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Christian Domestic Discipline for Beginners, Part Three: How to Discipline


NOTE: Nearly a year ago, I ran a blog named Virginia’s Secret Garden for the purpose of making fun of “red pill women” and their beta orbiters in the manosphere. I wrote under the nom-de-plume of “Virginia Robinson,” a happy submissive Christian housewife living in the Midwest… who blogged about her sex life in nauseating detail. You can read more about the hoax here.

Because I’m no longer updating the site, I’ve decided to let the domain expire. Here is one of the articles I wrote for the blog, originally published on January 20, 2014.

Read First: Christian Domestic Discipline for Beginners, Part Two: Beginning CDD

And now, the moment you perverts have all been waiting for: the spankings! But before you throw your wife over your lap and unfurl your belt, there are some things you should know beforehand, haha.

Before You Discipline Your Wife

You guys dreaming of bringing your wild little wife under your thumb have to go about it the right way. You can’t simply grab her by the hair the next time she blows a raspberry, drag her over to the couch and spank her black and blue. In order for your wife to accept Christian Domestic Discipline, you need to lay the foundations down first.

For starters, you must cherish your wife. As annoying as it can seem to ordinary girls, a wife who is being beaten with a paddle every time she sins has to know that her husband loves her and is only acting in her best interest. To use manosphere terminology, you need to use “beta game” or “married game” to remind your wife that you cherish her. You don’t need to get overly romantic; it’s the thought that counts. For example, my husband loves surprising me with secret love notes that keep popping up in unexpected places around the house; I just found one in my purse, tee hee.

Secondly, you must praise your wife as Proverbs 31 states. Everywhere you go, you need to remind everyone what a fantastic woman you married, how happy you are that she is (or will be) the mother of your children, and make her virtues known. Don’t do this in an obsequious or supplicating fashion (i.e. “My wife is so wonderful, I don’t deserve her”), but in a way that reinforces your status as head of the household. This feeds into my previous point; if your wife doesn’t feel she is cherished and respected, she will react negatively to any attempt to discipline her. We ladies are an insecure bunch; we need men to be the port in our emotional storm.

Finally, I need to stress this to keep people from getting the wrong idea about CDD, but you should only use spankings as a punishment of last resort. When your wife sins and you think you can correct her by merely telling her that she is the wrong (and reminding her not to sin again), do it. Keep in mind that you have to do this gently, albeit firmly: if you sound angry and vengeful, your exhortations will backfire. It’s only after you exhort your wife and she fails to obey that it’s whippin’ time, hee hee.



Spanking Your Wife

When all else has failed, it’s time for a spankin’. Generally speaking, like with exhortations, you absolutely cannot spank your wife while you’re angry or incensed, as you run the risk of either seriously hurting her or frightening her. Your attitude while punishing her should be calm and collected. You are the man, in control, the oak on which she leans for support. Not only does this maximize the effectiveness of marital discipline, frankly, we ladies find it pretty hot.

Ideally, you should punish your wife as soon as possible. Command her to go up to your bedroom, ask her to take her pants and underwear off, and have her lay across your lap while you sit on the bed. Ladies, when your husband tells you to lie down for a whippin’, do what he says. Don’t cry, don’t plead, don’t profusely apologize, just drop your drawers and obey. The more you resist, the more painful your punishment will end up being in the end.

Husbands, when you begin spanking your wife, start with some light warm-up slaps with your hand to prepare her for the pain she’s about to receive. Take care not to hit her anywhere else but the buttocks. After you’ve warmed her up, tell her the reason why she’s being spanked and launch into the main event. If she starts crying or squirming, reassure her that you love her, but keep on lashing her and don’t lose control or apologize. Whip her until she you feel that she is repentant, when you’ve beaten the fight out of her and she submits to your judgement.

Afterwards, help your wife up, hold her and let her cry for as long as you need to. If you’ve done it properly, she will feel as if a great burden has been lifted from her shoulders and she will be desperate to please you. The emotions released during a punishment spanking help to bond my husband and I closer together; I love it!

While this series doesn’t cover everything about Christian Domestic Discipline, I think I’ve covered the important stuff. Let me know what you think in the comments. ;)

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  • Deposed

    Thank you for the series; it is a red pill eye opener. The principle of CDD is vitally important to restore biblical marriage. Without it the family is doomed, and that is not even in the slightest a hyperbole. While I do not see a Biblical command for spanking a wayward wife, the practice is not condemned and is in complete harmony with the principles of Biblical marriage. I therefor conclude that CDD is more than just a liberty, but also in this age of feminism a wise and loving application of Eph 5:26. Too many, my self included, have been coached by the church to be beta-boys submitting to our wife’s feelings. The only remedy to a wife’s rebellion, we were taught, was to submit to her rebellion and try to make her happy so she will “open-up” and submit. Failure to make her feel happy could result in contention, sexual deprivation and a divorce, all of which was the husband’s fault. If she was rebelling, it was because she did not feel loved enough. Such un-biblical tactics are like trying to put out a fire with gasoline. It rewards sin and rebellion and that which is rewarded is sure to be more prevalent. One of the important ways God makes us feel loved is discipline, one of the ways a child knows that they are loved is discipline – it is time to stop having spoiled bratty wives and instead nurture and chastise them to lead them in the way of holiness. Instead of rewarding bad, sinful, behavior and getting more of it, God says don’t reward but chastise for bad behavior and you will have less of it. It is really simple and constant with how God deals with us.

  • Abba Okoro

    …….I’m lost for words