my time.

  • http://therationalmale.com Rollo Tomassi

    Write a post about the case against female self esteem, threats of death, dismemberment and disappearance.

    Socially institutionalize the case against self esteem in men and boys into the social fabric for 50+ years and it’s called progress.

  • doe

    dude wow how the fuck are you actually this stupid, women are fucking humans they deserve to be confident in themselves and have their feelings treated with respect. I can’t actually believe that human beings can be this fucking stupid i mean just WOW, how do you even become this stupid? because i know for a fact no human being is born with so few brain cells. i hope you get your fucking dick chopped off because you are apparently too immature to have one.

  • Erin

    Wow… to think people like you with fossils for brains still exist.
    Kindly crawl back into the cave you emerged from.

  • Judy

    I’m having a hard time determining whether or not this article is a joke because it’s so outrageous and based on such idiocy that I can hardly see how this should be taken seriously. If it is a joke, then it’s jokes like these that make the culture and I think many of us would appreciate it if you’d stop. However, if it’s not a joke, then I think you may have some serious problems that you need to work out. If you are so biased against the opposite gender, it may be rooted in some past trauma or simply in misinformation that can be sorted out either with psychological help or educating yourself on the issue. Feminism is a real movement made up of real women with real thoughts, opinions, motivations, and emotions. Why is feminism necessary? To combat backward ideas such as the ones presented in this article. Feminism is about equality. Females are just as capable of running households, holding certain jobs, and even governing the country as men are. Feminism is also about celebrating the physical differences that make each biological gender unique, but whilst recognizing that our differences complement each other instead of trying to compete with each other. One of the points you made was that women have not earned the right to have self-respect. You are wrong in this view because not a single person EARNS a right to self-respect. Self esteem comes from learning to accept yourself for who you are, whether male or female. So, if you are absolutely “jacked” and this is important to you, be proud of your accomplishment. If you worked hard through college to earn your degree, be proud of your accomplishment. If you can’t find a job or spend your days playing video games in the basement, then find it within yourself to remember that you are a human being who has worth, no matter how the outside world may perceive you. Another point you made was that if society were to collapse, women would have to be sheltered by men lest they be raped. That argument is exactly in the feminists’ favor rather than your own: if men are so decent, why would they rape women? How could a woman be sure that the man she went to for protection wouldn’t take advantage of her either? The answer to this, simply, is that men SHOULDN’T rape women, and if society were to fall there is safety in trusted numbers but no one can protect a woman better than her own judgment and cautious measures. This is NOT making the point that it is the woman’s fault if she is raped; it is merely making the point that it is the man’s fault, and that the fact that he “couldn’t control himself” is not an excuse. It is never an excuse. (This isn’t even diving into the point that men can be raped too, but that’s not what the article was about.) Another point you made was that empowered women do not open up emotionally, which is what a relationship is built on. I do agree with the idea that relationships must be built on mutual trust and the willingness to open oneself emotionally to a partner and take the risk of getting hurt; however, there is nothing about feminism that suggests that a woman should close herself off to emotions completely. There’s a difference between being independent and being an emotionless robot. An independent woman can still feel heartbreak. But an independent woman also knows how to pick herself up and keep moving on, no matter how emotionally damaged she is, with or without a man. The final point you made is that women don’t want self-esteem. This confuses me, because as a woman I know I have self esteem and I’ll be damned if someone tries to take it away from me. I am indeed attracted to men, and I am open to the idea of being in a relationship, but the only way I’m “making a sandwich” is if it’s a mutual partnership thing–he’s busy, so I’ll be a kind person and make him a sandwich, but if he’s a kind and selfless person he will make me a sandwich if I’m busy. Relationships are partnerships. We must COMPLEMENT each other. That does not mean that one must take the reins and completely take over the other’s life. I’ll finish this off by remarking on how your blatant objectification of women completely disgusts me, and people like you are the reason that progress is being slowed. All women want are equal pay and equal say, and uncultured swine like yourself are not going to dismantle a movement as strong as feminism. There’s a difference between having opinions and having the wrong opinion, and honey, you have the WRONG opinion.

  • Leah

    You are a pig. I hope you die alone. You know nothing about the world if you honestly believe this. The world would crash without women. Just like it would without men. You make me sick. Men are no better than women are. Go fuck yourself asshole.

  • Emily

    This article…Wow, I couldn’t even finish reading it. I can’t even comprehend just how wrong these views are. How can a man, most likely with a mother, sit down and write this? I’m dumbfounded and disgusted, to say the least

  • Jake

    This is the most disgusting misogynistic piece of writing I’ve ever had the misfortune of reading. Sucks that you’re so afraid of powerful women, but you don’t deserve one anyway. Clearly you don’t understand women or the feminist movement at all. I can’t wait until the day when ignorant, entitled men with your mentality are just a sad memory.

  • Ashley Jamesson

    The people who are complaining about you make me laugh.

    You had many good points and I guess they just can’t see that.

    You, sir. I like you.

  • Phoebas

    Just to clarify: Is this a satire? Or are the above statements genuine? I am afraid I am not particularly skilled at detecting sarcasm.

  • YETI

    seriously, this is satire, right?

  • Queen cool

    Sorry to hear about all this tumblr shit,they think theyre a movement but really theyre obnoxious. Agree with what was written here, which was a breath of fresh air in todays feminist obsessed online community. Glad to see some intelligent life out there.

  • What

    This…. This is a joke, right? Like you people can’t possibly be serious…

  • Miranda

    you are a fucking prick
    how do you know girls don’t want high self esteem?
    have you ever woken up to find you suddenly had a vagina?
    and if you have, i bet no one would put their dick inside you
    i am a woman of america and i can state right here and now that I WANT HIGH SELF ESTEEM AND I AM NOT AFRAID TO STATE THAT
    EVERYONE ON THIS FUCKING PLANET HAS INSECURITIES, NOT JUST WOMEN
    IT’S HOW WE WERE MADE
    IF NO ONE HAD INSECURITIES THE EARTH MIGHT AS WELL BE A FUCKING BABY WIPE
    and you sir, perhaps you have a ton of insecurities
    perhaps one is accepting the fact that women and men alike have insecurities and high and low self esteem
    perhaps one is having to accept the fact that a woman could kick your ass if they wanted to
    perhaps one is accepting the fact that eventually, you’ll come to your senses and pick your fucking ass off that dirty fucking ground you reside on
    no gender should be better than another
    if one gender was supposed to be better than the other, why does that gender still exist?
    women don’t exist just for pleasure and reproducing, because if that were true, men would exist for the same purpose
    we’re all people
    we all have things to complete in life before we die
    which is why every person on this earth is a gift and no one should be put down for something as absurd as this
    now i suggest all of you open your fucking eyes and get a clue

  • Don

    This is the single most disrespectful thing I have ever read. I’m truly disgusted with every word and with everyone agreeing.

  • dreamyshadows

    Get brains. Realize that this is the 21st century. Become human.

    Delete this pathetic excuse of an article.

    Then you can take in the same oxygen sane people do.

  • Anon

    I have LITERALLY never read something so shit-brained, ridiculous in my entire life. Congratulations. You’ve baffled me with your utter and complete lack of intelligence. You’re the sort of person that would be weeded out of the population if we removed warning labels from everything. “It doesn’t say NOT to stick my head in the oven… so it must be okay.”
    Good grief. I hope you never have a daughter. They would be shit out of luck.

  • moo moo

    shUt the fuck up this is s o disgusting

  • tiff

    this post is so stupid and u are so stupid too i can’t believe u seriously posted this?? ? ?? it’s truly amazing to know that people with such shitty opinions exist out there tbh

  • no

    this is so unbelievably stupid i cant believe people out there actually think like this??

  • http://frickeroonie.com ANGRY FEMINIST

    PLS NO NO NONONNONONOOOOO
    PLS GOD NO
    NO
    NO

  • http://naw Jessica

    you are a literal human turd i can’t believe you are real

  • Rachel LaRocque

    Wow, you’ve probably made me hope to never in a million years meet you, in one article, congrats! If you were the last human being left I’d stay away. Right now, in perfectly fine with my feminism, fandoms, friends and cats. Just saying, when I start to date, I’ll be dating a feminist, someone who doesn’t degrade me, someone that I can be an equal to. You notice how I say someone? I’m not selecting a gender, and I suppose that you’re probably homophobic too. If not, I apologise. I wouldn’t like to bring someone else down for something that I’m lying about.

  • uh

    what the ever living fuck

  • matt

    This is the most appalling thing I have ever read….. for about the first half of it I was thinking “Ok this is one of those internet jokes” but then when it became clear that you’re serious I didn’t know whether or not to laugh at you or cry for you. You should probably do us all a favor and destroy your computer

  • do u kiss ur mom with that mouth

    im gonna hurl what ht e fuc k even aRE you

  • Becca

    Are….you….FUCKING INSANE????? What is this bullshit?????? You, sir, are a misogynist piece of shit. I hope your dick shrivels up and falls off. You should be ashamed of yourself for this disgusting, poisonous “essay”. You are what is wrong with our society. YOU ARE A PATHETIC, SCUM SUCKER! And anyone who agrees with this false essay deserves nothing less than a slow death. I hate you all. I’m not gonna be PC and sugar coat it. I want you all to be removed from the face of this earth.

  • Sensible feminist.

    this is the worst thing ive ever read

  • Caboose

    As a male feminist you seem to have a few details wrong. Firstly have you ever been a woman? Secondly if you have been a woman have you ever been insecure and thought that a man could fix that? And lastly though this is your opinion how could you be so openly misogynistic in such a progressive world?

  • hahahahaha

    hey matt! you are a disgusting human being and i want to waterboard you with your own blood.

  • Jessica

    And this is how you know you have found a “nice guy” who has no respect for any women in his family or out, and who will most likely end up getting murdered.

  • ohmYGOD

    This is so stupid omfg

  • Savvy

    Ok, I’m sorry. I’m going to put the right out there and be honest.
    How on God’s green Earth can this pile of misogynistic tripe be take seriously?
    I’d like to ask who you are to define exactly what femininity and the rules of society are. If every man lost his job tomorrow, a woman would be able to take his place, or at least learn if she didn’t know. How do you think this country operated during WW2?
    And before I go on and on about how you’re not only disgusting, but you’re also archaic and well beyond being so full of your own hot air that you believe that having a vagina makes you somehow less of a person, and having a dick makes you entitled to everything, I’d like to ask you only one more thing.
    Would you ever say this crap to your mother?
    I’ll keep my confidence, thanks. You and your dick can stay far away from me.

  • Adina

    I cannot. This is so sad.

    Shame, shame. We know your name.
    – The Goonies

  • Anon

    People do not get any worse than you. You are sad and pathetic, and you are not above everyone else like you seem to think you are. People are not yours to control. You do not get to dictate anyone’s mental state. You are a perverse pig, and you deserve to rot. I seriously cannot picture how you managed to get so fucked up of a mind where you think that people aren’t allowed to feel good about themselves. Do you really not realize that you are telling people: “Fell like shit, so that I enjoy sticking my dick in you more!” Like what kind of fucked up demonic being do you have to be where you think you are worth that much? You are worth nothing. You are the scum that is wrong with the world. And when people call you on your bullshit you just edit it to sound like they want to bang you? What, because nobody has ever wanted to bang filth like you before? As a guy, I can say that you’re a fucking embarrassment. You deserve the worst circle of hell for thinking that the way you were born grants you the right to put down and manipulate half of the fucking planet. You disgust me.

  • Erin

    Wow.

    1) Forget equal right, how about general respect for EVERYONE simply because they are a HUMAN BEING.

    2) Fluff jobs? Seriously? I’m not a teacher (I have a doctorate in physical therapy and I AM a woman, thank you), but those women teachers paved the foundation of education for every MAN that “keeps the country running.”

    I’d read the rest of your article but I couldn’t get over what an ignorant jackass you were in the first few paragraphs. I’d say a more “disastrous social engineering experiment” is letting said jackass express his ignorant opinion devoid of ANY truth all over the internet.

  • Audrey

    you are a twat, i’m sorry. if someone stabbed you, you would deserve it.

  • Girl

    If just spent an hour trying to describe how this makes me feel and I just can not put all of my thoughts into anything coherent.

    Basically-
    disgusting, festering tripe, pincone dick, idiot, you where MADE BY A WOMAN, how, WHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYY,
    I don’t understand at all, I didn’t know people like this where real, is this actualy real, why did I spend time on this, crusty shit stain, I legitimately tasted bile after reading this, you sir are the embodiment of what its like to eat deodorant, moist, you need to not, shit sponge, jerkity jerk jerk made out of period pains, pickle dick, internal bleeding, external bleeding, I’m so angry I may pass out, you’re like those weird booger things in tomatoes, I hate tomatoes, fedora, prickly dickly hackle fac, are you real?, I generally don’t like people and can be quite rude but even I know you’re an ass cactus, if you don’t like women then don’t talk to them, don’t look at them, don’t even go near them, you are banished from earth for the mental verbal and possibly physical mistreatment of half the population, how can you think this is okay?!, I’m running out of words to express the deep deep loathing I feel towards you for creating such a thing and spreading it over the internet, maggoty festering shit smear of and opinion this is, that’s all I have the restraint to say for today.

  • You Suck

    you are seriously the biggest fucktard of all time. only an insecure man needs an insecure woman. you and your tiny dick need to get over it.

  • Fuck off

    Judging by all the edited comments, I’m assuming you fear criticism? But OH WELL FEMINISTING DOESN’T ALLOW COMMENTS SO I WON’T EITHER

    You’re…doing the exact same thing you criticize them for doing. Are you that fucking stupid or what? Oh wait, your article already confirmed your stupidity already.

    Take a good look in the mirror before you say that WOMEN don’t see MEN as humans, you fucking piece of festering dog shit.

  • Tom

    sucks that your dick is so tiny you felt the need to write this man. good thing there are some men out there with half a brain who can acknowledge what utter sexism and trash this is.

  • wow fuck u douche

    wow no. fuck off buddy.

  • Leave Planet Earth

    This is extremely sexist and disgusting. How don’t you see that? If it’s not clear reread the entire thing but pretend it’s a woman saying all this stuff about a guy. I bet you would be mad if it was that way but suddenly it’s ok for a guy to write this about a woman? Not at all. Before you call me out, I am a fucking guy. Even I know this is fucked up.

  • Astud

    This piece screams insecurity from the author…

  • Amy Smithern

    This article must be pure sarcasm. Anything more would require putting the author in a straight jacket or zoo.

  • fuck you

    you should go fuck yourself. that’s all i have to say.

  • Bix

    Oh ladies hurry before this prime specimen of a life partner gets snapped right up!

  • Anon

    So either you realize you’re an asshole and don’t care, or honestly think that being this sexist doesn’t make you an asshole. Either way you are shit.

  • Frida

    I seriously want to know wtf happened to you as a child to have made you into a disgusting human being. You write all this utter bullshit, but I bet if you had the chance to say this to an audience of people you would literally have tomatoes thrown at your face. People like you are whats wrong in this world! Completely pathetic…NONE OF YOUR ARGUMENTS MAKE FUCKING SENSE YOU MISOGYNISTIC DOUCHE! Stupid people like you, AND YOUR IDIOTIC SUPPORTERS, shouldnt be allowed to reproduce.

  • Noah

    The first time I read this I got really fucking pissed off, 10/10.

  • http://www.heartbeat-coaching.com Janet Beatrice

    Sorry to break this news to you, Mr. Forney, but females do not exist merely to keep your dick from deflating. So they will not refrain from having self-esteem just so that you will want to have sex with them.

    I am glad that you posted this though, and made your views so public. Hopefully it will save a lot of women from wasting their time going out with you. Or even associating with you for that matter.

    I don’t know what happened to you or to the commenters here, male and female, who actually agree with you or think this is worthwhile reading. But I do hope you and the others heal from it enough to be able to respect women (for the women who agree – to be able to respect women including yourselves) one day.

  • Hope

    i fucking hope you rot in hell you fucking misognynist fascist cunt

  • Gabriella

    You are the prick of the world. literally go fuck yourself. I’m a woman but i bet you i have bigger balls than you. i demand respect and fucking idiots like you are so worthless to the world. men NEED woman.

  • a 17 year old girl whose faith in kind human nature just got obliterated

    youre a sexist bigot as is everyone who agrees
    i really cant imagine how someone would come to believe some of the stuff you are spewing, i cant believe that you actually think women want to have low self esteem
    thats such a horrible thing to want anyone to have, why do you want people to be sad so you can feel like a big man

  • Confident Woman

    Pretty sure men need us more than we need you unless you want to try to find a way to push a baby out of your pens, asshat

  • Sun

    You know it sounds like your just super insecure. When certain people need to demonstrate their dominance and can’t they tend to flock to someone who is more insecure then them. Were all a little insecure. There is a difference between arrogance and strength. The days are ending where men are the sole providers since they run away from responsibility and leave women the sole protectors of the children, the house, and a communities future. I’ll admit, it is nice to feel safe to feel protected, but I’ll laugh any man who doesn’t have the same desire. Your just a scared human who doesn’t know how to have a solid relationship or maybe your worried because your masculinity is being tested. If all your worried about is getting laid you’ll find plenty of women who will spread their legs for a “strong,” self-centered man. Good luck with having a good relationship based on strength from both a women and a man. I wouldn’t fuck you. The sex would probably be pretty boring. Enjoy having meaningless sex with robot women.

  • Wrong

    You are not only wrong, but a shit person. Honestly, I’m %100 sure that a woman who is confident does not care if you’re attracted to her, and that’s the beauty of it. Equal rights are necessary to the human population continuing to thrive, if women are not given equal opportunity then half of the world’s population will realize they are being taken advantage of. We cannot survive without a woman’s help, like it or not. We cannot survive with a woman’s confidence to get out of bed every morning, without your mother’s confidence to raise you to be the person you are. You make it seem like women should depend on you for validation when they don’t need to. Your validation is not necessary to a woman. Grow up and start seeing people as people.

  • Nikki

    No. I struggle with low self esteem everyday and the fact that guys think they can use it to get me is fucking disgusting. I hate having low self esteem and the fact that this fucking slimy pig who calls himself a writer thinks he can write an article about how he’d fuck me because of my struggle is the fucking reason I need feminism. This is disgusting.

  • GO FUCK YOURSELF

    You disgust me and you are a disgrace. Go choke on a fucking dick just because you deserve to. Seriously, either do us a favor and stop being a FUCKING DOUCHEBAG, or go die by being attacked by rabid wolves eating you, balls first. Rot in hell, you fucking twat.

  • Wot the fuck

    Are you actually alive or is this some sort of sick joke…we like in the 20th centuary get over youself

  • Reason

    Look, I don’t know what happened to you, but why on earth should we not be confident?
    Just for the reason of making men feel better? Of inflating your egos? We have every god damn right to be confident.
    I can grow a freaking person inside of me, what can you do? Oh yeah, you can slander women because apparently they have something you don’t have, self confidence and self assurance.
    I’m not going to threaten you, but how can you think that women shouldn’t be confident and worthy?
    You honestly sound as if you have the makings of an abusive partner, please rethink what you’re saying, it’s not right and it’s fair on anyone.

  • You kiss your mother with that mouth?!

    I pity the fact that you will have to change all of the comments that are pouring in by the second to more of your sexist shit, you douche. I think you secretly have a fendom fetish and aren’t willing to admit it.
    Sincerely, don’t fuck with the women (and respectful men) of Tumblr. 7000 notes and counting :) Have fun, bud.

  • nope

    nope. This is one of the worst things I have ever seen in my life. So just because someone has a vagina they are seen as inferior? Because you have a penis you are seen as “better” and assume that women should lay down and bow before you? OH I am SO sorry, your royal highness. I can’t hear you over the ridiculous amount of BULLSHIT that has suddenly filled the air. Good luck in life. I wish the best to you, really. Even if you are an insufferable, lumpish asshole.

  • read this asshole

    FIRSTLY
    “”there needs to be a massive and concerted war on female self-esteem.””
    this is showing that you are threatened by females. this statement is showing that women are too strong and smart to ever want to go near an asshole like yourself, so you feel the need to dumb them down and weaken them. THIS IS MOST LIKELY BECAUSE YOU WOULDN’T GET LAID OTHERWISE, OR YOU DONT FEEL THAT YOU GET ENOUGH ATTENTION FROM WOMEN. shocking.

    SECONDLY
    “”In the world of men, respect—and by extension self-esteem—is based on actually achieving something of worth or having some kind of skill or talent.””
    “a man’s world”
    ok saying stuff like “man’s world” is getting you no where. i mean seriously. this IS NOT A MANS WORLD. there are both men and women on planet earth, sadly for you. however I really would like to see you, and other males like yourself, on your own planet where you can all suck each other off and be bum-buddies for as long as you want.

    THIRDLY
    “”Are you a bodybuilder or jacked?””
    there are a lot of women who body build and are “jacked”. they could kick your scrawny little ass any day.

    i dont even think i can bear to go on reading this verbal vomit. I only got mid-way through the first point, and wow there are so many flaws in your argument/opinion whatever you want to call it.

    CONGRATULATIONS you have proven to be another weak male who can handle female evolution. we are getting stronger, smarter and better, and this article just shows that you cant handle it.
    even if this is some joke or undetected sarcasm, you are still an idiot.
    feminism is not a ‘tumblr group’ and belittling it as a movement wont get you anywhere kiddo.

  • breitta

    go strangle yourself

  • No.

    I am violently angry that this exists and people agree with it.

  • randompotato

    Whatever. I didn’t even read this entire article because it’s that stupid. THIS IS WHY FEMINISM IS NEEDED.
    NEWS FLASH. WOMEN ARE PEOPLE TOO.
    You know what I call men who tell women that all they need is a good, hard round of sex to make them a normal person again and worth something? Single and sure as heck not getting any of this. *gestures at self* So what if girls have vaginas? We’re just as awesome with one as most men (Not including you or anybody who commented on this) who don’t, and I don’t think you deserve anything your blog is getting. Therefore, I will continue to ignore this train wreck of a blog and continue being my fabulous self. *hair flips in direction of idiot who runs this website*

  • rachel

    This entire article makes me nauseous. This is disgusting. I never come near anyone that agrees with this shit .

    Also “their constantly expanding the definition of rape” I don’t know where you’re getting this idea from, because the definition of rape is: “Any unwanted touching”. Can it be any more simple or obvious than that? NO.

  • Miranda

    Oh my fucking god… Words can’t even explain how absolutely ridiculously idiotic and awful this is…

  • Confident woman

    You seem to think that a somewhat well written essay makes your point valid; it doesn’t. It all boils down to the same shit men like you have been spouting for the last few centuries. If you want to write about women (and their inferiority, according to you) you probably shouldn’t use the ‘get back to the kitchen’ line, it’s used mostly by uneducated misogynists (rings a bell, don’t you think?) and teenage boys who simply can’t develop their argument further. On a whole it was quite entertaining to see someone to try and revive the age old argument – we have heard it all before and it’s going to be a long time before us confident women, quite frankly, give a shit. And as for men surviving without women, please – who is going to make your sandwich? If anything it shows male dependence on women, which is probably what this is all about (I mean after all who are you going to ‘bang’, homie?) and you bigots are too proud to admit it.

  • lori

    this article makes me want to projectile vomit. this is absolutely and undoubtedly the biggest piece of bullshit that i have ever read.

    women can have exactly the same or even more significantly important jobs than men so don’t go saying that if every male lost their job, the world would collapse. because it wouldn’t, the female population would be there, holding it up.

    i find it so disgusting that you’re constantly comparing a woman’s confidence and strength to a man’s sexual desire. if you were to step outside into the real world and out of your delusional little mind, you would be able to survey countless men who could in fact say that confidence in a woman is attractive. NOT THAT THE ATTRACTIVENESS OF IT ALL EVEN MATTERS?? if a woman wants to be confident, she shouldn’t have to worry about if she’s still attractive to guys or not. it’s just insane that you’re comparing the two like that.

    and the entire blurb about how a woman should be terrified if a man isn’t protecting her is bullshit. a woman can defend herself, no problem. no woman NEEDS a man in her life. sure, most women want a man in her life, but not for the sole reason of her needing protection?? i’m sure that there are countless women in this god damn world that can single handedly kick your ass, so don’t go blabbing your mouth about how women NEED men in their life to protect them. because they don’t.

    to end this off i would like to inform you that no woman wants to be “led back to a kitchen” where she has to make her man a food after being “swatted on the ass”. how fucking degrading is that?? women are so much more than your little pets or slaves so don’t go acting like we’re just here for men’s entertainment or for men to use to their desires.

    disgusting, horrible, and degrading. every bit of this article made me want to projectile vomit all over my laptop screen.

  • Jane

    This is appalling and you need to be castrated. I hope to God you don’t procreate.

  • anon

    i’m curious. have you ever actually had a relationship? like that WASN’T with an escort and lasted for more than an hour and a half?

  • Trace Excalibur

    this article would be hilarious, if it weren’t so incredibly sad. I feel nothing but pity for any woman who ever dates you, whether they are unaware of or somehow unfazed by your opinions.

    actually, why don’t you show this article to anyone you go on a date with, and see what happens? I’d sincerely love to see a follow-up article about the results.

  • Silje

    This is so disgusting

  • kate

    ahahahah this guy ahahahahahah what a cunt

  • Chi Jaeger

    you need to go to gay baby jail

  • Rayna

    It’s cute to see you try so hard to support your argument. You use no evidence, make far too broad generalizations about women, and basically apply your unbelievably arrogant logic to society as a whole. Your sentence structure and word choice make you sound like an angry teenage boy who never gets laid. This is an embarrassment to you as a writer, I would delete it as soon as possible. Oh, and don’t forget to burn your computer.

  • Jack

    This has got to be a joke. Nobody with a sane mine could ever take things like this seriously. Even the comments are twisted. I really hope this ‘essay’ is a poorly written joke, because if it isn’t then someone is showing their ignorance a little too well.

  • lolwut

    Seeing as how we live in a patriarchal society that still limits women’s solidarity, yes of course women can’t be front line of the work force. This entire essay is filled with generalizations. NOTHING MORE. I’m not sure what women you’re talking to either to have arrived at these far-fetched conclusions. And to say that women don’t “deserve” to have self-esteem is ridiculous. As if “the woman” is one, definitive thing. As if having a vagina automatically describes one’s personality. I guess we can similarly say that all men have big penises, have accomplished a lot of things in life, and have rightfully gained confidence, since they have, in fact, done monumental things to deserve it. It is a blatant lie to say that women count trivial things as confidence-boosters. How do you know that some women can’t play the guitar or win a Nobel prize? What a pile of shit.

  • Sam

    This was.. Simply put, the most obvious bit of ignorant writing I’ve ever read.

  • Tayvie Noon

    KILL YOURSELF

  • Jimmy

    At first I thought this was a joke, but I’m 99% sure that you are completely serious. I couldn’t even finish it so I’m sorry if I get some facts wrong. You say that women want recognition for doing fluff jobs as the ones that you listed, but in fact during world war II most woman took over the jobs that men would usually do, so they are capable of many great things and can do the same things as men and better. *At this point I would like to apologise if I seem like I’m coming on too strong, but I feel strongly about this topic*
    Let me tell you, if every woman lost her job tomorrow hospitals would have to go looking for new doctors and nurses, and I hope you know that even though men are mostly in the military women are too. Also as you were talking about how girls are called “shpecial” and “you-nique” they are not the only ones, boys are told this and from what I can remember from school boys were told it more than girls because so much is expected from them just because of their gender.

    You probably think feminist like myself, are annoying but it’s the 21st century and I thought by now that everybody would have equal rights by now. I know that my ways and views on things are not always right, but at least everyone would be equal and there might be less suicide. Girls need self esteem because scum bags like you tell them that they are not capable of the same things that men are but if there were no woman, you wouldn’t even exist.

    I’m not saying that all men are like you, but it sickens me that some are.

  • Olivia Joan

    You are the scum of the earth.

  • Fuck You SIr

    now listen here you little shit let me tell you something. You are a dick hole who needs to stop putting people down. Women have every fucking right to be as cocky and overly egotistic as you obviously are. I GARUNTEE that you have not done anything useful for society and you’re probably still as narcissistic (I hope i’m not using too big of words for your prehistoric mind to comprehend :( ). ‘Women don’t /want/ to have self esteem’?! Would you care explaining your half-assed ideas to me because I’m too smart to understand how tiny microscopic beings think. People like /you/ are the reason society is so fucked up, it is most definitely not women with high self esteem.The sooner you shut the hell up and let the world progress and leave you behind in your sheltered little ant hill you call a mountain, the sooner ‘America will right itself’. I am so offended and sickened by this that I feel the need to use Shakespearian English. Have some insults:
    Thou art a cockered fly bitten nut-hook!
    And my personal favourite:
    Thou hath not so much brain as ear wax.
    I didn’t read your entire ‘essay’ but I am positive that the rest of it is complete and utter trash, just like you.

  • You’re a moron

    You are a fucking piece of scum. I could spend hours ranting about this, but I’ll go ahead and shorten it.
    First off, I don’t know what’s more disgusting: your post, or that people agree with this.
    Second, there are lots of women who have accomplished way more than you ever will. The one who doesn’t deserve respect here is you. I think writing is a shitty “essay” like this is definitely worse than “a fat kid playing video games in his basement.”

    Third,
    ” She views men as a life support system for a penis, an accoutrement, no different than her Manolo Blahniks or snazzy new iPhone. When she gets bored of her boy-toy, she tosses him in the trash and moves on to a newer, shinier model, and if she can get cash and prizes for trading in her old clunker, that’s just the icing on the cake.” Is that not exactly what you’re doing here? You’re acting like women are only here for you to have sex with.

    “When manboobs and feminists say you should be happy that women today are “independent,” this is what they’re arguing for; a world in which romantic relationships are impossible. Where men are nothing more than fashion items to help women show how cool or sophisticated they are. Sorry, but homie don’t play that game. If I’m not the center of a girl’s world, I’m not going to be in her world period.” You are the most arrogant person in the world. I’m sure no girl would want you to be the center of her world, much less in her world.

    “Confidence doesn’t give men erections; vulnerability does.” What are you, a rapist?

    Now, please, go dive off the top of a building into the concrete.

  • Ella

    I am incredibly offended by this. I guess this is further evidence that many men think that the world revolves around them and their sex drive.

  • Amanda

    This makes me so mad. And sad. How can people think of women this way? How can people think of anyone this way? What have we done, other than possess a vagina, to deserve being treated like dogs? ‘Most girls have done nothing to deserve self-esteem’? ‘Insecurity is integral to femininity’? ‘Women don’t want to have high self-esteem’?
    Matt Forney, would you really like to know why anti-depressant drug abuse is skyrocketing in women? It’s not because women are going against their ‘inherent nature’. It’s not because women can’t handle being anywhere other than the kitchen. It’s because we’re trying to be accepted as humans over being claimed as property, and people like you, who would shame us for trying to be where you are now, are making it really fucking difficult.
    You are despicable, sir, for saying that anyone, regardless of gender, does not deserve to feel good about themselves, or be confident, or, God forbid, have a mind and will of their own. How dare you call yourself ‘The man who shouted love at the heart of the world’? You are disrespectful and rude to all people who are not, in your opinion, ubermasculine. People like you are the reason why violence against women exists.
    The key thing I don’t believe you understand is that insecurity is not inherently female. It is inherently human. Everyone is insecure at some point in their lives, regardless of gender. Unfortunately, from a young age, boys are bombarded with self-inflating propaganda that teaches them to choke back their insecurity, where young girls are subtly taught to let that same insecurity overwhelm and drown them. Boys are shamed for insecurity, as I am almost certain you were, if this is truly your perspective on life.
    And for your information, EVERYONE wants and deserves to have self-esteem, and self-respect, female or not. I encourage you instead to embrace your inner girl, and feel compassion and understanding and maybe, just maybe, some respect for women who define their own futures rather than shaming females for their attempt to have the same respect you feel so entitled to.

  • Disgusted Man

    If you as a man need a jittery, terrified girl who doesn’t know any better to validate your masculinity, then you sir are no man. You say that women are demanding respect before it is due, but aren’t you here affording all men a basic respect because of what men are supposedly capable of? Any woman can have the same potential to accomplish as any man, and men and women alike deserve respect regardless of what they’ve accomplished. There is a basic respect you afford every human being just for existing. This is not about charity, it’s about not being an asshole. Being in a relationship isn’t about one member needing the other. It’s about coming together as adults and deciding that you’d like to devote yourself to this person for a while. If your female of choice is a girl who is scared of you and depends on dating you as part of her identity, you are not dating a woman you are dating a child. You pig. I am a heterosexual man and I can confidently say that this kind of thinking makes me physically ill. You sound like a four year old telling the girls on the playground what to do because your idiot father bought into that same lie we’ve told for centuries because primitive societies needed a social structure to create order that has grown and expanded until we find ourselves here today telling each other that men and women are completely different species. Grow up and forget your need for gender dominance. It doesn’t belong in this world anymore.

  • tomato

    you people are so lost in your delusions it would be sad if it weren’t so infuriating.
    I’m glad though that none of you are qualified to make any sort of impact with this twisted view and are generally forgotten in the real world, as close-minded people like yourselves only help to hold the world back from progress.

  • Amanda

    And one more thing, Forney:
    I hope that you get married to a woman, and see just how well your relationship works out when you treat her like she’s property. How honest and open she’ll be when all you’re trying to do is ‘give her what she really wants’.
    I hope you have a daughter, and see what it’s like to have to comfort the girl who gets treated the way you treat women.
    I wish you could spend one day, just one, as a woman, and see how much you like being told to ‘get back in the kitchen’.
    Because honestly, I’m afraid of the damage a person like you can do to the psyche of all the women you encounter. And I think you’d better get some fucking perspective from someone with a vagina before you continue on your sexist tirades.

  • Damsel In Distress

    Oh my gosh, thank you so much, Matt! You’ve solved all of my problems. All I’ve ever wanted is for a narcissistic, sexist, shallow, Prince Charming such as yourself to be attracted to me, instead of my supportive, intelligent boyfriend who treats me as an equal (who needs losers like that, am I right ladies?)! Now I know that I’ve been doing it wrong the whole time; what I really need to do is quit my “fluff” career (since my gender has obviously made my bachelor’s and future law degrees useless) and remind myself how utterly useless I really am! Maybe I should even stop advocating for the rights of rape victims (who are all females; males never, ever get raped, duh), since those phonies only CHOOSE to feel traumatized and violated. Feminism is so silly; I should really just go back to needlepoint.

    Since most of the commenters on this site appear to lack the level of common sense required to comprehend sarcasm, the above statement is the opposite of how I feel.

    PS: sorry for deflating your dick, Matt. Although it doesn’t really seem like you’re going to need it very much after publishing this…

  • Emma

    What the fuck are you even saying? Were you high when you wrote this? Are you ok in the head? Would you like me to rip your dick off and shove it up your ass? Fucking idiot.
    I genuinely feel smarter now that I’ve read your fucking shitty, stupid and misogynistic opinions on females and their self-esteem levels. Go fuck yourself man, your mum should have swallowed you.

  • I Have A Vagina Bro

    I have never laughed harder at anything in my entire life. How the fuck do you know what we women want? Do you have a fucking vagina? I view myself as strong and confident (note the lack of quotation marks) and never once have I popped any pills. Stop generalising you bastard :D FYI, if we didn’t pay you any attention you wouldn’t be able to survive, or whatever it was you said, either. It’s kind of a two way thing, that’s how nature works. Now go build me a shelf whilst I wipe away these tears I cried whilst laughing.

  • Anon

    you know why he hates women so much? probably because he loves men. he’s insecure about it so the only way he can feel big is by putting women down.

  • Kat

    Is this even real? How does anyone justify a single word of this article in their mind? Even if by some bizarre mutation you happen to agree with the opinions, there’s no research, no shred of truth to it. Now I’m plain scared because there are people out there who think of this guy as a truth teller. Fuck.

  • stop

    you’re an all-around piece of shit and I honestly hope no one bothers to listen to what spews out of your mouth

  • wow

    wow more ‘get back in the kitchen’ jokes well arent u creative

    go fuck yourself :)

  • Nasj

    I hope you die alone and I hope you fall in love with a girl and she breaks your heart

  • u suck

    i hate u :)

  • No

    …There’s so many things wrong with your article it’s actually hilarous how closeminded and pathetic people can be. First of all, the people on this website are so horny and messed up, idk what’s with everyone. Second of all, you sound like a complete moron whose just humiliating yourself. But since it’s your PERSONAL website, I’ll leave it at that:)))
    Btw yea, I’m from tumblr. And whoever calling us “obnoxious” need to grow a pair and realize how fucking pathetic this is.

  • Katie

    Fuck you.

  • Max

    RAPE RAPE RAPE!!!!

    [CensorBot sez: Rape Tourette’s, again.]

  • Someone

    You are an idiot. I am a woman, and I don’t need a man. I’ve been doing just fine without one. You see, I have self-esteem. I know that I would never want a man if all were like you. To those comments saying that women mostly gossip, that’s too some women. I hate listening to women or men gossip. I’m not even interested in having a man, so the only ones I talk about are role models. Not close to you though. I don’t like anti-feminists, even if they respect others opinions and beliefs. You? Well I absolutely hate people like you. You believe that? Well fine, be an idiot.

  • Self-Possesed Woman

    This is probably the most misogynistic thing written in the twenty-first century. I think your basic problem here is that YOU do not see women as human beings, not that women (confident or otherwise) are unable to see men as such. Now let me attempt to dismantle each of your arguments, even though you will not listen. First of all, there is a higher percentage of women in college than men, and women consistently do better than school. This you may disagree with because you obviously do not believe in higher education but some of you profane (but correct) commenters might agree with me in that the education system (although it does have its kinks), and especially college, can shape us into richer human beings. This can be true whether one majors in calculus or art history. As to your point about most jobs in the military and government being dominated by men, let me just state that LESS diversity is never a good thing. A world dominated by men will never have a female perspective, and leave 50% of the population under-represented, which can result in a loss of control by women over their own rights as human beings.
    Your second point is that insecurity is integral to femininity. This is demonstrative of a weird idea of what femininity is, but that is not the point. It does not matter what you think femininity is, because women should not have to conform to stereotypical femininity if they do not wish to, just as men do not have conform to stereotypical masculinity. This is a part of our rights as human. In this essay, you imply that women are not human, and while I can go into all of our biological similarities, I would have to use some pretty big words.
    The problem with your third argument is that you cannot claim to speak for 156 million people (just in the United States) because you are not them. Plus, the fact that a lot of female pop musicians choose to sing about men does not speak for the larger population of women. Let me assure you that some of us DO want a 6-figure job and a penthouse, and it is quite attainable. I find it amusing that that scares you. Another thing we DO want is respect as fellow human beings.
    Personally, I can tell you that no man can or will EVER tell me what I want, and I think I can safely say that no man wants to be told what he wants, either, because it is frankly dehumanizing. Your claim that women want to be dominated is dehumanizing, and your inability to view women as human beings makes you a pretty crappy one.

  • Joe

    May I just congratulate you? Because really, no one has succeeded in pissing me off as much as you, and I think that deserves an applause. Do you even know what feminism truly is? And not only your lack of information on the matter, also how disrespectful you are makes me want to vomit. You’re just an egotistical prick that didn’t get enough love from mommy. It’s guys like you that make me remember why I hate this godforsaken place called earth.

  • http://boonce.org/up/shutyourmouth.PNG shut your mouth

    shut your mouth

  • Kate

    You’re turned off by confidence for one simple reason, you’re insecure. As a man who isn’t sure of himself, you need a vulnerable woman to reassure you that you’re superior. Let me tell you one thing, if I see this for the senseless male bravado this is, I’m not the only one. We have proved time and time again that women are equally capable of doing anything a man can do, so what are you missing? To be fair, it must be excruciatingly intimidating realizing that not only is there a great deal of far more intelligent men you can lose your job to, but an army of brilliant women as well. Misogyny isn’t an attractive quality and I can definitely see why you would need to manipulate women to get them to sleep with you. The only fucking “shrew pleading for taming” is you.

  • http://boonce.org/up/dontuagree.PNGhttp://boonce.org/up/dontuagree.PNG dont you agree

    i think i’m clearly superior to you

  • A.J. Crowley

    See, angel? Humans are terrible just on their own. [Cough] Spanish Inquisition. [Cough]

  • Kel

    You’ve got to be kidding, right?

    You are no more special for having a Y chromosome than a woman is for having an extra X.
    You do not deserve respect simply because you exist.
    “Femininity,” as you called it, is a male concept. Femininity is just the quality of being a woman–Strong, weak, dependent, independent, or anything in between. The fact it has been transformed into a concept where all girls must be simpering idiots who “need” men is almost as ridiculous as the majority of your argument.

    Besides that, where would we be without women like Marie Curie, Rosalind Franklin, or Rita Levi-Montalicini? All women, all made lasting contributions to modern science. Not to mention the writers.

    Don’t be such a misogynist. It just makes you sound like a complete and total imbecile.

  • BK

    This article is so offensive I don’t even know where to start! First the media around us is putting our self esteem down! Their making us think that people who are anorexic are how we should look. The media isn’t supporting the normal, their calling people who aren’t even fat, fat! Second, having a college degree is NOT A STRIKE AGIANST US GIRLS! It takes hard work and dedication to earn a degree in anything, even if it’s a degree in the arts. And by saying we shouldn’t have a college degree is basically saying we are too dumb to make our own way in the world. That we “need” a man! Of course most women want a man but they don’t “NEED” one! You are also saying women are inferior to men which is NOT TRUE! I know a WOMAN nero-scientist and she is probably smarter than you will ever be!! Many women have changed the way the world is today and helped make it a better place, we are not inferior! Third, you said that we don’t WANT SELF-ESTEEM!! That is a lie! I am a woman and I want to be respected and treated equally and that has never stopped anyone from ever being in a relationship with me. In fact, that is one of the factors why men are interested in me. All my guy friends say they hate insecure girls, and they want a women who can take charge and stand up for herself, not just quivering and hiding behind their back! And for your information, us Ladies, do want the 6 figure job, the masters degree, and the awesome house! Your just blinded by your biased views to see it!

  • okay

    youre literally STUPID. you just arent smart.bye

  • Smart Girl

    Excuse me, sir. Did you know that in the womb we are all female until the Y chromosome kicks in? Yeah so I think you better not get too confident before you deflate your own dick. You disgusting, misogynistic, narcissistic, stupid ass, dick face. I’m embarrassed I live on the same planet as people like you.

  • Ellen

    I don’t think you have met enough female people. Your world view is composed of a broad set of ill informed sweeping generalisations and hysterical ‘independent women are mean!’ shrieking. Calm down dear, take a deep breath. What do you really care if some women choose to live a certain way? Chill, don’t be so weird.

  • An actual person.

    I feel sorry for the woman who birthed you.

  • DISGUSTED

    In case you didnt notice, you hit tumblr, you asshole. Get deserve all you have coming at you.

  • Sam

    I hope you all spend eternity barefoot in a desert of Legos.

  • Myka

    Okay, first off, YOU ARE A MASSIVE BAG OF DICKS. You’re are a fucking retard, I can’t even begin to comprehend what was going on in your head when you wrote this. This pisses me off so much, I swear I could fucking strangle you with your inflated ego. I am a insecure female, with a boyfriend, Yes, I find myself unattractive, yes I put myself and my work down, but I wouldn’t want a boy like you on my back. The fact that you find it cute is disgusting. The self esteem of women goes down because of people like you. A strong independent woman is good woman to be around, maybe they would help you with your issues. Women can do things for themselves, we don’t need men to cling to or have them do our jobs. We wouldn’t die off if the entire population of men stopped caring. Feminists are better off than you are, we are strong, and willing to fight for our cause. Sure, i’ll make you a sandwich, and then I’ll stuff it down your incessant pie-hole. The fact that people still show you respect is a terrible thing. Hell, without us, you would never survive.
    Second, Rape culture. Two words, makes every women cringe. No, we don’t enjoy it, you think we do, but if you say we do, we have every right to shove your nose into your skull. We would survive if men stopped caring, we wouldn’t complain or stop everything until we were all raped and or dead. You disgust me. Being a victim of sexual abuse, you can’t tell me it’s fine, get over it. I will bitch slap you back to next week. I may be insecure, but I will slap a bitch if I need to. We aren’t asking for it, we don’t want it, we don’t enjoy it. Men think they can take over us, but they are powerless. Women are shamed and raped, beaten, and used as slaves. But if Satan needs permission to enter a body, by Hell, you do too.
    I attend a high school that is the second best in my state. It is an early college high school that partners with a college to bring us the education we need. I am pursuing a degree in Biomedical Engineering. I would like to become a veterinarian when I graduate. Is this what you men call a “useless fluff job”? Are we even important enough to request our self esteem or is that asking way to much of you?
    Signed, Myka Grey, 16.

  • CutAToesCone

    This cannot be real

  • Becca L.

