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A Girl Becomes a Woman

NOTE: Nearly a year ago, I ran a blog named Virginia’s Secret Garden for the purpose of making fun of “red pill women” and their beta orbiters in the manosphere. I wrote under the nom-de-plume of “Virginia Robinson,” a happy submissive Christian housewife living in the Midwest… who blogged about her sex life in nauseating detail. You can read more about the hoax here.

Because I’m no longer updating the site, I’ve decided to let the domain expire. Here is one of the articles I wrote for the blog, originally published on January 1, 2014.

When I asked my husband for permission to start this blog, he was… skeptical. Ordinarily, I wouldn’t bother, seeing as he trusts me not to do anything stupid, but I wanted to make sure he was okay with it. I didn’t want to risk getting an unnecessary spanking.

Husband: And what, exactly, are you going to be blogging about?

Me: Oh, nothing much… sex, being a housewife, femininity, and my erotic short stories.

Husband (after long pause): Just so long as you don’t put your real name on it.

Me: Yes, sir!

Anyway, I’ve always been bad at introductions, but here goes.

I’m a traditional housewife living in the Midwest. I’m as good a “good girl” as you can get: I married when I was 21, saved myself for marriage, and have tried my best to submit to my husband’s headship. I don’t always succeed, but I try.

Not long after we tied the knot, our marriage hit a low point. I was consistently grumpy and defiant, and my husband was depressed and beaten-down. Every other day ended in a fight, and our sex life had dropped to nil. One day, I was messing around on the computer looking for paleo recipes when I stumbled across TempestTcup’s blog and her post “Females Are Incapable of Making Themselves Happy.” While I was no stranger to traditional femininity, reading her blog was like being punched in the face.


I started out small, by growing out my hair like my husband liked it and wearing makeup every day. I then started going out of my way to please him, praising him, patting him on the head and enthusiastically jumping in whenever he wanted to go for a roll in the hay. And an amazing thing happened: as I focused on making my husband happier, I became happier. Seeing him smiling at me when I cooked his favorite dinners, gazing into my eyes after having sex, I felt fulfilled and proud of myself.

At the same time, TempestTcup’s blog launched me into the manosphere—Matt Forney, Mitch Sturges, Sunshine Mary etc.—as well as leading me to Christian Domestic Discipline. I knew that I wouldn’t be able to keep up my submissiveness on my own, so I asked my husband to lead me in a CDD marriage. After some prodding, he agreed. I wouldn’t say it’s been the easiest ride, as my constantly sore bottom can attest to, but I’ve never been happier.

Anyway, I wanted to use this blog to write about submissiveness and femininity: my personal journey along with what I’ve studied and learned. I also want to use this blog to launch my writing career: I’ve been writing erotica since I was a teenager and I want to help supplement my husband’s income.

Thanks for reading!

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