Matt Forney
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Using Buttplugs for Punishment

NOTE: A year ago, I ran a blog named Virginia’s Secret Garden for the purpose of making fun of “red pill women” and their beta orbiters in the manosphere. I wrote under the nom-de-plume of “Virginia Robinson,” a happy submissive Christian housewife living in the Midwest… who blogged about her sex life in nauseating detail. You can read more about the hoax here.

Because I’m no longer updating the site, I’ve decided to let the domain expire. Here is one of the articles I wrote for the blog, originally published on February 5, 2014.

For a brief time several months ago, my husband and I began implementing buttplug punishment into our Christian Domestic Discipline marriage. It worked like this: whenever I did something to upset him and he didn’t feel it was severe enough to merit a whippin’, he would make me wear a buttplug for a certain length of time (several hours usually, but one time he made me wear it for a full day) until he felt I had suffered enough for my sins. How did it work out?

Not so well.


I had suggested my husband start using buttplug punishment because I was getting tired of being spanked and wanted to give my butt a rest without disrupting the dynamic of our marriage. He was adamant about refusing to make me write lines or stand in the corner because he thought that those kinds of punishments would “infantilize” me, so we worked out a happy median in shoving a hard piece of silicone up my butt whenever I got out of line. :D

My problem with replacing spankings with the buttplug was that I couldn’t handle the constant pain and discomfort the latter gave me. When your husband spanks you, it really hurts, but it’s over quickly; once you pull your drawers back up, the pain is gone soon afterwards. With the buttplug, I was exchanging a quick amount of pain for a never-ending stream of low-level irritation. It drove me bonkers, making it impossible to go about my day without that obnoxious long plastic penis in my ass ruining all my plans.

That said, much like how Christian Domestic Discipline works in general, what is appropriate for my husband and I may not be appropriate for you. I encourage you to at least give buttplugs (and other alternative punishments) a try so that you can find out what works best for your marriage. Me personally though, I’m gonna stick with those spankings!

Read Next: Christian Domestic Discipline for Beginners, Part One: Foundational Principles