    Is this serious. Do you seriously believe there is a basis behind your argument? Well formulated opinions do not make facts, and it would be far-fetched to even attempt to call your argument well formulated. A woman’s self esteem has nothing to do with whether or not she is interested in a man, it comes from her own self-acceptance.
    And for you to prefer insecure women to those who are more sure of themselves just establishes that you want someone with weak spots, whom you can tear down whenever you feel like your own dick is a little bit too small. Reevaluate your life.

  • anon

    I feel really bad for you because you obviously feel like the only way you’re going to get a woman is if she has NO SELF ESTEEM and NEEDS you.
    Then again, I doubt you’re ever going to get a woman after this article.

  • Ren

    Jesus christ what the hell is wrong with you, you fucking moron

  • nigger

    ok first of all, i actually might think you’re better off going gay because no woman is EVER going to want to be in your presence again, and second, this is literally, and utterly disgusting. you should be ashamed of yourself. do us all a favor and kill yourself, you useless retard.. yeah i said it, you’re actually retarded, like im pretty sure there is actually something wrong with your brain.. maybe see a doctor??

  • someone with a brain

    anyone who supports you and your sexist mindset deserves the worst. you’re a misogynistic moron. you would be fucking lucky to have a woman even look your way. it’s pathetic how dismissive you have to be about rape culture because you’re afraid women will start standing up for themselves and defending their bodies…but i guess that WOULD be bad for you, since the only way a woman would ever be with you is by forced non-consensual sex. if i didn’t hate you so much i would almost feel bad for you.

  • dean

    i really hope this is a joke
    like it’s so stupid there’s just gotta be no other possibility, right?
    gimme a break.

  • Female

    1/2
    This article is so offensive I don’t even know where to start! First the media around us is putting our self esteem down! Their making us think that people who are anorexic are how we should look. The media isn’t supporting the normal, their calling people who aren’t even fat, fat! Second, having a college degree is NOT A STRIKE AGIANST US GIRLS! It takes hard work and dedication to earn a degree in anything, even if it’s a degree in the arts. And by saying we shouldn’t have a college degree is basically saying we are too dumb to make our own way in the world. That we “need” a man! Of course most women want a man but they don’t “NEED” one! You are also saying women are inferior to men which is NOT TRUE! I know a WOMAN nero-scientist and she is probably smarter than you will ever be!! Many women have changed the way the world is today and helped make it a better place, we are not inferior!

  • Female

    2/2
    Third, you said that we don’t WANT SELF-ESTEEM!! That is a lie! I am a woman and I want to be respected and treated equally and that has never stopped anyone from ever being in a relationship with me. In fact, that is one of the factors why men are interested in me. All my guy friends say they hate insecure girls, and they want a women who can take charge and stand up for herself, not just quivering and hiding behind their back! And for your information, us Ladies, do want the 6 figure job, the masters degree, and the awesome house! Your just blinded by your biased views to see it!

  • Male000

    Corresponding article referencing this as evidence: Why Patriarchal Assholes, Whether Male or Female Should Not Have Right to Freedom of Speech, by Everyone Who Has Half a Brain. That’s right, if you offend me, you shouldn’t have the right to freedom of speech.

    [CensorBot sez: Tolerance strikes again.]

  • CJ

    what the actual fuck is wrong with you? You are seriously lacking very many of the qualities that make someone a thinking and feeling human being if you are completely serious about this garbage you’ve just vomited into the internet

  • Kevin

    “confidence doesn’t give men erections, vulnerability does” Actually, I think you mean rapists. Vulnerability certainly turns on rapists and potential rapists, such as yourself. RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE.

    Also, as a man with a vagina, go deepthroat a cactus you worthless excuse for a human being.

    [CensorBot sez: Trannies with Rape Tourette’s. It just gets better.]

  • a feminist

    is this a joke? am i being punk’d? is this a real thing? did you actually take the time to write this? please tell me i am just not seeing the “jk” you wrote at the end of this piece.

  • H

    I despise every word of this

  • Yeah it’s me

    Amen brother.

  • John

    You’re a misogynist idiot.

  • a submissive woman.

    Can I just say something? I think you keep saying women need low self esteem, but what they really need to be is submissive. That’s a woman’s real nature, not low self esteem. You say they need low self esteem and women want to dominated, but that doesn’t go hand in hand. If you have a woman with low self esteem, that’s not fun. People with low self esteem can be whiners and thrive in self pity, they can not function too. You want a woman who is going to cook and clean for you? Then she needs a bit of confidence so she isn’t so depressed she cant do anything. If women want to be dominated it means they want to be submissive. I myself am submissive, I however do not have low self esteem. I’d say I have an average self esteem. I bet if I think about it I could tell you good things about me, but I don’t and I won’t. I don’t want to ever seem over confident or self obsessed, in fact I fear coming off as that. One thing I will say is that I’m not an idiot. Just because I’m submissive doesn’t mean I’ll submit to anyone just because they ask. Do you automatically trust a slut not cheat? I don’t automatically trust a man not abuse his power over me. I need trust first, and its not the man’s job to “earn” or “prove” trust. Its just my job to get to know him and determine it myself and make the choice if he is fit for my trust. Its not his job to go out of his way to change for me, just I wouldn’t go out of my way to change for him. That being said, a man will learn that if he treats women a certain way, he’ll stop getting women. I’m not saying put her up on a pedestal and treat her like a princess, and I’m not saying I want equality. I don’t want to be treated like a man because I’m not, I’m not asking for equal respect as man, I’m looking to be respected as a human being. No one wants to be physically abused (though I must say in certain scenarios I love it, but that is for the bedroom, and is my personal preference, and I have my limits that should be respected). Its a human right to feel safe. Some men abuse their power horribly and I think that even you could agree no woman should be subjected to that. Woman with low self esteem give into those relationships easily, submissive women don’t. Though women are submissive in nature, not all are, there always genetic fuck ups. So generalizing about, women as a whole doesn’t really work either. I think you have some valid points about this, but your presentation of it so far off that you make yourself out to look like a woman-abusing ignorant narcissist. I don’t think you are at all and to be truthful from a submissive woman’s stand point, you’re demeanor is very attractive. But I don’t speak for most, I speak for myself. So to sum up my long rant, women don’t need low self esteem, they need average self esteem and to embrace their submissive nature, they also need the rights and respect of a human being.

  • Haley

    1. Most girls have done nothing to deserve respect.
    Everyone on this earth deserves respect as another human being. If I respect you, you should respect me. Respect does not mean worship or that the person deserves abundant praise, it means they deserve a place in the world and the opportunity to become whatever the hell they want. Respect isn’t earned but it can be taken away. For example, I respect that as a person you are all entitled to your opinions. However, as a girl I can and will take your misogyny as an insult making me out to not be respectable and lose respect for you. Which for the record, I won a math competition at 8, got a perfect score on a college entrance exam at 15, and I head an FRC team at 16.

    2. Insecurity is integral to femininity
    Just as arrogance is integral to masculinity, right? If every girl is meant to be insecure than every guy is meant to be the opposite by your definition, I’m assuming. And while it is one of your traits, do you have the right to say that because someone has a penis they have to be arrogant. Or because someone has a vagina they have to be insecure?

    3. Women don’t want to have high self-esteem.
    Do you know how many of my friends tell me they wish they had high self-esteem? The only reason girls don’t feel good about themselves is because there are jerks in this world, like you, who make them feel as though they’ll be more acceptable if they feel good about themselves.

    Another thing. You make a point of saying girls should be insecure because it’s “attractive.” The funny thing is, girls who have high self-esteem don’t give a shit. I got told if I was more submissive I would have a boyfriend. I don’t need one. My self-worth is more important than the erection of a moron like you. If a guy is worth my attention, he won’t be scared of my ego. He will like my ego. And believe it or not, most guys say they like that I don’t need someone to pat my back and tell me I’m worth something. It’s less drama and less stress.

    By the way CensorBot, it’s cute how you tell a girl she couldn’t sue someone over the right to free speech when you are literally a device used to stop the right to free speech.

  • it doesn’t fucking matter

    Go to hell. You don’t deserve a woman. Or anyone for that matter.

  • You are what is wrong with the world.

    I cannot put into words how disgusting and profoundly despicable this article is, as well as the fact that people are agreeing with your opinion. It’s shameful that people like you still exist in the 21st century. You say that “confident women are incapable of viewing men as human beings” yet you’re stating that women are less than human and should be treated as such. Your argument is wrong and flawed on so many levels. I could go on and disprove all your pathetic points, but idiots like you are not worth my time.
    Kill yourself. No woman in her right mind would ever want to have anything to do with you anyway.

  • The voice of truth

    Wow I pity you and your parents. Every little word that you typed made you sound more and more like an idiot. You do realize that women don’t live to stroke your dick and have sex with you right? Like it is almost like women are people. What a concept. Give this man an award.

  • Sam

    I think you might be a moron.

  • Stop

    Absolutely disgusting. How are so many people actually okay with this? This article is just ignorance disguised as a well-worded essay.

  • Confused

    Honestly, I can’t tell – it’s satire, right?

  • James

    You suck as a human being. Shrivel up and die, you stupid piece of shit.

  • anon

    pls shove a sandpaper covered dildo up your ass, then jump off a bridge

  • Mela

    This makes haunting reading. I should have remembered, when I decided that I wasn’t going to exist for the purpose of being an object for men, that my confidence is ‘…an attribute that is at best superfluous and at worst prevents women from fulfilling their natural biological and social functions.’ I should have remembered my place. I should have remembered that as a woman, I have no chance of equal rights. I should have remembered, when I started my degree, that as an achievement it was a ‘joke’. I should have remembered that there were people like you in the world ready to set me down at every turn, simply because I am a woman.

  • I don’t even know

    I’d like to start off by saying that I am not a feminist, nor do I desire to be some strong independent woman. I’m a fairly attractive young female yet all I want to do in life is have children and raise children and have a spouse that makes me happy and I can make happy. I know that I’ll be able to get my dominance power rush through being in charge of my children and sexually with my husband.

    These gender politics are pointless. Personally I believe that it is a privilege that women get to bear children and since we have that ability it shouldn’t be an after thought. The only problem I have with “confident working women” is that they are too caught up in their work that they don’t raise their children the way they should. I am in no way insecure or under the belief that women are inferior to men but I think they’ve both got it wrong.
    Yes, everyone should be allowed to do what they want, but if you men want us to be submissive and not such go-getters don’t go telling us that! Women are stubborn and articles like this just fuel the fire. If we want to get our simple jobs so we feel sufficient, let us. You can believe what you want but voicing your opinion will only make us think harder.
    I think every woman is insecure. It’s assumed that the ones who get those six digit jobs who don’t need a man are confident and absurdly feminist, when really they probably just did it because they feared they wouldn’t get a husband. I am still in high school but after my boyfriend and I came to the conclusion that we are perfect for each other, agree on everything, and are very good at diffusing any bad feelings, I found myself not worrying so much. Growing up I always assumed I would have to become a clinical psychologist or doctor or something because otherwise I just wouldn’t be monetarily secure enough to be happy.

    As I spend more and more time in this happy, brilliant relationship(yes, I have wanted dominance but only when it came to sexuality. Dominance in other situations upset me.) I came to realize that I should just have a small safety net(planning to go into elementary education) because I’ll have him to help things along. I don’t have to freak out and become some CEO of a company I have no passion for.

    I live to seek happiness. I feel the instinctual urge to have a home and a husband and children. I feel that with these things, I can be happy.

    Just let these women do what they want. Writing things like this that may seem logical and collected to you may inspire a few nutjobs.

    It’s okay to want certain things from women, but don’t be an ass about it and certainly don’t let them know.

    And just for the record, I enjoy being dominant. I like the power. Not all the time. I enjoy it just as much as I like being dominated. It’s an adrenaline rush. Both are. It’s all about the adrenaline and the feelings.

    But mostly happiness.

  • Anonymous

    So, I’m assuming you’re single?

  • Eliza

    This was extremely interesting to read. Of course, as a woman, I didn’t understand half the words you used, but I got my boyfriend to dumb it down for me! It seems that what you’re essentially saying is that, not only are women with confidence are unattractive, they don’t have any right to that confidence in the first place!! And naturally, I must agree. Women don’t do anything, do they! I mean, sure, a woman can get a PhD or MD, but that’s just her way of being “a conformist who thinks that credentials are a substitute for knowledge and experience”, to use your words. I’m sure that when YOU went to college, you knew resolutely that your education was entirely worthless and that everything IMPORTANT that you did would happen after school! Oh, who am I kidding? You must not have gone to college because it’s so pointless! And all the women who graduated top of their class and are successful business women, professors, and doctors just “squeak{ed} through an institution of higher learning”, right? And not to mention the jobs that women hold, such as “government bureaucrats, human resources and various other makework positions”, which are, of course, all entirely useless! It’s a good thing we have you men to “keep the country running” as “tradesmen, miners, {and} farmers”. How would we survive day to day without you!!! God, thank you so much, Matt, for sharing your AMAZING opinion with us all!

  • ugh

    Are you kidding me? Please let this be an idiotic prank you all think is funny.

    A HUMAN IS A HUMAN, GENDER SHOULD NOT DETERMINE HOW MUCH RESPECT SOMEONE GETS. I’m guessing you guys all dislike the lgbt community then as well.

    I’m so glad you won’t be able to convince a woman to have your children, thank heavens. We wouldn’t want you spreading this disrespectful drivel everywhere.

  • is this even real?

    This is so bad I can’t even tell if it is real…I am in shock…

  • Hailey

    I’ve made it clear that I can formulate a sentence but beyond that you should really question my level of intelligence.

    [CensorBot sez: You is dummy.]

  • Sarah

    For starters, you’re an asshole. A talented writer, sure, but shouldn’t writing be left to the weak, insecure women who can’t do anything else? Let’s face it. The only reason you wouldn’t want to bang a confident girl is because a girl who respects herself would never bang you. So what you’re saying, in that verbose flood of diarrhea of the mouth, is that a woman respecting her inherent dignity as a human being, being proud of herself, or holding her head up and expecting the respect that we ALL deserve is a turn off? If that’s what you’re saying, we have a problem because that is about the stupidest thing I have ever heard. In fact, you go so far as to say that “confident women can’t view men as human beings.” So you’d rather have a woman who doesn’t view herself as a human being deserving of your respect? BS. You’d throw her away as fast as you claim a confident woman would ditch you. Which you deserve. Relationships are built on mutual respect, and you can’t have proper respect for another person without first recognizing that you both have inherent dignity as human beings and deserve that respect. So a woman should have enough self esteem so that she’s “not suicidal, ” you say, but not too much that she be intimidating to you? Excuse me. You are the strong, confident male here. So why, tell me, is it wrong for women to respect themselves? Why is it wrong for them to realize that they have rights and dignity, just like you? Why?

  • a girl who wants to shank you

    Wow. Not only are you a misogynistic, narcissistic piece of shit, but you also enforce rape culture. RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE.

    [CensorBot sez: Goddamn, how did all these kids with Rape Tourette’s slip past the mental health system.]

  • you’re disgusting

    You’re fucking disgusting. This is so disrespectful. I hope you never get a woman after this because this whole thing is a disgusting piece of trash.
    This isn’t the fucking seventeenth century you piece of misogynist shit.

  • Gwen

    Oh hey, look at this UNMITIGATED DISGUSTING SCUMBAG…. I can’t even believe that this is a real thing that someone believes. Honestly, go fuck yourself and your uneducated, delusional, worthless idea of what women “should be.”

  • The Granite Prince

    No.

  • Dean T.

    Wow. I can’t even begin to believe why anyone would believe this bullshit. But it does make me feel better that I am 99% sure you are a single low-life with no life goals. You need your brain checked, man, because this is fucked up.

  • that girl the boys like for being strong

    you are just like my boyfriend, except the exact opposite. If I show any sign of being vulnerable, insecure or emotionally weak he’s erection deflates. He only likes it when I’m confidence, independent and strong, which isn’t always the best because honestly who isn’t a little bit of both from time to time right? like does anyone actually exist in a perpetual state of only showing one form of emotion or personality traits… maybe? I certainly don’t tho.

  • wow

    How utterly pathetic. I don’t know whether to laugh at you, and all of those who agreed with you, or to pity you. This is just… sad. I honest to god am having a hard time taking in the bullshit and stupidity exhibited in this essay. Again, it is simply… pathetic. Good luck with life. Doubt you’ll get far. Or married. At least, I hope you don’t; You would probably be abusive, and no one deserves to deal with that kind of shit.

  • Sensability

    Do you not have one ounce of common sense in your head? Of course you don’t. Considering your mother is probably a woman (Unless you were conceived in the rectum of another man; for the piece of shit you are, he should have flushed the toilet)… Are you sure you should be talking about women this way? Because you have done nothing to earn respect and after a signal boost for your page, a lot of women are going to know what you’ve said. So, if you want to have sex again, I highly suggest that you change your tone. Or ya know… Go to a local misogynists of America meeting with your blow up doll.

  • idiots

    Know what I see by reading the first sentence?
    Just some ignorant fucker on his high horse who think women can’t and are not slowed to be happy so they are easier to rape. RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPE.

    [CensorBot sez: God damn, it’s like a Rape Tourette’s CONVENTION out here!]

  • MIKKI

    your carbon footprint is not worth one fucking penny of your sorry ass so called life.

  • anon

    This is… Kind of sick. I feel sorry for the woman who get’s stuck with you.

    I don’t see how this has ANYTHING to do with “love”, as your blog subtitle proposes.

  • ughghgh

    ugh everything about this stupid article hurts. if a women wants to be confident she can be confident okay. I could literally rant about this for days but I won’t do that.

  • Bryn

    As a young female wholly interested in joining the FBI or NYPD, I find this entirely offensive. I’ll even concede that sure, I’ll make sandwiches for anyone. I like making sandwiches, and I like being classically “feminine” sometimes. But arguing against women LIKING themselves? Against having self-esteem? This is the cruelest and most disturbing portion of this entire article. I have suffered from three years of clinical depression from lack of self-esteem, and it is torture. No human being should ever want or try to wish that upon someone else. I cannot condemn the author of this article, because he has absolutely no idea what he is talking about.

  • really?

    WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?!?! Who the hell does this guy think he is telling woman what they want and what they deserve. This man is the most appauling human being I have ever witnessed. This is utterly shameful and disgusting. You are a complete piece of shit! how dar you? how fucking dare you!

  • fuck you, you dont deserve to know my name

    For the sake of my gender I hope we all can find enough strength in our selves to resist your sexiness. Oh wait a minute, you are not a super human sex god man. I can guarantee that if you are anything remotely similar to the way you express your self in this “essay” as you act in real life that any woman (confident or not) deserves a man a thousand times better than you. Girls are taught from the day they are born from society that they aren’t attractive unless they look a totally unrealistic image of models they see in adds, on tv, and in the movies. Thus, setting us up for a lifetime of hatred for our bodies and ourselves. So I highly doubt you put any effort into informing your self before you decided that it would be a good idea to write this goddamn piece of shit. CONGRATULATIONS, YOU ARE A DISGUSTING ASS HOLE WHO JUST PISSED OFF THE ENTIRE FEMALE POPULATION AND IF THERE IS ONE THING WORSE THAN A CONFIDENT WOMEN (ACCORDING TO YOU) ITS A PISSED OFF WOMAN. If you are a girl and you are reading this, you are a beautiful woman that has the ability to do and be anything she wants.

  • Rhiannon

    You are a repulsive, twisted human being. I sincerely hope you die alone. Soon.

  • Hank

    Wow, I’ve never seen so many sexists in one place.

  • You Fucking Asshole

    You are a despicable human being and I hope that your mother regrets putting you on this earth.

  • Emily

    What kind of sick joke is this?

  • Amanda

    All I have to say in response to this shit article, is that I’d rather love myself than spend my life feeling inferior to everyone I meet. That doesn’t mean I’ll let myself go, or lose my ability to strive – It will however make me HAPPY. Do you know what happiness is, sir? It’s that thing you can’t obtain; your lack of that thing being the inspiration for this article.

  • Sam

    This is by far one of the most ignorant pieces of writing I have ever read. Your arguments are painfully weak and you kept on using circular reasoning to support them. I’m glad I read it, though. It has made me all the more thankful to be educated.

  • Fellow male

    You realize by posting this you are just proving feminists’ points that sexism still exists in this world, right?

  • A Woman

    I just don’t understand how you can be an educated person and still believe this. I’m so sad for someone like you, pathetic and just plain idiotic. Anyone who agrees with this article is not entitled to their own opinion, because their opinion in wrong. I am so disgusted.

  • Matt Ferrantino

    Hm….I need to think carefully about how to answer this.

    The few good parts of your argument, the ones that AREN’T senseless bigoted trash, are….almost tempting to buy into, but TRUST me, this is NOT the message we need to be spreading.

    First of all, a lot of what little I agreed with is tied up with “We need to stop teaching ALL of our kids that they’re entitled to stuff they are not entitled to”.

    From the top then:

    “I love insecure women”== to be perfectly honest, I do too. They are cute and cuddly and I just want to hug them and make all their tears go away. It is perfectly natural to want to nurture the weak and love the helpless. This is what the phenomenon of ”cuteness” is, and it’s why we love babies, and possibly the only reason anyone would ever put up with babies or puppies in the first place: because they are weak, and we are strong, we wish to nurture them and make them stronger. This is something that, let me give you a clue about: In your ideal world, probably only mothers would do for babies. Female Mothers. Those women, the mothers, would have to be extravagantly strong women to be able to care for children. I am a man, and I would enjoy caring for children, as I would enjoy caring for an insecure girlfriend, but one day beautiful insecure girls must put on their Big Girl Panties and become the kind of Strong Women that make excellent Mothers. Women that feel like Men…..you know, confident. For a less derogatory way of putting it that doesn’t sound chauvinist: Women ought to be able to feel like Lions too, not just Men, at some point in their lives.

    Let’s look at your next point:
    “Whenever a girl I’m talking to brags about how she’s “confident” and “strong,” I can feel my dick deflating like a punctured tire. I’d still bang her, of course; a repellent personality doesn’t negate the fact that she has a slammin’ body. But a crucial part of the attraction is lost. I’d be less offended if she ripped a fart in my face.”

    My response to that is…..uhhhh….Fuck You? :P The closest thing I come to something that’s not a commentary on how much I hate your opinion here, is that Princess Fiona from Shrek farted all the damn time and that was awful and gross but also funny and fun XD Um, only strong, not-insecure women would be okay with being gross around their boyfriend. :P

    Alright, next section (A long one)

    “The idea that women should have self-esteem or need it, beyond a low baseline to ensure they don’t commit suicide or become psycho stalkers, is one of the most disastrous social engineering experiments of the modern era. A woman with excessive confidence is like a man with a vagina. It’s an attribute that is at best superfluous and at worst prevents women from fulfilling their natural biological and social functions.
    In order for America to right itself, there needs to be a massive and concerted war on female self-esteem.
    From the moment they’re old enough to speak, girls in America are bombarded with propaganda that artificially boosts their self-esteem. They’re told that they’re shpecial and you-nique because they have an extra X chromosome. They’re told that they’re smart, that they can do anything, that they deserve respect merely for existing. They’re encouraged to derive self-worth not from their inherent feminine nature but from their college degree, their job or the other illusory trappings of achievement in a man’s world.
    Combine this with the white-knighting tendencies of fathers and the sexual attention that attractive girls already get from puberty forward and you have a complete social meltdown in the making.
    Here are my reasons why girls should be discouraged from being confident.”

    If you changed your accusations about society from targeting JUST FEMALES, and extended it to include MALE TEENAGERS as well, well SOME of your criticisms are almost valid, like how our self-worth shouldn’t be determined from our college degrees, and to be honest in a lot of cases dudes and gals just get hyper-pampered by society, they’re all treated like Children, WITH AN EXTRA ASSUMPTION THAT THEY NEVER HAVE TO GROW UP. And that’s bad. Personally, I would sort of enjoy a society where women never felt the NEED to grow up if they could rely that the Male society would ALWAYS take care of them, but the FACTS are, no, men ARE not, and NEVER WILL be, NEARLY reliable enough for that to be an actually safe life-plan for women. In my ideal society, women would feel COMFORTABLE in being strong as an OPTION, but in the REAL WORLD, –all– guys and girls have to be READIED for the WORST and told that because they can’t trust everyone to be the adults of societies, “if you want something done right you better do it yourself”– and as a result we need to raise Strong Men AND Strong Women to be there for the inevitable Weak Men and Weak Women who need Strong Friends and Family to help them. If nothing else, the ordinary roles of Father and Mother in a Good Society require both the Man and the Woman to be Strong at Something for it to be a good home. They don’t have to be strong at the SAME things, and they don’t have to be divided into ”ALL MEN DO THIS” or ”ALL WOMEN DO THAT”….BUT, there needs to be a basic function performed by Men in Society, based on each individual man’s strengths, and the same should go for women. IE- they both need to be Strong at SOMETHING, and ENCOURAGED to feel CONFIDENT about that.

    I really don’t have time to do this for your whole article, but I skimmed some of it XP

    I think that the Feminists you attack and the people you accuse of being “Strong Independent Women tm” have some serious problems with them and are not as Strong as they think they are (certainly I don’t think they get EXTREMELY strong reading Jezebel :/ )

    But look– in short, I would LOVE it if all the insecure girls became XENA: WARRIOR BOSS ASS BITCH over night :P It’s completely okay for a woman to be confident…..but….in terms of you saying that something along the lines of ”strength is fought for, strength is earned?” yeah. I kind of agree that nobody who isn’t battle-hardened by life’s difficulties is really strong, and that treating a Cadet as if they’re already a 5-star General BEFORE they’ve done anything isn’t the best of plans for child-raising….BUT!!!!!

    BEING FEMALE DOES NOT EXCLUDE YOU FROM THE OPPORTUNITY TO BE A WARRIOR :P

    I would say that Every Woman who has given birth and tried to raise her child has actually DONE something, FO SHOW, worthy of recognition, and that many women that seek careers have also done something REAL….but yes, there is a dangerous branch of feminism that should be discouraged.

    BARELY 1-5% of what you said was actually right though, as I find the idea of Super Powerful Strong Confidant Woman fucking sexy as hell. :P Yeah scary…..that’s a bit of why it’s sexy xP I don’t find it inappropriate that some women should choose that kind of life….because goddamn it, WE NEED THEM AS MUCH AS THEY NEED US.

  • lmao

    see the cis male in his natural habitat. nature is amazing. Hey look, I used “cis” unironically. I’m an idiot.

    [CensorBot sez: Yes.]

  • Anon

    Have fun not getting any women.

  • Antinio

    F**k you. Who the hell do you think you are?
    A woman gave birth to you. She gave you life.
    She’s the reason why you are alive. And I’m sorry for your mother because you are such a disgusting person and you deserve every hate comment.

  • DaniJo

    This essay sickens me and it is the most awful and untrue article I’ve ever had the displeasure of reading.
    You’re a sexist fuck and I hope you die in a hole, jacking off to your stupid views of women, you narcissistic asshole.

  • girl

    “most girls have done nothing to deserve self esteem” you have done nothing to deserve breathing

  • Lizzy

    I am absolutely disgusted by this article. Everything about it is wrong. And I am absolutely disgusted by how many people are commenting and agreeing with you. I don’t understand why you think this, but frankly I don’t care. I am a woman, and if I ever met a man who thought this, I would immediately lose all my respect for him and never take a word he said seriously again.

    Let’s start from the beginning, shall we?

    1. MOST GIRLS HAVE DONE NOTHING TO DESERVE SELF ESTEEM.
    Um, have you been hibernating since colonial times or something?
    Women accomplish just as much as men do. If you’re taking this from a historical standpoint, stop. The only reason women couldn’t accomplish as much five hundred years ago was that men like you were in charge. Are you seriously trying to argue that women have never done anything of importance?
    Rosa Parks
    Cleopatra
    Queen Elizabeth
    Hatshepsut
    Hellen Keller
    Clara Barton
    Ameila Earhart
    Marie Curie
    Need I list more? I think I’ve made my point.
    And also to say that we don’t deserve to feel good about ourselves is absolute crap. Do you know what females go through daily? Having periods. Needing to wear uncomfortable bras all the time to be socially acceptable. Being expected to wear makeup and have your hair all nice and be fashionable or else we get judged severely. Shaving practically our entire body. Sexism and abuse like this. And more. And what do guys have to do? Nothing. You can literally just get up in the morning, throw on a shirt and go to work, and you earn respect for that, while we are constantly criticized. I think the contrary of what you think is true: Men don’t have to deal with a thing that we do, and therefore we deserve more credit for that and the right to keep our heads up for enduring this world.
    And about the jobs, without women, society would most certainly collapse. How did you get into the amazing high position of your masculine job that we inferior female beings should be in awe of and bow down to? Through education. And who taught you? The majority of teachers are women. If we lost our jobs, education would die, and therefore would all jobs. Also, women make up the majority of nurses. Have you or someone you love ever been to the emergency room? If it weren’t for the nurses, you or that person would be dead right now.
    2. INSECURITY IS INTEGRAL TO FEMININITY
    This makes me laugh, actually. Let’s take this from a scientific/evolutional perspective. Back when early humans were nomadic hunter-gatherers, females were dominant. They foraged and produced the majority of the food the bands ate. They also invented speech. Without females, today we would still be monkeys. We would not have adapted into intelligent beings able to speak and write. So to say that insecurity is in the biological nature of a female is completely illogical. Now if you’re saying that from your point of view females are only attractive if they are insecure, well that’s your sick twisted view. It is not scientific at all, so stop embarrassing yourself by saying it is when you obviously haven’t studied history. The fact that you only like insecure women suggests that you are insecure and need us to make you feel superior. You are intimidated by us when we act confident, but you will not admit it.
    As far as mental illness goes, studies have shown that men have them as much as women do, they are just less likely to seek help. Do your research before posting something like this. You are embarrassing yourself by pretending to know what you’re talking about.
    3. WOMEN DON’T WANT TO HAVE HIGH SELF ESTEEM
    You are not a woman. Therefore, you cannot speak for what women want, especially when it’s obvious that you never listen to their opinions and instead just view women as sexual objects.
    Once again, I’m a woman. I like having high self esteem. Stop talking now.
    Can we talk about how you see rape? The only thing you said about it here was that women keep changing its definition to get shame off themselves. How about men start feeling ashamed about raping women for once? It’s wrong, and the fact that you casually mention it here with the implication that it is a man’s right shocks me. I am thoroughly disgusted with you.
    One more thing. You say prescription drugs are the only thing that gets women through without cutting themselves? Here’s where my biggest problem with this article lies.
    Prescription drugs do not work. This has been shown by scientific studies. Sometimes they do, but rarely or maybe by placebo, but they are OVERPERSCRIBED, not overused. They make things worse more often than they do better.

    I have personal experience with the negative effects of drugs for mental illnesses. For you to talk about these kinds of issues in this way, I take personal offense to. Don’t you DARE speak like this, because many people have been through similar things that I have. To say that all women try to cut themselves, and to talk about that as if it makes women lesser people, is atrocious. You obviously have never been through any kind of this hardship and therefore you don’t have any right to talk about it and voice your opinion like it is a fact.

    Have a nice day, and remember that you really deserve the love and respect your girlfriend has to give you right now with your misogynistic attitude. That’s what really attracts women: misogyny, at least according to you. So good luck with that.

  • http://mattforney.com/ Matt Forney

    All the butthurt from the Tumblr pansies is causing my servers to melt down, so I’ll be unplugging comments for the next 48 hours… or until you crybabies calm down, whichever comes first.

    BTW, if you’re wondering why your comment hasn’t been approved, it’s because there are over 250 comments in my queue and I don’t have time to look at them all right now.

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  • hmm

    Totally true. Not going to lie, I am independent and all the stuff you say is a facade for a deeper need to be back in the kitchen. However, I use the doe eyes and innocence with vulnerability to rope in whichever man I may want at that time and when I’m done, it’s like taking out the garbage, quick and painless. So, in that sense, you nailed it. However, I like doing this so I don’t think I’ll be making him a sandwich anytime soon but it was a nice thought anyway.

    I actually do think you could handle a independent and confident woman, I just don’t think your mug is hot enough to warrant one’s attention. Is that maybe the real issue? I don’t know, I read this on my iphone so I’m probably screwing up the context.

  • ThomasHT

    Oh, because the achievements of man have been so great? Because females aren’t actually capable of anything real? They just fill useless bureaucratic roles? Because being a MOTHER isn’t a job in it of itself? Because what, females don’t mine shit? I’m sorry, but the work that my mother did raising me far outweighs any work a fucking man has ever done. Do you even realize the personal sacrifice women make when they bring life into this fucking world? You think that they get pregnant, get fat, pop out a kid and life resumes like normal? FUCK NO. Pregnancy literally destroys your body. It has numerous effects on the endocrine system, permanently changes the functioning levels of TSH, ACTH and other essential hormones. It often times leads to diabetes. It can induce BRCA-1 and BRCA-2 dependent breast cancers. It augments the immune system and more often than not induces minor autoimmune issues.

    And what do men suffer from? Erectile dysfunction? Lung cancers from mining? Splinters from carpentry? Oh. Dear.

    How about you rethink the role that females play in our world. Because the reason I am a man, and the reasons why I have achieved, is ONE HUNDRED PERCENT because of my mother.

  • Alice

    This essay is totally backwards in thought. I think any type of relationship, nowadays, is based on equality(and mutaul respect). Eqaulity in relationship, to me, means that neither partner is above the other. Each partner of the relationship sees the other as their equal even if one of them has a higher salary or physicality.
    Maybe I’m naive to believe in something like that, but that’s what I believe makes a relationship last. I never want to be someone’s house maid or have a man who feels inferior to me.

    P.S. MY PLACE WILL NEVER BE THE KITCHEN OR MY FUTURE HUSBAND’S!!!!! I want somone who’ll cook with me(it’s more fun that way)

  • Anonymous

    I am a single mom by choice I am a Vfx artist in the film industry I make amazing money.i have wanted to do what I do since I was 7 years old. lol I own my own house and car. I don’t agree with the statement all women. I am sure all the people who agree with you are men lol

  • adam

    is this satire?

  • Silvia

    you’ve got to be fucking kidding me.
    The ignorance and down right idiocy of this essay amazes me.

  • Laura

    You are a total moron. You clearly have no girlfriend. Or life, for that matter. Absolutely dogshit article.

  • manbooblvr

    The vast majority of your statements above are flawed, close-minded and primitive.

    It is a natural instinct for mankind to exploit the weak. Strength-wise males are more dominant so it’s obvious to see which gender was more ’empowered’ to suppress.
    Natural alpha-domination resulted in not just female- suppression but also global suppression of colonies.. eg. Spanish conquering the Aztec’s, America inducing slavery of coloured

    Primitive brains seek to dominate and to exploit the weak.

    Females plagued by insecurity is not due to their ‘female nature’, but rather social pressures that existed and exist today.

    Both males and females enjoy sexual dominance, that feeling of ‘loosing control’, to sexually make yourself vulnerable to all pleasure. Everyone has a different way of sexually connecting.

    It seems to me that you are man with an obsession over control and compulsive assertiveness. Who feasts on a woman’s vulnerability and her anxieties, to feel an overwhelming sense of being needed (a purpose). That you can only thrive in a relationship which is obviously unhealthy for whichever poor woman falls into your arms, seeing as you do not have her best interest in mind, however only yours.

    A man is not a man if he does not make his woman feel empowered and strong.
    A man is simply a coward if he thrives on her weakness.

    Rape-crime and Abuse within a relationship are no myths and far more common that you may except, and men with a more extreme mind set (not much different from what you illustrate above) are stuck in the same primitive and old-fashioned belief.

    In history, many a man slaughtered another man. Much blood was shed. But one rule that seemed universal was ‘to aim and protect mothers and children’
    who are very much ESSENTIAL for mankind’s survival.

    that said: keep in mind that there are women who extremely believe men are scum and that they are more superior as they have a womb that reproduction is essential for.
    Those bitches are the same kind as the bastards who feel the need to write articles aimed on crushing/minimizing the opposite gender.

    another note: men and women are not equals and never will be- due to obvious biological differences. That said, both deserve the equal amount of respect.

  • YOU ARE A CHAUVINISTIC PIECE OF SHIT.

    I am so incredibly sickened by the fact that people like you even exist. You do not deserve the company of any woman. You are an ignorant, chauvinistic pig and a poor excuse for a human being. Just get over all your bullshit lies that you are telling yourself. And also, referring to your dick deflating and then talking about romance makes me laugh. You have no clue what romantic means. And apparently you have no clue about what you are saying overall. I can’t believe someone can be so idiotic. You disgust me.

  • http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_DUehJWZLUhU/SqAjhSHgebI/AAAAAAAAAiw/Q6OO1N-QkbM/s400/Congrats!+You're+An+Asshole.png Not an asshole

    Wow. I thought this kind of idiocy only existed in satire. I was wrong.

    First of all, much like Social Darwinism, the ancient stereotypical woman is obsolete, since we no longer live in the wild surrounded by predators. While yes, the stereotype may have been true – maybe even necessary – before the invention of society, we don’t have to fight off beasts anymore, rendering the stereotypical man obsolete, and consequently, the stereotypical woman.

    Also, your three points are bullshit.

    1) I am friends with at least 5 girls deserving of their self esteem, and am acquainted with hundreds more.

    2) As a matter of fact, my brain gets a hardon from seeing an artistic girl, or a smart girl, even one who overshadows me. (personality traits do not give my penis a hardon) Damn straight.

    3) That slut you were talking about does not have high self esteem. She has low self esteem. That’s the whole goddamn reason she’s a slut. Remember those hundreds of acquaintances I mentioned? I think maybe two of them are even a little depressed, let alone suicidal.

    Click my username to find out more.

  • Emma

    You do a wonderful job gaining the attention of viewers with your irrational thoughts. Nicely done. And yes, I agree the world would not be able to spin if there were not men here.. But you also wouldn’t be able to get it in without those insecure chicks you love banging. Good for you. Keep up the blogging in your mom’s basement. :)

  • Gwen

    You are the most uninformed ignoramus I have ever witnessed. You know nothing, and have no credibility on this subject. I hope you get mauled by a bear while a truck runs you over.

  • Hey, fuckface

    Just wanted to add another comment to your collection telling you are a complete and utter douchebag. I know other men like you exist and if you think you can just shit on other peoples opinions because you this this article is a masterpiece you can go fuck yourself.

    You don’t think someone would try and stand up to defend their rights as a woman; who live and breath on this earth and not tell you to go shove it up your ass? I think you have a very big problem, buddy.

    I know this isn’t going to cut you down to size or even change your opinion about women. But I sure hope women and men against misogyny; the women and men who are outraged over this post out number every single person who agree with you.

  • Kat

    I’ve read some of your stuff, and while most decent people (not the misogynistic assholes who consistently cling to your sexist bullshit about how to sleep with fatties or whatever other nasty things you write to feel better about yourself) would be enraged at everything you’ve said, I’m just sad. Clearly, a strong woman fucked you over and now you’re just bitter against all women who resemble anything like her. Moreover, I’m sad for you because you’ll never be able experience real love, which is exactly what you need to fix your messed up mentality. Love is based on mutual respect, it’s not some power-dynamic. And clearly, you have no respect for any women, you just view them as cooking, cleaning, and fucking objects. That saddest part is real love is probably the only thing that can save you from your own bullshit. But who could ever love someone who consistently puts them down? That’s emotional abuse. And that “power” you feel from being above a woman? That’s the same way physical and sexual abusers view their victims. So congratulations on holding the same viewpoints as the scum of the Earth.

  • no

    i–
    i don’t even know how to word how disgusting this article is. everyone deserves self esteem regardless of gender and there is literally nothing about a female that makes her worse than a male. girls deserve the same fucking amount of attention boys do and deserve to be allowed to feel good about herself.

    it’s fine to want a submissive female. that’s fine. they exist. especially in bdsm context. it’s not fine to confuse submissiveness with self-confidence and genuinely wish for females to hate themselves unless a man wants them.

    you’re :—–)

    kind of :———)

    an asshole :—————)

  • Divergent

    This was just painful to read. I could feel everyone’s IQ going lower as they read more and more of this. Thankfully, I decided not to read the whole thing.

  • bro

    confident women are incapable of seeing men as human beings? your entire article is incapable of seeing women as human beings…they’re just play doh that should be vulnerable and have low self-esteem and depend on you and make sandwiches and be hot and send you nudes

  • Jane Doe

    Oh my god you guys are all insane please don’t reproduce, save the world for your stupidity. Please. I’m really hoping this is just a joke because I didn’t know there were people in the world as ignorant as you. My GPA is higher than your IQ. This is Example A as to why I need feminism.

  • Ney

    can you just die

  • Katie

    So obviously you are very well educated. Your essay was fairly well written. You would have sounded smarter if you had used real words instead of profanity and slurs, though. There were a couple of points you made that I agreed about that our society is wrong about such as over-medicating and that most of the time feminists do not want equal treatment they want preferential treatment. Even the part about how girls are attracted to strong, confident men. I, myself, am attracted to confident men, because I feel that they should be man enough to handle me, but there is a fine line between being strong and being a jerk. I think you have the the wrong solution to these problems. When there is a girl who dresses like a slut that is not the result of the so called “go-grrl mentality” you talked about that gives them to much self esteem, instead this is from too little self esteem. This street-walker look they wear is how they hide their insecurity. As I read through your essay you reminded me of my ex-boyfriend. The only time that we really bonded was when I was upset, and insecure.
    As our relationship progressed he started to become abusive until I put an end to it using the confidence and self-esteem that my loved ones instilled in me since I was young, convincing me I deserved to be respected for existing. Your argument makes it sound like I should have let him because I had no grounds to be respected at that time. By the way it turns out that he was really gay, so it was a false bravado brought out to cover up his insecurity about that. So what we really need to do for all of these girls is not further lower their self esteem, or try and force them into the arms of a man who is only going to manipulate her or abuse her when she is not strong enough to handle it. Even if the relationship is with a perfectly wonderful person you cannot rely on them to fix all of your problems and carry all of your burdens; it is a shared effort on both accounts. What we need to do is teach girls from an early age that they should look at people equally no matter who they are, that they should not expect respect but try to earn it, and that they should never let someone take away what they have earned. OH and after reading through the comments I notice that Matt Ferrantino is awesome!

  • Netc

    I didn’t even bother to finish reading this crap. I normally don’t comment on these things but I really hope that one day you reach a point in your life where you realize how ignorant you have been; and how many awesome people you have missed out on because of it. And maybe then, will you understand the fact that many women are just as ambitious, hardworking, and resilient in our world as men are, and these traits will be admired by those who aren’t intimidated at idea of putting strength and femininity together.

  • Nah

    Wait…
    Is this article a joke?
    Guys i think this is just a very elaborate joke.

  • Dan

    You could not be more wrong about everything you write about here. These are the attitudes of old-fashioned insecure men who take out their insecurities on women, don’t you see that? This is also the attitude that leads to physical abuse. You’re one step away, buddy. I can say there is true evil in your words.

  • Toma Sexton

    I think this is the other way around. MEN need WOMEN more than WOMEN need MEN.

    Who would bear your children? Every MAN came from a WOMAN’s body.
    That is a talent in it’s own merit.
    You can’t do that as a gender. You will never experience birth. It is harder than almost anything a man can do.

  • Jaime

    I’m so sorry that you were born with a brain predisposed to such a high level of intolerance, and into a culture that validates your perceptions. A tragedy that you have to walk around all day with a brain like that in your head. Take care and much love.

  • Dana

    I have no words as to how angry this makes me. I’m not a person according to this jackhat. You make me sad that everyone can have access to the Internet. Where, oh, where did you get the information that all women want to be dominated by men? That women don’t contribute to the economy? This is drivel. It makes me sad and it makes me angry and I hope that your router burns out so that you can’t spew any more hateful garbage.

  • Bethanie

    This is satire right? I think you’re on the right path, but you’re not exaggerating enough! Good try though!

  • Cate Green

    I’m pretending that all of the comments praising this article are sarcastic. That way I can still have some hope for humanity.

  • Melody

    You, sir, are a fucking idiot. You are what is wrong with this world. I am sorry you exist.

  • Speechless

    Freud would say that you have mommy issues. I say that you are just an uneducated and ignorant man with no compassion for others. It is not a question of women WANTING to be insecure or WANTING low self-esteem, it is a question of how many females you have even been in a relationship with. Additionally, it is about your issues as a man in how you select female partners that are “so far beneath” you to surely boost your own massive ego. Lastly, please spell check the next controversial article you plan to post online – dare I say that some people may think that you are unintelligent.

  • Modern Woman

    Was this written in the 1950s?

    Sure some women are insecure. So are some men. But many women WANT responsibilities. We want to make a positive impact in the world aside from looking hot and boosting our apparently low self esteem. More girls could learn the best way to do this, sure, but we’re getting there. And no, I don’t want a fluff job, I want to be a geologist or business executive, and I’m 17. Sorry if I’m deflating your crotch there.

