Matt Forney
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Nobody Gives a Fuck About You


This is something that took me a long time to realize, but it’s the cold, hard truth.

Of course, I’m being hyperbolic with that title. If you’ve got parents, siblings, friends, a girlfriend/wife etc., they care about you. If you’re famous, you’ve got even more people who care about you. But if you’re just an ordinary schmuck, you’re a nonentity to everyone outside your immediate social circle.

Paranoia is narcissism. Believing that everyone is out to get you assumes that you’re important enough for anyone to care about. If you’re an introvert with a habit of reading books by dead white men (i.e. if you’re me), it’s easy to slip into this mindset. You imagine you’re in the spotlight at all times, your every screw-up broadcast to a jeering audience that will remember it until they curl up and die. It’s the reason why conspiracy theories tend to be popular amongst nerds and other social outcasts.

The reality is that nobody cares.

Queen Bee will have forgotten all about how she called you a weirdo by lunchtime. That guy you nearly rear-ended on the highway will maybe mention it to his wife when he gets home, but that’s it. Unless you seriously, actively go out of your way to ruin someone’s day, they’ll give you as much thought as a bug splattered on their windshield.

Part of becoming an adult is realizing that most people aren’t that smart or organized. They don’t give any thought to anything beyond their immediate reality. All they care about is getting through their workday, TiVoing the latest episode of House, or whatever monotonous activity they use to fill the void of their lives.

Why is this all important?

Because it means you have a near-infinite license to remake yourself. Unless you’re a serial killer, you’ve spent most of your life flying under the radar. People don’t think ill of you, they don’t think well of you; they don’t think of you at all.

You are not your adolescent awkwardness.

Forget the past, forget your mistakes, forget your missed opportunities and start creating the life you want to today. There’s nothing in your way but your own self-doubt.

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  • Got to admit; I like your present posts than your old FBard posts. Not that I didnt enjoy them in the past its just like now it seems like you really want to “HELP” people. But I still love the Domestic violence post more than anything else

  • Terry Porter

    this is so real glad to see I’m not the only one thinking this way

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  • James England

    “Believing that everyone is out to get you assumes that you’re important enough for anyone to care about.”

    LOL – great comment. Never thought of it like that.

  • Dash Destroys

    Huge flaw in society with this paradigm. This world wont last if that is the foundation to this society transcend your programming love everyone care about everyone for we are all connected as one stop living in the darkness you fuckin hedonistic consumerist that is hell.

  • Johan Botha

    Thank you Matt, I really needed to hear this today. :)
    “Nothing stands in my way except my own self-doubt”

  • James England

    I think your webpage is profoundly true. I think most decent people grow up believing life is inclusive, that you are valued etc but at some point reality kicks in and tells you your life is inherently meaningless. No-one gives a damn what you do with your life. Sadly I think this extends to God. If such a being exists I don’t believe God cares what you do in your life. Your happiness or unhappiness is of no interest to God. Indeed, if God exists it created the a world designed not to care about you. I find this the greatest tragedy of life. I accept this bitter truth but it’s the main reason I have no desire to have children. The world is too indifferent to your existence.

  • x8h

    A lot of truth in this. BUT, if you move to another country, you will find that most people DO Give a shit. America is cold now. If you don’t have close family ties and friends, you’re F*ked.

  • Crissy

    Moving to another country won’t change anything…I’m from South Africa & trust me, here its worse, nobody gives a damn about anyone!

  • alex

    Its only getting worse and that is why humanity will NOT last forever. We will destroy ourselves through selfishness. Even me, an empathetic, caring person, have had to scale back and be more selfish because I know for a fact i can give and give but no one will be there for me!

  • alex

    very true!