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The Smart Man’s Dating Checklist by Johnny Montoya

smart-mans-dating-checklistThe Smart Man’s Dating Checklist is a radically unique book in this part of the Internet, but is that enough to justify its existence?

Johnny Montoya’s newest book is not a pick-up guide. Reading it will not make you better with women. What it will do is make it easier for you to find the right woman. The Smart Man’s Dating Checklist is a short guide that explains the qualities that a good woman should have, to help men avoid falling for a girl who will suck out their soul with her antics and manipulations.

See what I mean about this book’s uniqueness not being enough?

I don’t have a problem with The Smart Man’s Dating Checklist when it comes to content: it’s concise, well-written and legitimately helpful. But as I read it, I kept asking myself: “Why does this book need to exist?” Maybe I’m just projecting my experience onto other men, but I don’t think I need help identifying the kinds of traits that make a good woman. If you do have a problem in this department, Montoya’s book will help you, but I can’t imagine there are that many men who have difficulty telling good girls from psychos.

The Smart Man’s Dating Checklist is separated into ten chapters, outlining both the kinds of qualities that good girls embody and the red flags you need to look out for. Each chapter is short and sweet, getting to the point with a minimum of fluff:

As you can see, it’s not just about how she treats you, but also how she treats others. This actually makes it easy to spot a bad one because even if she seems to treat you OK, if she treats others badly, then you’re next. Eventually. It’s about observing what she’s capable of. If she treats others badly, don’t assume that just because she’s fine with you that it’s because you’re special to her. A really good woman treats everyone well by default.

Montoya’s advice is keyed to helping men look past the physical and examine a woman’s personality. While physical attraction is important, Dating Checklist is geared towards men who are looking for a long-term relationship or a wife. While some of his suggestions are novel and helpful (such as his chapter on probing her psyche), a lot of the book will be old hat to more experienced men:

She should have pretty lips, and a friendly, cheeky smile that makes you feel good. Also a clean tongue, nice gums, and nice teeth that are reasonably white. Her eyes should be clear and bright, preferably large and far apart. Check her eyebrows. Are they nice? Or are they badly groomed…or worse, drawn on…or worse still, non-existent? (I really have no idea why some women do that, it’s disgusting!) And her ears and nose should be small and cute. Her hair should be in good condition, preferably long, or at least shoulder length. Long hair is very feminine, flattering, and forgiving (excuse the alliteration). By forgiving I mean that it diverts attention away from any imperfections. It really makes a world of difference. However, some women are so pretty that they look good no matter what they do with their hair. But if it’s short, it should still be feminine. Wait, does hair count as a facial feature? I’m not sure but I had to include it somewhere. And here is as good a place as any, so let’s go with that.

Overall, The Smart Man’s Dating Checklist is best for younger men who are less experienced with girls and looking for a way to weed out psychos and weirdos. While older men might derive some benefit from Montoya’s book, the bulk of it is info you probably already know. While Dating Checklist does what it does well, what it does may not be original enough to justify buying it.

Click here to buy The Smart Man’s Dating Checklist.

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  • AM

    “I can’t imagine there are that many men who have difficulty telling good girls from psychos.”

    Oh, Forney…you’ve gotten too used to red pill thought. In normal (unhealthy) America, men run head first into women who will chew them and spit them out.

    Why, just a year and a half ago, myself hopped up on anti-feminism and anti-career-woman-ism, I dated a fat career-obsessed reformed whore who conveniently found Jesus after graduating college. I mean, this was a girl so fucked over by fetishes and swinging that she couldn’t orgasm anymore. Greek girls, am I right? Anyway, she broke up with me “because we argue too much,” and I begged her to take me back, not realizing that she brought nothing to the table besides a deceitful charisma.

    If she were wise, she would have married me when she had the chance, locking in a stupid provider (although I’m a bit too stubborn to be a textbook beta). Instead, she broke up with me, hyped up on the sex allure that married men had given her. And no matter how much I begged her to keep the relationship going, she was confident she’d find someone better.

    But joke’s on her, because two months later she was diagnosed with HPV. My guess is that she broke up with me because she cheated on me and couldn’t take the shame of admitting it to me, which I later told her (answered with her silent response). What an idiot! She had the perfect out from her past mistakes and overlooked it. Picky much? Her best case scenario is to join a convent, which, honestly, I think she’d flourish in.

    Lucky me, though. Dodged a real bullet on that one. About half a year later, I had some grave reflections on it all, and a full year after the break up, I came across the Red Pill and realized that a woman’s sexual history is completely different from a man’s.

  • Driver

    You would hope such a book wouldn’t have to exist. But, as AM, pointed out in the above comment…it’s very much needed with most in this generation of “men”. I agree that anyone older (or with red pill knowledge) will find this book to be remedial but there is a definite need for it with the younger guys.

    Experience, I believe, is the greatest teacher. You can only hope to make minimal mistakes while you’re “in class”.