    And if you don’t care about women as human beings, here’s another point for you: women in the workforce is GOOD FOR THE ECONOMY. Basic Microeconomics. More workers and input=larger production output.

    I hope you find the insecure girl of your dreams. I really do. As long as it keeps you from telling the rest of the female population to “take their place.”

    Also, anything true in this article can be applied to men. Your talk about needing a woman to NEED you? That’s because you’re insecure, and to feel valued you NEED her to “need” you.

    Please reexamine yourself. And when you’re ready, join us in 2013.

    You’re a good writer. Your ideas could be so much better if you opened your mind.

  • anon

    this is fucking bullshit you misogynistic wanker

  • Brit

    HOLY NARCISSISM, BATMAN!
    You’re all insane.
    EVERY. SINGLE. ONE OF YOU.
    To the author of this trash: You were dropped on your head as a child, yes? Yes.
    Take a moment to consider: the girls you’re talking about?
    They’re your mothers, sisters, and grandmothers.
    You honestly want them to be cowed slaves?
    You’re a sick, egotistical, misogynistic fool.
    Women are powerful, kid.
    Good luck dealing with all the women who will mow you down.
    You’re going to need it.

  • Rivaille

    Holy shit. You’re an asshole and the scum of the earth, congratulations.

  • youareallidiots

    I hope you all enjoy your flesh lights.

  • Mimi

    Did you just get dumped by a strong, intelligent, confident woman or do you actually believe all of this garbage that you’re spewing?

  • kristen

    Everyone deserves respect, both men and women, regardless of what you define as ‘merit’. Even more so everyone deserves self-esteem, which by the way is not about thinking you are ‘special’, but is about being comfortable with who you are and having confidence that you deserve the same as those around you. The idea that women shouldn’t, or don’t need self-esteem, and that they serve better as quivering helpless heroine for men to save I suppose fits in very well with your ideals of a misogynistic society. I can imagine why you resent a strong sort of woman as it must be an awkward reminder that mans ‘rightful’ dominance over females is not accepted by everyone. certainly it is a great example to anyone who thinks gender equality had been achieved that sexism and the discrimination against and oppression of women is still so intituationalised that men like you find saying such offensive things appropriate.

    I guess I can hold out hope that you meet enough ‘strong’ women that your penis deflates so drastically that you are unable to procreate and inflict any offspring like you on the world.

  • Iq

    I have never read such rubbish in my life. I’m disgusted and disappointed.

  • Megan

    This blog post just caused me to feel a wave of euphoria about the fact that I’m a lesbian.

    I can’t imagine what it would be like to be heterosexual when men are so insecure that they need their women to pretend to be not as smart or capable as they are. It would be terrible to be saddled with a little boy like you who needs to push women down because he’s just not that interesting or intelligent.

    It’s boys who are told from birth that they’re special and strong and deserve to run the world despite any deficiencies they have. And your deficiencies must be enormous if this is the only way you can get attention.

    Anyway, I liked this speech better when Tom Cruise did it in Magnolia.

  • Lb

    You sound remarkably like my ex. That’s amusing

  • Nicole

    Just wow. This isn’t even a reaction to feminism, it’s the literary equivalent of crying into your pillow at night because you can’t find a woman who embodies the same characteristics as a blow up doll.
    Do us all a favour and delete this post about your disguised (hardly) insecurities about being a male threatened by women and also by everyone who respects women. I mean what in the actual fuck happened in your life in order for you to create this completely deluded and constructed world you live in?
    I won’t even write as if I’m offended because there is evidently no intelligent/evidential/reasonable thinking behind this essay, it’s honestly nothing more than a sad rant.
    Whilst what you have written makes me feel pretty disgusted, and the comments of support also make me worried, all of the responses written by actual decent human beings are proof of your ineptitude of evolving and progressing like the rest of us.
    I hope at the end of your sad, misguided life you give up your brain for scientific research, because I for one would love to know how the fuck your brain works…I actually feel disgusted that I could be sharing the side walk with an ignorant arsehole like you.
    And for the record your comment (I can’t actually be bothered finding it because I’d have to read that unintelligent shit again) about women getting degrees as a way to conform and hide their ‘lack of experience and knowledge’ is fucking ridiculous, I mean that sentence alone without the subject matter is just fucking contradictory. How did you actually type that out through that cloud of inflated self-importance and then give yourself a pat on the back you literary genius, you.

    Anyway, luckily people like you have the internet as a social platform because you probably have no true friends (or girlfriends evidently) in the real world. Have fun in your constructed playground, eventually your ego will become a normal size again, hang in there, get better soon.

    Regards,

    A far too ambitious woman for your liking.

  • anon

    No comment has disproved the article. Still waiting.

  • Anon

    This artical makes me sick to my stomach, I fear for humanity if this view is ligitamately your oppionion as well as so many others.

  • nthansen

    In a perverse way, it’s actually a kind of relief when some moron voices ridiculous garbage like this loudly and in public. We all know that some people are insecure enough to feel the need to drag others down with them and that women are often a target of this mentality, but thank you Matt for announcing loudly, clearly, once and for all that the world really doesn’t need to pay you one iota of attention. I only hope that a large portion of your web traffic is due to people misunderstanding your post as a completely amateur and unsuccessful form of satire.

  • Kityan

    wow. If your impression of women stems largely from your wife, your wife sounds terribly dumb. I mean, is she an idiot? And you are a moron to have married her.

  • Caitlin

    You’re kidding, right? Please tell me you’re kidding.

  • DanielD

    I assume ‘deep down’, to use your predictably broad terminology (I assume ‘deep down’ you’re aware this semantic ambiguity is a way of avoiding having to properly argue your point (and therefore face the fact that’s it’s retarded), rather than simply sticking together vague and ill-considered ideas), that you know the reason confident women turn you off is that they have high enough self-respect to not want to fuck you. And given that this ‘turns you off’, that is clearly your way of saying it doesn’t make you feel good about yourself. Which of course is your way of subtly admitting you want to fuck girls to feel good about yourself. Which is another way of saying that you have low self-esteem. And if there’s one thing we know about people with low self-esteem, it’s that they like to shit on other people’s self-esteem.

    I think we may have discovered what’s really going on here…

    Also, if you’re gonna suggest people follow their evolutionary drive, perhaps you ought to start having babies with everyone you ever fuck. And if you’re going to talk on behalf of ALL men, please have the decency to remember that we’re not all living our lives desperately trying to prove we can GET MAD PUSSY YEAH BRAH!!!

    When you fuck one of the ‘fat chicks’ with good and proper low self-esteem, is it nice for the few seconds between when you climax and when she asks what the fuck just happened, to be able to forget that you’re you?

    And if this sounds like inane, poorly argued pop-psychology, it will go some way to replicating the experience for you other people have of reading the utter drivel that you’ve written here.

  • sesdfghjkl;

    suk a diq m8
    u don’t deserve the will to live/

  • Buff bitch

    How insecure are you? Disgraceful.

  • Sara

    You idiot. You fucking idiot. I hope I never have the displeasure of meeting you, you absolute asshole.

  • Question

    Do you really believe this? Or was it just to get a rise out of people? (Because you’re certainly succeeding with that.)

  • Rory D.

    You disgust me.

  • Becca

    I don’t know who you are, nor do I care. However, I really really really hope your mother reads your blog plots. This was disgusting, degrading, and just disrespectful to all the women that are in your life. You want a woman who will submit to you and fulfill your every desire. Do you know who else wants that kind of treatment? Rapists and serial killers. The way you describe confidence in women as “dick deflating” just reinforces the fact that you yourself are insecure. You can’t handle the possibly that woman maybe, just maybe, will be more effective in taking the lead role in a relationship and you could not possibly let her be the one to “wear the pants.”

    I do agree, however, that men and women do not want to take on the same responsibilities. I mean, would you want to push a nine pound alien out of a tiny whole in your body? What’s really quite interesting about this blog is that you completely forget that a woman is the reason you are even alive. God created women to assist but NEVER to submit. Man and woman were designed to work TOGETHER to create the life, no one gender can get the job done alone. If you know a man that can reproduce by himself I would love to meet him and clone him.

    Oh, education, that’s another issue. It became more and more obvious as I read your blogpost, and believe me it was difficult, that you have had no training in any social science. Any sociological study would have informed you that gender roles are significantly different than they were back in the 16th century when you were apparently raised. See that’s the thing, you criticize women for not being trained in STEM but what about those of us who are well rounded. Actually, from your lack of understanding of how the world works, I doubt that YOU are trained in a stem field, and farming and agriculture doesn’t count.

    I don’t claim to be some super genius, I’m not even a feminist, I just know that I wasn’t damned for a life of submission because when I was in the womb my body clitoris didn’t turn into a penis. Just from the way you talk you remind me of a man that I knew who was very abusive in his encounters with women. I hope for your sake you attend some therapy, possibly take some medicine for your mommy issues, and please PLEASE do not reproduce because God help you if the condom breaks and you end up with a woman like me, like 99 percent of the United States.

  • Hoops

    Hey. You know those women who say they want responsibilities? So many of them take on all those “responsibilities”, overwhelm themselves with it, and faint or get sick or whatever. So man take on those responsibilities, get pregnant, and leave. People say women will mow you down or women can punch your gut out or whatever, the truth is, that’s not going to happen anytime soon, because face it, BOYS ARE STRONGER. By the way, I am a girl.

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  • sophie

    Wow. I’m ashamed for you. I think you need to address your own self esteem issues, This whole post reeks of mother issues.

  • Carolyn

    Let’s be honest here: Confident women are not interested in you. You’re attracted to insecure women because you know that they are the only ones who would put up with your bs. I am a confident woman who has been in a happy, committed relationship with a man who values me for the past 13 years and we’re still going strong.

  • Dan

    I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t seen it with my own eyes. You actually think you’re insightful and an example for all men. You are the most morally misguided and ethically bankrupt person it has ever been my displeasure to encounter. Have fun in Hell.

  • kathryn

    To put this as kindly as possible for those who agree with this statement and the guy who wrote this, You are fuckwits and i hope your genitalia shrivel and fall off, Because id like to see your self esteem then. It’s hard 2 be a misogynistic, sexist, arrogant pig when u don’t have the first thing that pops up anymore. Woman need to be strong and independent to protect themselves from jerks like you lot, who don’t really give a shit about them … you only care about making sure your guts is full and your balls are empty … If that’s what u think a woman is only good for then you deserve to be a virgin for the rest of your lives because no decent woman with any self respect would look twice at you’ you jerks.

  • man

    I’m saying the author’s prostitute mother locked him in a closet

  • the kitchen

    Omg you don’t even deserve to hear what is wrong with all of your statements, you just deserve to be slapped really hard. Maybe die too. I hope no one will ever fuck you again.

  • you’redisgusting

    This is literally the most vile thing I’ve read on the internet. People like you are the reason society is so fucked up today.

  • Jazz

    Someone got hurt real bad by a Strong Confident Women, eh? I feel very sorry that you were hurt so bad you needed to create a poorly construed article and place it on the internet for everyone to see your pain.

  • Calling from the Kitchen

    Hey buddy, presumably you’re a dude – and if that’s the case, you’re not really in a position to be talking about what women supposedly (according to you) want. Anyone with half a decent upbringing and education would disagree with your asinine view and flawed fucking logic. Did you conveniently forget that women had the opportunity to live Suzy Homemaker lives (and some still do, granted,) while their husbands took on the brunt of breadwinning – remember the 50s? Theres a reason that changed and that’s because women wanted more responsibility, wanted to make money – no one forces anyone to work – so don’t fucking tell me I want to be “led back to the kitchen”. Maybe some girls, sure, I know some stay-at-homes, I know some girls who are real lazy bums too, but the pot cant call the kettle black when there are just as many deadbeat guys around. Point is, whatever “women” you’re fucking you’re talking about here, is certainly not the majority.

  • dan

    The person who wrote this article is either a troll (lets hope to god it is) or an absolute low life, fucking unintelligent pathetic human being.

  • Raegan

    I feel sorry for any woman who is even pursued by you, you power-hungry asshole.

  • Boudicca

    Matt & friends (aka sad little mens & sorry, sorry women):

    You couldn’t be more incorrect about everything. In fact it would appear you are severly fucked up, and not in a good way. Do everyone a favour and choke on your own saliva.

    While we wait for you to do that we’ll continue being strong & confident, and all-around awesome. The world will keep progressing, and you and yours can stay back in the dark ages where you belong.

  • Bryan

    Holy mother of fuck what is wrong with you? Did you even proofread this? How do you possibly write “I’d still bang her, of course; a repellent personality doesn’t negate the fact that she has a slammin’ body … I’d be less offended if she ripped a fart in my face.” and still think you have any sort of authority to speak on anything relating to the female population at large? Holy shit. My jaw hit the fucking floor so much while reading this drivel I could have payed whack-a-mole with it. I look forward to this inevitably being spread like a virus throughout the internet and ruining any sense of credibility you may somehow have garnered for yourself. Fuck you, sir, and I look forward to your inevitable crucifixion.

  • Aaron Snelling

    Oh man Forney, you are like a rare, deadly disease; And this post is infecting others.

    Self-delusion is the bastion of a narcissist, they invent theorems and philosophies in order to safely guard their own internal flaws, this article is a perfect example of that.

    But before I go any further in developing that point I’d just like to mention how amused I was by the caption beneath your headline. “The man who shouted love at the heart of the world.” I’m really confused by this, by my best estimations, one day you decided to go outside, look down, and yell “love” a few times at the ground. That’s seriously one of the gayest things I’ve ever read online, especially for someone that goes on to author a pseudo-masculine article.

    The major failing of your article is the presumption that you have, in fact, accomplished something, and that you have plenty of self-esteem. When I encounter a girl with a high self-esteem, I’m aroused, because it’s a taller mountain to climb, a greater obstacle to conquer. Think Jack Donaghy from 30Rock, he doesn’t trifle with women who have low self-esteem, it’s not satisfying.

    Your insecurities, lead you to feel uncomfortable around women with high self-esteem because you know you are their inferior. This leads you to lash out and attempt to create a world-view that denigrates them in order to suit your own pathetic needs. This leads you to deliberately confuse self-esteem with narcissism, and even further in an even more desperate attempt to justify your delusion to assume that women rarely do anything of consequence.

    First of all, even within the values of our male-dominated society there are plenty of women who have done great things. I won’t deign to offer any examples here because they’re no need, even despite your own ignorance, I’m sure you can think of a few, right now.

    Second, the stereotypical roles of a women, the domestic, are on an even scale with the world of society. The ability to raise good children is of utmost importance to any society in the same way that it is just important to teach children as for the children to go and accomplish things. Great teacher of a subject = great practitioner of a subject; Great parent = great teacher of a subject.

    The reason this phallocentric worldview exists is because it has been perpetuated by weak men who felt the need to subjugate women, and it has been allowed to exist because men have a physical advantage over women and thus have largely determined the course of societal laws and behavior.

    So shutup and get rid of your short pants, man up and stop putting down women to make yourself feel better.

  • Yuliya

    And this is why when men make any assumptions about women, I automatically stop listening, seriously, I stopped reading after that title. You can take your misogynistic, ignorant and vile opinions and shove it where the sun don’t shine. Why don’t women make websites that criticize men from their looks to their personalities? Because women don’t take pleasure in being scumbags with an inflated superiority complex. Yes, I’m generalizing, but if you feel personally offended, then you’re obviously exactly who I’m talking about.

  • Anna

    I am absolutely disgusted.
    There are no words to express my disappointment for where society is headed. Of course, I wouldn’t want to generalize, as this is completely unfair, but nevertheless seems to be a trend with most people on this article.
    My first reaction while reading this was “Are you freaking kidding me?”
    Look, I don’t want to waste my time explaining to you in detail why I don’t think you should reproduce, but I will say this: It’s absolutely fine to like insecurity as a personality trait, but it’s not okay to dislike a woman, for merely feeling good in her own skin. You generalize, you put labels where they shouldn’t be and you dis-humanize the woman. You say being proud and smart are only traits fit for men? And your great “argument” for that would be that there are no women in serious work fields. Maybe, jut maybe, if you take off that misogynistic hat you’re wearing and think a bit deeper, you could actually figure out that 1. That’s not entirely true and 2. There is a less percentage of women working these jobs because of dickheads like you. I mean, Jesus, were you dropped as an infant or are you just born stupid?
    Of course, everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but, I’m sorry, yours is just vile.

  • Laura

    HAHA! There are some pretty funny statements in this essay. Ultimately, though, I really feel bad for this dude. WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU? And why in the f*** do you think all these women take pills? Who do you hang out with?

    On a serious note, I will tell you what women crave. Because, well, I am a woman and, by the essence of your essay, you are not. We need a partner. We don’t just need some fucked up dude who wants us to play out his weird macho super-hero rescuing the damsel in distress fantasy. We need love and respect and friendship. Simple.

    By some of your personal anecdotes within the essay, it seems you’ve had multiple relationships that haven’t worked out.. Why is that? Did they dump your ass? Were you a dick? I’m thinking you were a dick.. and they got fed up. You probably targeted insecure women thinking that maybe they’ll put up with your shit and it probably hasn’t worked out for you, has it? Yeah..

    Sorry for your life :(

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  • Hailey

    Fuck all of you. This country will go no where with the attitude from any of you assholes.

  • A dude

    Wait…is this real or is this a joke?

  • Taylor

    You based this entire article off of the fact that you like unconfident women. It’s great that you know what you want, but that doesn’t mean every man wants that. Actually, the majority of men I know like women who have confidence. You can’t just make assumptions based on your opinions because they are exactly that – opinions.

    Good luck to any girl who gets involved with you. Yikes.

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  • Mel

    At first I was like, “What. the. actual. fuck. is. this?” But then I read the “about” and it said you were 25 and I was like, “Ohhhhhhhhh.”

  • Annie

    What is your fucking problem?
    Men are not the centre of the world and every girls world, so fuck you.
    It’s not like at the start of a life MEN have done anything to earn respect and self esteem either you numbskull; everyone does it at the same time.
    You can go and fuck yourself you shitbag, sorry if not every girl thinks you’re the centre of her world,
    Not every guy is wants that though, so stop spreading your opinion onto everyone else.
    We’ll just go for the nice guys, cause in actual fact it is dickheads like you that finish last.

    Over and out.

  • Heidi

    I don’t think this is where society is heading, Laura. These type of men are only going to see a big, big fall in their relationships, work, and life in general. It’s only a matter of time that strong, powerful women take over leadership positions in the corporate world and society in general … as the numbers continue to grow. If a woman wants to be a house wife – that’s okay and if she wants to be a CEO of a multinational corporation – that’s okay too.

    Men like Matt Forney have severe personality disorders and will never be happy because inside they are rotting souls. I honestly feel bad for you, Matt. Your dick must be pea sized to overcompensate with this degree of machismo.

    And I think – yeah sure, some of your generalizations about some of the women you’ve met in your life might be true in those circumstances. But, what a poor human being you are to actually feed off those. I encourage you to seek intense psychotherapy. It’s a shame lobotomies are not common anymore because I think you could really benefit from it.

  • Flipppp

    LOL Hey Censorbot. Can’t keep up with all the comments? Is $120 bucks a year worth it? Fucking pussybot. Also Matt you suck.

    Also Females of this audience, try not to link this assholes’s garbage essay to what men actually think, and we think this guy is a fucking tart.

  • Keira

    I must say, having read such an ill-written and poorly researched article my ‘esteem’ for the paper I’m writing has risen. Thank you kindly, Caveman™!

  • Bob Sagat

    JESUS LOVES YOU

  • Shut up and get out.

    I think my favourite part about this is that you’ll happily respond to all of the comments agreeing with you, but you don’t even have the guts to stand up to any of the people challenging your views. Real powerful man right there.

  • amy

    You win the award for biggest douche bag on the planet. Congrats! I take it you don’t get laid much except by stupid women.

  • Kian

    World War Two, almost all able bodied men either join the army or are conscripted and sent off to fight effectively loosing all their jobs. Funnily enough the world didn’t collapse, the country didn’t collapse, hell it barely even stumbled. Why? Because the country turned to the millions of women in the country and said “we need help.” And the women said, “I can do that,” and took over all the jobs that had been abandoned by the men and kept the country running because they were strong and independent and because they could. They didn’t need men then and they sure as hell don’t need us now either.

  • Hoops

    Maybe what he kind of wants to say is that girls aren’t in the center of the world, and boys have some more power. About the WWII thing though, without the men actually fighting, we all would have died, you know? I think in the end, neither girls nor boys are unimportant idiots, but neither of them are the centers of the world, either?

  • Kat

    I feel sorry for you….it must be a sad existence typing out your angry misogynistic thoughts from behind your computer, knowing that a real woman will never give you the time of day. By all means, keep going for the “insecure” ones and stay far away from the rest of us women who are actually doing things with our lives.

  • anonymous

    I hate you. This is probably how every other woman on earth feels about you, too. Good luck ever finding love.

  • tess

    This isn’t just a man’s world. Women are equal, and any man stupid enough to think otherwise (or agree with this article) is just mad because:
    a) He hasn’t been laid in a long time.
    b) He won’t be getting laid in an even longer time (because this is how he treats women).
    c) He clearly has his own self-esteem issues if he needs a woman to feel dependent on him and needs her to have no confidence or self worth because it’s a threat to his masculinity.
    So please, if you agree with this article, please go back to the 1900’s where you belong, because no woman wants to date a man with sexist, outdated beliefs, anyways. You belittle the opposite gender simply to make yourself feel bigger and tougher.
    Women: Be strong, be confident, be independent, because any man that doesn’t like those qualities isn’t worth your time.

  • anonymous

    Now this is a letter from a REAL man.

    Letter to Matt Forney in response to “The Case Against Female Self-Esteem”.

    October 10, 2013 at 9:11pm

    Dear Matt Forney,

    I’m just gonna come out and say it: You’re a coward

    Now don’t get me wrong I also hate when a women brags how she’s “confident” and “strong”. That has nothing to do with the fact that I hate strong and confident women and everything to do with the fact that people who are truly strong and confident have no need to brag about it. The fact that you can’t tell the difference clearly shows me that you are completely incapable of understanding and appreciating a real woman.

    I’m on your side though. Honestly I really do hate overconfident women. I also hate overconfident men. Confidence is sexy. Overconfidence is not. So yes, you are correct. A woman with excessive confidence is an extreme turn off and can be a large part of an undesirable personality.

    I find myself agreeing with you again when you say that a college degree is far too easy to attain. Because of this, it is worth far less now than a high school diploma was when my parents graduated from high school. So there’s another point for you.

    Here’s where things really come off the rails though. Tradespeople, miners, farmers, police officers and the military (do you like how I changed a couple of those to gender-neutral job names?) do play a larger part in running our economy than a bureaucracy. That’s really only the case though if you have no idea of how economics work. All of those people need a consumer/tax base. Key components in employing large swaths of the population, which is needed to pay police officers, the military and to buy the goods and services provided by farmers, tradespeople and miners, can be found in bureaucracies. Oh and by the way? You’re a fucking BLOGGER. Tell me again how society can’t survive without you and your job? I’m tradesperson with a University degree and while my industry might be dominated by men, the women that we do have we do in fact need.

    Now I’m going to assume that by saying that there was only ever one girl that you would have married that things probably didn’t work out between the two of you. That’s rough man. We’ve all had those relationships that we thought were going to work out but didn’t. I feel your pain and I sympathize. How in the world though, do you not see the connection between your need to keep a woman down, and that fact that you don’t have this girl in your life anymore? Open your eyes man and look in the mirror. Maybe things will work out better for you next time if you do.

    I’m going to agree with you again though. I hate when I’m watching post-apocalyptic movies or TV-shows and a woman goes wandering off on her own convinced that she’s going to be fine. You’re right. If that actually happened she’d probably get raped and killed by someone with no respect for women. Actually this would probably happen to her by someone like you. I know how to shoot. I know how to hunt. I don’t get lost in the woods. I can start a fire under almost any conditions and I can cook over it. I will survive a disaster that ends society. I’ll probably have to do some pretty messed up stuff to make it through. I might even have to kill someone. I don’t like the thought of doing that but it’s survival of the fittest right? Under no circumstances however, would I rape a woman regardless of how long it had been since the last time I had sex or how stupid she was to go wandering off on her own. I prefer my women screaming “don’t stop” not “don’t” and “stop”. If society ends and more guys like me make it through than guys like you we should do just fine.

    Most songs are about love. It’s the human emotion that best evokes a response by the listener. Even hard-core gangsta rap stars throw in some kind of ode-to-a-love-song track on their albums. So your argument about how most women sing only about men is actually fairly accurate. However, most men sing about women too. That seems pretty equal to me.

    We’ve finally reached my main argument. How you can say that women with low confidence are preferable in relationships is beyond me. When a woman who you know for a fact is strong and confident melts into your arms, looks up at you, and tells you that she loves you…well there’s really just no comparison to that. She could have anyone she wanted. She’s beautiful, smart, funny, talented, and she knows it. She doesn’t think too highly of herself but she knows what she is and better yet, she knows who she is. Yet for some reason she chose you. You can’t fathom why but the truth is actually rather simple. You let her be her. You don’t try to hold her back because you love watching her kick ass. Everyone has their down days and everyone needs someone to be there for them on those days. She knows that on the days when she just can’t quite muster up the courage or the energy that you’ll be there to hold her up. Her confidence should be a mirror of your own. She doesn’t need you in the way you, Mr. Forney, seem to need to be needed. She can get through life without you. She’s tough enough to do that. She does however, need you to feel as alive as she possibly can feel. She chooses to be with you and she couldn’t imagine life any other way.

    That, Mr. Forney, is what life and love are all about. A life without love is not a life worth living. Please don’t try to tell me that I’m only saying this because I’ve never had my heart broken or any bullshit like that because I’ve had my fair share of heartache. I still would rather have a partner than a slave. I feel bad for you man I really do. It must be very lonely being you. I don’t respect you or your point of view on women but I do pity you. I’m sure though that you don’t give a fuck about my point of view but here it is anyways.

    – Matthew Stewart

  • Elizabeth

    You are fucking ridiculous to write this article. You make tons of generalizations and your logic and caustic humor are that of a fucking date rapist– get some goddamn sensitivity and realize that women can take you or leave you, because the length of your dick is all that separates you from your other male counterparts who work the same boring, fucking 9-5 jobs.
    I’m glad independent women kill your erections; the fact that you prey upon emotionally-weak women is pathetic and it makes you sound like a fucking serial killer. Women are bombarded every day not by praise that tell them they’re special but by advertisements that tell them they’re fat, unsexy and unworthy of love.
    Women do not need men and if misogynistic pigs like you are my only option for the next forty years, then I will gladly plug my nose and start sucking boatloads of pussy. Praise for the lesbian community, none of whom have to deal with slimy, limp dicked, pieces of shit like you.

  • Fellegseg

    I am so sorry about your low self-esteem. It also seems to be causing erectile dysfunction for you. That is soooo embarrassing! But, don’t worry, it happens to everybody, all the time. I have found that when men feel a strong internal sense of their own accomplishments and worth, as opposed to a false sense of superiority to… most women, they are much more comfortable when they are reminded that they, like everyone, are not actually “superior” to anyone. Once you feel more comfortable with yourself, it will be much easier for you to get it up around confident women because you won’t feel so threatened.

    I hope this helps!

  • nick brown

    i have never felt more hate for someone in my life.

  • Azalea

    Let us “vulnerable” females set something straight: “Equality” does not mean that everyone is exactly the same, what it means is that everyone, regardless of gender, of income, of race, or even of personality (and yes, of job title) should be treated equally. (With that said, hardcore feminists are just as bad as men like you.) Some of us are insecure and some of us are bigots, but we all deserve the same rights, and we all deserve the same respect. If you are turned on by insecure girls, that’s your “type” and yours alone, it does not give you the right to categorize women’s role in society. We are living in the 21st century and to suggest women “need” men in any sort of survival capacity is preposterous. It is, however, a fact that humans need humans for emotional and biological reasons. You need women just as much as women need you, buddy. So get off your high horse and give me the respect I deserve because I’m human, not because I’m female.

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  • Tammy

    You are a disgusting person.

  • tarah

    This is complete and utter bullshit. Men and women are both equally guilty of an ego they do not deserve. This attack on women is so obviously coming from a man who is insecure around a strong, capable woman. Having never been a woman, how can you comment on how all women are raised? This article is both ignorant and insulting. You were birthed by a woman.
    It is possible that after years of oppression that some women rebel against males, however that is not a gender specific reaction to having been held down or made to believe you are less valuable than another group of people. If a woman comes from a home similar to the one I grew up in, for example, living alone is a huge accomplishment, as we were not raised to believe women should exist without a male to “take care” of them. Another huge accomplishment would be to go to school, as women “don’t require an education to get married or have children”.
    I’m embarrassed for you that you so publically speak without intelligence or class. I hope you never have a daughter.

  • N

    This is hysterical. You know why?

    Because the only reason you like insecure women is because they’re the only ones who don’t laugh at the microscopic size of your dick. Any confident woman has seen a real dick and knows that yours is useless.

    Still, I hope rabid animals tear you to shreds and leave the remnants for the maggots.

  • SL

    There’s truth in this.. Somewhere.
    Actually, I can’t find any truth at all. But at least I tried.
    I mean, have you seen women? Some of them could probably beat you into meat slabs. Women are f*****n terrifying.

  • Sam

    If you like people with no self-esteem, that’s fine. But don’t try and turn everyone into your type of girl. You say one should have to earn respect; I’m a STEM major who apparently has a degree to be proud of, according to you, yet I’m not supposed to be confident or proud of anything else? By the way, I love commentbot, although I hope (s)he doesn’t edit too much of the comments.

  • Ashley

    Are you kidding me? It’s quite sad that there’s people with this view point, especially after seeing the comments. How ignorant. You make so many assumptions about how women few the world, about how we think. How do you know? Are you a woman? Obviously not. I bet you’re insecure and need a woman to feel that way because of that reason. I find it hilarious that you also state that “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.” As a woman that finally conquered her low self esteem, this is the most untrue thing in your essay, and trust me, there are many. When I hated myself I figured out it was impossible to love someone else and I broke a lot of men’s heart, but now that I love myself I’m able to be in the most happy relationship I’ve been. And yes! I’m in a relationship, not cause I need to be, but cause I want to be. I’m sure this will go in one ear and out the other because you seem like a close minded, egotistical, douchebag, that’s insecure yourself and won’t admit it. That’s fine. Keep living in your ignorance. I know not all men are like you luckily. I can only hope something happens to you to change your view, or maybe you’ll just get hit by a bus and that’s fine too. This angered me a bit, but more than anything it was just so stupid that it’s more funny than anything. I really can’t take it seriously. My Man’s gonna be a teacher and I’m gonna be a computer programmer and graphic design artist, so Imma be making most of the money and he’s totally fine with that. I really hope you’re able to realize how dumb you sound and change that, but I’m sure you’re just going to think “Oh this girl is stupid and should go back to her low self esteem.” Well that’s not gonna happen, not cause of you, or anybody else. I’m proud of what I’ve been through and how I turned out.

  • Chrissie

    This is the absolute most pathetic thing I’ve ever read. Your incessant need for a woman who “needs you to be the center of her world” confirms the fact that you are actually extremely insecure. You’re the needy one. This goes against your whole “men should be confident and dominant” idea. You are the one with walls up pretending to be strong when really on the inside you are just a sad little boy who desperately needs to feel needed.

  • Tyler

    Let me guess, you like insecure girls because confident girls pass you over, knowing they can do better. This entire article just shows how insecure you are.

  • CutsOffDicksOfMisogynists

    Ha are you serious? This is the best example of hypocrisy I’ve seen in the past few minutes.

    1. Most men/boys/man-children have done nothing to deserve self-esteem.
    Totally right! So why do they parade around like their dick is something special?

    2. Insecurity is integral to masculinity.
    Why else do they need to put down women all the time? Why do they always have to reaffirm their manhood by saying “bitch” or “you’re gay”? They’re insecure!

    3. Men have a false sense of high self-esteem.
    By hiding behind their male privilege, they don’t need to face the fact that they may be inadequate and can’t handle rejection. “Fine, whatever. That bitch is missing out!”

    I could go on, and on, and on. But none of you are worth my time. Because each of you are 1, 2, and 3. And more.

  • Jamie

    Is this real…

  • Lishka7

    You disgust me. I would like to see some actual evidence to support your opinions. (Real experiments and journal articles, if you even know what those are.) Everything you said has no grounding or support. You are not a man. You are one of those slimy creatures that slithers around clubs and picks up girls that have just been hurt. You are the reasons many women say they don’t want a man. I would rather be alone then be forced to be with a man like you.

  • Bridget

    Looks like someones mommy didn’t love him. The fact that you would type out all this to try and make women feel less superior to you is very childish and pathetic. You’re not a man you’re a boy. Men are stronger than women physically but women are stronger than men emotionally. I’m no feminist I just find you so ignorant and revolting that I had to leave a comment.

  • katie

    wow your just a regular unibomber in the making aren’t you? All I see is when I read this is a poor little boy who has been rejected by too many women, its ok that mommy and your high school crush didn’t find your pathetic intellectual abilities attracted. Perhaps you should find yourself a good shrink.

  • Ben

    …you’re an idiot. Grow up.

  • Bridget

    By the way… Id be careful if I were you. Us helpless, stupid women who are in the kitchen cooking your dinner are also adding some arsenic to it! ENJOY

  • Astonished

    Man… Someone’s got bad mommy issues. I’m surprised a woman has ever let you within 10 feet of her; even more so, without punching you in the face.

  • Tsii

    Hm.
    Good day, Matthew. I decided to write this message to ask you why you wrote this post; what motivated you to do so, and what you might’ve wanted to accomplish. These are things I’m genuinely curious about, and would like to hear your input on. I feel that despite the generalizations and attacks that have been made in your post, we could perchance merely talk about this in a nice, actually friendly manner despite out presumable differing opinions. I feel that the level of aggression people have showed during this case is quite unnecessary, and even more so uncalled for when they escalate to threats of death and violence.
    I myself think it’d be better to merely discuss.

    And so, if you do not mind, I’d like to ask; why? Are you scared of something, and could we possibly help you through that? Would it be possible to discuss these things openly, without slander and insults?
    As far as feminism goes — and though I presume you know this already, I will be repeating and thus hope you bear with me — these “strong, independent women” or however one wants to call them, do only go towards the good of all sexes on our little, puny planet.
    Though everyone can’t have a good self-confidence, the direction we approach is one allowing a bigger majority of us to carry our weight. Our species dying out is obviously not a problem nor a threat, as statistics have shown for decades on end — birth rates are still steadily skyrocketing. The community we live in might momentarily slow down, but there will always be people who want to give birth. Perchance someday we’ll even have a proper paternity leave to balance out maternity leave.
    If women would be allowed to continue working and perchance encouraged to do so, surely the workload and pressure on men will decrease. And if it evens out that women do not have to be the vulnerable ones and men the strong ones, perchance one day a man can openly seek solace in a woman’s strength and the pair can openly depend on each other through their troubles, equal? Ah, the kinks and fetishes won’t go anywhere; some people get off on rape fantasies and S/M, and that’s fine, and it’s not going away. And thus, if a vulnerable lady is one of a turn on for you, I’m certain this won’t be an impossibility even in a caring, balanced relationship. It would merely mean that you wouldn’t have to carry it all yourself. I think that’s a wonderful, though somewhat naive idea.

    Alas, I’d lastly love to say that there are a lot of people that don’t voice their opinions for reasons other than them not feeling angry, or displeased, or upset. Some merely choose not to. I personally didn’t flinch much at your text – I’ve seen others of your mindset before. And as I am a person and so were those people, I do genuinely believe that we could speak through this hurt. Dislodge ourselves from a hell-pit of blaming each other and stabbing at everyone who goes by. And I’m certain there are others of my mindset, who merely choose not to vocalize it, as I thought I would do for the longest time as I followed your story develop.

    I’m sorry for the hostility you’ve been a target to. I consider such things uncalled for in any situation.

  • http://GoFuckYourself.com Walker

    Why did you feel the need to write this essay? Is it a cry for help because it says “I am really REALLY REALLLLLLY insecure…in my penis.

  • R

    Congratulations for writing the most misogynistic article I have ever seen. Women only exist for sex, and the sex is all about the man, right? If you agree with this article, you’re an idiot, and you probably would be better off in the 1940s.

  • lexi

    you have both extremes but no representative of the middle ground. there are women who would like to have someone to take care of and a family. there are also those like me who would like to have a job something to do outside of the house. other than play dates. I don’t really want kids. but there are people I know who want a simple job and hobbies and also a family not all people are the same nor can they be put into categories so extreme as you have bluntly stated in this obnoxious article.

  • chaaarrrrrrraaarrararrrrr

    reflects nothing but your own insecurity…

  • Kirsten

    grow up and get over your stupid mommy issues.

  • Girls Everywhere

    I hope that you, sir, never find a girl. Because this is absolutely disgusting, and you are a misguided piece of trash.

  • http://Www.herpherpherpherp.com ThatOneGuyJosh

    Wait, what? You’re saying that women don’t deserve to be happy, and you like it when they feel terrible about their shit life and want to kill themselves?
    You sick sexist fuck.

  • Ms. M

    I’m so happy youve said this! Finally a sick fuck who’s not hiding it! I encourage you to continue on your righteous quest to prove that women are inferior to you. In doing this, you will create more and more strong women, and effectively destroy any chance you may have to breed. I applaud you. Thank you for helping in the feminist cause. I now know all of the things that I’m up against when I teach my sons how not to be. I had thought that these views were a thing of the past, but I see that I was wrong.

  • Victoria

    This article made me cringe. Can’t stand the over-generalizations. The world isn’t black and white. I don’t know anyone who is always overly confident and never insecure or vice versa. As if having a sense of worth means you think you walk the earth unscathed by all of life’s problems or personal fears. Such a limited perspective. Because of course as a woman, I just exist to get a guy’s dick hard or make him a sandwich. He can go blow himself. “If every girl was fired from her job tomorrow, elementary schools would have to shut down for a couple days, but otherwise life would go on as usual.” My favorite line of the entire article. Just goes to show what a delusional fantasy world this guy lives in. Women make up half of the entire labor force in this country. To say “life would go on as usual” is evidence of his skewed, ridiculous and senseless mentality.

  • Deer Park

    You are a sad, whiny, pathetic non-human. You disgust me.

  • mICHELLE

    YOU ARE A STUPID HUMAN BEING!!!! THE ONLY THING THAT MAKES A MAN AND A WOMAN DIFFERENT IS THEIR BODY! WHAT THE FUCK DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH THEIR MIND/PERSONALITY/ WHO THEY ARE. SORRY YOU WANT T BROKEN WOMEN SO YOU CAN PLAY MR. SAVE-EM. YOU ARE STUPID THIS ESSAY IS RIDICULOUS. ALL YOU ARE DOING IS PICKING ON WOMEN WHO ARE COMFORTABLE WITH BEING THEMSELVES. REGARDLESS OF ANYTHING IS SOMEONE IS HAPPY WITH WHO THEY ARE AND THINK THEY ARE STRONG THEN WHO THE FUCK CARES. WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF BITCH!

  • John

    Genders will never be equal, because men are biologically superior. Women will always be inferior and men will always be superior. Men are bigger, faster, stronger, and smarter. Off the top of my head, I can’t name one women that made contributions to science on the scale of Einstein or Newton. 95% of Fortune 500 CEOs are males (and I am convinced the other 5% are in that position solely because they have a vagina, aka Affirmative Action).

    Females, if you are a feminist, you better split the bill on a date. And you better slap me if I dare hold the door for you.

  • Marilyn

    Any man who agrees with this load of bullshit and tripe is a true piece of shit.

  • Robert

    Well, now. A rant (and in fact, an entire blog) proving that there’s no shortage of bitter, frightened little self-loathing man-children in this world who have access to a blogging platform. And no shortage of other bitter, frightened little self-loathing man-children who support them, and who all gather to play with each other in their shabby Little Rascals He-Man Woman-Hater clubhouse.

    You’re an embarrassment to real men. But I’m pretty sure you already know that, and your attention-seeking behavior is just a vain attempt to re-inflate that tiny little penis of yours through massive verbal overcompensation.

    Enjoy your pathetic little circle-jerk, cave boy.

    (And have fun with responses… I’m not following this thread.)

  • LouLou

    Matt, I understand what you are trying to say here. REALLY, I see your point. Thing is that you are mistaken. I am a woman with high self-esteem and I love men, appreciate them, and want to help them succeed. I know that I am beautiful, smart, likable and KIND. I am bashful in a relationship because I want it to work and that makes me nervous. Just like it does any normal person on the entire planet. But I am confident. You can BE both. You mistake confidence for arrogance and selfishness. It makes sense that you would, however, seeing as you are nothing more than an arrogant, selfish boy and you think that this makes you confident. These are signs of LOW self-esteem Matt. I hope that you meet some fabulous woman who love to cook and clean, wear make-up, giggle nervously, give fantastic head, and shine bright like the fabulous, confident woman she is. She would talk to you for five minutes and pity you too much to give you the time of day.

  • Inês Sofia

    You fucking disgust me. This is the reason why feminism is much needed. This opinion physically hurts me…

  • Chelsea

    You disgust me. I hope a strong feminist sits on your face and suffocates you with her powerful vagina. You deserve to die with the essence of femininity all over your face, you insipid little prick. Until then, you better double bag it, because your sperm is a societal poison.

  • Old broad

    I think this whole damn thing is one big circle-jerk. Have fun, guys, it may be your only chance.

  • Z

    You’re an asshole. :D

  • Trace

    I hope you and your “Fifty Shades of Grey”-loving future partner are very happy together.

    I’m not sorry that I have too many brain cells to make it work out between us. Though I’m sure the back-alley lobotomy specialists are gutted by my decision, helplessly drooling onto your tuna sandwich doesn’t appeal.

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  • Liz

    You and my grandmother would be PERFECT together.

    She sat me down when I was 14, and said “I don’t know WHY you spend so much time studying. You’re pretty enough.”

    Gee thanks gran, for insinuating that I need a big strong man to pound his chest and drag home a moose while I make him a panini and squeeze out some kidlets.

    Though I will acknowledge the fact that I’ve worked with a lot of females who feel the need to wear their vaginas on their forehead and talk about what strong, independent women they are one minute, while making sad huffy noises the next minute about how heavy something is. I don’t care about your vagina. Just do your goddamned job, regardless of gender, and maybe someday we can integrate with mankind to the point that they won’t notice our lady bits as our defining feature.

  • Eric Anderson

    You, sir…are an idiot.

  • http://annastarecheski.com Anna

    Wow, you are truly a steaming pile of human garbage. A worthless piece of shit surrounded by misogynistic idiots participating in a hilarious yet sad circle jerk because they can’t get laid.
    I hope the next girl who sucks your dick bites it off. You shouldn’t be allowed to procreate.

  • Jacq

    I never thought I would find you, Prince Charming.

  • Erica

    Matt,

    You are sadly mistaken, strong women are not “cocky” women who strive to be equal or better than men! Strong women are modest not insecure. They know the value of love from a man. Strong women know they need a man to protect, support, provide, and care for them. I believe there are many “independent” women who wish they could find that man so that they can be a stay at home mom, and housewife and do those innate responsibilities of nurturing, supporting, home-making, and care giving. Humans, not men, desire the feeling of being needed and appreciated.Therefore, we don’t need to be 100% dependent on one person because then we are not being needed by them in return. Independent women can survive without a man but are incomplete without one. You don’t need women who have no self-esteem you need women who understand the beauty of modesty. Saying “I am the all powerful woman here me roar” is just as unattractive as hearing a man say “this is a mans world”. It took a man and a woman to bring you in this world, so It takes men and women to keep this world going. However, you will always have people with different thoughts and emotions. It does not make them (or you) wrong it just means there are going to be people in the world that don’t fit your idea of what reality should be.

  • Ilana

    I don’t know where to begin because this article cradles so many logical fallacies and outright absurdities, all of which I would like to debunk…but am short of time for. Before I say anything, if this is a satire, A fucking plus man, you’ve just pissed off more people than I think I will in a life time. There is nothing more I respect than a dedicated troll. However, I am going to attack this article in light of it being written as serious.
    You’ve made the point that the female’s biological role is upheld by a “low self-esteem.” The thing that most troubles me about this statement is that you think that science is the backbone of your argument. Self-esteem is a social construct and bears no scientific trappings what so ever. So despite the fact that that’s just the most distasteful shit I’ve ever read, it bears ZERO conceptual legitimacy. There is not one scientific theory that can even MEAGERLY substantiate your imbecilic claim. Self-esteem is an arbitrary concept that is comprised of very subjective internalizations of how society reacts to x person. Example: some women wear makeup and some don’t. The woman’s liking or disliking towards makeup is determined by how she was socialized. In this illustration the woman that wears makeup will be alluded to as woman A, and the woman that doesn’t wear makeup will be alluded to as woman B. Woman A wears makeup and gets a negatively intoned look from a man. Her reaction is fueled by immediate anxiety and panic. Subsequently, she pulls out a mirror, or enters the nearest bathroom to make sure her face looks okay. If she is with a companion, she will consult and ask if she looks “fine.” Woman A has been socialized to be very conscious of her appearance and makes sure to maintain it. Woman B internalizes the same scenario apathetically. Woman B was not taught to be as conscious of her appearance and keeps strolling, anxiety free. These two women had been socialized by institutions VERY differently. Perhaps woman A is more western than woman B, because, as is evident, western culture and euro-centric models of thinking inordinately emphasize beauty, but more importantly, perfection.

