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How Many Partners Makes You a Slut?

This is a guest post by Kid Strangelove. Kid originally published this article at his own blog on August 16, 2010, but he deleted the site a while ago so he could focus on other projects. He asked me if I’d be willing to re-post some of his articles on my blog and I said yes.

While I was checking out the links section of one of my favorite blogs, I stumbled across an interesting blog post called “The Essential Truth About Female Promiscuity.”

Now, judging from that post and a few others on that blog, the autjor seems to be moderate and accepting of both sexually liberal and conservative views on love, pointing out the advantages and disadvantages of both. And of course, as a moderate, she has haters on both sides, because the loudest critics are the ones that are fanatical about their views and cannot see any alternative.

She got into some Twitter shouting matches over the “magic number” of partners that it takes to make someone promiscuous. She seems like a good person and shouldn’t waste het time on such childish and petty matters, because haters gonna hate. So I’ll do it for you. Hopefully some angry people will hate on me, because my blog needs the publicity. Ready?

The Formula of Promiscuity: you are promiscuous (as a man or a woman) if you’ve had sex with more people than your age in years.

This formula is perfect. It accounts for age and the spikes in partner count some people experience in their college or post-college years while “finding themselves.” What you do with your promiscuity is up to you. Do you label yourself empowered? Slutty? Confident? Experienced?

That is only up to you to decide.

When looking at the comments of the abovelinked post, I realized that not many people share my view. However, my rule is not simply about the number, it is about the kind of person you are. For example, one of my best female friends (who is also dating one of my best male friends) has a “number” above the promiscuity line (and a far higher one than her boyfriend). Yet their love and loyalty for each other is so strong (I would know, I’ve heard all their secrets since the relationship began) that it matters much more than their numbers. Any person would be lucky to be with this girl.

On the flip side, I have another female friend who has had far fewer sexual partners and is way below the promiscuity line, but the way she talks about using men and her gigantic bloated sense of entitlement make her a nightmare, and I wouldn’t recommend dating her to anyone (even though we are good friends).

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