    This conveniently brings me to my second point. How can you say that “girls in America are bombarded with propaganda that artificially boosts their self-esteem”? The media does nothing of the sort. Institutions create, exploit and make profit out of female insecurity. Capitalists are self-seeking assholes that are willing to exploit as long as they profit. How do they exploit? They shape ideology. How is ideology disseminated? Media. What do we see in the media? Lots of naked women. What else? Lots of skinny women. What else? Lots of hairless women. What else? Lots of women with clear skin. What else? The list goes on and on. Why do we see depictions of women in the media that are antithetical to reality? The average women does not mirror the woman you see in the Lancom or Chanel ad. Why? Because if the idea of a woman is presented as “perfect” in the media, that makes leeway for a billion dollar market thriving off of products that “embellish” and “perfect” things that are perceived as “imperfect” like stretch marks or crows feet, which are things that naturally come with age and growth. The media emphasizes youth and everlasting beauty, which shape the self-esteem of a woman. If a woman gets a pimple she rushes to the nearest store to buy beauty products. Female insecurity is created and upheld by culture. Our overwhelming insecurity is a contributor to running the economic hegemony that so beholds us. So before you say that society is on our side, please read a sociology textbook and dig around a marketer’s/ advertiser’s brainstorming notes.

    A side-point. Western woman grapple with a double standard that makes life very difficult. You have two antithetical ideologies coexisting. One ideology says that it is a woman’s obligation to be sexy and show her tits to anyone who demands. The other ideology emphasizes slut-shaming and is organized around the concept of the “virgin.” Here we have the Virgin/Whore or the girl-woman. How is a woman to know how to behave when she is presented two completely different models of behavior from the same exact source? Often, the ideologies coexist in one ad. Ever seen a model posing in a really provocative pose, holding a teddy bear, and sporting pigtails? She embodies the young, virginal child, and the sexy woman simultaneously. This message is very unhealthy and traumatic to the psyche. This image also impacts what men fetishize…which explains why you like submissive women which you wrongly describe as “girls with no self esteem.” Women in the media are NEVER portrayed as dominant, unless the ad is released thru a feminist organization or any organization that particularly emphasizes female strength for political purposes. Female strength is never advertised nonchalantly…it defies cultural norms and acts in opposition to culturally ingrained gender roles. All of our ideas about women come from the media. The media is honestly to blame. I feel pity for you for falling prey to a model of thinking that exploits you and the women you seem to have a writhing hatred for.

    I’m pretty sure you masturbate to axe commercials and that’s fine, I do too…that’s what the capitalists want.

    SOME women are submissive, and SOME women are insecure, and SOME, if not many, Western women have low self esteems. (not going to incorporate other cultures into this expose b/c i have meager knowledge of how institutions function outside of western world.) These things are true, and sad, sad products of capitalist moguls and the media they create. This isn’t the “biological” inevitability you think exists in the dynamic betweens males and females. That’s simply absurd…and delusional.

    Also, quick note… feminism isn’t a movement that seeks to overthrow mankind. You guys are fucking IDIOTS. Feminism simply seeks equality between genders…or more appropriately, seeks that gender boundaries be liquified, at least that’s what I believe.

    This essay didn’t make me cringe because you’re simply one of the MANY men that believes this. What you did differently is, you stated your opinion publicly. I’ve met many men with this mentality…perhaps not as extremist, but it was definitely misogynistic or on the verge of.

    Also, quick note to all the feminists who are appalled by this:
    Didn’t the movement of feminism originate because shit like this exists?… You should know, better than anyone else, that this kind of distasteful bullshit thrives in our society. You should know better than anyone, that some men hold this belief about us women. Instead of attacking the author with ad hominem attacks left and right, give him a fucking piece of your mind. You guys are giving a bad name to the movement.

  • Shadow

    This has got to be a joke, yeah? If so it’s downright brilliant

  • Marshallaw

    “So-called confident women are as threatening as a pile of dog turds. Sure, you can scrape them off your boots when you get home, but it’s better to not step in dog shit to begin with.”
    Dog shit…..ha ha……dog shit……confident women…..dog shit…..it does stick to your shoes something awful….dog shit that is…..gotta hose that outta those grips….

  • Sara

    Gosh I wish I could have finished reading this article, but I have to put my apron on and get back to the kitchen, since it’s where I belong. Definitely NOT at my corporate “fluff” job. ALSO, I have to make time to burn my diploma, since it is not Matts idea of a good degree. Ooops. There goes $20K down the drain. Oh well.

    Honestly though, I think I’m going to be a farmer since when everyone quits their jobs I can be a part of the ones that made the country shut down. Am I showing too much confidence by posting this? So sorry.

    P.S. Sorry about your mommy issues.

  • BH

    Sigh… While the article is offending, ten seconds browsing his website will show you that he fucks with people for a living. He is literally raking in tons of money because this article has gone viral. Hell, he probably loves confident women who have high-self esteem but saying that won’t get page views.

    My opinion? Use your fucking brains before you start typing angry replies.

  • M

    Smacks of sour grapes. Sorry, must suck for you that women who are confident and well-adjusted don’t need to go running to sad, desperate-to-assert-power-over-somebody-anybody-cmon-please bloggers for approval.

  • yeah ok

    I am laughing so hard at this. This has to be a joke. Wow. Literally everything that you stated in this is completely ridiculous… we want to be equal to men, and that’s pretty much it. We don’t hate men, we want EQUALITY. Sadly, it’s very hard for us to do this when most men (you included) think with their dick and are brainwashed into believing that a woman’s only use is to make men happy.

  • Dirk Gently

    Matt,
    What the fuck is wrong with you? Are you such a scared little coward that you can’t handle a woman with self esteem, self respect, intelligence and the backbone to stand up to your shit? Do you actually believe the garbage you write? You are a pathetic excuse for a man and you disgust all real men.

  • A Non-Feminist Teenage Girl

    I have never been a feminist. In fact, I think men play an incredibly important role in society; historically a more important role than does my gender. I believe we have a lot to offer as well, but that is not to say that woman should rule the world and all its governments. However, to say from any standpoint-sexual or not-that an insecurity in woman is GOOD, is inhuman. My younger sister, 13 years old, almost died last year from anorexia nervosa, a neurological disorder that can (but does not always) result in the optical and mental distortion of the body, leading to subconscious starvation and eventually death. Her eating disorder could be entirely attributed to insecurity, because the world told her that a bit of fat on her belly would make her hated by every man in America. Without the confidence I possess, I would likely fall victim to the same disorder, which is largely genetic. Without the confidence she now possesses as a result of treatment, she would likely fall victim to the disorder again and again–eventually leading to her death. I sincerely hope, that when you say insecurity should be encouraged, you realize the medical implications on woman’s health that come with such a statement.

  • Youneed Help

    As they say, like attracts like. You’re clearly an insecure asshole with no respect for women with half a brain. I’m proud of my achievements, my degrees, my job as a high-paid translator (probably better paid than you) and the fact that I don’t have to kiss some hairy asshole like you every night. You seriously have a messed up view of women. If you find a woman who can love you despite the fact that you are, empirically, a complete bold-faced jerk, then you deserve that wet noodle. Just do me and the world a favour and don’t reproduce. Kthanks.

  • AustralianFemale

    I am married to a man with no degree and no job, I have both a degree and a job, neither of us judges or loves the other based on these qualifications. We share cooking and cleaning duties in our home and express love through sexual intimacy but it’s a GOOD THING I have low self esteem about my intellect, strength and achievements or his strong male persona wouldn’t find me attractive? Lol the point of this article is so ludicrous there is no logical way to apply its principles to a real life relationship (that is, not the purely sex-based romps the author is eager to assert through all his editing)!

  • Youneed Help

    You need deep, intense therapy. If that doesn’t work, may I recommend sterilization? Womankind doesn’t want your genes spreading around, thankyouverymuch.

  • Anon

    Thank you, sincerely, for writing an essay on why the world needs feminism.

  • eddie

    Yea and like everyone else said also you’re a sick moron.

  • Christopher Holmes

    In the immortal words of Master Shifu, “There is now a level zero.”

  • Jenny

    Am I the only one here wondering who the girl was who screwed this guy over and broke his heart because this reads as angry and resentful, not as someone who has thought about and considered his opinions.

    Also, I am greatly concerned about your attitude regarding rape. By saying that women are ‘constantly expanding the definition of rape are ways for feminists to indulge their desire for vulnerability in a way that doesn’t conflict with their view of themselves as “strong” and “empowered”’ smacks of victim blaming. You strike me as one of those men to defend themselves by saying that ‘she was asking for it’ or that she was wearing a short skirt; therefore she’s sexually available. Also, I am interested to hear what these expanded definitions are. As far as I’m aware if a man or woman does not consent to sex whether the sex is violent or not then it is rape. It’s pretty transparent.

    You claim that confident women treat you like objects but in the same breathe you are doing that exact thing which makes you a damn hypocrite. I think that you are confusing strong and confident with arrogant and rude. If this is how you treat women are you really surprised that this is how they behave towards you?

  • Meh

    Invoke the golden rule. If you wouldn’t want to be insecure and needy etc, why would a woman want this? There are no advantages to a world in which women are, by design and socialization, taught that they are chronically inadequate. The only people who benefit from such a society are beta-males who would otherwise see even more limited interaction with women. It’s short-sighted and very self-serving, and deeply, deeply selfish.

  • Ivy

    You, sir, are an asshole in all simplicity.

    You don’t like smart, confident girls for the sheer fact that they’re intelligent enough not to date a douchebag like you. With your attitude, the only girls who are going to willingly come within a fifty foot radius of you are naturally going to be idiots.

    You’re talking about girls as if they’re fucking livestock. We don’t live simply to please men. Especially not complete twats like you. Believe it or not, we actually have our own opinions. And wow, look at that! We form coherent thoughts! We’re human beings too! Surprise! We know how the world works!

    How would YOU like it if you were shunned down every single day simply for the fact that you’ve got boobs and a vagina? It’s not like girls chose to be girls at birth, for that matter. Not that I’d want to be a guy instead. You know why? Because it literally makes no difference. WE’RE EQUAL, YOU DELUSIONAL TWAT.

    The reason girls are so scared of rapists and such are BECAUSE OF MEN LIKE YOU. You’re talking about girls like they’re your fucking play toy to have sex with when you’re bored! Because in your brick of a mind, girls aren’t worth being considered people. They’re just something to bring you joy. You see them merely as as means to make yourself look better.

    You say achievements are things like body building, but you know what? Girls do that too. And the fact that men are still running all the ‘important’ jobs is because they don’t ALLOW as many women to. We’re put in a lower light by men in the first place.

    I don’t know why I’m even bothering to write a comment that’ll bring publicity to a shit piece of human like you. You’re too thick to wrap your head around the fact that you’re a moron, so there’s no point in trying to get through to you, is there?

    To finish this off, you should probably just know that the main goal in our lives isn’t trying to get your dick to stand up straight. We do what we do to please ourselves. Not asshats like you.

  • alex

    It’s absolutely disgusting that people like you still exist in this world.

  • h. pat

    I’m sure at times a man would want to see some confidence and self esteem. no?

  • Janet Powers

    Who the FUCK are you, faggot? Did your mom not cuddle you enough when you were little?Were you orphaned? Did your dad rape you? Yes, Matthew, I’m talking to you.

  • john

    this is revolting

  • real men don’t kill coyotes

    This is an appalling fallacy.

    You are no man, and clearly are trying to compensate for it. i am sorry you are so short. Short minded, short sighted, short witted and so short in stature that you cant get it up with out making women small.

    As a Man ( a claim i can honestly make) i am ashamed you claim to be one and to represent us. We that stand next to Women, not over them, are Men.

    You, are a fool, pitiable at best.

    Stick your dick in a toaster, your end of the gene pool has something dead floating it.

  • Girl

    Someone was abused by a woman as a child and uses means such as these to make himself feel better. No matter how well you write or how many losers at home agree with you your thoughts on this subject have never and will never be anything but false. I hate to think of all the women you’ve emotionally abused. I certainly wouldn’t want to meet my maker with your frame of mind.

  • Sora

    Wait, is this serious? There is someone this unbelievably stupid? I can’t even fathom the reasoning behind this article.

  • A Real Human Being

    This honestly makes me sick.
    I think you deserve the hardest punch to the face.

  • Chamonn

    Go fuck yourself.

  • Eric

    You lost me at, “I’d still bang her, of course; a repellent personality doesn’t negate the fact that she has a slammin’ body.” Men objectifying women under the guise of liberality for the win.

  • bee

    Newsflash: We don’t exist to fuel your boners. You don’t have a right to be pleased by us.

    You are a pathetic crybaby.

  • Pennywise

    This article is gold, Matt. Not because it’s right – though it is. Not because it’s deeply insightful – though it is. No, it’s because it’s attracted all these feminists and manginae, and put them on show for the whole world to see.

    We get to see, close up, their insecurity, their intellectual bankruptcy, their emotional immaturity, their intrinsic predisposition to violence, their strong censorious impulses, and their inability to apply critical thinking – for no other reason than you made them feel bad. Honestly, I would be surprised by this behaviour from a four year-old child.

    Further proof of their disconnect from reality is that they really think their ‘tantrum posts’ (for they are nothing more than that) will actually convert someone to their way of thinking. I’ve actually read all 700 posts – and there is no way that I would want to be, under any circumstances, associated these childish, violent, and just plain stupid people. If these are their finest ‘media officers’, no wonder Feminism Inc. is sinking with such amazing rapidity.

    Keep on posting, Tumblrphiles – you only make the manosphere stronger with such breathtaking displays of idiotic groupthink as this.

  • Ashley

    I would just like to mention that I find that the fact you utilized physical strength (being fucking jacked) as your first example of male worth incredibly hilarious. It gave the whole article a tone of “bro-ness” and I imagined you writing this in front of a mirror in a neon colored muscle tank and a shit-eating grin on your face. Maybe some white sunglasses, as well. I cannot tell whether you believe what you are writing or not, which is the genius in this essay. You either have a very 50’s view of women (If so, perhaps you would prefer us to wear sundress and heels while baking pie in the summer?) or you have not actually told us how you view women and have merely played a very eloquent prank on the entirety of the internet. You could not have been oblivious to the repercussions of writing and posting this.

    What DOES disturb me is the amount of people who A.) Agree with you and actually have this view of gender roles. If you share this view, and this post is not a troll, I am also disturbed by you – however envious I may be of your writing skill; B.) Disagree with you, but used poorly written, uneducated insults that unwittingly prove some of your points. Calling someone a retard, pig, or fascist does not refute any point made and does nothing to aid in intelligent conversation. [SIDE NOTE: What is the purpose of the excessive punctuation and letters? I don’t get it.] and C.) The amount of edited comments on your post. I would really like to know what critiques were deleted and/or changed. If you had the testicular fortitude to write and publish this, you should also have the same fortitude with the fallout. I reiterate, there was no way someone so well written could be oblivious to the outcome of such a post.

    Anyway, is Tucker Max your muse? Have you contacted him and discussed writing a film together? I’m sure there is a killing to be made.

  • Louise

    I hope at the end-stages of your life you have a female doctor attending you

  • Airi

    Aww, women with high self esteem would never fuck you and now the internet gets to hear about how you can only plow fickle little bitches.

    Believe me, if this is your attitude on the matter, a woman would REALLY have to hate herself to fuck you. There’s a difference between “how women should be” and “the only woman you can get” and it seems to be lost in all the necrotic shit built up in your grey matter.

  • Hayley

    They’re encouraged to derive self-worth not from their inherent feminine nature but from their college degree, their job or the other illusory trappings of achievement in a man’s world.

    In the world of men, respect—and by extension self-esteem—is based on actually achieving something of worth or having some kind of skill or talent.

    Body-building or being good at your job is something that is ok to use as the basis of your self worth if you are a man? Have you seen all the gym-junky women in modern society, sports women, women who are good at their jobs and love their jobs, are good at college and love their degree. I use all of these things as a basis of my self-worth as well as my treatment of people around me, my skills in cooking and cleaning to make my household lovely for myself, my housemates and my boyfriend. My ability to make a fucking sandwich for or with my aforementioned boyfriend, or for my mates or family. The cursory lines drawn between men and women are constructed, yes men are naturally stronger, but a man with a neckbeard who plays video games in his parents basement probably shouldn’t start on a steroid taking female body builder.

    I am a person. My partner loves me for who I am. I am not typically female or male, I am just a person with a vagina, no upper body strength and a complex contradictory ways of thinking and my partners unusual upper body strength and penis is a nice complement.

    And you sir, are a cunt who needs to ensure that he has a non-contradictory blog before he posts please.

  • A Strong Woman

    What the fuck.

  • Brandon

    You sir, are a misogynistic douche. Women don’t seek respect for being alive. They seek it for achieving the same things as men. And they have to seek it because Idiots like you think that for them to achieve that it means nothing. I’m halfway through my MBA and most of my class is women. When they graduate with me why should that degree count so much less for them than for men. I have to admit to being the exact opposite of you. I’m attracted to strong women who can hold their own in a relationship. That’s not to say that I can’t “be the man” but it’s admirable when a woman is her own person and not just hanging on my arm dragging me down.

  • Chris Hunter

    Matt, you and everyone who agrees with you is a fucking cunt. I started reading this with the hope to eventually realize it was satire….but no, you are actually that sexist even by 1950s standards.

    I hope you choke on a sandwich.

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  • Jena Ackens

    What kind of sexist piece of shit posts something like this? Its as if this man has been living with his head stuck up his ass for the last couple decades. Women and men are equally human and that’s the bottom line. It doesn’t make sense that anyone would think women WANT to be insecure and vulnerable. Of course it feels good to be strong and independent; it gives us the opportunity to live freely. Have you ever asked yourself what quality of life a person would be living if they had virtually no self esteem? Being confident results in happiness and feeling comfortable, and there is literally no woman who actually wants to live a life of feeling permanently uncomfortable and dependent on men. Actual feminism is believing that men and women can love each other and coexist in harmony because we both have similar enough emotions. Women are far less “over emotional” than media portrays us to be, just as i’m sure men are way more sensitive and more intelligent than society’s portrayal, which makes men out to be barely-emotional creatures who care about nothing but achieving sexual satisfaction through women displayed as mere sexual objects. The media tells us many lies, or stretches of reality to say the least. Men are obviously smart enough to see how equality would benefit everyone, and they definitely are not all sex-consumed pricks. Just as there are good and bad women, there are good and bad men. It’s literally THAT simple. Not to mention the fact that there a million double standards between the two genders. How come the dress codes of many schools are only applicable to girls; ultimately demonstrating the over-sexulization of the female body? Why is it that females are called sluts for enjoying sex but men rarely are labeled on account of the same matter? How come there are people who still think it’s funny to make jokes about women belonging on the kitchen? For Pete’s sake, the USA has never even had a female president! The truth is, feminism is all about eliminating these unfair aspects of society. It has nothing to do with saying women are better than men because the whole goal is EQUALITY. In actuality, there is nothing someone shouldn’t be able to achieve simply because they are female. All humans have the right to follow their dreams and nothing can stand in the face of your goals as long as you don’t let them. The achievement of feminism does not remove romance between men and women. Of course men and women will still be able to have committed, romantic relationships with one another! Feminism doesn’t eliminate the role of the female in the relationship, it just stresses that the female and the male are equals of each other in relationships. With that, wouldn’t relationships be even better seeing that both members could achieve whatever they wanted as individuals without any drawbacks, thus allowing the couple to bond better over similar interests and experiences? As for calling women sluts, i want to keep it simple. It’s wrong because it’s a double standard. I’m not saying it’s cool to sleep around with people, I’m saying that you have to evaluate the situation. Obviously it’s wrong if ANYONE, male or female, cheats in a relationship, or any other situation in which someone’s feelings are getting hurt, emotions are being played with, being taken advantage of, etc. But, I feel like we should use a better term than ‘slut’ to describe this. Describing the person with a negative adjective respectively makes much more sense to me than using an offensive label that has lost much of its original meaning over the years. Like I said, the bottom line is equality which would result in positive mindset changes, and all people existing as unique, mostly wonderful humans as opposed to two genders partially separated by both having acquired negative connotations due to the media. Luckily, we are smart enough to know that male and female stereotypes don’t apply to a lot of people.

  • Pennywise

    I’ve written the outline of a computer program that could be used to simulate Tumblr feminists’ posts:

    Step 1: Enter some porn starlets name as your own. Leave people to snigger at the Freudian implications of this.
    Step 2: Write line consisting of . . . The less coherent, the better.
    Step 3: Make a NAWALT claim, against all evidence gathered over the last 10,000 years. Step 4: Flip a coin. If heads, insult your boyfriend (or perhaps girlfriend) by telling the whole world how much of a pathetic doormat he/she is to you.
    Step 5: Flip a coin again. If heads, create new pargraph, and return to Step 2.
    Step 6: Write a wish for bodily harm to come to the OP. Hope that everybody’s too stupid to notice how this blows the ‘liberals, feminists, etc. are so tolerant’ claim out of the water.
    Step 7: (optional, but recommended) Randomly replace words in the post with references to human genitalia.

  • http://breannasmall.wordpress.com Breanna
  • Maria

    I find it hypocritical that you say that that confident women are incapable of seeing men as human beings when you just wrote an entire essay completely de-hunamizing half of your species. This article made me sick yo my stomach.

  • amanda

    hey, hey. fuck you.

  • driggs

    this is horseshit

  • M

    People with similar beliefs as yours are one reason many people have mental illness today. Mental illness isn’t something to disregard or look down upon, just like rape, self esteem, self worth, and so many other topics that you expanded upon. I wish you a good day, but I hope you realize some time in your life that these opinions are unhealthy, demeaning, and unjust.

  • Corey

    Are you actually insane as to think this cherry-picked, clearly self-serving and pseudo-intellectual vaguery is an argument?

  • J

    Wow. What an insecure (excuse for a) guy. These are words of a blabbering fool. i thought maybe i was reading the onion for a moment there because this certainly seems like satire. Just wow. And stupid.

  • Ethan Darkovsky

    I want to say something little, grown up.

    All the things you say aren’t logical and looks like a child wrote them. Why you are better than them? you don’t have rationality and normal arguments.

    Your boss is very fucked up to hire you.

    If you say something logical bring it on, but with that stupid mentality I don’t think so.

  • gameshowhost

    This isn’t horseshit, it’s a plea for psychotropic medication.

  • alec

    sounds like you were hurt by a confident self-sufficient woman. I’m sorry if that’s the case but its no excuse to make sweeping generalizations about female self confidence. as a confident woman in a commited, emotionally open relationship with a confident man, I tak gross offense to many of your statements.

  • Fuck You

    This was a waste to write and an even bigger waste to read.
    Men absolutely need women more than women need men. If it wasn’t for chauvinistic MEN like you, women wouldn’t have to deal with this type of absolute BULLSHIT.
    The only reason why someone would want someone else to have low self-esteem is to boost their own. Your self-worth is completely dependent on ours, which would make sense if you had little to none yourself. If this wasn’t the case, then HUMAN BEINGS THAT REALLY AREN’T MUCH DIFFERENT FROM YOU having fucking self-esteem shouldn’t even cross your mind. If you don’t like boastful women, then don’t date them. Don’t fuck them. Don’t even look at them- because if you don’t need women as much as we need you, then you should be able to go on living the rest of your life content with only men.
    Not only does this shit piece of writing not acknowledge the fact that plenty of women (and men) aren’t even straight, but also you’re forgetting the fact that women fucking create life. And if you were unaware, science is getting close to being able to create sperm with fucking ovarian eggs. THEN WE REALLY WON’T NEED YOU AT ALL.
    So FUCK YOU, sir. Your ideas are damaging, close-minded, sexist, and backwards. It is SERIOUSLY alarming what you’re against. You should be FOR preventing rape, not whining about what qualifies it. It makes you sound like… well, a rapist.
    You’re trying to point out some sort of misandry that in “a man’s world” doesn’t fucking exist. All this is, is a list of your fetish-filled fantasies that you want from women, not based off of fact. You’re a piece of shit, you shouldn’t have children- god forbid you have a daughter that you would teach to have low self-esteem. what kind of human are you?

  • R

    You sure have good writing style, and your words are very convincing. But I must say that I disagree with you.
    Don’t you think that men have their own insecurities too? And there are women that have high self-esteem from the start. I believe that everyone is human, and thus they have can feel the same feelings. The only thing that makes us different is our experience, and although biology does affect it a bit, it doesn’t mean that man is superior in any way.
    You said that if every man lost his job tomorrow, the country would collapse. Don’t you remember that human can adapt? I believe eventually woman will get the jobs man lost, and the country won’t collapse that way. You think if every woman lost his job, life would go on as usual? Don’t you remember that some jobs, menial jobs I admit, is woman’s? Man will eventually get the jobs woman lost too, and this way I can only conclude that there are no differences in man and woman. Women can do man’s job, we just choose not to. It is the same with men.
    Please open your mind and don’t box it. You have to see that woman does not need to be insecure, just like man doesn’t have to be confident.

  • Fury

    You are the worst creature imaginable. You should be staked to a hill until the elements can reclaim you and reform you into something useful.

  • Daria Morgendorfer

    wow, you’ve made me see the light. I no longer want to be a lesbian. I just needed a man to smack my ass and tell me I wanted his cock. Wow, if only I’d known sooner.

  • Satire?

    I must accept this horrendous work as a very bad satire. If I don’t I may lose a calm, rational demeanor. You see, self-esteem is a human quality. A low self-esteem cannot measured and maintained just above suicide as your article suggests. That’s actually psychologically and emotionally impossible.

    Furthermore, if I do not accept this article as satire, that would mean accepting that there is a reality where there is someone who still believes it is the nineteenth century. Actually, no. That would mean I would have to accept that there is a man so ignorantly backward that his entire article has undone at least a century or more of women’s rights. So, for my sanity, I must accept this as satire.

    Unfortunately I am of the notion that this is not satire. It smacks too great of honesty, and the subtlety of satire does not ring true here. So you are either talented, or a grossly ignorant man who needs to realize it is the 21st century. I, personally, dislike women who lack confidence. I am attrated to a self sure woman who knows precisely what she wants from life. Relationships are give and take.

  • Ali

    I would just like to say to you that this is quite ridiculous. Quite honestly. I don’t see you, as a high strung, IMPORTANT man, squeezing a baby out of your penis. I don’t see you going through your life everyday told that you are worthless. Because basically this is what this essay tells me, that all women are worthless we are just meant to grovel and men’s feet and look up at them with wonder in our eyes at their glory. Really? Honestly look at what women have done.
    Cleopatra, defended a whole nation
    Joan of Ark, led the French to victory
    Cathrine de Medici, gave her HUSBAND political advice helping to benefit Italy
    Oh look, all these women were from a non-feminist era, and look! They were brilliant.
    More modern;
    Condoleezza Rice
    J.K Rowling
    Did these women sit in a corner, cowering from the world? No. They changed it. So you sir, you, get your period, get made fun of because your breasts are too big or too small, be told you cannot live in a man’s world. Live a day as a woman, then tell us how we should be.

  • bob

    This is disgusting.

  • KoopaKrazy85

    I think you’re mixing confidence with arrogance – I agree that feminazis are annoying. People who think women are superior honestly shit me off, but no more than people who for some reason are still convinced that men are better. We are people, okay? Yes, gender will always play a role in our society and alter who we are, but the less prominent that social influence becomes, the better and fairer for everyone. You know what? You’re allowed to be attracted to submissive girls, or someone with low confidence – but that doesn’t mean that everyone has that same interest.

    “Feminists can claim that women don’t need men, but their actions put the lie to that; they need us far more than we need them.” We both fucking need eachother, doorknob. To reproduce, for emotional support and sanity, for everything. The only scenario in which a girl is clingy enough to think they ‘need’ a boyfriend/husband/whatever at all times is when society has imprinted on them that they need it. And that’s two-way. I know guys that think they’re losers for not having girlfriends, too.

    There are women out in the world who want to be objectified, might even get off on that – are happy living that cliche home-life where the man goes out and works. Go on, go screw one of them! But you can’t generalise to say that an entire population fits under one decreasingly popular stereotype, when it’s very plain that a vast majority of women are happy with the right to vote and make our own decisions.

  • Me

    Really hoping this is a Poe…

  • Miles Crane

    You are the vilest, dumbest, most asinine individual currently walking the face of this Earth. Mission accomplished if you needed to prove this.

  • Sophia

    You disgust me. Clearly, you have some mommy issues or you were humiliated one too many times by a strong female. But that still doesn’t give you the right to spread your demented message to the masses. You know who loves vulnerable girls? Rapists. You know who preys on insecure girls? Pedophiles. You don’t have a scrap of intelligence in your brain if you honestly feel this way and i’m sure that your mother would be ashamed of you. The fact that people are agreeing is even more sickening. Every single human being deserves respect and i don’t have a problem demanding it in your so called “men’s world”. This is 2013, we don’t have time to deal with people like you, who still believe that this is the 1950’s. You’re pathetic and this “essay”, is a disgrace.

  • Venny

    Please, please tell me you’re a troll. People as terrible as you can’t exist.

  • tamara

    Certainly very provocative. And if you still believe all publicity is good, then for sure you’ve achieved your aim. However, you’re clearly a Harman Ellison fan, stealing the title of his most famous collection for your blog, so I wanted to let you know that I’m not sure he’d approve of your rant. I met him once @ his home in Sherman Oaks, and I’m quite sure he doesn’t mind strong women. His great story, A Boy and His Dog, has obviously influenced your perspective, but I believe you’ve missed his point. His dystopia was to be avoided not yearned for. As well, since you’re obviously an aspiring writer, I’d like to recommend Philip Wylie’s novel,The Disappearance. It’s a great work of speculative fiction that explores a world where simultaneously all men and women disappear from each other’s reality. It supports your vision initially, of a world without men. Planes crashing, chaos, etc. However, eventually the women cooperate and figure out how to survive. Whereas the men survive the initial disappearance and then descend into chaos. Anyhow, good luck with your newfound infamy…

  • Pennywise

    Women: life on ‘Easy’ mode.

  • Skye

    I really hope you are single.
    I really hope you are single the rest of your life.
    I really hope you are single in any afterlife you’re permitted to.
    Because you obviously fear being alone, and…
    Because I pity the women you target.
    This essay blossoms from a man whose insecurity is one thousand times greater than the least secure woman. His soul has rotted, and he painstakingly goes through each reply to his sexist blog post to modify the responses to something equally as insecure and sexist. He horrified girls he dated with his biased and medieval views (although even men in the medieval ages knew women deserved respect), and himself belonged to prehistoric times, where he could be happily gobbled by a hungry dinosaur in need of nourishment.

    Your displeasure with confident women limit you greatly…
    You’ve likely never enjoyed woman-on-top sex.
    You’ve probably never benefited from the use of a cock-ring.
    You haven’t been able to have sex on a one-night-stand due to the condom not fitting properly (yes, I’ve resorted to ‘small-penis jokes’, because you’ve already reduced yourself to ‘women in the kitchen’ jokes, so therefore my language needs to deteriorate to your level for concise understanding – not that you’re even reading these responses anymore, you’ve hopefully wizened up and realized there is no salvation for your stupidity).

    Because you clearly lack empathy (the ability to put oneself into another’s shoes), let me enlighten you. The prejudices and expectations of men are not equal to those of women, as you’ve adequately demonstrated in your speech. Please, attempt to rewrite this blog with the roles reversed, where women expect their men to be super-confident, and containing knowledge of all things pertaining to whatever it is men are expected to do nowadays.

    I pride myself on being unattainable to assholes like you. I won’t chastise you on having no standards; you’re probably still happy banging a blow-up doll (as any woman who has read this would never reduce herself to YOUR level). Here is how I see the hierarchy standing today.

    Confident and Secure Men and Women (not necessarily in that order, merely for alphabetical organization).
    .
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    Insecure Men and Women.
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    Suicide.
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    Blow-up doll.
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    Sock.
    Hand.
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    You.

    Even those women you believe are such easy targets, and who are so worthy of your attention, are far beyond what you deserve. So congratulate yourself on each triumph, and just know that you will never deserve her. Please rot in the grave you’re digging for yourself, or at least benefit society by contributing your compost into something beneficial. Like fertilizer for the tomatoes my dogs eat before I can harvest them.

    Cheers!
    -Skye.

  • Pennywise

    > Some random, illiterate Tumblr feminist said:
    > Cleopatra, defended a whole nation

    No, the MEN who fought defended the nation.

    > Joan of Ark(sic), led the French to victory

    Just proves that white knights and manginae have existed throughout history.

    > Cathrine(sic) de Medici, gave her HUSBAND political advice helping to benefit Italy

    Slept her way to the top. And again, men did the actual work.

    > Condoleezza(sic) Rice

    Turned (admittedly with a LOT of help) a great superpower into the laughing stock of the planet.

    > J.K Rowling

    Wrote childrens’ books that will be forgotten within a generation.

    > Did these women sit in a corner, cowering from the world? No.

    No, they didn’t do anything really. Seeing the pattern?

    > They changed it.

    Usually for the worse.

    > So you sir, you, get your period, get made fun of because your breasts are too big or too small

    So THAT’S your real complaint: you’re a weak coward who can’t handle a few words being thrown at her.

    No wonder women have never contributed to civilisation, if you’re indicative of the quality.

    > be told you cannot live in a man’s world.

    See above. You’re just weak, and hate being reminded of it.

    > Live a day as a woman, then tell us how we should be.

    See my previous post.

  • Really..?

    This is all really rich coming from a guy who uses animated characters for his profile pictures. Who even are you? What do you look like? I keep seeing things like “hot chicks only” but you could be the ugliest motherfucker around. I’m glad people are seeing this article only because its crashing your site. I’m not a feminist. I’m just a person who thinks a human being is a human being and we should all be treated with respect. Women are not hopeless weak human beings. You couldn’t handle being a woman. Women go through childbirth, have a higher pain tolerance because of it, and bleed one a month for a week and doesn’t die. That last bit right there can stand alone. You try bleeding for a whole week and not die because you can’t, you are not strong enough. Women are. I hope people realize that this article was written by a man with his own self esteem issues as he needs someone to need him before he considers himself complete. I take hope in reading that you do not wish to reproduce. I don’t need to wish any threats upon your being because Karma is a woman and she is a real bitch.

  • a real female.

    You and anyone who believes this drivil is a sick and twisted little fuck. Try getting a girlfriend who is all that? fuck no they will go for the kind and caring guys. No girl who was vunrible would ever trust a bunch of dickwads like you with their heart. why? Because you idiots wouldnt be able to keep her safe and loved you all have nothing but hate and ego. have fun alone until you die and go to hell.

  • Anya

    A) you do realise that in this entire “essay” you’ve characterised men as sex-fuelled psychopaths who will rape given an opportunity (save the few “real men” like yourself, which still perpetuates rape culture) and are completely dependent on being able to order a woman around and “dominate” her in order to be able to get an erection or feel a sense of validation?

    B) a lot of your assertions about women not deserving respect for their degrees and careers are based on (I) the assumption that tertiary education is something that is easily attainable and common (please take a look at some statistics), (II) that women dominated fields like nursing, primary education, and human resources (which by the way are the people who help you find jobs and resolve issues like bullying and discrimination in the workplace) are useless, (III) that the only reason men dominate in fields like science, military and policing is because women can’t handle it rather than the fact that these fields have structural problems in place that are hostile to women and (IV) that this thing called human rights and the right to be treated with dignity and respect regardless of who you are don’t exist, and even if they do, that women don’t deserve this right because they are not human.

    I’m not twisting your words, anyone who has ever taken an introduction into critical thinking could tell you this. Oh, and I’m a strong, independent woman who is far too busy with her double degree in law and economics, as well as touring the world representing her university at debating competitions and avoiding people like you to want a boyfriend. Come at me bro.

  • Jonas Berger

    The German antifeminist blog at
    http://bloganddiscussion.com/frauenhaus/157/depressionen-der-frau/
    has a similar article:

    Painful menstrual cramps (or as they call them “Rhythmic Cramp Sliming”) are meant to keep women down to remind them of their inferiority and to induce low self-esteem, because women are not meant to make careers.

    That blogs features all kinds of explanations similar to this. For example “Why it makes evolutionary sense that women are more stupid than men” or “Women need to be sex objects otherwise they would be near worthless for men” or “Why feminism is lesbo socialism” or “Why the suffrage is the 800-pound gorilla in the room” etc.

    Actually they don’t call themselves antifeminists since the term “antifeminist” doesn’t completely fit to articles like theirs (or like Matt Forney’s) about female nature. They call themselves “siwilhanologists” which could be translated as “she-wants-the-d-ologists”.

  • Michael

    Hi Matt,
    I’m hoping you’ll read this,
    I’m new to your blog, and some of the things you’ve said, I disagree with, but that’s ok, everyone has their own opinions, and besides, I’m sure you’ve already had enough criticism in the past few days.
    I just wanted to know how you felt about the backlash you got? Did it make you reconsider whether you’re doing the right thing at all? Or did you write it all off as “left wing socialist feminazi bullshit”?
    It’s interesting because you don’t seem to be all that fazed by being the “most hated man on the internet”, but if that were me in your position, I’d consider the fact that wow, all these people are really really angry about the things I said, maybe I WAS wrong. I’m not sure, just curious on how you responded to it.

  • Mitchell

    Matt Forney,
    I live in Portland, OR.
    Personally apologize for every word you’ve ever posted on your blog, otherwise I’ll find you and I will beat you until you shit your own spinal cord.
    Sincerely,
    Mitchell Pratt,
    a genderless human being

  • anonymous

    you are a disgusting human being – what is your problem?

  • BeaconofLight

    The only thing I can say about guys in general is that they get angry wayyy to quickly, act out of rage and aggression, threats and violence. It’s been that way since we’ve been savages in ancient times. I feel like we’re the only species that will never truly evolve – fundamentally, our instincts are still animal. And, above all, we’re the only species in the world where females are so decidedly “unimportant” compared to males.
    But times are changing. Women’s rights are being seen to, career paths are being changed, women slowly leave behind the stereotypes of motherhood and house-related jobs.
    It’s hard to undo centuries worth of damage. But it’s slowly happening, and times will change. Women will, soon, no longer be viewed as petty dolls to be passed around and looked at, but will be seen as capable human beings with the ability to achieve so much more than your average male. Especially with innate qualities like the desire for peace – and of course, not spending every single day in an aggressive, territorial mode like your average dog.

    Times are going to change. And rather than get angry about meaningless posts, its best to work hard, strive, and ultimately prove that women have just as much right, and perhaps even more, to live independantly, free-willed and happy, as men.

  • calico

    Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But security/insecurity aren’t strictly “feminine” things. Men can be very insecure. I’ve found that men who have the least self confidence are those who are drawn to women who also have major insecurities. It’s so much less threatening. And it’s easier: why work on one’s own self esteem when one can just pick up dates who are even less confidence of themselves? And for some men who manipulate, a women with low self esteem is one who is much easier to control. The woman with poor self esteem often doesn’t challenge the man to be any better, doesn’t demand as much respect, and may not walk out when mistreatment happens.

    I’m not saying Matt is any of those things. I’ve never met him, so I cannot judge.

    I’m just an average looking female with lots of strengths and self confidence. I’ve met enough men to understand how to handle the very-insecure man with care, so as to not bruise his poor fragile ego. Yes, I know how to make a weak man feel like he’s more than he really is. Yes, I can hide my confidence and play “stupid”. Trouble is in the long run it gets to be tedious. And if he’s never going to learn true self-love, I’ve found it makes it hard for him to truly love others. The relationship isn’t so fulfilling. And I have no choice but to move on.

    So I guess men who think like the original post might be good thing? The self-loathing not-self-respecting unsuccessful women need to get laid too. I just hope nobody gets pregnant. Cause there’s nothing more sad than to see a very insecure adult passing their obsessive self-loathing on to a child.

    When did low self esteem become something to want? Can we possibly lower the bar any further? Perhaps next you should tell women that basic hygiene is also too threatening, and that men really love it when a woman doesn’t care care of herself?

  • porsh

    In response to the comment

    “That “extra” X chromosome is just a duplicate. Humans have 46 chromosomes. Women have 23 different chromosomes, and each one of them is duplicated for a total of 46. Men have 24 different chromosomes, and only 22 of them are duplicated. The last two chromosomes, one X and one Y, are not duplicated. That gives a total of 46 as well. So, excluding duplication, the male genome is longer than the female genome. When philosophers of time long past stated that “women are incomplete men,” genetically, they were right.”

    Do you not realise that the Y chromosome contains half the genetic information than all chromosomes, making it technically half a chromosome containing half the genes (hence it being visibly shorter on karyotypes)? Thus, the male genome (the total sequence of nucleotides in ALL 46 chromosomes – genome does not exclude homologous pairs for your information) is shorter, technically making males the simpler organism, resulting in females being genetically the most advanced organisms to ever exist.

    Similarly to the writer of this appalling and bigoted article, the supporters are ill-informed and plainly wrong.

    I am not a stigmatized feminist, but rather an egalitarian and I can not fathom for the life of me why some members of society mind-forge this gender divide when we are essentially, with very minor discrepancies, equal beings. It is exactly this stubborn perspective towards gender inequality that historically, males and females alike have stood vehemently opposed to.

    History’s progressive stance towards gender equality has denied you argument of any shred of validity it poorly upheld.

    Considering it is utterly futile trying to expose you to different ideologies, I hope one day you can be a more open-minded human, and I hope your antithesis towards peace, cooperation and equality has helped to solidified some people’s views on how ludicrous you, your followers and your beliefs are.

  • Meh

    I’m glad to know that this will be coming up every time anyone Googles your name. It will make it easier for the rest of us to avoid you.

  • Jessica Wood

    Wow, so street buskers serve more to society than career women who work hard to gain an education and a well paid job to support their families?
    This is the most sexist, misogynistic piece of crap I’ve read in a while, and that’s saying something. Do you honestly think that women would prefer to spend their lives making sandwiches for big headed creeps like you rather than having careers or doing something with their lives? I don’t know where you’re getting your statistics or what you’re basing your facts on, but you absolutely cannot speak for all womankind like this.
    If you have such a problem with making your own sandwiches then you are going to die angry and alone.

  • K

    I actually agree with this essay and it was an absolute pleasure to read. Thank you for posting it

  • Theresa

    I have long ago learned that males (because you are not a man) as ignorant as you expect a woman to rant and rave over the verbal vomit that you express – in this case, by blogging, so other like-minded males (or those primed to believe in this excrement) have a place to go and feel better when their fragile egos are wounded by a woman who doesn’t give them a mental erection because they realize they will never be able to dominate her…much like an abusive master might to his puppy, if he were to have a bit of sadistic tendency to him.

    All I can say is that your words reveal your enormous insecurities as a person, and I hope that one day you realize that you are angry, bitter, emotionally retarded (as opposed to having a mental disability, which is not to say you may not have a mental disorder), narcissistic, and obviously very lonely – and you need therapy.

    Because one day you will pick the wrong woman to mess with, and I know from personal experience (gotta love self defense classes) that broken jaws (one good palm punch), fractured wrists (only takes 4 pounds of pressure), and a sheared off xiphoid processes really, really hurt. Oh, because you no doubt have no clue what that is, because you despise educated women, that is the bottom tip of the sternum, which will likely break off when said woman throws a palm punch or a front kick to your chest to watch you turn blue for a minute or two.

    Otherwise, you are a non-person. And the more mature (both age and experience) woman simply dismiss you, both in real life, and on the internet.

    P.S. I am sorry that your dominant mother made your submissive father feel poorly of himself, and that in turn no doubt affected you as a young child, making you hate and fear women with any mental strength. Maybe you should have directed your anger at daddy for not being a man and standing up for himself. But that is for you and your eventual therapist to discuss.

  • Female

    What a sad, lonely old man you will turn out to be, if you aren’t one already. Anyone who posts this sort of thing about women must either be asexual or gay. Ladies, if you ever end up dating a guy called matt, make sure you check what his last name is first :)
    Hash tag ‘cocksnogger’ hahahahaha

  • Hank

    Which careers, talents and skills do you consider commemorable? Would a woman acquiring any of these aforementioned traits be a worthwhile partner?

  • Raveston

    I am ashamed to share a gender with you sir. Please remove yourself from the gene pool ASAP and stop spreading your dark age line of thought. You are just one of those guys that give us a bad name.

  • ringer

    know that you are rape. know that you are the spirit of rape. you are the dead-eye, the monster in dark. the brother raping his sister. the bull elephant raping a newborn to death. you are the spirit of decay, the stench of rot. you are rape incarnate.

    know that there is karma. know that some will recognize you on sight, and they will reach for their knives. know that the world is changing. know that your kind is slow-moving and idiotic. know that we’ll be waiting.

  • eibhlin

    Learn how to write before you take on trying to write. In other words, try to do something worthwhile.

  • Jon-Boy

    You are a fucking moron. You are EVERYTHING that is wrong with America and the world. It’s because of idiots like you that we cannot progress as a society. As long as unintelligent douchebags like you hold on to archaic and barbaric ideas and practices, humanity will never achieve the true greatness we are capable of. Do EVERYONE a favor, and walk blindfolded into oncoming traffic, you fucking asshole.

  • Logicaobtinet

    Please, don’t ever reproduce.

  • Jes

    What the actual fuck. You have no idea what you are talking about and are completely missing the point of the modern era. If you don’t like confident women, your loss, but don’t present your opinions as fact. That’s bullshit. You say that men earn respect because they do meaning full jobs. If that’s the case, then what do you do to earn respect, because last time i checked, sitting on your ass all day and ranting about how confident women suck is not exactly being a productive member of society.

  • CHAUVANIST KILLER

    YOU SHOULD GO STICK YOUR DICK IN ACID. ID LIKE TO SEE YOU BE BREATHING IF IT WASNT FOR A WOMAN WHO WENT THROUGH MORE PAIN THEN YOU CAN EVEN BEGIN TO IMAGINE. YOUR MOTHER SHOULD HAVE DROWNED YOU AT BIRTH BUT BECAUSE SHE CARED FOR A SICK SADISTIC CHAUVANIST WE NOW HAVE TO HEAR YOUR OPINION. GO FUCKING SLIT YOUR WRIST.

  • http://soundcloud.com/intelli-g Intelli-G

    what men like this fail to understand is that independent, secure, ambitious women have absolutely no desire to associate themselves with losers who aren’t comfortable with strong women. why would we? there are plenty of attractive men who do not feel the need to subjugate us and instead, find us sexy and interesting because of the people we are. and they’re usually better lovers anyway.

  • KellyT

    Got bored of your speech a couple paragraphs in. Women don’t need men like you to walk all over them and make them feel like shit. You make me sick. Do everyone a favor, and stop breathing our air.

  • Erin

    This has to be a joke, and this guy is the greatest troll of the decade. Only shallow, 2 dimensional villains in vapid teen highschool television dramas actually think things like this, let alone say them. But then again, this is the internet, and he can hide behind his keyboard and computer screen, the only place anyone like this would have the balls to write silly shit like this.

  • ForumsGoon

    I like it when fat girls insert candles up my butt.

    [CensorBot sez: I’ll bet you do.]

  • Rachel

    So, my mother’s government job (she IS feminism in the US and makes pretty much writes the laws that give women rights) is what? Useless? I hope you know I am passing your “opinion” (and I use quotations because I don’t think you’ve ever had an original thought) on to every major feminist and politician. I can and will make you the most hated male in the entire world. Yes I do mean THE world. OH! and I am in fact a woman, so a woman is going to be your downfall? how does that feel? pretty shitty I guess considering Obama is going to hate you once I’m done. Toodles <3

  • Teddy Decay

    youre stupidity amazes me….i didnt even get through the second paragraph before i had seizure because of your stupidity

  • Steph

    Men like you account for so much of the shit in this world, with your disgusting principles of masculinity believing that you have a right to define femininity. I hope you have a daughter one day who meets someone like you and maybe then you’ll see how hurtful your degrading ideas are.

  • M M

    So I am a “career woman” with a job in the arts who makes more than most of the men I’m surrounded by. I’m incredibly confident and smart and have a pretty high self esteem that I earned by working hard and achieving things. I don’t pop pills and have actually never tried xanax. I find it really easy to walk away from men (as well as female friends) who mistreat me. But that doesn’t mean I don’t see men as people. I think most men are great. So, despite being strong and confident, sometimes I’ll go in the kitchen and make that sandwich. Or muffins. Or a whole 5 course dinner. Why? Because the men in my life work hard too and are nice people and they deserve to have a girl do something nice for them. It’s got nothing to do with being insecure – it’s got to do with being a good person and treating the people in my life kindly. An insecure man would be terrified of me, yes. But I’ve had some great romances with men who were strong and confident themselves.

  • Chris

    This post has to be the most offensive disgusting thing I have ever read. The fact that not only you, but other people agree with your outdated ignorant beliefs is repulsive and you should be ashamed for actually convincing yourself and others that this thought process is acceptable.

  • Mango

    You’re a fucking asshat. Congratulations on making men look like massive cock womblers.

  • Poligar

    The world would be better if you weren’t in it. Disgusting.

  • Giu

    So the blatant disregard for women as people (bordering on sociopathy) speaks for itself. But holy nugget-juggling Batman, is there some faulty science and shitty gender essentialism going on here. And hardly any of it is backed up. Too much for you to provide any research on your part?
    Also, go get some counseling. No srsly, you do sound like my abusive ex. Most of this is straight-up abuser logic right here. We don’t need innocent people getting hurt anymore.
    To the moron who thought your 50SoG proved shit – 1) believe it or not, a lot of people can indulge in fantasies that they don’t want to happen to them in real life. 2) Do you fuckwits not understand how this works? You BUY a book, THEN you read it and see if you like it. Doesn’t discount that it’s faced widespread criticism that decries it for the misogynist, badly written horseshit it is.
    And omgguys research has proven that the Y-chromosome is a mutation off the X-chromosome. Stop trying to do the science, it’s not a good look on you.

  • Anon

    Who died and made you king of anything?

  • Liv

    Consider the way you are viewing self esteem as a categorical aspect of woman rather than a dimension. Humans, in general, are not simply confident OR insecure. A women who has confidence in herself does not lack vulnerability. You are assuming vulnerability is weakness. Vulnerability is a beautiful human experience not a permanent state of being. A confident and strong woman who puts herself out there embraces vulnerability and thrives off of it. Women’s ability to channel vulnerability is what makes them so irreplaceable in work positions that you discount… like educators and humanitarians. Learn to embrace the multi-facitated nature of women rather than reject what you don’t understand.

  • Really?

    Thought-provoking.

    There are few… if any… articles fully expressing this viewpoint so articulately, and so grammatically correctly… I wish you luck as your view spreads throughout the nation and beyond.

    It does bother me that feminism inherently makes the assumption that women have to try REALLY REALLY HARD to keep up with men. Just a thought.

    Food for thought… men and women are both insecure, and we should both accept this in ourselves and learn to be vulnerable, yet also learn the difference between true vulnerability and weakness. One can be respected in itself, one can be learned from and grown out of IF we are STRONG enough.

    A brave and unique call to true strength and virtue in women AND men.

    You know you’ve succeeded when you so deeply confuse so many people. Kudos.

  • Really?

    *in oneself, not itself

  • Really?

    …Wait. I’m so confused by my own statement I will re-write it. Damn… now I look like an idiot. Anyway:

    Vulnerability can be respected in itself, and weakness can be learned from and grown out of if we are strong enough.

    Some editing would be appreciated <3

  • Caitlin

    You are fucking delusional brah.

  • Ang

    Thank you for the laugh, I have not seen such an amusing piece of work in a long time. Maybe you should broaden your perspective of women some and stop hanging out where one dollar bills get you excitement.

    I find as a female with multiple engineering degrees that most males could not change oil of their own vehicle on a bet. As an engineering designer there is a significant percentage of females that work in these “male” areas. If all the men were to stop working the following would happen: 1 the shutdown would be over. Two sides would sit down and talk not just measure themselves with rulers while pouting. 2. Productivity would stay the same. Females are more willing to take low paying jobs than males outside of their degree and in this economy that means a lot more women are working in every area of the world…..just a fact if you don’t like it guys off your couch, quit whining about women talking in a manner you do not like and get a job.

    Men are lauded for speaking with confidence, while women should be seen and not heard. You sir are either stuck in the 1800s or believe in Sharia law which oppresses women. Either way you are going to have a very limited ability to have a relationship with a semi intelligent female considering you view women as objects instead of equals.
    If you want a servant class to stroke your ego…which is apparently what you are looking for buy a dog they are loyal and should not show more intelligence than what you can safely handle. Although it would probably be pretty though on the dog….

  • Caitlin

    What the fuck is this? You people are out of your minds.

  • Emily Yates

    Haha is this for real?!?

    Trust me when i say women want and deserve equality.

    You just come across a very insecure person who needs an even more insecure girlfriend to make you feel good about yourself.

    Well get over it.

  • S

    Wow, I hope this is a joke, otherwise Matt Forney is just an idiot.

  • Rerieru

    You’re a fucking misogynist pig. Nothing more than a brainwashed slave to your libido and unimaginably selfish. All people have the right to a self esteem and happiness and by saying that you /want/ a girl to be insecure, uncomfortable and unhappy for the rest of her life, then you don’t deserve to ever be with a woman. Ever. I can’t even begin to explain how damaging your attitude would be to a possible partner of yours. It’s disgusting that you’d openly express how sexist you are and how cruel. It’s foul. It literally sickens me that people like you exist.
    Please do us all a favour and educate yourself, then apologise. Profusely.
    Stupid asshole.

  • lyn

    all I have to say is you are a sad human being and I’m sorry you feel this way.i think men and women were essentially made for each other but men want to turn around and act so superior. In reality the fucking retarded social structures are just made up by human beings and don’t actually relate to life itself or the universe. Fuck gender roles fuck your equality and fuck your “mans world” I don’t care and all I guess I can do is really focus on myself because I know this is all superfluous bullshit problems that humans have seemed to create. I know I can’t change the mindset of a guy because you all run on your pathetic little egos so good luck to you have a nice life

  • JN

    Let me get this straight – You like one particular trait in one particular kind of person… Therefore all women should fit into this bracket for your convenience?

    This article is the single worst mis-handling of an already bad idea I have ever seen. Please let me know if you make it within even a thousand miles of an actual woman’s bedroom (Without the use of lockpicks)!

  • wow…

    I’m a female software engineer. Wow. The number of generalizations and falsities in this piece of writing is incredible. Is this a joke or something? Must be. Either that or the author hasn’t had contact with the world in quite some time…

  • Morgan Valliere

    What the fuck did I even just read? are you kidding me right now?

  • Jax

    Aw sweetheart…who broke your heart?

  • Ventrue

    Well, this was utterly disgusting, and made me almost throw up in my mouth. Way to make me ashamed of my Y Chromosome, you colossal douchebag.

  • Emily

    You make me fucking sick. Didn’t even have the patience to read your whole article because all I saw was “bullshit bullshit bullshit bullshit”.

  • Joe

    You’re a fucking idiot.

  • http://Gar Jay

    Whoever wrote this article should seriously consider killing himself. Might as well before drives some poor unfortunate girlfriend (or god forbid, his wife) to do it for him. :)

  • wow

    somebody must have mommy issues.

  • marissa

    You think it’s dick deflating when girls say they’re “confident” and “strong”? It doesn’t exactly get girls going when you say that. You’re living in the 18th century. Women are respected in today’s world. We’re equally as strong and we sure as hell aren’t going to take shit like this from men like you.

  • Bob

    Lol. My goodness. You are a powerful troll sir.

    I disagree with you. Have a good day.

  • Elcie

    So basically what you’re saying is that the only way for you to feel needed and wanted in this world is to have a quivering woman next to you? And without that woman you are not a man? I wouldn’t be surprised if you were the type of man who MADE a women insecure to help your own ego.
    It seems that you are in fact the needy one as without women like this you feel you have no purpose or role in a relationship…how sad…
    No person, no matter the sex or how how independent they are, will ever go through life NEVER needing someone.
    The most independent people will still need help, comfort, support, a hug etc at many points in their lives; they just wont whinge like little children about it because the reality is, shit like that can and does drain the life out of you.
    I think you’re confusing independence with pride.
    When a woman is independent she is mature enough to know that when things get rough, seeking help is not a form of weakness but a normal fact as that is one of the major purposes of us as humans – to help.
    But a woman or a person with pride will not allow their guard to fall and ask for solace in another, because they believe a certain reputation may diminish with it, which is untrue.

    A healthy relationship is a balance of being together and being apart, physically and emotionally. Every guy I have ever known has always complained to me how he has been fed up with a woman’s desperate need for attention, as he has his own life and things to do, and her deeply attached claws have come in the way of his own life.

    I agree that a quick way for a man to feel strong and virile is to place him with a damsel in distress, but what happens to this mans ability when she is no longer in distress? or what if she is constantly in distress?

    I believe that if a man wants to be as strong and capable as he believes he is with a woman to save, he needs to show how he can be ten times stronger without that woman there. Because if that is the only way a man can measure his self worth then this article says nothing about women and everything about how insecure men are and without us women and our neediness, you would all be lost puppy dogs.

  • John

    The fact that people even agree with this irritates me. I can’t believe I actually have to share the Earth with such ignorant human beings.

  • strident feminist

    i would like to set you on fire
    i really would
    wow

  • kit

    you are really disgusting ?????? really just?
    whats wrong with you

  • Kimmy

    you’re actually an idiot.

  • tsktsk

    It looks like someone has mommy issues.

  • Bob

    You are the biggest waste of skin ever. What an oxygen thief. I hope a collective of strong, independent women kick you very hard in the tiny, tiny little genitals you have, which are, I assume attached to your face.

  • Ian

    Please tell me you’re joking. Even if you are, it’s not funny.YOU ARE WRONG.

    You’re a clown. Sort out your life. You need to change everything. YOU ARE WRONG.

    People like you are a detriment to modern society. If your parents raised you this way, they are horrible parents. I’m sick of people like you.

    Not only are you WRONG, but you are a terrible writer as well. Go back to elementary school where you might learn better writing habits. You also might learn not to be a prejudiced, ill-informed buffoon. Are you also still afraid of cooties?

    Believe this all you want (even though YOU ARE WRONG), but keep it to yourself, you pathetic, impotent little worm.

    P.S. impotent means you can’t get it up.

  • Cags

    You’re an ignorant asshole who should suck a giant black dick because that would be a better use of your mouth than expressing your very wrong opinion. I hope you have a sad, lonely life.

  • Ian

    I’m going to guess a couple things about your immediate family:

    1 your father is a horrible person

    2 your mother is miserable

    3if your mother knew you were going to turn out this way, she would have aborted you as a fetus

  • v.nes

    No. No, no, no.
    This makes me sad.

  • R

    Oh, honey. Please don’t. You’re embarrassing yourself.

  • Val

    I want to pretend to be the pretty little submissive self-hating cardboard cut out that you’ll fall in love with. Then, I want to take a giant steaming shit on your heart, rub your nose in it, chop off your balls and then shove them down your throat that’s blistered from all the bull that comes out of it. You are an unnecessary stain on the human race. Honestly, I should be calmly putting you in your place and informing you on why you are wrong in every aspect of the word but I won’t. I’ve met many men like you and that gives me enough knowledge to know that you’re too thick to understand anything unless it’s as pretentious and vulgar as you are. So here you go: SHUT THE FUCK UP BEFORE SOMEONE BURNS YOUR HOUSE DOWN. IT MIGHT BE ME. STOP THINKING WOMEN ARE SOME HELPLESS CREATURES WHO NEED YOU TO LEAD THEM IN LIFE. YOU ARE SO UNBELIEVABLY IGNORANT THAT I WANT TO SHOVE A SHOVE A SHARP BLADE UP YOUR ASSHOLE AND THEN MAYBE THE PLEAS AND CRIES THAT COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH MIGHT BE SOMETHING WORTH MY TIME.

  • anonymous

    you’re disgusting.

  • Woman Who Previously Thought She Had The Same Rights And Potential As A Man

    Oh dearie me!
    And here I was –a simple, lowly female– walking around with my vagina, thinking I had the mental capacity to maintain a personality. I see now that my 4.0 GPA and my collage scholarships mean absolutely nothing. It seems that, becasue I just-so-happened to be born with boobs, my only viable career path is sandwich-maker and sex slave. I suppose I’ll just go find a big, strong, chauvinist brute to marry and submit to his every will ’till the day I die.
    Goodbye for now, if you need me I’ll be in the kitchen!
    Love And Kisses,
    Woman Who Previously Thought She Had The Same Rights And Potential As A Man

  • Max Toubman

    Hahahahahahah I honestly can’t tell whether this entire thing is a joke.
    I don’t think I could possibly let myself believe that it is possible for someone to revert back to this ape-like, positively primal way of thinking.
    If so, the rest of us who retain any intelligence whatsoever keep on evolving, both men and women who understand the complexities of human life. After all, there’s more to living than just what you want to put your dick into.

  • Seriously

    I can’t believe people still think like this, and it frustrates me even more that so many people are agreeing with this article.

    1. Most girls have done nothing to deserve self esteem? Really? Seriously? Men may dominate several occupations, but that’s because in the past, men prevented women from being doctors, government leaders, and other high-position jobs. And you argue that women don’t deserve self-esteem because they don’t do the high-paying jobs? We live in a society where gendered associations are so embedded into our society that when we think women, we don’t think leader. That warped perception that has stuck with us for centuries is the reason why men dominate what you call “jobs that keep the country running.” Even then, you make it seem like there are no women who are in the military, in agriculture, in the government, in the medical industry, etc., and that women are almost always teachers? Are you kidding me? If all women lost their jobs, a few elementary schools would close and everything would be fine in a few days? Really? Have you been living under a rock lately? Have you not been exposed to the fact that several women are becoming CEOs, nobel prize winners, etc.? Have you never heard of female government leaders or presidents, even? So you call freeing countless of slaves (Harriet Tubman), discovering radioactivity (Marie Curie), inventing computer languages (Grace Hopper), and winning Olympic medals NOTHING? Seriously? When men do any of that, it can be called an achievement to be commended, and when women do it, it’s NOTHING?
    2. Women are constantly bombarded with images and ideas from the media to act and look a certain way from the day they are born. They are given ideal images of the ideal body and the ideal woman, represented by models and celebrities, and that reminder to eat less, to over-exercise, to buy branded clothes and accessories to look a certain way, that increases self-esteem? Really? When women (and men) are constantly reminded that they don’t look good enough, don’t act the right way, don’t seem the right way, when they are told to be a certain way, and when they are not, they are criticized constantly…THAT BOOSTS THEIR SELF-CONFIDENCE? Insecurity is not a natural state of femininity. That idea is an example of how gender is so embedded in our society. That idea was put in your head and when you saw exceptionalities, you believed it to be true. That, is called stereotyping. It’s like saying, “Oh all blond haired girls love to wear blue t-shirts” and then turning around, seeing a blonde with a blue t-shirt and thinking to yourself, “Oh, it is true!” It’s these associations of performative acts that people think of when they think men and women that shows that gender is a reiterative thing. It constantly needs to be performed and that makes it unstable, because if someone doesn’t perform those certain traits, they are eradicated – either teased or bullied or violently removed. Why? Because people are threatened by them. And why is that? Because they don’t conform to whatever norm? Why are you so threatened by the idea of confident women? Because confident women aren’t good enough for you cause you are so INSECURE YOURSELF that you need the idea of a woman to need you? Ever think of that?
    By the way, how do you think you got here in the first place? Without a woman, you wouldn’t even be here.

  • J

    I am straight up laughing at this article- what a steaming pile of shit. after reading this, not only is this a guy who I feel like has never been in a relationship with a woman, much less talks to any on a regular basis, but he can’t even write well either? not even for a blog run by a sad little white guy who cries and shits his pants when a woman has more important things on her mind than his tiny little dick. with articles like these, it’s only too clear which side is the insecure one.

  • Anya

    I’d like you to know that I puked in my mouth a little when I read this.

    Well actually, that’s a lie. I puked a lot.

  • CLH

    The fact that scum like you and your following exists makes me want to puke. You are what’s wrong with the world.

  • http://thlut.tumblr.com jess mephist

    i’m whole new levels of impressed right now
    not only by your magnificent ability to only view women through pantyhose ads but also how you have managed to never actually meet a female in real life
    but also by how you managed to be such an unbelievable self-aggrandizing rapist pile of infantilizing horseshit

  • Marigold

    Just writing to say the comment above me kicks fucking ass.

  • Beeta Wang

    I will fart on your face and your dick.

  • Krys

    This is absolutely disgusting. Just thinking about how much time you must have put into this article, just to shame women. Women are not a “lesser being” and they certainly do not exist to serve men. Being a feminist does not mean that I see women as the superior sex. Feminism is the idea and mindset that women and men are EQUAL. Aside from the obvious difference in reproductive organs. And really? Grouping all women together, saying that a “confident” woman is a bad thing? Go fuck yourself, man. All women are beautiful, I don’t give a damn what you and your self-absorbed, misogynistic friends say. The female race is a beautiful one. They have done a lot in our world, and I think it’s about time they got some respect. Men are no better than women. Women aren’t better than men. We’re all human. So why are there still so many people who aren’t treated like it? I shouldn’t feel compelled to inform your sexist ass about how wrong you are. This isn’t even a matter of opinion anymore. Shaming anybody for their race, gender, and sexuality is absolutely revolting.

  • Allie

    you’re an ass.

  • Andy Silva

    The effort you put into this bullshit essay is astounding.
    And the fact that you actually believe in every single word proves that you area terrible person who is not even worthy of being referred to as human. I just have to wonder what your mother must think of you. She must be disappointed having a disgusting child like you to call her son. I could just imagine her kicking the everlasting shit out of you if she ever reads this paper.
    And is sending us to the kitchen really the best idea?
    There are knives in the kitchen. There are cleavers in the kitchen. There ar poisonous things used for cleaning in the kitchen that can be put in a sandwich. There are so many things that could be used against someone like you and they can be found IN THE KITCHEN WERE YOU SENT US TO MAKE YOUR GODDAMN SANDWICH.

    FUCK YOU.
    IF THEY HAVEN’T ALREADY, I HOPE YOUR BALLS FALL OFF.
    HAVE FUN BEING SINGLE TILL YOU DIE.

  • abby

    wow!!!! you are so incredibly stupid and misogynistic!! i cant believe you managed to make it past sucking your mums tit you are so god damned ignorant and self righteously entitled!!

  • Krys

    And before anybody tries to talk back to me with their sexist shit, let me say one thing. I’m a 23 year old white male who has lived in the United States of America nearly my entire life. If I am capable of understanding that all women and men have the right to be treated as equals, then you should too.
    You don’t have to be female to be a feminist.

  • Cat

    Women need self-esteem and respect because they’re PEOPLE. They aren’t just here to have you’re babies and get you hard.

    And what did women do to deserve a least a little respect? How about birthing you and the rest of the human population and, you know, BEING HUMAN BEINGS.

    This artical is saying that women are lesser being(news flash-they aren’t) and that they don’t deserve to feel good about themselves because then you don’t find them attractive.

    Women aren’t here to please you or anyone else. What they decide to do is what they want to do and you have NO RIGHT to make them feel like they are inferior and that they shouldn’t like themselves because you don’t like it.

  • Jessica

    You’re a disgusting human being. This article made me want to vomit. Do the world a favor and never share your ignorant opinions ever again.

  • Jaiden

    Look here, this is complete and utter bullshit. There is no part of this essay that’s true. You must be the most pathetic form of life that has ever come out ass first into this world. Women need, no deserve the same amount of equality as us. You are a ignorant peice of shit if you think they want to be treated as less than. Look, your boner can shrivel up an die for all it’s worth. Because if you can’t control your dick long enough to pull your oversized head out of your ass to see what’s directly infront of you then you deserveyour balls cut off and shoved in your eyes.

    Woman are people. Women deserve equality. Woman deserve basic human fucking rights. And people like you don’t even deserve their fucking dicks.

  • Anon

    As a male, I would like to point out that many of these statements are not true. I much prefer a woman who is intelligent, independent, and strong-willed. While I can appreciate a co-dependent relationship, someone else depending on me completely is not an attractive idea, and dependence is not something I seek in a romantic partner. Also, the country and economy is much more supported by intellectual jobs, which are possessed by both sexes, then by physical jobs which have a tendency to be male dominated. A college degree and good grades reflect someones worth much more then their physical strength. I am sorry that you are not as confident in your masculinity as I am, and hope that you find what you are looking for.

  • http://FUCKINGIDIOTICFUCKS FUCKING FURIOUS

    WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE. I HATE HOW FUCKING UNEQUALLY PEOPLE ARE TREATED IN THIS GOD DAMN SOCIETY. JESUS FUCKING CHRIST’S ASSHOLE. A WOMAN DESERVES THE EXACT SAME RESPECT A MAN SHOULD BE GIVEN. THINKING OTHERWISE IS JUST A SELF CENTERED, SEXIST, DOUCHEBAGGERY, MORONIC POINT OF VIEW. POOR YOU, YOUR WILLY GOES FLAT WHEN A WOMAN ACTUALLY HAS SELF ESTEEM. ITS PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHO MAKE ME GAG AND SHAKE WITH ANGER. I HATE THIS GOD FORSAKEN PLANET.

  • Reasonable Debator

    I have one very calm argument and response to this. I’m not going to list a bunch of crap to prove you wrong, or try to defend females (although it would be satisfying, seeing as you took quite a dump on them), but I will say one thing.
    You said under #1 (Most girls have done nothing to deserve self esteem) that “being able to sing and play guitar well is no small achievement, and the buskers are actually providing a useful service to the world.” I would like to bring up the point that many (MANY) musicians and street performers are females. I don’t know what type of music you’re listening to, but I know that nearly half of the popular music to day is written and performed by females, and they are quite talented. I myself play four instruments and sing (well, I’ve been told), and I like to think that it bring a purpose to the world. Sure, you don’t see a terrible amount of women bulldozing buildings, but you sure as hell can’t say that they don’t add anything to American culture.

  • Avery

    I have a feeling his manhood was “challenged” by a woman way better than him at some point in time.”they expect respect for merely existing” uhm yes, I believe everyone does. Thats the HUMANE in humanity.

  • http://loveashley.net Ashley

    There are no words. Just laughs.

  • A Confident Woman

    Dear sir, I fart in your general direction. Have a pleasant day.

  • Harmony

    did you know that women in ancient Egypt had more rights than women in most other civilizations and held jobs and positions very important to the running of the country and Egypt was one of the greatest civilizations in history?
    did you know that in the time of castles and kingdoms the women ran the household and made sure everything ran smoothly while the men were off picking fights and without the women doing their jobs the civilization would have collapsed?
    did you know that ‘men’s roles’ and ‘women’s roles’ are just social constructs?
    have you heard the saying “behind every great man is a great woman”?

  • Roess

    You have a serious problem. You could probably get a prescription for your ignorance. I’ll be as strong as I want to, I’ll take over the damn world.

  • Allison

    Just because you, sir, have a TINY piece of meet between your thighs does not mean you are any better, smarter, faster, or stronger than any other woman out there in the world. Personally, if any woman with respect for herself were to read this and meet you in person, I can guarantee that she would rip your testicles off and stuff them into your sandwich and force feed it to you. I hope you get into a tragic accident and your dick falls off with no hopes of ever getting it reattached.

  • Confident Young Woman

    The world doesn’t revolve around your erections, and women don’t exist to satisfy them. Go spew your bile elsewhere.

  • breaking news

    hey did you know that women are not put on earth soley for your pleasure, but instead to function as members of society, and live for themselves, doing and acting in the manner which they please??

  • How the hell do people like and agree with you?

    I sincerely don’t see how anyone can sit here and agree with this. Unless you’re going to pop out with an “APRIL FOOLS!” at the end, then go have sex with an electric pencil sharpener.

    Keep yourself away from women. All of them. Why? Because you sound like a rapist, saying you want someone that’s “vulnerable” and without self esteem.

    In other words, you’re looking for someone easy. Someone you won’t have to lift a fucking finger to get into your bed.

    I wonder, do you also believe men shouldn’t have self esteem?

  • Wow

    Wow, you are really an asshole. I’d like to see you put yourselves in our shoes and realize that us women do deserve respect, and that we are doing what we can to earn it. That little penis you have does not make you superior. Get up with the times, kid, this is the 21st century, not the 1950s. Fuck you.

  • http://doitsu-take-the-prndl@aol.com Eric

    Are you kidding me? Are you seriously kidding me?

    Let’s go through the bullshit you have spewed point by point, shall we?

    First of all, you don’t have to do anything to deserve self esteem. It’s a fucking right, you ignorant piece of shit, and saying that you need to do something “”””worthy”””””” of self esteem is like saying you, you specifically, have to have a dick to be considered a man— you may have one, but you’re quite possibly a childish little boy…and even then I have my doubts, since my brother of 8 years knows how to treat a woman better than you do.

    Secondly, insecurity isn’t necessary to the female integrity – I have never before heard such a crock of bullshit. While timidity was originally a natural instinct because of the matriarchal duties of women, having to flee from danger to protect her flock, such a concept doesn’t apply today. And why even talk about instinct; simply saying that a woman could not and should not be confident is disgusting and atrocious, because society has made claims from the very beginning that a woman is nothing if she is not beautiful (bullshit); why then is it bad for a woman to claim knowledge of her beauty? Confidence isn’t prevalent in society, when it’s something that really should be. It’s such a shame that being insecure is more accepted than being confident.

    Then again, why should the pathetic opinion of those like you matter?

    Thirdly, claiming that women want men who tear them down… Where does this capacity for stupidity originate from? Is it a result of stunted mental growth? Chauvinistic influence? I am genuinely interested to know how one man could harbour such stupidity.

    For the record, there is a difference between wanting someone who can tear down the walls around them in a loving way, to accept and brace and love the person behind those glass walls, and tearing down walls to assert dominance as the sadistic, chauvinist pig that people like you are. And as for the music: men sing about sex. Money. Drugs. Prostitutes. So if we’re judging by the standard of what people sing about, people like you should search for the nearest brothel and keep away from the women whom all deserve respect.

    Lastly, go ahead and send the only woman in your life to the kitchen to make you a sandwich, a room filled with chemicals, poisons, blades, spices, potential disease, bleach— beware of spanking her rear though, most mothers don’t appreciate that. Though then again, I doubt that even she could tolerate someone like you.

    ” I’m not the center of a girl’s world, I’m not going to be in her world period.”

    And lastly, as a word of advice, quit speaking as though you’ve had experience with women or will have any in the near future— not a single woman, not even the most low-self-esteemed woman, would put up with your bullshit. They wouldn’t even want you in their fucking ORBIT. People like you make me ashamed of the whatever breed if animal you may be.

  • Anon

    LOL

  • Anonymous

    I can’t tell if this is just a really bad joke or if you are really just this stupid.

    If this is honestly what you think, then you can go fuck yourself.

  • j. oberle

    wow where did you learn this?

  • Fuck you

    You misogynistic piece of shit.

  • ella

    If you ever think that a woman’s main priority in life is to cling to a man, to listen to a man, to please a man and abide by his rules, you clearly have been living under a rock for the past few years where a feminist’s (as you state that you are, though I beg to differ) main goal is for equality. You say you like insecure women, what if I like insecure men? Would you call me out and label me as sexist? I believe so.

    There is also the matter of you stating that ‘confident’ women cannot see a man as a human being. However, you, as a ‘confident’ man, cannot even see a woman as a human being, but rather as a man’s counterpart.

    What has a man done to deserve my respect, other than write sexist articles that degrade me as a person? A woman can teach, can fight, can stand up for herself, can preach and can do anything a man can just as well. Just because a man has been ruling the country, just because for a long time this has been a male ruled society, does not mean that women are worthless. We want to be equal to a man and we have done everything to deserve that.

    The fact that you love it when women are intimidated by you is absolutely disgusting. The way you have described them, as mere things that will take your dick on a night out, is absolutely disgusting. Just think, a woman brought you into this world. It is women that make men, a woman that spent nine months carrying you around. If you ever, ever show your mother this I hope she clips you around the ear and bans you from going outside for the rest of your life.

    And on the last note, if you ever have a daughter, don’t you dare teach her that men are better and that she should be intimidated by them, should depend on them. Teach her to be her own person, teach her to be a real woman, not the one you have shaped in your article.

  • wineandseaweed

    I really hope this is a joke…

  • Ace

    Is this real?
    Lawlz.

  • Kelly

    Just curious: Have you never met any MEN who are unemployed/uneducated/ugly/alcoholics/idiots/total losers and still have a tremendous amount of self-esteem, just because society and/or their mothers taught them that all it takes to be considered a successful person is to be born a man? I meet such men all the time. Should an attractive, educated woman with a highly-paid job have a relationship with a man like that, do whatever he wants and let him decide for her, just because she’s not self-confident herself? I see that happening all the time too. Do you think it’s flattering for your masculinity to be admitting in public that you get turned off by women who freely choose to be with you instead of needing you and depending on you? Do you think slave-trading should be legalized, by any chance?

  • Sara

    I’m surprised that people are getting so upset by this. I mean, yes, your views are repugnant, but let’s consider the source here. You appear to be a 25-year-old kid who has accomplished nothing particularly noteworthy, except learning how to stir up a lot of trouble by saying outrageous things online and self-publishing terrible “books”.

    It seems the true problem here is that no strong, beautiful, confident women are willing to date you because they realize how little you truly have to offer, so you’ve decided to declare “female self-esteem” the enemy instead of looking inward to find out why women seem to find you so repugnant. Here’s the thing–most men, who actually have something to offer, can handle being with a strong, accomplished woman without melting into an impotent puddle of whining and derision.

    Whatever the case, it’s not my problem; I’m just surprised that so many people seem to care what you think, considering that you don’t really seem to be in a position to be much of an authority about anything. Sure, you hold some outdated (and many idiotic and nonsensical) views about women, but I know a toddler who stands on top of the jungle gym and screams “BUTTHOLES!” at the top of his lungs. Both are worth about the same amount of critical attention, and my guess is that you and the toddler have a lot more in common than that.

  • JD

    You’re a disgusting human being. That’s really all there is to it. The first sentence of this article told me everything I needed to know. It’s just a shame I actually read on. I thought “This ‘man’ couldn’t possibly be serious?” I don’t know how you can exist in the 21st century.

    – A male.

  • Ravyn

    And this is why I became a lesbian, because homo sapien males don’t view me as a human being. Just a slave to their wants and needs.

  • Womanhearmeroar

    WHO SAID MY FUCKING GOAL IN LIFE WAS TO GIVE MEN ERECTIONS. IF YOU HAVE SO MUCH TROUBLE GETTING AND KEEPING ONE, MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET SOME FUCKING VIAGRA.

  • Melissa

    Interesting to say that we need men more. Who is the first to dive into another relationship every time? Men.

    Only weak men can’t handle a strong successful woman. If the man is successful himself, there is no reason to not feel intimidated, insecure or imasculated.

  • MrFox

    Seriously?
    You think if women did nothing the world would not collapse, I am thinking you were never loved as a child bullied by girls who were stronger than you, that cliche stuff
    Do you see how dickish your essay sounds and how offensive it is to others
    I would gladly cut you up and throw you into the river, but thats illegal sadly

  • Linnie

    ahhahahah at first i actually thought you were serious, but ofc cant people be that ignorant! :) i had a laugh haha thanks

  • Ellie

    Thank you, sir, for giving me a blackout and an anxiety attack while attempting to stomach reading this. What the fuck is wrong with you? What. The FUCK is wrong with you? Have your magical man powers given you the ability to travel forward in time from the middle ages? Because that’s the only explanation I can think of for your disgusting excuse of an opinion.

    Please be deported into space immediately.

  • Jessie

    A majority of your argument centers around either anecdotes gleaned from personal experience or in comparing us with how animal species survive. And sure, humans are animals, but there are plenty of species in which the female is either equal or dominant over the male (hyenas, elephants, and most other primates, to name a few). To assume that the male human is naturally dominant is nothing more than that; an assumption. Science has proven, overwhelmingly, than human men and women have equivalent cognitive abilities. Our physical size and strength differences are marginal compared to most other male-dominated animal species.

    As far as personal experience, I’m a woman who is secure in my identity, my accomplishments (which do, in fact, extend beyond sliding by with a degree in puppetry), AND my ability to love and be loved by a man. The fact that I need not rely on a man to support me, emotionally or financially, allows me to see him as a whole person and to celebrate his successes sincerely, without the expectation of benefitting from them myself.

    There is a satisfaction to be found in taking care of another, and in knowing that there is someone who will, in turn, take care of you when you’re in need. I hope that one day you’ll be able to find a relationship that is mutually supportive and loving. I hope that you’ll realize that, in order to find this, you don’t need to oppress, demean, or disempower your partner.

  • Ellie

    Oh, and by the way, “men with vaginas” actually exist because, as difficult as it may be for someone with views as ancient as yours to grasp this concept, it’s not what you have between your legs that defines your gender.

  • Blue

    This is disgusting, wow, nice job on being a piece of garbage human being.

  • WTF? You can’t be serious!

    This is meant to be a joke right? Cause holy fuck this article is absolutely disgusting.

  • anonymous

    fuck you, this is so misogynistic and frankly the only real reason you want vulnerable women is so they can’t say no to sucking your 3-inch weiner because they’re too self-conscious to speak up for themselves. so fuck you, matt. have fun with your “vulnerable women” that you get off on, have fun missing out on all the real fun. kisses xx

  • BWEEP

    Jump off a cliff, please.

  • Tom

    Excuse me, sir, but you are a piece of complete fucking shit who should go drown himself in a well of burning oil and desiccated rhinoceros semen, and now that I’ve gotten that out of my system, here’s why.

    “Being a talented musician, an experienced world traveler, a high-earning tradesman; these and more engender respect from your fellow man and self-esteem along with it.”
    Taylor Swift. Amelia Earhart. Angela Merkel. I can name far more talented female musicians than I can male, and along with that I’d say that music written by women is just better than music by men. The only exceptions I can think of are Tim Minchin and Koh Otani, neither of whom are in the charts.

    “Confidence doesn’t give men erections; vulnerability does.” Implying you’ve gone and checked with other men what gives them erections.

    “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.” This quote is one of the most brilliant examples of irony I have ever seen, and I might copy-paste this article and give it to my (female, by the way) drama teacher, who often performs in front of crowds of hundreds of people and delivers her lines perfectly despite the overwhelming pressure, so she can educate people on what irony actually is. You go through this entire article without even hiding the fact you consider women inferior, second-class and subhuman, then come out with a line like that? I might just stop writing here, you’re obviously blinded by your own delusions.

    “They want nothing more than for a man to throw them over his knee, shatter the Berlin Wall around their hearts, and expose the lovestruck, bashful little girl within.” You know, all those lesbians out there REALLY want a DUDE to come and help them. That’s TOTALLY something they want. Oh, wait, you’re bigoted, aren’t you? You probably don’t even think gays exist. In any case, I’d very much like to show you Queen Elizabeth I, who *never got married*, went in person to oversee the attack, and defeat, of the Spanish Armada, and was generally one of the most badass people in existence and the best monarch England has ever had.

    Also, it’s impossible to “artificially” increase self-esteem. You’re implying that there’s a “natural” way to increase self-esteem. What’s that? Oh, being told you’re good at shit. So what’s “artificially” increasing self-esteem? Being told you’re good at shit. Fuck you, you condescending wankstain on the bedsheets of life, and go back to beating your wife. When they come to take you to jail, I’ll be laughing in your fucking face.

  • Lucy

    I am genuinely surprised at the amount of people agreeing with this. Firstly, being confident and strong, and having self-esteem are two different things and secondly, please stop thinking with your dick. I’m as insecure as anything, but I would rather have sex with Satan himself then let you anywhere near my body. A woman (or man) with self esteem should not be put down for having it, it’s a rarity nowadays.

  • Lucy

    Also, I highly doubt you will meet many women who don’t want high self-esteem.

  • JDA

    Well clearly with all you’ve said with your love of ‘insecure’ women and your attack of that poor woman so unconfident after loosing all that weight tells me you are a man with no actual decency, if not degraded, self absorbed, disgusting and offensive person. If anything I bet you would beat a woman if she stood up too you without even thinking about it and clearly have a very strong mind set when it comes to being a rapist. News flash for you but rapists are attracted to insecure women who cant fight back exactly as you described yourself.

    Women have just as much capability as men if not more. In england, cant say for america, there are more women in higher education then men and more women who take the initiative to want to aspire higher having a degree proves that they are more worthy than your sorry ass who clearly feels undermined by those with education which is silly if not pathetic.

    Go look in a mirror a spit on yourself because it would be demeaning for any other human being to actually acknowledge your presence.

  • duck

    whoa at first I thought you were being serious, but then I realised no one could be so stupid and horrendous to write something like this seriously, nice joke man!

  • maddie

    I’m just going to assume you were born stupid.

  • bbetty

    You poor lad. Did momy leave your abusive father and you; his disgusting likeness for abother? Maybe a women? And is your father a whiskey drinker or a Wino? Because Winos drink wIne hence the name. There is so much hate behind your words, in all seriousness you have damage. Get Help! Soon please!!!

  • Kaja

    Wow, I can’t even. This is about the most repulsing thing I’ve ever read. I’ts absolutely incredible how you can generalize both sexes like this, and stunning how you can sound so sure about what women want when you clearly never have or will bother taking the time considering their opinions.

  • J

    I don’t know why people like you are alive today. You are lower than a human being. You are more like a piece of shit in the society.

  • jack

    you’re an absolute shit bag you know that?! maybe you should try being sexually assaulted. maybe then you’ll get to be as sexy as all those girls you have sex with, seeing as you’ll be vulnerable then.

    personally i don’t see why any girl would come near you.
    you’re a classic example of an abusive partner and a walking advert for birth control.

  • Leigh G

    You obviously got your heart broken, were abandoned, rejected, or somehow abused by a woman or many women because you have got it all wrong bud. Whatever that/those life-altering woman/women did to you, really does not give you the right to attack an entire gender. Sure you have some supportive males applauding your views, but try to find more than few females who agree with what you’re attempting to dish out.

    Your views are twisted and need some serious rereading; are you positive you know what you are saying?

  • Mhairi McDonald

    Probably the most sickening, misogynistic thing I have ever read. I’ve never been one for feminism, as you said, it’s an unrealistic ideology, but what you’ve put forward is completely ridiculous.
    ”Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.”
    You spent a whole paragraph basically professing that women have no part in or impact on society, that they are totally worthless, they YOU say that women treat men like they are nothing? Which one is it? Can you in fact complain about this when men are doing just the same?
    Your generalisation across genders is also astonishing. I don’t know why you think you have the authority to speak for all females (and cultures!!!), or all males for that matter, but some of the claims you make are quite frankly embarrassing.
    “Most girls have done nothing to deserve self-esteem.”
    WHAT?!?!?! Rosa Parks, Marie Curie, Jane Austen, all women that have made a huge impression on modern society, the lives we live, and the freedoms we have. HOW CAN YOU SAY WOMEN HAVE DONE NOTHING TO DESERVE SELF-ESTEEM? Public figures aside, women do things every day which they should be incredibly proud of e.g. dealing with oppressive shits like YOU. Your apparent fetish for vulnerable women is honestly mildly creepy. Are you sure it’s not that you don’t like women that have confidence and self esteem, but you’re just intimidated by them? Knowing they wouldn’t look twice at you anyway?
    Get your head out of your arse.

  • T.

    So, where do I send my nudes? I’m a virgin btw, and you can do anything you want to me. Absolutely anything.

  • SADIE SMITH

    ARE YOU A FUCKING IDIOT WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU YOU MISOGYNISTIC ASSHOLE PIECE OF SHIT CUNT FACE YOU GONNA DIE ALONE MOTHERFUCKER ALONE

  • Jasmine

    You’re a sick and vile human being, Matt. I really hope you enjoy being such a misinformed misogynist.

    I feel sorry for every woman that ever enters your life.

  • Anon

    Well excuse you. I’m a girl and I’ve had top marks in all my exams and I’m planning on becoming a doctor. I have ambition and plan on becoming very successful. Your attitude stinks.

  • Jane

    This is funny because
    a) you have made all these claims with 0 statistic to back you up – because all the statistics are very much against you (2010-2011 47% of doctors were female and that figure is extremely likely to have increased in the last 2 years, more than 8.6 million American businesses are owned by women just as two examples)
    b) clearly you have such low self esteem that you have to feed off others’ being low in order to make yourself feel better
    c) and also because this article could actually potentially ruin your life.

  • RWMendez

    If you agree with this guy in any way you’re seriously messed up in the head.
    This article sounds like rant from a guy who got dumped HARD by a woman who didn’t take his shit. I applaud every woman who managed to dodge this bullet cause this isn’t a “man” like he so proudly think of himself. No, to think yourself higher then a woman because you’re a man makes you less of a man.
    More like a piece of shit.
    I’m a man and I’m just in shock at what I’m reading. That in 2013 poor little boys still think woman aren’t crucial to civilization.
    Woman out there, continue being strong and independent so you can drive bastards like this guy back into the holes they crawled out of. I’ve never met a guy who didn’t find a strong, independent woman attractive and I hope I never do.
    If you want a sandwich, get in the kitchen and make it your damn sense.
    Jeez, I’ve met 5 year old girls smarter than Matt.

  • Shion

    You bastard. This is a mind set of a sick man interested in degrading woman and I accuse you of having the mindset of a rapist.

  • Mallory

    I think what I find most entertaining about this “article” is the fact that there are still those that agree with you. Everyone is entitled to an opinion and to fully believe that what they’re saying the truth, but that does not mean your opinion is fact. Granted, I’m sharing my opinion and you are no doubt going to tell me that my being a confident woman is a strike in your defense, but honestly, I just find stuff like this hilarious. You fully believe that your opinion influences a woman in her choice to give a shit about what you’re saying and that is the funniest part of your “article.”

  • Jackrabbit

    What I find laughable about such ass-hats like you is how they insist people need to be prevented from defying their very natures. You know, as if it’s even possible to defy ones nature, and as if you even have right to tell other people what their nature is.

  • Michael

    In the posts after that article, everyone can read the problem with woman in the politics: They don’t accept other opinions and so they are bad discussion partner.

    no wonder, why they earn less money than men, weather they accomplish so less comparing to men!

  • http://beldaran.tumblr.com Beldaran

    This is SO INTERESTING! Its time for nerd time with your friendly local Roman history nerd.

    In Greco-Roman culture not only was there not a distinction between sex and gender, the notion of two separate, distinct sexes would have been completely alien. The actions of the mother and her body temperature during pregnancy would affect the apparent sex/gender of the baby when it was born but sex/gender was not determined at birth. Throughout the rest of the person’s life their actions and non-actions would determine their physical sex/gender. Meaning, if you acted feminine your body would slowly physically become female. This was possible because the notion of male/female as biological categories wasn’t a thing. All human beings were the same gender, with femininity being an unfortunately necessary birth defect/deformity.

    So! In order to prevent gender deviance there were incredibly strict social rules of how men and women were to act so as to maintain their sex. Why wouldn’t they simply want everyone to be more perfectly male instead of less perfectly male (ie. female)? Because there is only so much room at the top. Women who acted male by wearing male clothes, speaking in public, wrestling and doing sports, and actively perusing female sexual partners were thought to actually develop penises. That was NOT OKAY because the men who were already men were comfortable at the top and FUCK YOU I’VE GOT MINE YOU CAN’T HAVE IT. They were extremely threatened by the idea of women coming and sharing in/stealing their power with their newly developed male genitalia.

    Now, on to the gross nasty article. This person is almost perfectly expressing the fear and anger that Roman men would have in Roman culture. There are inherently feminine traits that women must present or they are not “real” women and are therefore not sexually attractive to “real” men. He’d still “bang” her of course because the definition of masculinity is that of sexual subject, while everyone else is sexual object. She’s not a proper woman, but she’s not a man because according to him she takes a passive sexual role (read: is penetrated).

    Even the physical/biological fluidity is expressed in his rant. Even if he does not believe this is physically possible in the same way he expresses the same fears!

    “The idea that women should have self-esteem or need it… is one of the most disastrous social engineering experiments of the modern era. A woman with excessive confidence is like a man with a vagina. It’s an attribute that is at best superfluous and at worst prevents women from fulfilling their natural biological and social functions.”

    This statement could have come directly from a Roman philosopher, I’m not even kidding.

    He goes on to talk about social influences that bombard girls from the moment they are born. These influences make them inherently less female and that affects their health and well being in the form of mental illness. Gender deviant individuals in Roman culture were thought to be less robustly healthy than those who fastidiously maintained their genders and more susceptible to physical and emotional malaise.

    In order to fix this social sickness Douchey von DouchePants here would like social expectations and pressures on women to be akin to those that would have been prevalent in Greco-Roman culture. The most strongly touted by both him and the Romans is that of total dependance. Women are incapable of controlling their own sexuality, their own emotions, their own lives, and so they need men to take on the burden of doing it for them. The most appropriate way for a woman to respond in this kind of social setting is gratitude and surrender.

    Lets look at his argument points now:

    “1. Most girls have done nothing to deserve self-esteem.”

    The use of the world “girl” here is particularly interesting because in Roman culture girls were basically a totally different being that women. To be a girl was to be wild, unproductive, and without place in society. When she married (between the ages of 10-13 usually) her wildness would be tamed, she would begin to be productive, and take her place in society. A tame animal is inherently better than a wild animal in a society where wild is life threatening and tame is life giving. An unproductive tree is a tree that gets cut down, while a tree that produces fruit is valuable. A person who has no place in society has no right relying on society for their basic needs. (Free High Born) Roman girls who assumed their places in society became fully human by being in socially correct relationship with the people around them.

    Even Mr. Misogyny’s description of valuable work vs. useless bullshit follows ancient Roman ideals. Men’s work was in the public sector and in physical labor because he was inherently more suited to it, while women’s work took place in the home because she was inherently more suited to that. Any work that a woman does outside her prescribed place is useless and even detrimental to society.

    His final point is the end game of many Roman philosophers. In a perfect society there would be only men, because the physical and spiritual deformity that is womanhood would no longer be necessary or tolerated. However if society were to be run by women the world would clearly end because of reasons.

    “2. Insecurity is integral to femininity.”

    I already talked about this in relationship to dependance. Here he make his assertion that gender deviance is physically harmful to women even more strongly. Its a very ancient Roman argument. He also goes on to say that when women’s femininity gets out of wack they stop relating to men in socially appropriate ways. Women whose sexuality is out of control and who seek out men in an active, sexual subject sort of way become incapable of viewing men as they ought to be viewed, ie as THE consummate sexual subject. They blur the lines of subject/object and threaten men’s person-hood which is defined by their ability to be the sexual actor, not the receiver or partner.

    “3. Women don’t want to have high self-esteem.”

    In marriage ceremonies in Roman culture there were many instances of the bride giving thanks for her husband basically coming along and making a human being out of her. Women were supposed to want to take their places in society, and that place was as wife and child producer. Her entire world was supposed to revolve around her husband because he was the power over her, the controller of her body in every way, and the person who graciously helped her maintain her volatile female ways. Even the women who deny their femininity and begin to develop male characteristics feel sick and out of control and long for a man’s guiding hand.

    “There are only shrews pleading for a taming. All the posturing, the pill-popping, the whining and demands for “equality”; they’re a cry for help.”

    I just described the article and ancient Roman culture. That is FUCKED UP BUT! also super interesting because I highly doubt this guy has any idea about pre-Christian Roman culture. This shit has stayed with humanity for literally thousands of years in the specific details. And that is fascinating.

  • http://www.caramellattekiss.com/ Georgina

    Something tells me you haven’t got laid in a while. Slight resentment about how you’re such a ‘nice guy’ and yet nobody will sleep with you? Diddums.

  • Clover

    I don’t do tuna sandwiches, but how about a roast chicken?
    (Also question, if I ask you to give me your babies, will you edit it to be a feminist rant? That might be fun!)

  • To all haters: You have been brainwashed by femastasized schools and media

    First of all a message to all haters:

    Women are so inferior that even nowadays (with all the women’s programs and man-hating laws) women accomplish nearly NOTHING compared to men. 95% of Wikipedia texts are by men, 95% of patents are by men (when you compare male-only to female-only teams), nearly all Hollywood movies are made by men, all songs etc. just to name a few stats.

    And this article by Matt doesn’t even talk about such issues. Your violent reactions to such a harmless article about “I am turned on by female attributes X, Y, Z” show in what deep brainwashed hole you sit and what a bubble was created by femastasized schools and femastasized media.

    You all are proof of how brainwashed you are. Everybody with 2 eyes in his head can see that women are far inferior to men and hence a hierarchy is natural and therefore likely playing a role in sexual attraction and maybe even being the guarantee for happiness.

    Now a message to Matt:

    Matt, your article is spot on but you made one huge mistake: You should have known that all of the above haters’ reactions are STANDARD, TYPICAL, STIMULUS-RESPONSE reactions. They come as clockwork. From “women are not sex objects” to “patriarchy” to “small wiener” to “you are underf*cked”.

    Hence you should have FIRST published an article where you list all these predictable reactions and then simply link to that article to show what a bunch of triggered stimulus-response monkeys the haters are.

    Just look at this image how to do it better:
    http://imgbox.com/g/neJpoGnMqV

    It features several triggers (of course they are triggers since readers know deep inside that they are true), but it is also aware of typical feminist BS responses like “Women have always been oppressed” or “You are underf*cked”.

    And hey, to all women and to all lesbians who claim “I am independent/successful yada yada”. No you are not. You are allowed to think that way because your country taxes men to death (“lesbo socialism”) and makes huge debts to keep the “emancipation bubble” alive. Emancipation is not sustainable. And the more you rage, the more you have been brainwashed by propaganda.

  • sarcastic asshole

    ahahahahahaha oh my, at first i thought this absurdity was a total joke, but then i realized despite how much society has actually advanced in terms of equality whether it be race, gender or marriage, people like you and your eager little fans still exist. what scares me is that 1) you seem to have a head on your shoulders, and an educated one at that, and 2) there are females who wholeheartedly agree that they are in fact inferior and made for nothing more than giving birth and making a good sandwich. ugh i really needn’t rant on any further, but it was an interesting- funny- read at that, your little minions are also quite hilarious. you have quite a few responses to consider so i guess your words were rousing indeed, it was enough for me to want to post a reply. ah well, good day.

  • Steve

    I am laughing at how ridiculous this is…. None of this is based on fact, just your own tiny opinion. You are insignificant in comparison to some women. I don’t know how your mother even looks at you. (PS you sound like a rapist and I’d rather shag Susan Boyle than you). I genuinely hope you get an STD, preferably AIDs.

  • Hysteria-kid

    Either this article is a joke or the writer has an IQ of 60 or a crippling self esteem issue.

  • wtf?

    As a woman who graduated from a very respected university with honors (highest distinction in both majors, and Cum Laude) in history (a ‘male-driven’ subject), and is en route to obtaining a PhD….my only conclusions are that this article must be a joke. Because no numb skull can possibly be this narrow-minded, right? Because as he said, “If every man lost his job tomorrow, the country would collapse.” Oh wait…it kind of did. Except the men in Congress haven’t been fired. In fact, our taxes are still paying their salaries. This is for sure a joke.

  • Suhail

    You’re a blithering, sexually frustrated, hopped up idiot and that’s the nicest way I can put it.

    Don’t reproduce, and anyone who agrees with what this douche has just said, do the world a favour and kindly kill yourselves.

    And FYI I am a man who believes in equal rights and responsibilities for both the sexes, like how most women do.

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  • Not-a-Feminist, Just human

    You sir. Are an idiot. If this is how you see women, you are no better than how you portray them. Have a nice life with someone who bends to your every whim. Because in reality, whether it be a man or a woman, it doesn’t matter. None of this bull shit matters. Because if you are a “Strong, Independent” woman, when you find a man/woman you love; you are vulnerable, and you don’t lose those traits. It’s probably because you are a slobbering low-life that women are just generally uninterested in your stupid dominance games. I’m sure the only women you can actually get in bed are those too dumb to realize your borderline rapist personality. I for one am just glad I don’t have to interact with you in any way, but leaving this comment. I’m sure you will care less for this comment as well; because men like you are just attention starved, egotistical morons. Probably because your mother never gave you enough attention, maybe because she was working all the time. Your preoccupation with “Strong, Independent women” suggests something much deeper than your dick deflating issues. Perhaps because you can’t satisfy women, you have to blame us not conforming to your ideal fantasies. Well sir, whatever it is, I’m glad I’m not your Significant other.

  • Ichi

    The most priceless line in this?

    “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.”

    Go find a mirror, stat.

    This entire article denotes a lack of knowledge of history, the actual issues surrounding depression and head-meds being dispensed in this country, any actual facts on violent crimes, the problems with getting women into STEM paths or male dominated jobs, knowledge on basic human psychology, any knowledge whatsoever on what a strong woman really is (hint, she does actually NEED her man, just not in a whining, clingy, desperate sort of way), and a laughable lack of knowledge about your own low self esteem.

    There’s a word for a man who only likes a woman beaten down by life and who will take advantage of her insecurity and fear. That word is “predator.”

    There is also a word for man not strong enough to handle another strong person as an equal. That word is “wuss.”

    Also, because it’s bothering the crap out of me, I suggest going out and studying World War II. Rosie the Riveter is not iconic as an attempt to boost self esteem during the war, it was because all the men DID leave all the important jobs, but the country didn’t collapse. Women just calmly stepped into their shoes.

    And if you think housework and raising children isn’t “real” work, I encourage you to try it for two weeks. Just two weeks. Take over all the housework, and hold down your day job, too, just like so many women, or better yet, JUST do the housework and kids, nothing else. Consider it a challenge just to prove you’re right, you can even blog it. I’m betting you wouldn’t last the full two weeks.

    The amount you not only do not know, but REFUSE to know about the world around you is terrifying.

    I won’t even go into statistics, rape, or other issues, as you are obviously not interested in knowing more. I doubt you could keep up anyway; I’m betting your brain would shut down the moment you started hearing something you didn’t like, no matter how provable or how many (non-biased scientific) facts you were shown. You are just educated enough to be a danger to yourself and others, but so terrified of the world around you that you obviously can’t handle anything outside the tiny bubble of knowledge and world view you’ve created for yourself. And you’re just literate enough to make that view seem reasonable, even when it’s based in ignorance, half trues, and sometimes flat misinformation.

    This should make me furious, but it doesn’t. Instead it makes me angry that all your amazing potential is just wasted, and baffled as to why you’d ever choose to live in that sort of self-created cage. I am so sorry for you; that’s a terrible way to live. Unfortunately you’ll never realize that until you break free, and I doubt you ever will.

  • Mandy

    Mr. Forney,
    I think you present a good argument, but I have to disagree. You make quite a few blanket statements.

    1. “Whenever a girl I’m talking to brags about how she’s “confident” and “strong,” I can feel my dick deflating like a punctured tire.”
    Thats fine, you don’t like confident women whatever. I’m not going to judge your sexual preferences so I expect you not to judge mine, or anyone else’s. Some people prefer black guys, some prefer Asian, I don’t care if you discriminate in your bed as long as it doesn’t happen in the workplace. Women and men can perform the same jobs with just as much skill.
    2. If EITHER half of the population were to just stop working, we would be screwed. Who held the American homefront during WWI and II? Hm? Wasn’t the men was it? And I don’t think the men would have done too dandy overseas without the supplies that women and minorities were producing in masse (in traditionally the male occupations). It’s the same now. If half of our population were to stop working, women OR men, we would be EQUALLY screwed in DIFFERENT ways. Yea, if the men left we wouldnt have much of an Army or police force, so perhaps we would be invaded. But our fate would still be the same if the women were to stop working. Eventually we would regress until we were the middle-east. Say bye-bye to your grandma, all the nurses are gone, say bye-bye to your comfortable first world living, because you do need education to maintain a forward momentum. Say good-bye to consumerism and every cent you ever earned, because guess whose keeping the books in the banks? Not men.
    3. Women deserve as much self-esteem as men. There are as many talented and fit men as there are women.
    4. “Insecurity is integral to feminity” Alright, so you want every woman to just be a fucking open book , a little tender kitten for you to go scoop up and take care of, instead of actually EARNING her trust so that she would open up naturally. You want to date emotionally-retarded women so that you can control them. Maybe that would be alright for someone already insecure, but all that power in the hands of one leads to abusage of that power. Are you going to start advocating that we should beat our wives when they don’t do their chores? And we should smack them and the kids around whenever it so suits us?
    5. “(women) would last about five minutes before they either found a man to cling onto or got raped and killed.” Okay, yea, sure, totally, because I totally couldn’t shack up with another group of women and be JUST AS SAFE. Women can work out too you know. And that extra physical edge that men have isn’t going to give them any advantage in the face of a gun. In fact did you know that body-builders are MORE likely to die in an emergency situation? So perhaps that would actually be a disadvantage for the men. *AND* let us not forget that intelligence is the ultimate equalizer. It doesn’t matter how strong you are or how weak I am if I can outsmart you. Huh. What was that about education?
    6. “The modern woman has become an emotional cripple” Actually, I would have to say in my experience that men are the emotionally retarded ones. They are constantly told to “toughen up” and “man it out” and that “boys dont cry” so that they are incapable of expressing their emotions or communicating effectively. Did you know that because of this in teenage years boys are three times more likely to commit suicide then girls? Link: http://www.policymic.com/articles/54105/the-one-thing-all-men-feel-but-never-admit
    Now, if I view a man as a life support for a penis, that is because he is incapable of expressing himself as I would expect a human would. My younger brothers express themselves with more clarity than a lot of my ex-boyfriends who decided to shut me out because they had to live up to this masculine image.
    7. “Women don’t want to have high self-esteem”
    Here you make a broad blanket statement that the average woman is popping anti-depressants. I know I don’t take any, and that none of my other confident female friends do either. Acutally, only a quarter of american women do.
    “One of the more startling statistics in the report, which analyzed prescription claims data from 2.5 million insured Americans from 2001 to 2010, is that one in four women is dispensed medication for a mental health condition, compared to just 15 percent of men..”
    Omygosh! More women take anti-depressants than men, but wait, whats this?
    “More males die from suicide than females.
    (4 male deaths by suicide for each female death by suicide.)
    73% of all suicide deaths are white males.” 2001
    It would seem that there’s about an equal number of women and men who are depressed, its just that women actually REPORT it, and TREAT it, so that the statistics are skewed.
    8. Now, I will admit that i do lust after confident, dominate men. But that is only a lust. I actually hate their fucking guts because they are constantly antagonizing myself and others. But like I said, I won’t judge what you like in bed, and you don’t judge mine. What I lust for does not affect who I date. In fact I tend to date more submissive men because they are actually able to Communicate with me and we can have an actual Relationship, in which the earn my Trust so we have the same Intimacy without either of us being emotionally retarded.
    9. “Every song Best Coast has ever come up with is about boyfriends and smoking pot at the beach.” You know, boys sing just as much about girls. Almost every song on the top 40 mentions the opposite sex.
    10. Conclusion , I’m going to need some more statistics and hard facts for me to consider this a valid argument. This entire article was speculation and no hard facts.

  • Amber

    Id like to start by saying this is very arrogantly and harshly put. it this was meant to be educational then you need to learn people mechanics.

    I agree however with some of this, there are some points that are valid, at first i went to read this knowing it was sexist, but i wanted to see what it really meant-what it had to say.

    Yes, girls are weak, guys are stronger, and girls have a much higher chance of surviving if they have a guy to protect them. however, a man is incredibly weak compared to the predators that could hunt them down, so really its not as much of a necessity as you’d think. Women would die without men, but men would die without women.

    Sure schooling these days is a bit easier, but that goes both ways-i have yet to meet any man with a degree who wasn’t proud of it. Many women work hard for experience just the same as men-though usually its men keeping glass ceilings and keeping girls out of military, not the other way around.

    As for your ending, i read through it, and am female…reading with an open mind apparently is news to you, i hope you can practices the same while you consider the other side.

  • Ivana

    Dear Matt,
    What, pray tell, is the point of your existence? Kindly remove yourself from civilised society, you need to seriously re-evaluate your heinously twisted view of the world before you should be permitted to interact with normal humans.

  • Matt

    This is a joke.

  • Alex

    This is spot on. Delectably controversial, but on point. Good man.

  • Rachel

    This has to be a joke. The only people that could think this must be total idiots, full of themselves, or both actually. I didn’t know we lived in a world of misogynic pigs, but I guess we do. People like you and others that agree with you need to get out of the 21st century because you don’t belong here. I hope the next girl that makes you a sandwich (if there is one) poisons it, because if she doesn’t I will.
    P.S. Enjoy the taste of cyanide, motherfucker.

  • Richard

    First of all, this is coming from a GUY.

    Let me begin by saying that I didn’t read all of this, because it is immediately obvious that you are not mentally well. Therefore I am not going to address every point.

    Even if women were only useful for their ‘traditional’ roles, do you think that successfully bringing children up wouldn’t be a reason to have some self-esteem? Obviously your mother shouldn’t…

    You say that if all men quit their jobs tomorrow the world would collapse. True, but I guarantee you if every woman quit her job the world would also collapse.

    Don’t bitterly hate half of the entire worlds population because you got badly dumped a couple of times.

    I really do feel sorry for you for having such hatred towards half of the world’s population, your existence must be pretty empty and worthless.

    I also cannot believe how many narcissistic losers are agreeing with you – the only group of people I could even try and compare you to is Hitlers government, but even they had more respect.

    I can fully appreciate the odd ‘make me a sandwich’ joke and feminists piss me off but all of you should really have a reality check. What about your MOTHERS and SISTERS? Are you really that stupid/disrespectful? All of you should do the other 99.9999999% of us a favor and put a bullet through your head you sad, miserable b@stards….

  • Shelby

    Wow you must have a really small dick

  • Zahlen

    You are a piece of shit. That’s it.

  • spencer

    are you fucking serious

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  • Sarah

    Without a doubt the most disgusting thing I’ve ever read in my life.

  • Michael Braud

    You sound like the most insecure loser ever.
    Please die promptly.

    I Couldn’t Be More Serious,

    Michael Braud

  • Ryan

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  • Gemma

    I cannot help but to feel awfully sorry for you. There is no room for people like you in this world.

    That is all.

  • Rosalind

    I really appreciate that you say “a woman with excessive confidence is like a man with a vagina.” It does a great job excluding all the men in our world who actually do have vaginas – a concept that you seem to completely fail (or neglect) to understand. Thanks for undermining the entire female, trans* and non-binary communities. Luckily, you are a dying breed. Your comments and ideas are painfully dated; I feel honestly horrible for any woman who has ever come into contact with you.

  • P Kizzle

    Just another misogynist threatened by smart, confident women. Also, do some real research before you make so many false statements and make yourself look like such an ass.

    KYS.

  • A pissed off teenager

    wheres the “delete this mother fucker off the face of the planet” button

    the whole things douchey, but the worst part of you is that you actually believe women dont have the RIGHT to feel confident. well what if an asshole like you walks up to us? are we just supposed to get on our knees and take it? sorry, but no. I and a good 90% of women nowadays would give you what you deserve. A kick right in the vagina

  • EM Pierce

    I hope this is a joke. But if it is, it is still not “okay.” it is an insensitive joke with no respect or appreciation for the human condition. As for this “independent” nonsense (and the idea that women who have self-esteem feel like they can do it all on their own, or are man-haters), everyone needs someone, whether it be family or friends or a significant other. Male or female, people need people, and to encourage negative stereotypes (even jokingly) for either men or women does no good. Everyone has the right to be happy, to feel good about themselves, and the duty to treat others kindly.

    Besides, vulnerability and insecurity are two entirely different things. Vulnerability occurs when one feels comfortable with another human being, when they feel loved and accepted, when they sense they can let their walls down. Vulnerability is a beautiful thing- it is born out of trust, and affection, and yes, of course there are intimate feelings that go along with that. Insecurity comes from not feeling one’s own self-worth, from being beaten down. A person- male or female- cannot begin to show true vulnerability until they feel secure.

    Finally, anyone who felt disgusted, angry, or any other negative emotions that came along with this poorly thought out, offensive article (I’m sorry there are people putting this sort of thing out into the world), I think this video is a good one, discussing women (and men) and vulnerability. It’s not without faults- I think she comes on a little strong when it comes to labeling certain character traits as “women’s strength” over males, but I appreciate that she says when she talks about “the girl cell,” she really means something that is in every person, but usually has a feminine connotation in society (and begins to suggest that it should not only be expected of females).

    http://www.ted.com/talks/eve_ensler_embrace_your_inner_girl.html

  • Smelter Jones

    The guy who wrote this article and everyone who agrees with it is a misogynist piece of shit. Period.

  • You’re an idiot.

    mate your head is so far up your own arse you probably shit your own drool. wouldn’t be surprised considering you talk total shit

  • meow

    I agree with this in a way, actually. I was told I’d hate this article, but all I can do is agree. I’m meant to be that girl. Hell, I’ve dreamt if having a mediocre office job. I won’t benefit my country, but I will benefit a man who benefits his country. That’s my job.

  • Matt

    You’re a bad person and you should feel bad.

  • Jen

    Freedom of speech for all. Interesting the way he thinks. Men don’t get a lot of credit these days but playing the role can lead to your worse nightmare. Women can trick a man into believing anything

  • FEMINISTNOMORE

    How can we be equal if we are so different. feminists step aside and read this for what it is. you want to be wanted right? unless our a lesbian lets not get started on that can of worms.

    why do so many girls struggle for love? outnumbering us on dating sites and population.

    well listen to what we want. how can this inherit instinct be wrong. because its not. this is what we want. if you dont thats fine. enjoy being single riding the bus with your best friend until you die a lonely childless life.

  • Nick

    For all the men who were raised by single mothers out there: you truly are a dickhead Matt. There’s some mothers who scrimp and scrape there whole life so their kids can go to college without any help from the kids father. Don’t you have a Mom dude? Does she appreciate that she put you through college just so you can write this trash writing off half of the human race? Who cares if women are biologically preconditioned to cop penis. That doesn’t mean they cant work hard and do amazing stuff too, the only reason they historically havent as often as men is because child-birth is hard, and because of misogynists like you getting in there way. Give women a break bro. PS. If you delete this comment, it shows how much of a pussy you are.

  • I feel like you probably aren’t “jacked”, and your job probably isn’t that impressive. Some women do “important” jobs – my mum was a well-paid criminal defence barrister. And anyway if elementary schools closed down, how would people acquire the necessary basic education to gain entrance to university and become astronauts/doctors/engineers/lawyers? Teachers – male or female – perform an incredibly important role.

  • Sam

    Just reading this makes my skin crawl. If you want a quivering helpless kitten – just get a kitten. Why any woman would want to erase their personality just so they can not ‘deflate’ your ‘dick’ is beyond me. You are repulsive.

  • Hater Hater

    Only cowardly, unconfident beta-males are afraid of confidence in women. I want my partner to be as intelligent, well balanced and confident as I am so that my children don’t end up as emotionally fucked up and weak as the author of this piece of trash.

  • Emily

    you should die
    reincarnate as a woman
    years to come read this article
    and be disgusted by it

  • Devagenie

    Poor Matt… what a pathetic looser you are.

  • Trish

    I’m gonna go a head and suppose that you don’t like having sex with women, because if you do, you would never post anything like this in a public forum where women could read it. I feel sorry for you if you can’t get it up for a strong, independent, confident woman. You sir, are an idiot, and I don’t often make blanket statements like that, but this time it’s entirely true. Unless this article is some kind of joke, then that’s pretty funny, but if you are at all serious, I’ll stick with the idiot premise.

  • Castaneda

    Well I must say, you have done a fantastic job here. A fantastic job of totally missing the point of what it means to be a man, being amazingly arrogant, and just generally an idiot. The folks on here commenting in support of this article are clearly in the special needs bracket themselves and you all are exactly the extra baggage dragging us down as a species.
    I’m remarkably impressed by your ability to take your own insecurities and try and flip them around onto women. The fact that you need to surround yourself by people “weaker” (emotionally, physically etc) than you, only screams to the point that you feel week yourself, and those are the only times you can feel strong.
    All the women that have played large roles in my life have been strong, self thinking women, who are in fact happily in relationships (with men and other women) and would pick you apart piece by piece if they ever met you. I have been heavily influenced growing up by strong men AND strong women and have learned a great deal from both.
    You sir, are a coward, a self coddling little shit without the balls to actually stand up straight and understand what it actually means to be a man. You are weak, and you will not survive. I only pray that you never have children, for they will suffer the most.

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  • Gemma

    God if I met you i would kick you in the balls so hard.. this “article” is utter shite :)

  • http://facebook Lyn

    omg. what a Knob! This is the most pathetic thing I’ve read…ever. You need a ball gag!

  • Jenna

    This post gave me cancer. No wonder the guy is still unmarried, I sure as hell wouldn’t date him.

  • Ellie

    This is the most ridiculous paper ever written. First of all it most of been written by a man, and second of all the only reason why you like weak women is because you are a weak man who has to try very hard to control anyone, much less a “women”. You are a disgrace, no women in her right mind would EVER want to be with a man who thinks like you do. I bet you my dog gets more tail then you have your whole life. Your points are wrong and you have no proof. “Women don’t really want a high self esteem/did nothing to deserve it…what the hell have you done? Written a shitty essay that is sexist beyond our generation-you’re out of date and offensive. (and the comment saying you’d still sleep with her because of a ‘slamming body’ is just proof that you’re a pervert that can’t get any so you’ll sleep with anyone and your vision of women is so warped you’ll be lucky to die next to a female dog as a companion). Jack ass. Go do something useful with your time. Us women are out ruling the world your typing stupid essays about your dick deflating.

  • Ltp

    You’ve reached levels of stupidity I didn’t even know were possible.

  • a Women

    I have so much confidence that if I seen you, I would slit your throat. When I was done I would continue to go on and benefit my country.

  • Micheala

    … and just like that every woman in the world became celibate. You couldn’t be further from the truth. I am obtaining my Master’s in cell & molecular biology and my research is contributing to developing treatments for the betterment of humanity. Also, not “everyone and their mother” has a Master’s degree. The U.S. Census Bureau cites that there are approximately only 10.4% of Americans that have achieved this higher level of education – and it is no small fete. Reportedly, the majority of individuals with these degrees are women. These are people who had to work through these programs to eventually become psychologists, doctors, professors, and scientists. These are people who shape the world and some of them might have even contributed to your education and your own survival. It is my opinion that there is something seriously wrong with your mindset. The moral compass of an individual who would wish to feed off of the insecurities of women – or men – is one that is considerably off course. If confidence is an erection-killer for you then it is my wish that one day we will live in a world where you suffer in a constant state of erectile dysfunction.

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  • Jack

    I hope you’re being totally sarcastic with this “essay” if not, you can go die.

    Fuck you with something poisonous and sharp and I hope you are alone forever.

  • http://translatefromspanishtoenglish.com/ Magallanes

    I thought the giant billboards are supposed to make women’s self esteem lower? I guess they don’t work as planned or if anything they made things worse

  • Dasts

    Perfect. I’m your fan now. Every “feminist” from these days should read this.

  • Erectus Bogus

    Wow! Look at these comentaries. Women are really insecure as fuck.

    “B-but we’re confident ;_;”

  • Meaghan

    At first, I really thought that you may have some valid arguments to back up your cause. At first, I thought that maybe this essay would be a fantastic read. However, you are a complete and utter imbecile. Your essay may be accurate in the cases of some women, however, it would be completely and utterly false to say that all women apply to this essay. I’m not just saying these things because I am a woman myself, I’m saying these things because I also know many women who’ve actually overcome amazing boundaries, some of which are low life bastards obsessed with the idea of a world run by men. You are intimidated by women with greater achievements than yourself, and you feel the need to lash out clearly.
    I know women who are in fact body builders, lawyers, doctors and business women. All of these women had to go through the same schooling, and the same obstacles for the most part as the men in these professions. Except they had to do it along with perhaps being pregnant (not the body builder per say), having a family to take care of, children to nurture, and husbands to pick up after since some men these days seem to merely be bigger children themselves.
    I’m not a woman who hates men, in fact most of my good friends are men, but I am a woman who believes every human being on this planet deserves respect. Yes there are some women who’s ego’s are too big, and are too confident without a reason to be. But to classify all women in the way you have here, is seriously pathetic. You just sound like a small man in a big world where women are catching up.

  • Liv

    You’re a piece of shit :)

  • ScottishYOB

    This is DISGUSTING! Men like you are the scum of the earth. I hope every girl runs a mile from you, bane of life asshole. I hope you die with a big rank cock up your arse! ya wee knobber. Your mother must be so proud of you and your misogynistic ways! CUNT

  • Sam Blanders

    Your English is terrible. If you ever want anyone to take your ranting seriously, you should probably go get some form of education.

  • Allie

    As a female, I actually don’t have a problem with your viewpoint- you’re not interested in non-needy women, and they’re almost certainly not interested in you either. So… win-win?

  • Matt

    ‘a woman with excessive confidence is like a man with a vagina’

    Wow, way to add some transphobia to your misogyny.

  • Katalyn S.

    As a fellow writer, I find it sad that I can’t even celebrate your talent with words because there’s no seeing beyond this blatant, shit storm raising, opinion turned weapon.

    I wonder how this would make your mother feel. Your sisters, if you have them, young nieces…

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  • FUckyoufuckingtwat

    I have never in my life been so angry at a complete stranger. It’s conservatives like you who make me want to throw up. If I ever met you I would punch you in the balls so hard you would grow a vagina, and then with your vagina I would shove several knives up there and twist them around shooting them up your spinal cord and out through your mouth. I find it hard to believe that this article was written by an actual human being because you are shameful to all men in the world. Not only is this article just complete and utter bullshit but it was actually written terribly. You’re conclusion is a fucking joke (just as are you) and your introduction will make any SERIOUS writer laugh at you. I have almost no other words to say to you other than how big of a fucking joke you are. I am ashamed simply that you are a human being because we share that in comment. I honestly feel sorry for you. I hope you have an awful fucking day and an awful fucking life. And if you EVER AND I MEAN EVER get married I will feel utter disappointment for all females.
    PS: I’m still a “feminist manboob” you fucking twat. You’re pathetic.

  • picard

    You are everything that is wrong with the world. Sad, pathetic little man who has to blame all his problems on women instead of being a real man and treating women with the respect they deserve. You’re only attracted to insecure women because their insecurity makes you feel powerful. A real man can feel secure enough to treat a women with respect.

  • erica

    Wow. I have never hated anyone more. Well… perhaps, Hitler.

  • Larson

    The reason you don’t like smart, confident women is because they can smell you for the loser you are a mile away and won’t give you the time of day. You need insecure women because they’ll believe the clap trap that you spoon feed them. ‘That they’re lucky to have you because no one will’. ”That in spite of the narcissistic insistence that you ARE the center of the universe and deserve their devotion and subservience, you are still a great catch.’ ‘That they actually deserve the emotional abuse and soul sucking neediness, because they’re not good enough for anything better.’ Dude, you make me sick!

  • http://delilahsangels.wordpress.com/ Danielle

    Wrote a lovely little article in response to this because I figured it was better than sending death threats and stuff.

    http://delilahsangels.wordpress.com/2013/10/14/matt-forney-loves-insecure-women/

  • KellyRose

    Well I hope that you are never able to reproduce; What a plague you are on society. The fact that some people agree with you is terrifying. I hope you all get what you deserve, a vasectomy or better yet, castration.

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  • Miya

    It’s funny how many women and girls (who are stronger than this guy) would beat him up sooooo badly. I wanna.
    I don’t even wanna type more cause i’ll probably write for days.
    This guy sounds like Hitler

  • Miya

    Oh, by the way, this is you feelings superior to women. And that’s what happened before every genocide: a feeling of superiority and a need to put “lessers” in their place.
    You sound like a woman beater btw. Anything to make yourself feel better.

  • Rafael Siebert

    I don’t think I’ve seen anything so chauvinistic in my entire life. Who are you? I’m a guy, and I like to have an intellectual challenge from my girlfriend or spouse. Dude, I don’t know who you are but I really hope you get Lou Gehrig’s disease.

  • Christina

    Hahahaha you are the shit on my shoe.Thanks for the laugh though.my ovaries needed it.

  • ispitfire

    this is disgusting.you are disgusting

  • Marty

    This is so wrong on all levels, mate, someone has mother issues. Am I right?
    Get help, please…Otherwise its going to be one sad lonely life, because no women in there right mind would want to date you, be with you, or even love you for that way of thinking.

    Sorry but this is disgraceful..

  • BADBITCH

    you are a fucking asshole

  • Carl Jung

    The truth is hard to bear.
    The human body and the bodynear software are due to necessities. Form follows function. The human female is a egg-spending belly-breeder who produces a premature infant with a giant brain and a giant scull.
    To produce such a kid with such a brain and to raise such an premature infant is bound to several premises:

    The breeder and stiller has to have:
    – a wide pelvis
    – smooth conjunctive tissue
    – few muscles
    – a high ratio of fat tissue

    A man with such a constitution would be named sissy. The rank in the pack would be very, very low. For such a man it would be unwise to be provocative, too confident, too bigmouthed. He would not be able to stand the consecutive conflict.

    Without protecting males, woman are only prey.

    Carl Jung

  • Abby

    I’m sorry. I tried to actually read this before passing judgement, but I couldn’t. I have never read any argument stupider in my life. The first issue comes with your idea of respect. You realize that all the examples of “respected” men you listed include activities and achievements that can be done by women too, right? Bodybuilding, world travelling, holding a high-level position in a certain industry. It’s not the 15th century. Women have opportunities to do these things too. Which brings me to the next point. You say that clearly women aren’t important in the workforce because the “crucial” fields you list are still very male-dominated. That is the once ounce of truth that can be found in this idiotic piece, but the reason for it is because there are too many idiots that subscribe to this philosophy that women can’t do “hard” work because they’re too fragile/weak/emotional or some other bullshit. Thirdly, insecurity=femininity? Promoting ideas like that are the reason for the spike in antidepressant usage amongst young women, not feminism. This argument just seems like a cover up for your real (and hideously perverted I might add) feelings about gender roles and sex. You don’t want to be with, as you said a strong, independent women, because that fucks with your notion that since you’re a man you’re clearly God’s gift to society and therefore get everything you want when you want for no other reason than the fact that you are male. That part where you said women have done nothing to deserve the respect they demand? Sounds like it could explain your own feelings better than it does your argument. Oh, and that idea that women need men for survival? How about you tell that to every committed and/or happily married same-sex couple.

  • Marissa

    I am a woman who describes herself as strong, but not because society has told me so. I am strong because otherwise I would not be here today after everything I have been through. I am confident because I know my opinions are right and because I know I am doing what I want to do with my life, because society has done nothing to boost my confidence. It has done everything to tear it down and belittle me because I am a woman. Such as, for instance, using articles like this.

    And there is nothing I can say to convince you of anything that is wrong with what you have said. Your mind is so set in its way that it will not be changed by anything I have to say. More than anything, I feel badly that you will never know how wrong your opinions are and I am shocked that there are still people who feel this way.

    Rest assured, any woman like me will steer clear of you.

    And as for some of the comments I have read by other men trying to argue the other side, your comments sound just as bad. The writer shouldn’t have to think about if he was saying this to his mother or sister, because that just means that women are still only valued in their relationships to men. I understand trying to give people perspective, but that is not the way to do it.

    P.S. Puppetry takes just as much skill as other skills you have described as admiring in this article. And education is worth more than you will ever realize as someone who is in a privileged society where it is expected that people go to college.

  • Rachel

    Fuck. You.

  • Ryan Buchanan

    aright, vulnerable women only give vulnerable MEN boners. bc you RELATE, you can see each other as both assisting each other in becoming more independent and secure. if its not coming from that place, youre fucked. #1

    #2, secure CONFIDENT men are actually weakened* by insecure CONFUSED women. you cant be secure and be confused. in the case of these ‘bad bitches’, they prefer secure confused men over insecure confused men (duh). among the cheerleaders (which you would fuck, guaranteed), which is gonna give you the stronger erection – the fierce girl whos a leader.. or the quiet one on the side ? the only reason you would choose the girl on the side over the girl in the center is because she is an easier target, or a ‘lover’ ie. ON YOUR LEVEL. which is realistic. doesnt mean youre on the top level, son.

    as for female insecurity unlocking innate masculinity. it does, but it comes from an attitude of protection or rape. youre husband material. try backing up that idea with your actions while also trying to get laid, youll see things a little differently. but yeah, not all girls deserve YOUR ULTIMATE protection, but deserve ultimate protection. get me? not anger-centered fingers-pointed rape-dominance. thats what becoming a man is. transforming your rape side into a protective nurturing side. you wanna water the tree, not pull at it. if youre trying to ‘pull’ then it needs to come from a judgment-free, FUN place, full of passion and wonder. your perspective is highly fueled by hate boy. SEX IS GOOD, ITS THE PURSUIT THATS SHADY.

    it sounds like you are still trying to figure things out. and youre welcome.

    btw, being a girls boy-toy is legit. try it before you knock it.
    do you need them to stick around. no. cause youre the shit. bye bye

  • L

    I want to kill myself because people like you exist you misogynistic fuck face

  • Ryan

    This is fucking ridiculas! Everyone who agrees with this guy is simply retarted. BIggest load of bullshit I have ever read in my life.

  • Natasha

    I am the mother of a 2 year old little girl, wife to a wonderful man, United States veteran having served in OIF/OEF and a full time college student. I am working on my bachelors in Psychology and plan on moving forward to medical school with my path set on becoming a Psychiatrist.
    My husband married me because I am strong, independent and a fierce woman. I keep up with him, he married his equal and wouldn’t want to have it any other way.
    Men like you are the ones who are insecure. You need to have a woman who relies on you because you wouldn’t know how to handle a real woman, an independent and free woman. We scare you. We scare you because you know that when we are done with putting up with the issues that you have you know that we will be able to leave you and take care of ourselves. We don’t NEED you anymore than we need a dog who chews on our furniture and pisses on our floors. At least the dog he can be taught that his actions are unacceptable. With men like you, you will never learn. You will continue to prey on those women who are insecure and will continue to perpetuate the cycle of abuse that will keep them insecure. Why? Because as soon as she realizes that she is stronger than you that takes away your power.
    By the way, the next time you write something up like this and post it, if you want people to take you seriously as an intelligent author learn the difference between then and than.

  • Tori

    I hope your mother slaps you after reading this…

  • Ben

    Worst article I’ve ever read. The level of insecurity you display here is absolutely astounding. Plus this is on the web. You can never take this back. You are now and forever the complete a$$hole who hates women. Why do this to yourself. If you’re trying to get shock reactions from people, congratulations, but at what price? On the other hand, if you seriously believe this nonsense, I am even more flabbergasted. What a worthless piece of drivel…

  • A question for Matt

    Matt, where do all these hating commenters come from? Is there a top referrer URL?

  • http://mattforney.com/ Matt Forney

    They’re coming from Facebook and Tumblr, a few from Twitter. There’s no big site that linked to it, just a lot of crybabies sharing it in rage.

  • Vicki

    I am sincerely disgusted and saddened that journalists like this exist in the world. I’ve never heard such a load of ridiculous, misogynistic tripe in my life.

  • yeah

    well I think I understand what you’re saying, maybe not completely, but maybe different men are attracted to different women? like “strong, independent” women might be attracted to weak-willed men, and vice-versa. maybe it creates some kind of healthy dynamic in the relationship basically like who “wears the pants.” and maybe the same person might be subordinate in one relationship and not in another. and not all women like confident men, or else a lot of nerd genes would have died out by now.

  • A question for Matt

    Matt, you’re doing a great job. Both article-wise and comment-wise!

    Every antifeminist knows that not even 0.1% of such comments would be allowed on websites of feminists.

    This is by the way one of the reason, why these commenters here think that you are a misogynist: Because comments like your article (“Women with a low self esteem are a turn on”) are regularly filtered out by mainstream media and by feminist blogs.

  • Sammy

    Oh, sweetie. Good job displaying to the world how much of a fucked-up prick you are to the core.

    By the way, regarding your future sexual relationships with women: with this repulsive article, you might as well have just tattooed “DON’T FUCK ME” on your forehead.

  • anonymous

    Look, Matt, I know you think you’re “proving a point” but after a while, it gets a bit old. Just what are you achieving by doing this? And no, it’s not “funny” to rile people up and laugh at their comments. I legitimately thought this article, which you obviously believe is the epitome of this confident manhood you discuss, was a joke for the first few paragraphs. I had a look around your site before I realized that you were just an insecure idiot just as guilty of these rants you accuse “feminists” of. Also, the next time you try to tackle a wildly unpopular and offensive topic, try not to have grammatical errors. Good luck finding happiness in your life because you are so obviously a deeply, deeply sad man. Think before you speak in the future– it will serve you well.

  • Alexa

    Wow. You are probably the dumbest human being on the face of the Earth. I hope you die a really slow and painful death. Good bye.

  • maayan cohen

    I’m a woman and while I don’t consider myself to be an feminist by any means, I do consider you to be a major A-hole. Your mother must be proud…

  • Tia

    Just spot on there, Matt. You have women figured out down to a tee. Women put on this facade of confidence to attract men because our lives revolve around them. I’m so glad that you’ve clarified that confidence isn’t attractive! Now we can finally put down our masks and go back to who we really want to be – insecure wives in the kitchen, providing for our husbands while being degraded and treated as silly little play things.

    Oh, hang on, this isn’t the 1950s! Sorry, I seem to have confused my little head about what year we’re in. Let me just fast forward 63 years.

    So. 2013. Most women do not shape their lives around what men think of them. There. That’s the truth. I’m sorry that everyone’s lives aren’t based on your opinions – it’s probably a real shock after all the praise I’m guessing your mumma gave you! (You’re a special little boy? You can do anything you want? You can have anything you want? Nobody is good enough for you?) I don’t know, that’s the impression that I’m getting from you. Anyway.

    What is truly great about this essay is that your transparent insecurity shines through. I think the clearest – and most important – message I got from this is that you clearly need women to validate your existence. If you don’t have a woman that you have to “shield” from “the cruelty of the world”, how will you prove your masculinity?

    10/10 for this, Matt. I’ve learnt so much about you.

  • Gwyn

    You know, I totally forgot this morning when good ol’ God-Pops created me out of Adam’s rib and then I walked around in a daze (I mean, I AM a woman, it’s not like I have all my brain cells or anything!) that I’m not actually supposed to do anything but serve Adam hand and foot and not ask questions!

    Goodness, I can be such a silly woman. Oh, I believe it’s reproduction time. I better go close my eyes, think of England, and remember not to enjoy it.

  • Madelyn

    Shut up. Who are you to say that women can’t have self respect just because they exist? Men deserve that too. And you know what? Because of you I’m going to now brag about my confidence (or at least the small amount I’ve got) and see how guys react. A “social experiment,” if you will. Up yours.

  • Anne

    You are a total jackass.

  • Christina

    You have an amazingly warped view of what self-confidence truly is. Everyone, male and female, deserves self confidence because it allows an individual to be able to do good things for themselves, as well as the peple around them.
    For women specifically, it gives us the empowerment we need to say no to self righteousness douche bags such as yourself. It is so utterly obvious that you have been rejected by “confident” women so many times you can only find success in girls wh think so lowly of themselves they will say yes to any man, and thus has no real self worth. I used to be a woman with low self confidence, and got myself in pretty terrible situations because I believed I wasn’t worth sticking up for myself. I will never ever go back to that girl. I am worth being considered as human being with human feelings, and fuck anyone who dares to try to take that away from anyone or treats them less than such no matter what sex, religion, race or creed. I feel bad for you because tgis article and this line of thinking is clearly rooted from a deep anger you have from an experience or experiences, and I’m sad that you can’t appreciate a woman or even a man who might on the outside seem worthless to society, who would chose to stand up and live for themselves when someone tries to bring them down. You need to let that anger go, dude
    Find self confidence for yourself. Real self confidence. I can only hope that you one day embark on a soul search instead of spewing hate towards women on the internet. That is whack.

  • Katie

    Holy mother of god, what the fuck is WRONG with you people?! “They need us far more than we need them.” you are sick. I am sorry for whatever serious trauma has damaged you in such a way, or that you need a woman to submit to you to make you feel like a real man, but put your big girl panties on and stop complaining about how you can only get with an insecure waif who makes you feel needed to get it up. That’s pathetic. Grow a pair and keep up.

  • an angry woman

    I am not here to inflate your stuck-up male appendage. I am here to live my life, and I’d rather not do it thinking that I’m ugly, stupid, and not worth the world’s time. Thank you very much.

  • Rachel

    Matt, I know you’re probably going to just write me off as a crybaby and as late to your pitiful party, but you’ve just gone to show that you’re only as secure as the women you want to be around. If the only satisfaction you can get from women is from 1) fucking them or 2) using their “weaknesses” to make you feel “strong,” you really need to re-evaluate yourself.

    I hope all of this attention you’re getting for all of your shortcomings boosts your self-esteem. You’ve just become the poster boy for misogyny.

  • Sarah

    I agree with the fact that many women want equality but actually don’t – it means you’re treated equal to, not better than, men, which means that you might have to pay for dinner sometimes and shoulder the same responsibilities and I do agree that a lot of women don’t seem to understand that.

    That being said, the rest of this article is disgusting and you sound like a completely horrible person. How the fuck do you justify yourself? Get off the internet.

  • Mary Belair

    Let us hope he seeks help for his mental illness before he breeds any offspring. If he does breed, and is blessed to have a baby girl, may she grow up to become a wise, strong, confident woman, AND KISS HIS ASS!

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  • Dre

    This is the most idiotic article I’ve ever read in my life. This must be a joke because no one in their right mind would believe any of this. Go get a real job, dumbass.

  • sarah

    when people like you write things like these… it really worries me. people like you, so insecure (deep down inside) that you need someone even more insecure by your side, in order to feel you are worth something. wao! so sad. so incredibly sad that you really think like this. it is an insult to every woman out there, to measure her desirability on her insecurities. please buy yourself a dictionary, insecurity and vulnerability or humbleness are not the same thing. i wish and hope that if you ever have daughters, that they don´t find boyfriends with an abusive mentality like your own, where in order to feel good about themselves, they will need to diminish your daughter´s greatness. seriously, this article saddens and worries me beyond what i can express. instead of thinking of roles and cookie cutter ideas of what men and women should be, why don´t you value each person for who they are, regardless of their sex. a person is attractive when they are authentic, real, honest, open, free, imperfectly-perfect, strong and weak, passionate, loving, feisty, angry, sad, tired, excited, intelligent, outgoing, strong, loyal… a person is beautiful when he/she dares to be themselves and celebrates their humanity… instead of transforming into a version of what others want to see of them. chances are, if you are not loyal to yourself, you will end up in a failed relationship or an abusive one, where one of the 2 will slowly give up who they are and the other (usually an egomaniac) will end up bullying their partner. i hope that young women and men, with a higher propensity to be influenced by opinions like yours, have the sense to look beyond what you have written and see that this article is not about what makes women desirable and attractive to men, but about what makes some men or women afraid when they see someone else shine. no one that truly loves you wants a distilled version of you. people that love you (man or woman) want to see you soar the skies and be as expansive, amazing, beautiful…inspiring, as you can possibly be. please sir (author of this article) don´t project your insecurities onto a twisted manipulated version about what makes a good female partner. it´s not fair for future daughter´s and mother´s to carry your bullshit, or anyone´s bullshit, for that matter, or for young men to think so little of themselves, that they need to find a fragil partner in order to feel strong. sir, words are powerful, use them wisely. take responsibility for your crap. work on loving yourself, finding who you are… to the point where you won´t need to kill someone´s light in order for yours to shine. to the point where your love does not grow out of someone else´s insecurity. because, that sir, is not love. that is just someone too scared to look within; someone with a very big ego and feeding it out of someone else´s soul. not ok. not what a man/woman of character would do.

  • McKenna

    I’m a feminist, & a lot of what you say is true. I know exactly the kind of girls you are talking about. The truth of the matter is that there are some genuinely confidently women who aren’t emotionally vulnerable & don’t have mental illnesses. However, usually these people aren’t looking for traditional relationships. They also don’t call themselves “strong, independent women”. That would be like if a hipster called his/herself a hipster. It just doesn’t happen.

    The feminist women you are talking about are too caught up in coming off as strong & independent to remember to treat men well (like they want to be treated) & be good people in general. You are right that these kinds of women are seeking men because it’s evident when they settle down & do the exact same thing that women have done forever: get married & become stay-at-home moms.

    Interesting article, although I disagree with the mass generalizations.

  • Jessica

    So tell me, did you have a mom that didn’t pay any attention to you when you were little because of her “unimportant” job, or was she that “ideal” woman you described? Because it is obvious that this all comes from mommy issues, but I am so curious as to where they were rooted from.

    Women are people. Just like men. Which means that they don’t spend their whole lives just figuring out how to “keep your dick from deflating”. We’ve got some other priorities.

    Also, Don’t bash the arts. Obviously, you have some frustration from your lack of artistic creativity. Maybe look into that.

    In total, writing is supposed to improve people’s knowledge and help the world and instead you wrote a little blog about all your silly biases and childhood issues and are just insulting people. It is unnecessary. Stop.

  • Alex

    I can see his insecurities from a mile away.

  • Megan

    Good luck getting any girls after this. You’re an asshole and anyone who actually is intelligent knows that this entire article is false

  • Daniel

    Don’t ever speak for all men, you’re an absolute moron who clearly has major sociopathic issues. I’m sorry your mommy didn’t teach you what it was like to actually RESPECT a woman, but don’t put words in the mouths of any other guy. I’d prefer a woman that I can actually talk to when we aren’t having sex, which is apparently the only part of the relationship you’re interested in, and to do that she has to be someone whose views and opinions I actually give a shit about, not some vapid, image obsession baby that I need to coddle. You have some major psychological and sociological issues, and an extremely warped sense of reality where you clearly don’t understand facts. If every woman lost her job everything would be cool, huh? How about nurses? Nurses do 80% in HOSPITALS, kind of a key institution for keeping society rolling. Also, when last I checked, a woman was secretary of state, we kind of need one of those. You sir, hate women. I don’t know if you’re mother was too hard on you, your father filled you with a 1950’s version of gender, or your dick is just really small. Please, for all that is good, don’t EVER speak for our gender like you represent men EVER again. You need help.

  • Solange

    uh-oh, the word ‘KARMA’ seems to have struck a cord of Matt’s, and I sense ‘WeAk’ moved something in there also. Interesting…

  • Tamist

    Hey there. Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your (extremely offensive) thoughts. It takes a lot of courage to put such negative thoughts out into the world, knowing you will receive a lot of criticism. Also wanted to say that I’m a 27-year-old egalitarian career driven and educated woman who happens to love to cook, has a lot of confidence and a wonderful boyfriend who loves me BECAUSE of all of these things. I hear what you are saying about how you are attracted to weak women who need you and I think this says a lot about YOUR confidence (i.e. you don’t have much. You are afraid a woman will leave you unless she is insecure and the thought of this makes your dick go soft). I feel really bad that you don’t value yourself enough to think that a woman with confidence would want to stick around through thick and thin. I sincerely hope you find enough self-esteem to one day to value yourself more and to value other people more. Just try to keep in mind that not all men are like you. Some men find confidence sexy (like my boyfriend). And not all women find overly confident men attractive. My boyfriend can be very insecure sometimes and the fact that he shares his insecurities with me is something I find super sexy. If he had originally approached me with a SUPER amount of over-confidence acting like he owns the world, I probably would have walked away. The point is that we are all different and all attracted to different things. We should not be judged based on our genitals but on how much positive or negative energy we put out into the world. How much good or bad we do. You, sir, put out a lot of negative energy. I hope one day this changes. Good luck to you.

  • wtfisthiscrap

    Whole article in a sentence – “Omg women stop being independent, WHAT ABOUT ME! MEN! WHAT ABOUT MY BONER! WAHH”
    seriously. You are literally one of the reasons why us women still need feminism.

  • http://savetheovaries.wordpress.com Sarah O.

    I don’t understand why you keep generalizing about men. I don’t think all man want the same kind of woman.

  • Maria

    This is the most ignorant bullshit I have read in a long time.

  • Anon

    That is beautiful, keep up the good work duder

  • JMITCH

    This is just an eloquently written misguided rant by the author of such great novels as “Big Lovin: The Guide to Picking Up Fat Chicks.” The whole premise of your argument hinges on a complete misunderstanding of self-confidence. A person with true self-confidence is someone who is content with the way in which they are viewed by others but ultimately happy with the control they personally exert over their life choices. Self-confidence can obviously be completely independent of gender, the only thing you seem to be failing to grasp is the fact that women can be independent and successful irrespective of any desire to fulfill the feminist ideal. All your use of inverted commas highlight the fact that you’re speaking about a specific group of women that annoy you, the “confident” ones, but for impact you’ve decided to make this a sweeping generalization against women as a whole and in the process stated your frustration with %50 percent of the worlds population.

  • A conscious woman

    I think I know who’s the one with a low self-esteem here.. the one who needs a woman to “need him” or to “die without him”. Dude please, seems like you have a personality disorder of craving for attention. Do all of us women a favor and GROW SOME BALLS.

    Or you could get psychiatry or something.

    Sincerely, An independent and strong women who definitely doesn’t need some douchebag like you in her life.

  • Sofie

    Since when did anybody have to ‘earn’ self-esteem? We’re all human here. Women aren’t aliens – we have a sense of self too.
    I really cherish my self esteem. I’m not chugging down prozac because, shock horror, I’m happy with myself.
    Really think you ought to have spoken to a few women before writing such a purportedly ‘insightful’ article.
    Good luck with your shrink.

  • Fratstar

    hahahahahahahahahahaha that was hilarious. There are so many contradictions, logical flaws, and circular arguments that you make that I can’t help but laugh. That’s great. Yeah, I’m a biochemistry major with a philosophy minor, one of those “worthless” college degrees that I’m about to earn because I’m a woman. Also, I’m pre-medicine and going to medical school, so I’m about to do something completely unnecessary and worthless like saving someone’s life in surgery. I’m sure that all of the women in the military are worthless too. My female cardiologist and dermatologist are worthless. They all got degrees in “PUPPETRY” to get where they are now. God, you’re a dumbass. And a misogynist. So, girls should have low self-esteem because that’s that you think is attractive? Wow, that’s the most selfish and sadistic thing I’ve ever heard. You want girls to feel like shit because you like to see that? Good luck having the shittiest girlfriend in the world. I’m also glad that you’re evidence for everything is based on 2 girls you’ve dated, you empirical scientist you. If insecurity is central to femininity, how come I’ve never been insecure in my life, and I don’t want men to protect me? Guess what, I’ve taken taekwondo. I bet I could kick your ass if we got into a fight. Oh, sorry, is that not attractive to you? My bad, let me bow down to you instead. Yeah, right. Well, see you never bitch. Good luck with finding friends who aren’t as shitty as you are.

  • judy jud

    This is a joke. When I’m your boss someday, you can thank me for your paycheck.

    Sincerely,

    a woman

  • k

    you are an awful human being, I hope you die. Why would you say something like that you pompous freak. I hate you

  • Anon

    Okay, I don’t normally consider myself a feminist, and I don’t usually take the time to comment on this sort of thing, but I couldn’t not say something.
    You make me sick, and to be honest just plain depressed that there are still people in the world who think this way. Honestly I am glad that you will die alone so you don’t have the opportunity to pass either your genes or twisted world view to the next generation. I mean have you ever even talked to a women? Your understanding of the opposite sex is so severely stunted and corrupt I can only assume you’ve had to grow up without a mother or decent female role-model. For that reason I feel sorry for you, and maybe you are not entirely to blame for holding such truly disturbing opinions, but please, PLEASE refrain from polluting the minds of everyone else and offending decent people. We don’t need to hear this trash, I believe in freedom of speech, but not ignorance.
    I agree with you that ignoring the fact that there are clear differences between a man and a woman, and that it is pointless and sometimes harmful to deny this, but this DOES NOT MEAN that one sex is subordinate to the other. Sometimes women may need men, but men need women just as much – if you really think the world would be just fine without women in the workforce, then I am sorry for you. And you’re right that that feeling that you cannot live without that one special person is important and amazing and special and should be valued, but it should not be and IS NOT based on gender. I woman should need her man because of who he is as a person, and how she feels about him, not just because he is a man. Surely that is a more desirable situation for you anyway – wouldn’t you rather a woman love YOU rather than your big strong protecting penis? Otherwise what is there to make her chose you? Why aren’t women just flinging themselves at the first man they meet?
    The point at which I was most disgusted? I don’t know if it was your intention, but for a moment you were dangerously close to saying that women WANT to be raped. Now I’m not going to dignify this with a retort, because I think even to you, it must be self-evident how completely idiotic a statement like that is.
    I have many many more points to raise, but my blood is boiling to much to communicate them effectively. In short, I am sorry for you, you small small pathetic little boy. I only hope one day you are secure enough to not feel the need to build your entire sense of self and self worth on the misguided opinion that women need you. I think this ‘essay’ (as some generous soul called it) is if anything more a testament to the male psyche and you’re insecurities than any realistic understanding of women, or indeed how the world works.

  • Intellectualismisdying

    This man has no knowledge of basic psychology whatsoever and should stop trying to speak for all men because most would probably not want to have anything to do with his philosophy. If you truly think depression and other mental health illness rates are increasing due to feminism or not going to a man, then you don’t know jack shit about psychology, stats, studies, trends, etc. etc. This article is an embarassment and I would be embarassed putting my ignorance on display like this if I was this man.

    Fun fact: co-dependence or dependence does NOT cure depression or mental health issues. The underlying problem is still there and it has NOT been cured. The person has just found an unhealthy coping mechanism.

    Aside from this, you place such high standards on physical finesse but none for knowledge and intelligence? Because that’s all this world needs; buff, impressionable easy to manipulate fools. It’s not like there isn’t enough fools in this world as it is (case in point you). Personally we need more people to think critically and seek knowledge and the truth for its own sake to collectively come together and bring positive change in our damaged societies. Anyone can be stupid and body build. Show me the person who excercises their mind as much as their body and you have a winner. Actually you don’t need to excercise the body as much, devote more time to the mind. The mind is like other muscles in the sense that if you don’t use it and work to strengthen and develop it you have a chance of becoming dumber or have difficulty thinking through difficult concepts/issues.

    This author reeks of someone with low self-esteem and insecurity who needs someone on his level so that he doesn’t feel intimidated or emasculated. Work on yourself and your issues before handing out advice to women based on your limited preferences and experiences and trying to speak for all men outside your own mind.

  • Carl Jung

    Please excuse my anything else but perfect english. I’m a Deutscher.

    Another thought: no human beeing is really indipendent. We all are social beeings. An icebear is indipendent. He don’t need another icebear to survive when he’s grown up.

    Without society most of us are unable to survive.

    This is hardwired in our brains. Except of some mental diseases like sociopathy our selfconfidence depends on our relations to other people of our society. Their reflexions form the image, we have of ourselves.

    Women in special are extemly opportunistic.

    Carl Jung

  • N

    You know what? I’m a guy, and nothing gets my willy as hard as a strong, confident, dominant woman who looks at me like a predator looks at some nice piece of meat.

  • Jo

    Um…no. And while we’re at it, women don’t have an extra X chromosome, they have 2 of them while men have XY.

    And you’re confusing high selfesteem with something else entirely.

  • woman

    Even as a female i agree with this. There’s nothing more unattractive than confidence in a woman. Confidence is what has driven most of you into being whores. Women are supposed to be protected by men, men are superior. Feminists can think what they like but men are the stronger more, intelligent sex, that’s the way its always been. Now the media make you think that just because you have a vagina you deserve to be respected. BULLSHIT. earn it, like men have to. Your vagina is not like gold, there are plenty of them to go around. (Y) Also how can people be angry at this guy, some girls have actually given this guy reason to think this way. How can women be respected? when the majority of them are posting nudes all over social media???? Its wrong. If this where any other time in the past your fathers would of beaten you. Women know your place. I never asked for women’s rights nor do i want them.

  • Biggerbunny

    I don’t understand why everyone is so pissy all he said was that women shouldn’t demand respect for doing nothing at all not that we should make all the women quit their jobs and give us blow jobs 24 hours a day i don’t expect people to respect me just because i breath super duper well and i swear like half the women i meet just expect to be idolized and worshiped because they know how to walk 10 feet without falling down. Those women do have a tendency to treat men like they are nothing more than toys. just because they happened to get hit by the pretty stick that doesn’t give them the right to just fuck with guys emotions. in fact i feel like they disrespect themselves by not letting someone else in their little bubble just because they happen to think that their pussy is on a pedestal. they run around to different guys and put absolutely nothing into a relationship and expect respect when they don’t treat others with respect but then again i think that can apply to both men and women. This is all from a outside perspective as well these women are my friends not someone im trying to fuck or whatever and they also tend to have the same attitude when it comes to friendships with other women they take from the relationship and rarely return the favor i guess basically what im trying to say before i ramble on anymore is that women can be assholes too especially when they have a inflated sense of worth brought on by being attractive or being a “strong independent women”

  • Anooshka Sharma

    Are you actually this shallow? your point of view only proves that you are everything that is wrong in this world! Insecurity is essential for femininity? Your post brings in life your so called feminine(as per your stupid thought) side. You stupid boy. I hope someone saves you from yourself.

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  • http://google sandra

    If this load of rubbish doesnt illustrate this mans weakness, then i need to put on my apron and start baking, just like a good girl should!What a waste of time, ink and brain matter!

  • Someone with self respect

    Please go kill yourself. Now.

  • Lara Fields

    I don’t just think it’s sad that you are espousing these misguided and chauvinistic ideas, but its worse that there are people who agree with what you are profaning. You obviously have a terrible life and feel yourself so insecure that to feel better about your lackluster life (and or dick) that you look for individuals with the lowest self-esteem possible to inflate your own confidence. That’s pitiful and I think, as I’m sure others would agree, you need a reality check in the way of counseling.

  • Al

    Kid, you talk out of your ass.

    I can’t tell what you need more–schooling or a therapist. Do everyone a favor and stop writing SUCH SHIT. You’re just an opinionated asshole who takes pride in pissing people off. I bet everyone just has such nice things to say about you, don’t they? Really. As a journalist and writer, I’m ashamed to know that “writers” like you exist.

    Such a joke.

  • RJ

    Double-check the difference between “confidence” and “arrogance.” If you’re bragging about being confident, chances are it’s not healthy confidence.

  • Cuntpuss

    Slip in a puddle of aids and die.

  • Tam

    Oh my…! Yet: you are SO funny and creative!. Each paragraph had me in peals of laughter!
    If you ever write an article that makes sense, or doesn’t show off your own insecurities so blatantly, I’d love to read it too. Good luck!

  • Jheri

    This is the most disgusting, sexist thing I have ever read. Women were worshiped and revered far before they were told to “get in the kitchen.” I would be amazed if you have ever gotten laid in your life, you disgusting pig of a human. Women everywhere are reading this filth, horrified by your attitude and your arrogance. If you are personally attracted to insecure women, that’s your own sick, twisted mindset, but for you to make the rest of the world believe that for society to function properly, all women should be insecure and subordinate is an entirely different subject. I am far from a feminist. I believe in true equality. Sexual harassment should have no double standards. Women should not hit men and expect not to get hit back. Women should pay for their own things. You are an ignorant, sick son of a bitch. Not every independent woman is a slut. A lot of us are engaged or married… and faithful. While it doesn’t hurt to do nice things and make a sandwich for your man occasionally, for it to be expected or demanded is revolting. Women are more human than you are. The grime on our shoes is more human than you are. So why don’t you be a doll and get me a glass of whiskey and a sandwich? Considering we’re being degrading twatholes.

  • A

    This is just a bunch of sexist backwards garbage. You are a sad man and I wouldn’t even wish the misfortune of dating you on my worst enemy.

  • Angry Man

    Dear Matt Fornley… I will bury your ass at the bottom of the sea where you wont be quickly eaten or rot.. you’ll be a naked, pale corpse, sheathed in the scum of your own decomposition, never seeing light or feeling warmth. For in the sea, you are nothing. You are but a spec. An insignificant, slimy spec of a boy. Much, funnily enough as you are now.
    Good day to you sir.

  • themightyeagle

    wow, you’re a psychopath whom don’t view women as real human beings. congratulations your tiny dick is showing. Or did a woman hurt your feelings?
    Grow the fuck up and accept that women have their own goals in life; and are not your mindless plaything you use to jack off to.

  • Dude

    You are one sick mother fucker.

  • Mark

    You are a prick, with a tiny penis and should feel lucky that any woman has ever let you within 20 feet of them, let alone “bang her”. Skulk back under the stone from which you dragged yourself to write this poison blog.

  • michelle

    wow, you sure know how to spout some shit out of that arsehole in your face don’t you… i bet you will die with a woman standing over you spitting in your ridiculously sexist face, you are pathetic and this world would be better off without you and people with the same or similar view as you… ps.. i hope you somehow find your way into a jail cell and get gang raped by a bunch of well endowed sexual deviants :) go fuck yourself… sincerely the female race :)

  • michelle

    the couple of people who say they agree with even parts of what this guy says are probably being very controlled even completely dominated by a man… i do not consider myself a feminist nor do i agree with any part of what this complete waist of oxygen has said here… i see myself as a confident woman, i work for minimum wage in 2 very physically and mentally draining jobs and i do not expect or demand anything of anyone (man or woman) i work hard and pay my own bills, if i want something i get it for myself, but enough about me… you have Google… look up some of the women in trades such as whatever it is your job is… i’m sure they are better than you, look at the woman in different countries fighting wars that protect and serve people like you, you are not even worth a fraction of what some women on this earth are and im sure that if the tables where turned they wouldn’t have the same view on men either… you are what is wrong with this world… try doing something worthwhile with your time rather than degrading yourself like this… because trust me any woman worth anything in this world will not be degraded by what you have said here… they will just see you for what you really are… and if any woman will stay with you after reading this… they are obviously not all there in the head and you will never find that woman worth staying with… and even if for some miricale you do, you will never be faithful… and she probably wont either

  • Veronica

    You’re literally all that is wrong with this world. You miserable insect, I could say the worst things, but I really just feel bad for you. You’re pathetic. A real man can handle a strong woman, you’re just a coward and a pathetic excuse for a human being.

  • Tina

    This is the most hypocritical thing I’ve ever read…you rage against women for pretending to promote “self-esteem” and “confidence” yet ultimately you sound threatened by this movement. Why can’t you have your beliefs and leave it at that? You don’t need to force your beliefs down everyone else’s throats. When you say that confident women are incapable of view men as human beings, you sound unconscionably hypocritical – confident women can’t view men as human beings? How are you viewing women? Hardly as human beings. Your arguments are also riddled with bad logic – you say that the jobs that really matter to our country are occupied by men (police officers, miners, etc.) and that the jobs women do are essentially useless – but this is not the case because women are incompetent or less capable but because ignorant, bigoted men like you keep women from permeating these occupations. Finally, I hate to use this example since I believe it really only values women in relation to men, but clearly someone like you can’t view them any other way: what about your mother, your daughter, your sister? Would you want them to be seen purely as sex objects, there for mens’ enjoyment and nothing better than a sandwich and baby maker? Would you really value a woman close to you that little? Or tolerate someone valuing them that little?

  • Sam

    This is so absurd I don’t know if I should laugh or cry.

  • Sarah

    You must be very young. You have some valid points but they are presented mostly annoyingly. I am a 19 year old woman. I am sassy, confident and self assured, but also exceptionally feminine. I agree that women want to be dominated and protected by a man. An insecure woman is easier to dominate, therefore attracting more insecure men. A self respecting masculine man loves a woman who loves herself. I have always preferred significantly older men because they tend to be much more masculine and confident. When a man can dominate me in a relationship he is my king and can absolutely have his way with me. I am not a feminist. I dont support equality because men and women are not the same. I also dont believe either gender is superior. Insecurity is not attractive or feminine, and a woman doesnt have to be insecure to submit to a masculine man.

  • Christine

    I can’t figure out how I feel about this post. I agree with some ideas, but disagree with others. You speak about how women think so highly about themselves because of a college degree or a job in a woman dominated field and how awful it is that they feel this way, but I am a woman who is currently studying for a degree in elementary and middle grades education. I am proud of my efforts and ambitions because I understand that what I am doing is appropriate for my gender and because I am doing something I am passionate about and pursuing what I want to do despite society’s insistence that because I am highly intelligent I should be pursing STEM degrees.

    I also agree that emotional vulnerability and dependence are important for relationships; however, I feel very strongly that you are wrong to bash on women who are on antidepressants. I am on antidepressants and am likely more vulnerable and dependent than many girls. I need my antidepressants so I can get out of bed in the morning, see life as worth living, feel something, feel anything. Without my antidepressants, I would be incapable of feeling comforted, of feeling protected, of feeling dependent, of feeling awed and impressed by my man. In short, without my medication, I would have no desire for a man at all, no desire to interact or do anything that required any effort whatsoever on my part. My emotional issues do not come from being strong or independent or lacking a man to take care of me, rather, my problems come from neurological imbalances, and no matter how great a man is, he cannot change how my brain releases and takes up my neurotransmitters, nor how they interact. It is a chemical issue, not a relational issue and I don’t appreciate your implication that I am emotionally unstable because I refuse to let a man comfort me and take care of me. Rather, reaching a place of emotional stability through taking antidepressants allows me to realize my need for my man instead of feeling isolated and that I am alone in the world and therefore must struggle independently and be my own source of strength.

    I also agree with your statement that women seek a dominant man. I know that I personally look for a man that I respect and trust enough to put myself completely in his hands. To be submissive to a man who cares for me and protects me and respects me is an amazing feeling. A large chunk of my sense of self-worth and self-esteem comes from knowing that somehow I have been deemed worthy by a wonderful man.

  • Pissed off irishman

    You are a fucking twat and should burn in hell! -a pissed off Irishman that is the least of your problems

  • marzo

    wow it’s hard to believe someone actually wrote this.. like sat at a computer and wrote this.. you are better off using your computer to watch pornos and cartoons. epitome of useless blogging.. and to think it would be a man’s blog, too.

    the reason you don’t like confident, secure women is because you’re insecure yourself; you’d rather shove your dick into something without a personality/someone afraid of you/ someone afraid to make her desires known. you’re sad and this blog sucks. i can’t even tell if it’s a joke. disgusting waste of space on the internet. i couldn’t bare to read it all.

    i hope you grow a pair. are you like 13 or something? seriously how did your mother raise you. are you a foster kid. legit.

  • cattle prod

    *headpat* you’re so cute trying to feign intelligence. sorry you’re threatened by women. let me guess–every girl you tried to date (or screw) told you to go fuck yourself. *kisses*

  • Kate

    You, sir, are an asshole. Please rethink your life choices.

  • Humanity Has Hit It’s All Time Low

    This is disgusting and I do hope you have a major reality check in the near future.

  • Eve

    This is disgusting

  • chloe

    Hahahaha someone has been scorned by an independent woman who didn’t need him. Mate you are far from a man. Come to Australia and meet some real men, I’m sure they’d just love to hear your take on women.

  • penismcwenis

    The thing is, most women who project “confidence” and assume a loud and obtrusive deportment are usually projecting based on some personally perceived insecurities.

    They ARE insecure, they just don’t have enough courage to own it.

  • Khushi

    Wait, I’m sorry: but you NEED a woman to be insecure for you to be able to genuinely love her and be attracted to her; and SHE’S the one who’s inherently weak?

  • A fucking woman have you guessed

    You’re a sick, clueless, pseudo-intellectual and, simply put, a fucking cunt.

  • Robyn

    There is something wrong with you.

  • Tara

    I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU FUCKED A FORMER FAT CHICK DUDE YOUR DICK IS AS UNBELIEVABLY GROSS AS YOUR TINY FUCKING BRAIN OOPS IS THIS COMMENT NOT ALLOWED YOUR COMMENTS RULES WERE VERY BOSSY AS YOU DON’T ALLOW TROLLING OR IDIOTIC BEHAVIOR OH WAIT THIS WHOLE BLOG IS A TROLL BECAUSE THERE’S NO WAY YOU CAN SIT AND TYPE AT THE SAME TIME I HOPE THIS COMMENT DOESN’T “RUIN EVERYTHING” WHAT OTHER LESSONS WOULD I MISS FROM YOU OH LORD OH FUCK OH THE HUMANITY BUT YOU’RE SUCH A MISUNDERSTOOD GENIUS look i hope whatever other miseries you have up your sleeve you keep buttoned up in that inevitably kissable mouth you have also anyone can write an ebook out now on kindle and it’s not that hard at all to nail a fat chick you’re literally offering nothing new to the world except probably your mom likes your blogs when she has one of the other retarded whores at the old whores’ home read them to her.

  • bosse

    Go live in Afghanistan you will fit right in!

  • Brooke

    As you could’ve guessed by my name, I’m a woman. I’m a woman you have severely pissed off, and I’m sure you’ve leaned back into your office chair, hands behind your head in sheer accomplishment. Well done; you are no better than any other degenerate that likes to belittle others because they’re not you, nor do they think like you. I would honestly be surprised if you had a girlfriend, and if you did, I’m deeply sorry for her. I’m not going to skim through your entire shitty opinion piece and pick out shit that bothered me–because the whole thing bothered me.

    I’m not sure if you looked at your calendar recently, but it’s not the 50s anymore. More and more women hold CEO positions in Fortune 500 companies, and the percentage of women who have graduated college is rising much higher than that of men. So to say that a woman holding a college degree isn’t much of anything, is completely and utterly childish of you.

    Yes, as women we wish to be as equal as men. That I do agree with. But I also should point out that we deserve respect–the same that we women give you (unfortunately). Pretty much, women do not exist to be your maid. We do not exist to solely give pleasure to you when YOU please and to make you your shitty sandwiches.

    If I’m mistaken, your whole little whiny rant about how we shouldn’t have self-esteem practically hides the fact that maybe you’re afraid of the opposite sex. How funny! I’m going to assume that you do mostly freelance work, because you’re frightened that a WOMAN might have a say in whether or not your shitty and pathetic excuse for writing deserves to be in her company, or maybe you’re afraid that a WOMAN might control how much you make. Maybe you haven’t married yet because each woman you meet INTIMIDATES YOU to death, and heaven forbid she’s more successful than you and you’d be stuck being a stay-at-home dad. She would replace your sorry ass as the bacon bringer, the well-respected working girl while you “sit at home, eat Doritos and jerk off into a tube sock all day”.

    Because of your fear of women (that I won’t assume anymore), you think rape is funny and that all women should be insecure, self-conscious, and vulnerable because to you, that means you can reign your dominance on us.

    Nonetheless, I do wish you luck in trying to find a girlfriend, let alone someone whose standards are so low enough that they’d consent into having sex with you.

  • A Real Man

    You have such an unbelievably warped view of reality. I love how you are a man trying to say that you know everything about women and what women want based on the few random girls that you have been lucky enough to date being the garbohosa that you are. You won’t get a valuable wife and that in itself is justice.

    Representin the USA real well bro!

  • alice

    you remind me of an ex boyfriend of mine. He trapped me by making me as small as he could, day after day after month after month for two years abusing me emotionally physically and sexually. His aim was to make me have no self worth and no self esteem so i wouldn’t have any strength to leave him. He was the most vile person i have ever met. He thought so little of himself that he had to make me devalue my happiness and worth so much that it was at a level that i could seemingly stand him.
    i managed to escape eventually, because of the beautiful women in my life who lifted me up and gave me the strength to stand up for myself against him and assholes like you. now all that is left are scars on my body, and anger in my heart.
    i hope you choke on your dads dick and die.
    also, i’m fucking beautiful inside and out and you will never feel the love i could give you. it is an absolute blessing to be loved by a woman and also the other way around. you don’t deserve love and you definitely don’t deserve happiness.

  • a stupid woman

    I was trying to work out whether this was trolling gone wrong or the insecurities of a petty man scorned by a confident woman, but I’m a woman studying a useless Arts degree therefore I don’t deserve the self esteem you’re insulting. I obviously need a big, strong man to pat my insecure, stupid head in a condescending manner and send me back into the kitchen with a slap on my arse. Thank you for enlightening me, Matt! Oh wait… you have a useless job and no impressive achievements… does that make you an honorary woman?

  • Christina C

    As a woman, I literally have no words to express the anger I feel when I read this. I don’t understand how you can live in todays advanced world and feel entitled to this bizarre and outrageous opinion about females. Apparently I’m not allowed to be confident in myself because I have not contributed anything of significance to society. Thanks Matt! I’ll definitely keep that in mind the next time I decide to make a large decision. Also the only way for me to achieve this confidence is through a man “consoling” me about my insecurities. However, the issue of men with inflated egos was never even brought up. Can you say double standard? This article contains such a myopic view of the world that it’s hard to believe it was written this recently. Open your eyes, look around, and realize that women have just as much significance as men. Period. Women are willing, and in some cases more than men, to put the hard work and effort required into achieving high ranking jobs that we are apparently too lazy to work for. All I can say is, Matt Forney, you need to open your eyes to the 21st century and understand that all of these opinions you expressed contribute to the inequality women still endure in society to this day.

  • Some guy

    What the fuck did I just attempt to read? Whatever guy wrote this needs to get sat down and told how he’s not such a big deal. God damn, this just about made me sick and I’m not even a girl, who are the people who are to be most insulted by this slimy turd.
    Sacks of shit like you, sir, should stay in your basement, eat your doritos and jack off into your sock rather than being such a little bitch raving on about how much better than other people you supposedly are.
    I sincerely hope that someday you realize how stupid your viewpoint is and I bid you good luck in realizing how much of a little turd you are.

  • some random chick

    As a female tradie over the years I have received (and given) a fair amount of shit……. This article makes me wanna take that shit, smear it on a spanner and beat some understanding into you or at least the living daylights out of you.

  • Richard Watts

    Please fuck off and die, and especially don’t breed and raise kids, you miserable, misogynist neanderthal.

  • Benjamin Peter Lewis

    Its difficult to succinctly summarise the general contempt I have for morally disgraceful arguments such as this one. I think the main point I would make is this: you speak of the status quo, the “natural state of relationships,” etc as if it were something to be aspired to, something good, something that will set us free. I draw your attention to the fact that the same reasoning assuming a ‘natural state’ was used to justify slavery, vilification of homosexuals, even apartheid and genocide. The point is that civilised society and human wellbeing begin where arguments like this end. No offence to you personally sir…

  • Kali

    I hope someone ties you to the underside of a roller-coaster carriage with coat-hangers and wait till it comes to a stop then kicks you in the teeth.

  • A Man

    Thanks for speaking for all men, really appreciate it. I, on the other hand, enjoy a confident woman. I mean if your aiming for a woman that will only be with you because she doesn’t think she can do any better, then go ahead.

  • LW

    Oh my god you are absolutely disgusting I actually feel physically sick from reading this. I feel sorry for the women in your life.

  • LouLouBrush

    I cannot believe that men like you still exist in the modern world. It’s truly disgusting to think that you HONESTLY view women and society in this way. I cannot imagine any other future for you than a very lonely, childless one – unless you plan on latching on to one of those vulnerable rape victims or former fatties who are CLEARLY what society needs to function properly. What you’re advocating is emotional abuse, arsehole, and it’s illegal.

    Do you view your own mother in this way? Although, judging from your total lack of respect, I imagine she wonders where she went wrong. She probably wishes she hadn’t given you life – the rest of us surely do.

    Who allowed you – a self-employed blogger – to claim self-confidence? Seems to me you’re in charge of no one but yourself and your pathetic little website, while I sit here in charge of a 250-strong department who all show me respect for the ‘fluff’ job I do.

  • Sarah

    Eeeeeeek! I don’t like cocky people in general, confident is good, arrogant not so much. Jesus has knit women together to be humble and quiet in spirit, but by no means were women created to be insecure! Yes women were made to be with husbands, but never to need I.e life or death a man. I think it’s sad that this was written, promoting self hatred for women is sexy. I pray, that no woman will buy into this lie, and that both women and men alike, would be brought into their TRUE respected, honorable, and beautiful identity that God has ordained from them since the beginning of time.

  • Elspeth Pitt

    Wow, you are beyond pathetic.

  • Female!

    I didnt bother to continue reading the remained of your piece of shit blog because after you expressed that if all women were fired there would be next to no change I realised that this must be some kind of joke….Not sure about you but as a nurse I’m fairly sure there would be no healthcare available without women. So when you’re having a heart attack I might just laugh in your face and say sorry, you can wait for a high paid tradesman to come and repair the blockages in your heart. You’re a pathetic human

  • CONFIDENT FEMALE

    I am a woman and my “natural biological and social function” is to SHIT ON UR FACE. How’s that confidence for ya! WOMEN ARE TAKING OVER, THERE’S NO MORE PATRIARCHAL SHIT.. THAT’S FUCKING LONG GONE SO GRAB UR BALLS AND GET READY FOR THE WRATH OF CONFIDENT FEMALES & THEIR OPINIONS COMING UR WAY.

  • yourcool

    you seem like a very sad man perhaps you should get some professional help with your own self esteem issues and warped opinions of women. Good luck with the future… you will need it you fucking bastard

  • Eshman

    You sound like like a spoilt fat mummy’s boy who was given everything you ever wanted as a child. Now that you have grown into a “man” you have realised that there is more to life than your xbox and pocket pussy. Because of your lack of ability to communicate with strong, confident, sexy women you feel the need to discriminate the entire female gender to make yourself feel better. Keep thinking the way that you do and you are going to die an extremely lonely unhappy man.

  • Intellectualismisdying

    Hey woman above speak for yourself. You never asked for womne’s rights and don’t want them? What a bunch of bull. Go to a country like Saudi Arabia or Afghanistan as a woman spend a few weeks there and tell me if you won’t come crying back appreciating being treated like a human. And historically there have been many examples of intelligent women namely: Marie Curie, Irène Joliot-Curie, Gerty Theresa Cori, Maria Mayer, Dorothy Hodgkin, Rosalyn Sussman Yalow, Barbara McClintock, Rita Levi-Montalcini, Gertrude Elion, Christiane Nüsslein-Volhard, Françoise Barré-Sinoussi, Carol W. Greider, Elinor Ostrom, Elizabeth Blackburn and Linda B. Buck, etc. ALL NOBEL PRIZE WINNERS.
    So just because you are ignorant and only good for sex and popping out babies as are your friends and the women in your life, does NOT mean all women are the less intelligent inferior sex by nature. YOU AS A PERSON are inferior by nature to men, and many women too. So speak for yourself princess.

  • Jessica

    This is disgusting. You and your ideas are everything that is wrong with the world.

  • Chloe W

    So basically your whole argument is based on the fact that women have done nothing to deserve the same state or position in society as men???????
    You do realise your whole argument is completely hypocritical.

    After all men did nothing to for society to be donned the “alpha” male or “stronger sex”.
    You just happened to be biologically made with a bigger build and a few more muscles then women.
    And considering as you plainly put it within your first paragraph that you practically think with your penis anyway, tell me Matt, have you done anything to actually help society or improve it? Because as a “man”- and right now I use that term loosely with you because a real man has respect for someone regardless of their gender – maybe you should take a serious look at yourself and the world around you.

    Both members of the opposite sex deserve respect and sadly it is people like you that prevent that from happening and give the good men in the world a bad name.
    I truly feel sorry for you. But maybe that just my uterus talking?

    I hope this article and the responses people are giving you give you just a taste of what it is like to be discriminated because of the sex you were born into. Because you defiantly need a reality check. And if you don’t like it, please go back to the stone age because when time is moving forwards there really is no need for the entirety of society to go backwards because of one persons insecurity in themselves.

  • Jessica

    Great, you love to dominate women. We get it now.

  • wellsomeonehasn’tdonetheirresearch

    You totally contradict yourself in the first couple of paragraphs and I quote:
    “They’re encouraged to derive self-worth not from their inherent feminine nature but from their college degree, their job or the other illusory trappings of achievement in a man’s world.”
    and your first point states:
    “1. Most girls have done nothing to deserve self-esteem.”
    So if they have self-esteem because they’re gaining college degrees and jobs, how do they do nothing to earn self-esteem?

    Also I’d like to see some statistical proof that women aren’t serving in the military, becoming cops, farmers, miners, and tradesmen.
    You’re ignorance amazes me. Please do the world a favor and do a little research next time before posting your useless garbage on the internet, you misogynistic piece of crap.

  • Dannaston

    Elizabeth I, a woman who gained the respect of men internationally, played the game. She even declared “I have the heart of a king.” In a time before the concept of feminism, she acted like a man. Baroness Thatcher stated that feminism had nothing to do with her success. She played the game well, too. She rejected feminism.

    Your article highlights the fact that women who have led with power and gained real respect, have done so by being more determined than men.

    Men, therefore, should continue to strive for further greatness and not be complacent in their superiority.

    If anything, feminism has weakened women. They now expect power or are given it without consideration of ability. The women who do not rely on it fight wars and win. Defeating the men in command.

  • Joanna Fantozzi

    Instead of getting angry, I’m going to assume that this was written as satire. If that is the case, I would like to point out that this is a poorly-written satire. It isn’t very funny, and a satire’s worth usually can be found in its subtlety, wordplay and semi-ridiculous tones or plot- for instance Jonathan Swift’s Modest Proposal. You see, in this little essay of yours, you actually come off as a complete and utter asshole who doesn’t deserve to polluting the earth with his carbon dioxide. You really had me convinced that you were that guy. But it didn’t make me laugh or smirk the way a Vonnegut satire might. Might I suggest taking a Gotham writing class to improve your skills?

  • Prince Chauhan

    In my opinion, this post is nothing but a publicity stunt. I cannot come up with a better reason for writing this piece of shit.

  • Xion

    You’re a minority. Why? Because you think like a weak man. Only a weak man needs a weak woman, the majority of people in this world aim for greatness and seek others to equal them. You’re like a gay man who goes upstream.
    What a waste of time.

  • Amon

    And what, may I ask, is your claim to everyone’s respect, author?

  • Kaitlyn

    This is one of the most disturbing articles I have ever had the displeasure of reading. It just makes me sad to think that there are people in this world who have this opinion.

  • salooza

    Go die in a fire.

  • Z

    You literally deserve to die the most horrible fucking death. You Sir, are a cunt.

  • Kipper

    You don’t speak for me. Your case is weak. You suck. That is all.

  • Joe

    This is the funniest fucking thing I’ve read all day

    Oh my god

    Oh wow

  • Shay

    This has been the most infuriating misogynist article i’ve ever read, I hope all of your children are female and I hope your house burns down. it is disturbing to me that there are people out there really think like you. fuck you, you disgusting vile pathetic excuse for a human being.

  • Matthew Radin

    Guy, if you want to (I say “want to” for a reason) a prefer a girl to be subordinate to you, whatever. Do what you want. But that makes the assumption that you are the only one with a worthy opinion in a relationship, that you are going to be the sole voice of reason and rationality in the relationship and that you think that everything that you do and say so in righteous and irrefutable. So, with that illogic pointed out, I will interject.

    I had thought that as a society we were starting to stomp on the head of this idea that women are ALWAYS male accessories or that men were the “biological breadwinners”. (Some women refuse to take responsibility because they’re lazy but, hey, so do some men, you can’t win’em all, claiming that all men are the perfect indestructible providers would not only be an overstatement, it’d be a fallacy)

    Now let’s get into this apparent biology you think is the definition of you: the first thing to note is that, yes, hormones have a direct link to behaviour. We should all know that testosterone causes emotional withdrawal, competitiveness, logical reasoning (not to be confused with innate intelligence), muscle development, physical strength and assertiveness. And to also know that estrogen causes empathy, emotionality, communication and expression and social-awareness. These feelings are intrinsic to the molecule and their reaction to us is constant. We know that we react to these molecules if they are in our system: post-operative hormonal replacement supplements in individuals changing from one sex to the other is evidence to this. Studies have shown that persons receiving sex-hormones take on some of the characteristics of that hormone, female to male testosterone replacement causing aggression and emotional withdrawal and male to female estrogen replacement causing irascibility and emotional-fragility.

    You may think this is just PROVING your argument right now but, I’m getting there…

    The second thing to understand is this: hormones of BOTH types run through the bodies of everyone human on the planet REGARDLESS of gender. And although during the pubic stages where more of one hormone floods through veins of an individual according to their GENETIC sex, once this stage passes, presence of either hormone is also partially ENVIRONMENTAL and is easily CHANGED by CHANGING that person’s environment.
    As evidence to this, in an episode of the television show “Brainiac”, a British science experiment program, two male subjects were asked to complete a simple role reversal. The first man was a frequent gym-user and frequently went to high-intensity sporting arenas as well as other typically male activities, the second was the average UK household man, staying at home caring for the kids and going to the pub every so often. A hormone test was done at the beginning of the experiment and it was recorded that the first man had above average levels of testosterone and average levels of estrogen and the second had above average levels of estrogen and average levels of testosterone.
    Now the two men were asked to perform certain tasks to see how their hormone levels would change. The first man was asked to perform daily household chores, watch children’s programs and spend the rest of the experiment speaking at a whisper. The second man was asked to do high-intensity fitness training, watch high-contact sports and spend part of the experiment screaming.
    And what was found by the end of the test?
    The hormone results had almost entirely switched. The first man, who regardless of being a masculine man, had high levels of estrogen and lowered levels of testosterone and the second had lowered estrogen and higher testosterone.

    This says to me that these hormonal molecules which are directly influencing our behaviour (evident to the conveniently retorted “period” phase of woman as a man’s excuse of them being “confident”) are ACTUALLY something that can be changed via the environment around the individual. And, believe it or not, this is a good thing. We need to have a balance of both hormone. If men had only testosterone, they would be highly aggressive, sexually frustrated, and potentially physically engorged and have grown inordinate amounts of thick hair follicles all over. Same for women with estrogen, they would be emotionally unstable and entirely fragile to the point of insufferability and total uselessness, not being able to undergo the simplest task without being logically impaired and emotionally overwhelmed (same for women with testosterone and men with estrogen, with increased exposure to testosterone in woman causing shrinkage of mammary glands, deepening of vocal chords, loosening of the labia the increase in hair and increased estrogen in men causing enlarged manboobs and testicular retraction (before you go thinking “BUT I WANT TO STAY A WOMAN/MAN!” don’t fret; the repurposing of hormones dictates that it will prioritise itself to neurological changes over physical ones that require more energy and are only seen in exceedingly high and exceedingly long exposures will they actually cause smaller/bigger boobs just in case anyone thought they’d found a surefire breast enhancement / penis enlargement, it ain’t that simple).

    And is this hormonal-ity a reality we see in our society? Answer: not NEARLY close! It might be true for some, but this is DEFINITELY not a social norm (if you’re growing “moobs” you may want to consult a physician)

    In fact, if you want to claim that you don’t “require” femininity as a man, you may want to give up drinking. Beer is highly effective at inciting estrogen: it’s calming, soothing, and allows you EMOTIONAL respite. Without it, many men who attempt to subdue the emotional dragon in their regular lifestyle (a thing of societal expectation) would be a frustrated, agitated messes <- indicative that it's perfectly natural to seek an emotional release in men. My advice, don't be so proud as to ACTUALLY give up drinking if it makes you feel good just because something challenged your masculinity. Trust me, it's the testosterone-competitiveness causing that pride, just calm the fuck down for a second, crazy

    And so hence, your concept of male-superiority in the workplace, too, is misguided. Current workplace practices of social awareness and HR-correspondences are giving rise to what is known as "the emotional worker". In other words, this is the rise in expectation of social awareness and emotional-empathy (much associated with femininity) in the workplace. Years ago, there was no protection against a worker's "emotional" needs. You were worked, whipped, morning till night with little rest or sleep because you needed the money and governmental bodies thought that was what you, as a middle to lower class citizen, "deserved". Now we have laws throughout the modern workplace preventing workers from being harassed by fellow workers, overworked by employers and expectations of amiable conduct throughout. Workplaces, more and more, are becoming more respectful, democratic and nuturing of it's employees and it's not because the male-ego was destined for the workplace. Workplaces are better because of the influence of the addition of women. And if you think you can function in a workplace run simply as "masculine", feel free to have yourself worked to the bone with little personal considerations.

    So what this all is basically saying is that your place, as a man, in this society is entirely arbitrary. If you have the predisposition to seek out manly things because that is what your mind, your individual mind wants, REGARDLESS OF YOUR GENDER, then you force the production of the hormone applicable to that activity. Me, I see myself as quite effeminate and carefree ordinarily, but right now, smashing out this essay is making me cranky and aggravated, so you can bet that ENVIRONMENTALLY, I am producing testosterone. It doesn't mean that I'm suddenly the societal picture of a man, it means what it means, I'm fucking disgusted by this article and I want to smash something out in response.

    And should you say that just because you see the response of fragility in women over men is more prevalent, you'd be HEAVILY generalizing to the point of nauseating inaccuracy and you'd be underestimating your own influence under the hormone engendering your current disposition. Realise that, as a man, your testosterone is potentially withdrawing your empathy and causing a disconnected rationality that is DESIGNED to fuel your own competitiveness. That doesn't however mean that you don't EVER feel some kind of emotion; that is dictated by your personal DISPOSITION. (And another thing, estrogen is designed to be extroverted and outwardly expressive so, OF COURSE, you're going to notice the reaction.) Testosterone made you a man, physically, yes. But it doesn't make you who you are. You need estrogen to balance out the scale before you can be rational and yourself. And be forcing either hormone as the default in saying that "women have to be insecure for MY needs" is totally bogus and an absolute crock. You don't even KNOW your needs until you are rational of mind.

    There were some things within the article that, I will admit, were correct. Your definition of femininity and insecurity was perfectly sound. Emotional fragility IS a by-product of femininity. BUT again, you've underestimated the lack of biological ratio decidendi fueling your claims. Men CAN be effeminate. Women can be masculine. And in fact, I know plenty of men who get into a tizzy every time something doesn't go their way and demand attention from everyone around them just as much as I know many women who take it on the chin and go above and beyond to provide for themselves and others. And that doesn't mean that the world is going to stop working should every man die; the women will naturally be predisposed to producing the testosterone that will see them taking the reigns of society in the same way that men would gain empathy and emotional understanding socially should all the women "drop dead". Moreover, should we allow the men who can't make the choices to stay in power over the intelligent women who are GOOD at CONFIDENCE to stay as the subservient just because the few righteous men think they "deserve" their place? Of course not! If you're shit at your job, you're not going to have a job. This concept should be positively antique except now we have people trying to pull back and say "men should stay in the workplace".

    So, in summation of that elephantiasis of ranting, femininity and masculinity are engendered by genetics AS WELL AS environment, if you force the disposition, you can GAIN the disposition. So, fuck your biology. We ALL dictate our OWN biology. We decide what is normal to us based on what everyone else thinks, sometimes not because it's right but because a majority says it is and that dictates the biology we have, not pure genetics. But, we can be the ones to decide whether we live fairly to everyone. And this crap about "women loving insecurity" is the first thing to go. Don't generalise because clever women see through your "male-ego" because, as I have attempted to explain as holistically as I am to understand it, your ego is not just for the male. So, if you decide to take the woman's point of view and understand the heartache of being in a constant flurry of emotion, then you'll understanding that keeping them there for your own personal validation is not only selfish, it's unstable. Men can be manly AND womanly, women can be womanly and manly. We all need logic sometimes. We all need emotional dependence sometimes. There's only everything to gain in that understanding.

  • Laurie Bee

    I have just read something that infuriates me. I hope with everything in me that this was meant to be satire, because if not I cannot even begin to imagine the insecurities you have in yourself. We’re in the modern era. It’s time to face it. It’s going to be a lot harder to find your little housewife. Women are independent beings with careers, degrees, and lives of their own. Women do not need men, or any partner, to be happy. The idea of feminism is not to make women better then men. It is about equality. Has this idea been morphed by masculine and feminine extremists? Yes. But the main goal of feminists is not to say women are better, but finally be recognized that WOMEN ARE PEOPLE. Not an inferior being, but an equal to men. Gender roles are stifling and stopping progress. Expecting every single woman to fit your idea of “vulnerable” is unrealistic. I truly feel sorry that you cannot appreciate that some women take pride in their independence, and that is a fault in you own confidence, not in the woman. Not every woman shapes her life about impressing men. It is not a major goal. And a person is no less of a woman if they do not desire to impress men with their every move. I think strong women are excellent. I think strong men are excellent. Why can’t the trait of being independent be appreciated in both sexes? Why can’t there be respect for women attempting to overcome traditional gender roles? I do believe what was said was demeaning, but I will not insult the author personally because everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But I will say this. I truly believe that this thought process is what is stalling our country in moving forward toward a more equal America for women. Men and women need to stop belittling each other and work together to empower one another.
    PS: This article also implies victim blaming in crimes against women. That is disgusting. It is not the fault of the victim, but the criminal who CHOSE NOT TO BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING. Never victim blame.

  • norah

    Did someone lobotomise you before you wrote this?

  • Chioma

    It’s obvious you’re a troll or a douchebag who is obviously pained about the fact that ‘secure’ and independent women are not attracted to you (and understandably so). I wonder if you hold any regard for your mom or any of the female members of your family. I really do pray that you are trolling because it would be very unfortunate if you actually thought this way. And also, bear in mind that even trolling is not excuse enough to write such derogatory and offensive things about women/anyone.
    And to all the people commenting in support and making even more derogatory remarks, I feel so bad for you all; it’s mindboggling that you could still possibly harbour such backward ways of thinking in this day and age.

  • Ashley

    I have low self esteem and was raped and made fun of by a guy who chose a borderline prostitute over me. Would not have been able to get over it if I didn’t build up the confidence to say this is wrong and press charges. Women need self esteem so they don’t get trampled on by poor excuses of males such as this guy and the writer of this article. Would not be the case if males actually took care of things…I’ve learned not to depend on them based on experience, sorry writer, you are retarded and interacting with trash. Please read to my mom who worked and raised me while taking care of my deadbeat dad

  • ???

    I think the biggest issue here is that it’s assumed that any female who disagrees with these extremist views on femininity and voices a rebuttal are deemed ‘feminists’, when in reality they are (in many cases) just normal people who are disgusted with these strange, extreme views. You cannot dehumanize a group of people and expect people to agree, and expect those who don’t to merely avoid contributing their own opinion (this privilege is thanks to what you’ve stated within your edited comments: the first amendment). You claim that feminists are all ‘man-haters’ (and you place a negative connotation on this), however you could very well be classified as a misogynist for the way that you portray your views on gender roles. You may disagree… However, deeming women to be inferior and undeserving of positive self-image seems to display that you have a strong dislike for women (feminists, specifically).

    I just really hope that you never have daughters, because they would surely grow up to be the ones who are struggling with themselves. And if you do, I sure hope you’re fulfilling a hard-working, good paying job (like all men do!) because it’s going to be hard supplying your daughters with all of that Xanax…

    People like you are just as bad as the extreme feminists. You’re both too high on your horse and really need to just take it down a notch.

    You don’t like feminists, and I’m positive they don’t like you. Instead of feeling the need to shove your opinion out there as if it’s an objective, absolute truth (isn’t that one of the biggest reasons why anti-feminists hate feminism?), maybe we should just understand that both extremes exist and we need them for entertainment on the internet.

  • Perelle

    Thanks Matt,
    a very interesting talking with my wondeful strong wife!

  • chris

    Wow, you’re just an asshole!!!!

  • Jesse

    I think the important thing to realize is how often you are having to edit comments and make them into the exact type of moronic insults you perceive as being made against you in the first place. The viewpoint describe in this article is the most repugnant social view I’ve ever read, because not only is it a negative, sweeping generalization of women but because it is also the exact same negative, sweeping generalization of men. You seem to want to live in a world where women are “easy” for you to pick up or enter into relationships with. Why? If I had to guess, it would almost certainly be because women with low self confidence are the only girls who have ever shown any interest in you to begin with. Otherwise, why would they be interested in someone with such ghastly social views as you have?

    As far as your editing of comments, you may make the point of Jezebel or other feminist sites as not allowing opposing viewpoints on their site, and I don’t read their site at all but I’m certain they don’t edit them so the commenter appears to make juvenile, humiliating, moronic and vulgar things about themselves. If you really want to be like Jezebel or whatever site you hate so much, simply delete the comments you don’t approve of.

    Personally, I wish every person on earth was confident. Low Self Esteem or Low Self Confidence doesn’t help anything. Everyone on the planet should have confidence in themselves, and it’s too bad that some don’t. It seems as though you actually are one of the people who have low self esteem, and try to mask it in statements like “confident women make my dick deflate”, which is because you have such a low opinion of yourself that you believe you have no chance with them, that they won’t want you once they get to know you. And they would be right not to want you, because you are a meatheaded, chauvinistic fool who doesn’t deserve the company of any woman at all and can only achieve the company of women with a low opinion of themselves.

    As far as women not being physically strong, I’d like to see you say that to Ronda Rousey or Serena Williams or any female athlete(of which there are thousands and thousands so you can’t say small sample size) and live to tell the tale.

    Or, you are just not smart. Which could definitely be the case.

  • grace

    i got halfway through this thing and i feel like i’m going to fucking throw up. i can’t believe you’re actually serious.

  • Michelle

    ugh, you’re a tool.

  • church grim

    you, and every person agreeing with this, are a piece of shit with no intrinsic value – when you all die off, the world will be a better place, and we the people with a brain larger than a walnut, wait for this day. hell will welcome you with its arms open wide while we shit on your unholy putrid ashes. please choke on your own entitled vomit, subhuman waste.

  • grace

    This is actually one of this most disgusting things I have ever read in my life. You don’t respect vulnerable women with low self-esteem, you like controlling them. You are a monster. If all women abided by the rules laid out in this essay the world would not be a better place. I agree that just being a woman is not enough reason to be confident, but women have merit and are working towards achieving merit the same as men–that is where their confidence is coming from and you believing otherwise just makes you a misogynist and an idiot. The world is not perfect, but we (the sane people of the world) are working towards a better tomorrow where all people are judged equally based on their merit–telling 50% of the world to stop, sit down, make a sandwich, and then curl up next to you on the couch so you can “protect” them is NOT going to bring change. I mean jesus what year do you think this is? 1890? Your opinions are outdated. I award you no points and may god have mercy on your soul.

  • Work in progress

    Matt I have to say, when I first read this post I was highly offended by it. Being a single mother, full-time student, working, blah blah blah etc. etc. I fancied myself a pretty confident, strong, and independent woman, trying to prove to the guys that I can do it all by myself.
    But then I read it again, and had to admit that you made some pretty interesting points. Though I believe that you are a complete douche bag for what you said, someone had to say it. Actually, you even said some things that I was thinking about other women (and even myself) sometimes. Though I don’t agree with everything you said AND I’m sure there are millions of women who will give you crap for it, all I can say is well done…but I don’t cook ;)
    -G

  • Iona

    It seems the one with serious self-esteem issues here is you Matt. How can you claim to be a big ballsie guy if you feel the need for a woman to be dependent on you when committed to her? The only perpsn who should be dependent on you for dear life is yourself, but perhaps you’re not good enough. Get your head out of your a**, it’s the 21st century not the Dark Ages.

  • Ari

    I’m confused as to why a college degree is a hit against a woman, you need a college degree to do pretty much anything substantial these days, or else why would men get them?

    I would have also been more interested in this article if you had actually used some quantitative support for these “theories”. Anyone can ramble about anything without support.

    If you would like an in depth anthropological look at what happens when women fulfill their “true” feminine roles, I would suggest reading The Feminine Mystique. It is not a feminist manifesto, as it is commonly said to be, those who have read it know that it is a compilation of psychological and sociological studies conducted in the 1950’s & 1960’s as well as an American history lesson.

    I highly recommend it.

  • Rina

    Having a one inch penis must be hard.

  • Meagan

    Watch MissRepresentation.
    And who ever agrees with this male, you should watch it too.
    any one and everyone should watch it.
    This is revolting and I can not believe that in present day people actually believe females are not equivalent to males. Wake UP! We are created equal. Women are just as powerful as any men, and the reason why women are portrayed to be vulnerable and portrayed to be over-emotional and irrational is because the media is run my men who feel insecure about women with power so they down-grade them and use specific terms in the media to subconsciously make people believe that women are not as powerful as men, where in reality they are.

  • laura gordon

    i hope this is a really smart subversive joke. if not you’re a massive twat

  • Alma

    “Essentially, “confident” women are incapable of viewing men as human beings.”

    It seems pretty clear to me that you are the one treating WOMEN as not being human beings. I can’t even begin to explain why what you just wrote is just so incredibly wrong and sexist and ignorant. As a woman, I can assure you that none of what you wrote is true. None at all. Perhaps it’s time for you to wake up.

  • Shelbi

    While I’m making you that sandwich, I’ll go ahead and poison it, that way no one has to hear the stupidity that comes out of your ugly mouth…

  • ross

    wait, i actually thought this was a humor piece…..

  • Nathan Phillips

    I’d just like to say that I’m a guy and this doesn’t attract me at all.
    I want somebody who challenges me. And patheticness does nothing for me sexually.

  • HAHANo

    I say we tar and feather this bitch.

  • https://www.facebook.com/alexaritaelias Alexa Elias

    You’re clearly insane

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  • Yuppy Cunt

    I’m sorry your mother beat you as a child…I’m sorry she doesn’t beat you NOW. You’re the saddest thing I’ve ever come across on the internet.

  • Doe

    Wow, I can’t even start writing the obvious, sexist flaws in your argument. You are just a straight up idiot.

  • anonymous

    It’s people like this that really piss me off. I can be strong, and I can be independent. I don’t want to be lead back to the kitchen. I am a female, I am getting a Bachelors in Biochemistry this year and I am going to Medical School to be a doctor in an Emergency Department. I feel that I am confident in myself, and who I am and who I want to be. This however does not stop me from being emotionally vulnerable. I can share my emotions, but I am also not dependent on a man. I can take care of myself, but at the same time I’m willing to be open about my emotions and my thoughts and I expect anyone I’m with to be the same. I don’t want a guy who completely closes themselves off who expects me to share myself 100% and isn’t vulnerable with me. That is pure bull crap.

    So no, in no way shape or form do I agree with you. I have a right to be respected for my degree, I will be graduating with honors in the top 15% of my class, and that includes males. I have a right to be respected for the career that I’m choosing to follow and I don’t need some ass hole to tell me that I can’t do it and that I’m a liar and I belong in a kitchen because that is just not the case.

  • AndIWasNeverHere

    “Hell, I’m even starting to think that the feminist agita about “rape culture” is part of this as well.”

    According to LOTS of research, 50% of women have a rape fantasy. And then we get in trouble when we write songs about it. What’s that about, eh?

  • Hayley

    Is this a fucking joke?

  • Suzanne

    Grow up, little man.

  • Katie

    How can you call yourself a human being after writing that?

  • Liam Stark

    This is a disgusting piece of work. Absolute garbage.

  • __

    while i agree with some of the comments you’ve made, the majority of this blog is ridiculous and quite frankly the biggest load of sexist bullshit i have read in a very long time. you could NOT be more wrong about the meaning of what women classify as independent. independence is NOT a group of feminist women parading around saying they don’t need a man and that they can do whatever a man can do. independence is classified by women as being able to stand on their own two feet, by being adventurous and taking risks and proving to themselves that they are courageous. men can be weak IF NOT WEAKER than women when it comes to emotions and they break down and crave a women’s attention whether you’re willing to admit it or not. how is a woman having a college degree a strike against her? because you realize that she’s probably a fuck load better than half the men who hold that same degree? get off your fucking high horse and go and talk to some women and learn a thing or two. we are human beings just like men and wanting us to be weak and vulnerable just to make yourself feel better shows that you are clearly a weak man yourself. if you ever want to be loved or have a woman in your life grow a pair, grow the fuck up a bit, move away from your keyboard and learn a little about respect. its because of egotistical assholes like you that make women parade around DEMANDING respect. i am a huge believer that respect is earned not given, but if you treated people a little better than believe me there would be no feminist women. stop acting like a dick and women won’t treat you like one.

  • https://www.facebook.com/innorogue C.A.

    You’re right on some accounts, but extremely wrong on others.

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  • https://www.facebook.com/innorogue C.A.

    You have some good points, but I mostly disagree. A woman should be confident in her shoes, without a man, yet still crave a good man’s attention in the same way men crave the attention of good women.

    Most arrogant, bullying, buffed up jackasses actually get their girls because they thrive on girls being insecure. Women should go out with (and marry) guys because:
    a) they get along great
    b) have similar interests
    c) have complementary goals in life, and
    d) find each other attractive.

    This means that:
    1) The woman has to have goals in life independent of the man
    2) The woman has to have some interests independent of the man
    3) The woman should be confident enough so that if any of a-d are not satisfied, she can tell the jerk to f!ck off.

    If women don’t have 1-3, they end up in abusive relationships that lead to rape, assault, suicide, depression and a bunch of other things that are bad (if you disagree here, you’re an idiot not worth my time, but I’m hoping you understand rape, depression, etc. are bad).

    Independence is about being able to gain the skills similar to 1-3 so that a woman can live a good, satisfying life. It’s not about being selfish, or arrogant.

    I agree, that feminism blew up “independence” to mean “be cocky, selfish, and emotionally invulnerable” and it really sucks, especially for the good men who are no longer attracted to them because of this. But that’s just one side of it.

    Feminism started out to help escape emotional, physical and psychological abuse, and this is something I’m in favor of… even if the idiots leading the movement started putting ideas in women’s heads that they’re somehow the centers of the universe and all guys revolve around them.

  • Riley

    Sounds like somebody is insecure himself. If you cannot handle a confident woman and really require vulnerability it’s because you are insecure about your own abilities and worth in the presence of confident, stronger women. I get your points, but they just come off like you’re speaking from the little boy inside who can’t compete with people his own size. A true counterpart (and sexy woman) can challenge me in ways I never imagined. The vulnerability is mundane, albeit fun when you’re a teen or perpetual teen who just happens to be old as a consequence of aging.

  • Anonymous

    You are a pretty pathetic excuse for a man. Clearly you lack confidence in yourself or else you would not be so threatened by a woman who is a confident. I hope you find exactly what you’re looking for: an obsessive stalker-type woman who slowly ruins your life. You nonchalantly talk about stalking and rape as though it doesn’t destroy lives, which is disgusting. Sometimes I forget that people like you exist since the men in my life are overwhelmingly positive and supportive. Any person who has to stoop so low as to question the humanity of another person, let alone generalizing an entire group of people based solely on sex, is obviously very insecure themselves. You can continue to tell yourself how right you are and justified, but you will still only create decay and filth in your life. So keep on polluting your soul, the only one you’re affecting is yourself.

  • Brody

    Blah, blah, blah, blah…. Subjective garbage to get a rise out of people and to generate blog traffic.

  • https://www.facebook.com/matthew.l.stone Matt Stone

    Agree with Riley. If you can’t handle a strong woman I have to wonder what insecurities are lurking there. Man up.

  • Tyler W.

    Not a terrible article, a bit generalizing though. Just like men, over-confidence is an absolutely negative trait and for most functioning adults a turn-off. I agree, a women who parades around constantly referring to herself as independent is the same as that douche ‘bro’ who parades himself around telling of all the women he had sex with.

    A natural, non-‘in your face’ confidence, one that is indeed without pharmaceutical help, is a preferable confidence for either a man or a women. A feminist, one who simply hates a person whom opinion of feminism is against theirs is also a terrible trait, just as if I hated every Christian because I think it’s silly to believe in God. But I don’t, I (implore myself to) listen to their opinions and respect them if they are sound and logical. I think your doing a decent job fleshing out this phenomenon.

    Me and my girlfriend: split all expenses equally, we mutually go out of the way to make each-other happy, our gift-giving is uncounted but generally reciprocal. I would consider her confident, but if she needs me for support she isn’t afraid to ask. I generally don’t use her for emotional support ( a personal trait NOT a male trait), but she listens to all my problems and has extreme patience with me.
    I think what I just explained is a extremely feminist view of a relationship (complete male-female equality), and it’s the best I’ve ever had.

  • Natasha

    Who the hell do you think you are? It is not okay to demean any human in this way let alone an entire sex which is 50% of the population, many of whom would be much more important, and obviously much more eductaed and moralistic than yourself. i hope you die lonely and miserable, You disgust me.

  • Jess

    i’m glad i’m one of those females you hate, because I wouldn’t go near you with a 10 foot pole :)

  • BDT

    Matt, Matt, Matt! I know you don’t get out of the frat house that often, but come on, get with the times, my man! Confident women are where it’s at! The modern feminist movement has done something amazing for women: they are amazing in the sack, they are amazing conversationalists, they are amazing all around. You know what shrivels my talleywhacker? That shrinking violet you keep going on about in your post. I can cook my own meals, I don’t want women making my sandwiches because only I know exactly how I like mine made, I don’t care if they clean, I love it when they have a job and can pick up the meal every once in a while, and, oh yeah, I love how they are absolute wildcats in the sack! Nothing is a bigger turnoff than a shrinking violet girl that just lays there like a dead fish. I want a woman that moves with me, tells me when I’m messing up so that “I” can become a better lover, and is brave enough to experiment and tell me what she wants. THAT, my friend, is a turn on.

    Look, I know what you’re doing here: Playing the Overconfident jockhead frat boy who is really insecure inside so he can get a good, strong woman to look past your rough exterior and see the gooey chocolate center that she so desperately wants to get at, but I’ve been down that road, sir, and it doesn’t work. Those strong females that I know you desperately want to set you straight, they aren’t going to touch you, and believe me, those shrinking violet girls that you are trying to compensate with, they will wise up pretty quick and be out the door.

    So buck up, drop the douchetard act and be a real man, one that respects women, treats them as equals, expects nothing from them, and knows that women are people too.

    And if this isn’t an act, if you really are this much of an insecure douchetard: go drive your obviously overcompensating vehicle into a tree and die in the resulting fire. The world is better rid of you.

  • saar

    I know that good and strong men are attracted to shy women. So nothing wrong with this article. When a man is the head of the family you will have so much pleasure together. Men and women are different in every way, they complete each other. The male breadwinner is the best, you notice when you bring a baby into the world: in pregnancy and delivery, breastfeeding your child at night, when your man can sleep at night (working the other day) and the women can take a nap during the day. A strong man at your side is all you need, all the time of your life ;)

  • blah

    Wow, this was so dumb and dehumanizing it hurt to read.

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  • http://twitter.com/mhaslinger Mark (@mhaslinger)

    Alot of women will say you don’t have the right to say what you just said. Although I don’t agree with everything, many things hit the nail on the head. Women need to absorb more than just a feminist view.

  • Vanessa J.

    I say, I feel bad for your daughter (which I hope you will never have)

  • asdfman@gmail.com

    This is absolutely disturbing. As the comment above said, this is completely dehumanizing and it hurt to read.

  • Jenna

    You are a fucking disgusting human being. I apologize that you’ve had one too many screwy heartbreaks in the past, but you have no clue what women want. Your inexperience with effective relationships clearly shows. You are nothing but a chauvinistic coward, which is evident by the fact that all I see here is positive comments reinforcing your pathetic ideals. What a fucking joke. I hope you choke on your tuna sandwich, you pig.

  • Yan

    I really can’t say a woman with any self-esteem (or taste, for that matter) wanting anything to do with you anyway. You are boring, bitter, unimaginative, and not very smart. And you know it. And you wallow in it.

  • M. Anne

    Oh Matt, Matt, Matt. I understand that you may feel frustrated and you may have dealt with arrogant or self-involved people but it is a mistake to generalize like this and I’m sure you know that. The truth is that you must have had a gentle, kind, strong, confidant and logical female in your life at some time. A woman must have taught you to read, took care of you when you were sick, baked you a birthday cake, worked extra hours at a job so that you could take piano lessons, made sure that you had Christmas presents, brushed your teeth, ate your vegetables and got hugs and cuddled even if you were being cranky. Didn’t you ever have a mom, grandma, teacher, aunt or older sister who was patient and loving even when you didn’t quite deserve it? Patience, kindness and caring take strength and confidence. Many smart men look for those qualities in the girl that they marry. They want a wife who will teach their children manners, take them to church, can work hard and earn an income in these tough economic times, make sure that their children are educated and understand how to be resourceful. A scared, crying, intimidated and fearful woman is not going to know how to take care of anyone. She is going to be sitting in a room drinking or truly depressed and not participating in life and enjoying your time together. An uneducated woman cannot earn a living and take care of you and your children. The kind of woman that you are talking about can’t do multiplication problems with your third grader and contribute to PTA meetings and you can’t introduce her to your friends and co-workers because she is just embarrassed and unpleasant to be around. She doesn’t know when to take your car to the garage or how to do home improvements or help you pick out a new computer. She can’t listen to you when you have had a long day and understand where you are coming from and say something comforting to you. She is too fragile to handle an emergency and be by your hospital bed or plan a wedding for your daughter or a funeral for your father. She is not able to take or give a compliment and share her joy and pride in you and your relationship. You are confusing confidence and maturity with selfishness. When you realize that things like altruism and gentleness are qualities that come from strength then you will appreciate a person that offers that to you and find that both of you can be vulnerable and care for each other.

  • B

    Well that was a waste of 5 minutes of my life.

  • Danielle S

    Clearly you have had some terrible relatiionships in your pathetic life and you deserved every single one of them. You also probably have more “mommy” issues than Sigmund Freud.
    I don’t want to waste my breath and my time with you so let me just say two things:
    1) Get help.
    2) Fuck you. Fuck you with a flaming fist.

  • You Mad Bro?

    your just mad because the only women who will fuck you have low self esteem… sad really…

  • Amanda

    Well. I agree with this blog. He made a few great points.
    Am I disgusting? Perhaps but I don’t care what a few people behind a keyboard think of me. -Uh oh. some people mad at me- Blah.
    It’s funny how the generations have changed. The girls that don’t know who their babies fathers are, the sluts and tramps that walk around, getting pounded by any cock that they can. Funny.
    I would love to stay at home and surprise my man with a dinner and a back rub after working his ass off to support me and our children. That is the way that I think it should be. How many women can safely say that they, -THEY- fucking raised THEIR children? Not many. Day cares don’t count as raising them yourself.
    So. While your woman is working and pretending to be a tough guy out there, I will be at home, serving my husband and raising my children. Cooking and cleaning for him and treating him like the king that he is.
    You don’t like it? Meh. I don’t care.
    Good blog, Matt!

  • Samantha Brown

    Being a narcissist doesn’t give you any insight on this subject, and neither does being a woman to admit this. But you seem to be inevitably lumping confidence with a lack of emotion, guess what a woman can still admit to vulnerability and insecurities while still having a high self-confidence. In fact any woman who doesn’t admit that this is part of her nature is a liar, I am a confident woman and a first-generation college student. But I still admit that I am attracted to confident powerful men, but that doesn’t mean I’m attracted to narcissistic assholes who seem to assume that women draw confidence from being ‘manly’ rather than from what makes them women. The ability to create life, therefore, you owe your narcissistic existence to a confident woman.

  • Mara

    While I think you’ve made some broad generalizations here and are maybe a bit extreme in your prescription for restoring order to the male-female dynamic, I don’t think you’re totally off-base.

    As an (over-) educated female in my late 20s, I wasn’t nearly as offended by your editorial as I probably should have been. I do think that most woman, whether they will admit it or not, are looking for a strong man to take charge and take care of them. As you suggest, that is probably instinctive as men have played the role of protector and provider for the bulk of human history.

    I think the change in the male-female dynamic has as much to do with the dramatic decrease in danger (for lack of a better word) in modern society. I live in a relatively small city in North America where I freely walk the streets alone, at night, with very little fear of any harm coming to me. I guess for me, even though I like the idea of having a man to protect me, I don’t really feel like there is any major threat that I need protection from. Sure, I could play the damsel in distress to attract men, but if I don’t feel any real threat it’s just an act.. not a genuine basis for a relationship.

    I don’t know if that kind of protector-protectee relationship can really exist anymore in the safe neighbourhoods of modern America…

  • Mara

    I should clarify – I live in Canada… maybe our streets are a bit safer than those south of the border ;)

  • Anne

    My theory is that this is a well-crafted joke and we all had our sick and twisted laughs… Now let us disregard this man and continue living in the 21st century.

  • Sarah T.

    While I don’t disagree with everything you said, I don’t agree with everything either. As a woman, I do agree that feminists take a lot of this shit way too far. That being said, I disagree with the generalization that all women feel the way you say we feel. I do have confidence in myself because I am earning a college degree in a respectable field so I can soon have a non-fluff job so I can be a contributor to my family — not “strong and independent.” I’m not a feminist and I don’t compare my abilities or my desires to those of men. I’m a human. That’s it. I respect men for doing what I cannot, and plenty of men respect me for doing things they cannot. I respect people on the basis of their accomplishments as people, not as men and women. Frankly, I don’t see why who is doing what even matters. In the end, we live, we die and the wheels on the bus go ’round and ’round.

  • Kurt

    Hey Matt, I just wanted to let you know that you’re an idiot.

  • Tori

    I sincerely hope this is a joke, otherwise, you’ve essentially admitted you like to prey on women with insecurities because you are too intimidated by a woman with self confidence. It’s just easier for you to get sex from a woman who has no confidence because you “make her feel valuable” so she will open her legs to you.

    You’re also quite delusional if you believe no woman wants or needs high-self esteem. It protects women from falling victim to comparing their self worth to narrow-defined standards of what is “desirable” or “acceptable” as a woman. And that is very important.

    Let’s see if you’re man enough to leave this comment visible or if you’ll delete it because it challengers your line of thinking :)

  • Liz

    Someone has a case of the tiny dick syndrome…

  • Disappointed

    This…this is a joke, right? Everyone who agrees with you is also just playing along, too? Surely no one actually thinks a woman with low self-esteem is a good idea?

    I’m just going to hope this is all satire. The thought that there are people in this world who think any of the number of terrible things you feel are valid, well reasoned, and educated responses to an imaginary problem makes me want to go ahead and give up on humanity.

    I feel very sorry for all of you who agree with this post. It is never acceptable to hope someone has low self-esteem just so you feel better about yourself. That’s pretty much the mindset of a bully.

  • http://josieblogsaboutstuff.wordpress.com josiejump95

    This sounds like the ‘I DIDN’T REALLY WANT THEM ANYWAY’ justification of a man who can’t get laid by anyone with a shred of dignity.
    Also, the number of agreeing comments make me sick.
    Try and send me back to the kitchen, pet. I dare you.

  • shortringo

    Personally I think he wrote this to get the attention. This entire blog is full of bullshit for multiple reasons
    1. Why the fuck should I care if my self confidence makes me unattractive to this guy? I’d rather have my confidence than some guy thinking he’s attractive
    2. “Most girls have done nothing to earn self esteem.” As opposed to what? Are most guys the opposite and do what it takes to earn self esteem? I’m just going to generalize this statement to all people and say it’s bull shit. A lot of people have something to offer to earn their self esteem. I’m in fucking medical school, so I think I deserve to have a little sense of self worth, don’t you? But everyone has something about them that gives them self worth. Being a good friend, a good teacher, a good parent, a good whatever. You don’t have to be an Olympian to be entitled to feel good about yourself.
    3.”Women claim they want equal rights as men, but they don’t want equal responsibilities.” BULL SHIT AGAIN. I’d gladly take on equal responsibilities and I DO. Please tell me how this guy, who’s never actually been a woman, somehow knows how all of woman kind thinks better than we do ourselves?
    4. “Insecurity is integral to femininity” I’m sorry, has there been a scientific study proving this? You can state your opinion all you want, but that doesn’t make it true. Everyone has their own preferences in a partner. This guy for some unhealthy reason prefers insecure women. That doesn’t mean there are many (most) other people out there who find both confidence and femininity attractive.
    5. “Women don’t want to have high self-esteem.” Oh really? You’ve never met me, but I guess you must know me better than myself. Actually, I like feeling good about myself and being emotionally independent, thank you.
    6. “Feminists can claim that women don’t need men, but their actions put the lie to that; they need us far more than we need them.” …. I seem to be doing just fine right now.

  • Scott

    You’re a real person?

  • Anne

    The quality of the partners you choose reflects a lot about your own personality. If insecure women make you feel better about yourself then go for it. Thanks for sharing your pathetic views with the world. Pathetic people date other pathetic people. It’s that simple. I could never tolerate someone like you and I regret reading this article.
    Congratulations on being a pathetic, worthless human being! You’re either very proud of this fact or your small brain isn’t capable of realizing what you are. (My guess is, the latter.)

  • Anna

    The ignorance in this article is astounding. You might have had a few valid points, but when it comes from a misogynistic jerk, it’s hard to take seriously. People deserve respect regardless of their talents. I’d really love to know what you’ve done that you think entitles you to any respect whatsoever.

  • RAWR

    I hope your cock falls off and roaches crawl up your asshole.

  • http://gravatar.com/brooklyntact reyaizyu

    If you’re going to post an article on an obviously explosive topic and if you’re such a woman-saving manbeast, at least have the balls to not delete all the posts of people who disagree with you.

  • Lindsey

    You are a packaged product of society.

  • Eli

    I don’t believe I have ever been more disgusted then I am now. Listen up, pal. The truth does not change with your ability to stomach it. Men and women are not two different species. We’re both human. Some of the smartest people I know are women. These same women are hardworking, talented, good people. Your idea that women are beneath us in any way absolutely disgusts me. I am furious that people like you exist on this planet. You are nothing but a parasite to this Earth and the people who live on it.

  • http://na Billy

    How can you ever possibly expect a woman to love you if you can’t respect her at all?
    I think the point is to give women the choice to do what they want in today’s world. Women are often become educators or artists or musicians, why is this worse of a goal than male politicians polluting and fucking up the world?

  • http://google sandra

    Im making an educated guess here…………………When exactly did your mum leave you?………….Oh, when she found out your dad was outta the closet.You finally stumbled across the birth certificate that proves your sister was your aunt, your brother was your dads real father.Your childhood dog was your neighbors hired help!You are seriously seriously, dangerously mixed up buddy.

  • Michelle

    You, sir, must have some SERIOUS self esteem issues. Let me guess, bombshell of a girlfriend, who went on to become CEO of some major corporation kick you to the curb?

    When your “manly” job gets replaced by modern machinery, you come home to a wife who has been “led back to the kitchen,” making you a tuna sandwich, and tell her you just lost your family’s only source of income, then what?

    HA but wait, you are a lonely blog writer. Seems to me that you personally need to live up to your end of the bargain before females abandon their hard work.

    Moreover, HOW IN GODS NAME do the idiots who have commented before me think this is well said? This is the most disgusting, degrading blog post I’ve ever read. From a female OR male perspective.

  • Charlotte

    DO YOU REALIZE THAT WITHOUT WOMEN, YOU. WOULD. NOT. EXIST. You clearly live in a sheltered world. Either that, or you live in some fantasy in your mind. I recommend therapy or a slap to the face with a fucking metal chair.

  • Thrasymachus

    Tone down the intentional offensive comments (which I admittedly found hilarious) and leave the force of your arguments/psychological analysis intact. I mean, if you’re at all interested at making a stronger impact.

    Or don’t, whatever. I’ll keep reading.

  • Jennifer T

    Although I found much of this offensive, I understand/agree with some of the themes. The problem is, this jerk wants to treat women this way without being a real man. A real man is possessive, bossy, and dominating, yes. BUT…he treasures her. He is the boss because God designed him to be, but he uses that power to protect, to love, to build her self-esteem, not put her down or make himself feel manly by dominating her. A real man feels strong and confident enough that he doesn’t need to abuse/manipulate his woman to know he’s a man. This guy is blaming the problem on women, when for centuries, the problem has been men who haven’t been filling their role. Now that women have changed their behavior to compensate for the weakness in men, men are blaming it all on women

  • Aya
  • Ali

    I think you’re an arsehole, and you should shut up, so many teenage girls have issues with self harm, depression, eating disorders, anxiety, the list goes on, and quite frankly all of what you just said makes me feel physically sick. Are your seriously suggesting we should have no self esteem and feel shit about myself because being in a place like that makes you feel absolutely awful, it lead to the start of my self harm problem and I tried to kill myself on numerous occasions. So I find your stupid article just really fucking unintelligent, we CAN do anything we want in the exact same way men can, without women you wouldn’t be here today, so keep your ridiculous sexism to yourself and shut up, idiot.

  • Stephen

    Hey! Dude here. I think you may have missed the “it’s 2013″ train, but women are people now. Turns out they always have been. You might want to get on that train. You’re embarrassing yourself. And mankind. But mostly yourself.

  • Deal with it.

    I’m sorry, but were you dropped on your head as an infant? Or are you just incredibly stupid? I am nearly done with a complete Biological Sciences degree with a concentration in Zoology and a minor in Psychology. I maintain stellar grades, all while working almost every weekend. What’s my job? I’m glad you asked. I am the sole facilitator of a fully equipped ropes course, including but not limited to a 35-foot high climbing tower. I’ve seen grown men cry on that thing. Do multiple people’s lives depend on how well you can remember to check harnesses, tie knots, tighten helmets, and grip the rope so hard that your hands bleed? Can you bring a 250 pound male in the midst of a panic attack down safely from twenty feet up, all while you’re dangling several feet off the ground? I didn’t think so. You wouldn’t last a day in my world. I earned my self esteem. You get yours by subjugating women for fear of being subjugated yourself. Sorry to deflate your tiny nether regions. And by sorry, I mean not sorry.

  • Ackles

    WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE?! What? Just because you have a fucking dick you think you can rule the world? You are all DISGUSTING! You GUYS are the reason why the world is so fucked up.

  • Erin

    Having an extra X chromosome gives you Klinefelter syndrome, not a vagina.

  • Ican’tbelieveI’mevenbothingtorespond.

    Holy Fuck, you’re an idiot. :-/

  • robster

    you should be ashamed of yourself, forney. this is very old thinking. a lot of women are rightfully disgusted by this.

  • http://... whathefuckisthat

    This is complete shit. I can’t even take it seriously.

  • https://www.facebook.com/jake.dault.3 Jake Dault

    To generalize men and women in such a way ignores every intellectual development of the 19th and 20th centuries. Your evaluation of male and female gender roles and sexuality is archaic. Do you actually believe all of this? This isn’t even rational. Pick up a book.

  • http://gravatar.com/emmathechef chefff

    You’re probably going to edit this comment as well, but aw what the hay I think debates are fun and I like puttin’ in my two cents. So sorry if I come off ranty-ravy.
    First off, blatant transphobia when you say “A woman with excessive confidence is like a man with a vagina.” gender is just a social construct, there are men with vagina’s. Gender =/= Genitals.
    I honestly don’t care about what you think, it’s your site post what you want, I can’t change your opinion, I just wish you would arrange it better. Your whole article is full of generalizations about what men and women want. I understand you can’t speak for every man and woman in the country, but you seem very confident in the fact that everyone feels this way when, obviously they don’t.
    Alls I’m really saying is you should really look at hate you get that’s coherent and critical and try to improve from it.
    The censoring of comments really highlighted your insecurities. It just seemed childish and immature, earning no resp